Poloman888 Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 i have a really good friend from my college days, and she's quite big. very smart, articulate. through the years of knowing her (8 yrs.), i've noticed that she's gone bigger. in our group, everyone else is built on the medium side, including the girlfriends/wives of my friends. when we're all together, she's the "funny one" of the group, with her crisp wit and humor. quite often, she engages in self-deprecating humor ("i can wear a tangga so they'll leave", etc.). thing is, i've encouraged her to work out, which she did for a month. she tried bangkok pills years ago, to no avail. on weekends, i accompany her to the mall. the thing that surprises me though is that she focuses on "peripherals": going to the parlor to do her nails, having a cellophane, hot oil, going to her modista to have the latest clothes tailor-made, bags and shoes shopping, and the works. somehow, i want to tell her to re-focus her energies on the weight-loss rather than the peripherals, but i don't know how to say it. 1. when we meet up in the mall, i see her from afar wearing her top tucked-in her pants. and it's not a pretty sight. sometimes, i can see other people (girls) looking at her, and whispering thereafter. should i actually suggest to her to ease-up on the tucking-in, or should i tell her other girl friends to suggest to her? or should i let her be? 2. why do some overweight people engage in self-deprecating humor, literally making fun of themselves for a good, group laugh? sometimes, i suspect she cries at home despite all the laughter. 3. this is not to rub salt on whomever, but i really make an effort to go to the gym at least 3x a week, despite a busy schedule, and i try to maintain a healthy diet. my friend will always be my friend, no matter what. but somehow, i see it as a lack of discipline to better herself. Quote Link to comment
Eclipseguy Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 I don't think anyone is proud to be fat. That is a very strong context. Content, possibly, but pride isn't a word I'd use. I've been ultra-skinny and then on the heavy side. When I was chunky and had a moon face, people indeed treated me differently...in a bad or overall negative way. I never got dates, when I'd ask for directions when lost people were not always helpful. When I'm in shape, people go out of their way to help me if I ask for it. If having to work (much) harder in life via human relations doesn't bother you, then you have a reason to be proud. But overall, life is about finding a balance between work and indulgence. You can have both if you really want it. I'm not giving a motivational speech...just a perspective from one who has been there. Again, pride in being heavy is fine, as long as you know that you can reverse your size if you encounter a serious health problem. Otherwise, live and let live. For me, if I don't have large people to help lose weight or teach them to keep it off, I'd lose half of my gym members Quote Link to comment
Wyld Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 (edited) I've been there. Fat, I mean. And in a big way. One day, I wisened up, realized I wanted to live longer and began to work out. That was three years ago. I have not stopped since then. I am not fat anymore. True, I have some flab where I would rather not have them but my fat % is at a very decent level. I can go straight on a cardio workout for up to three hours and come out smiling. I can push my body to do things that, when I was fat, I never even imagined I could do. Am I proud of myself now? Hell yeah. Was I proud of myself when I was fat? No. Not really. I was content. I was happy - I had a good job, I had people who loved me and accepted me for who I was, I would still get asked out on dates... But... I couldnt buy off the rack clothes, I couldnt wear shorts or miniskirts, I couldnt even wear flip flops. But beyond being able to wear what I want, being fit also means I can eat what I want in moderation without fear. It means I can run, jump, skip, hop, walk, dance, box, spin... It also means I know I am reasonably healthy .... Bottom line though is... its always a choice. YOUR life, YOUR choice. You can choose to be fat, or you can choose to shape up. You can choose to be healthy or you can choose to die early. Ultimately, your choices define who you are and what you will be. Should you choose the path towards fitness, be sure to do it for YOU. Not for a man, not for a job, not for fame and fortune. For YOU. Edited June 24, 2006 by Wyld Quote Link to comment
JesusFreak! Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 fatness (particularly obseity) is linked with psychological problems... kaya if you eat as your source of comfort sa mga problema mo sa buhay, then you are looking for the wrong solution... and admit it fatness is linked with laziness, and sloppy behavior... Quote Link to comment
Eclipseguy Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 Wyld said it best...do it for yourself. When you are doing something for yourself, that's when it feels the most satisfying. Quote Link to comment
chubCHINITAforHIRE Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 im chuby but wid curves.. its nice to b chubby wag lng obese ayt?? Quote Link to comment
warmheat Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 hmmm ako thou im confident yet alam ko i must loose weight pa din ..aheheeh alam ko naman e hmmmm basta i must loose a lot of weight kasi mahirap mamili ng damit ahihi... Quote Link to comment
crazykalbo Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 ang cute mo naman warmheat.. ahehe... oks lang maging chubby basta wag sobrang laki kasi nga mahirap mamili ng damit... who wouldnt like to wear those cool clothes they sell for sexy-thin-small people... im not fat, im big cuz i lift weights pero lagi problema sa pants kasi huge thighs ko... kahit na ang waist ko eh 33 lang, ang thighs ko naman around 27-28 inches in diameter sa kaka-squats ko... wala rin lagi pahirapan mag hanap ng pants.. hay buhay hehehee Quote Link to comment
warmheat Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 ang masakit kasi eh pag nde ka think naka tube top ka nga pero dpat may ipang ibabaw ka pa to hide yung arms aheheh at ang hirap tlaga mag hanap ng dmit sobraa Quote Link to comment
babymaker Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 (edited) I really don't want to offend anybody with my statement... I'm just curious why people ... who are obviously have a larger body than the average sized people would say that they are proud to be fat rather than taking time to commit themselves in regualr exercise and diet..... did they lost their will to trim down or what? I used to be really fat when I felt that I need to trim down when I was in highschool.... kasi panget na nga ako then it would be complemented by my very big belly... kay todo exercise ako at diet.. pero not to the extent of torturing myself..... lahat ng tao pwde magpapayat ..... they just need time and determination.. pati discipline... pero bakit ang daming gustong maging large framed sila for life? Why? not to offend kasi marami din ako friends na large...<{POST_SNAPBACK}> No. I used to be 40 pounds overweight.I chose not to be overweight.I currently am just trying to push myself more to work out. My reason is I want to have more children.The healthier and handsomer I get, the more children I produce. How I did it?I paid for the services of a great professional nutritionist why guided me and taught me personally how it is done. Next time I will hire a professional trainer for exercising. Edited July 5, 2006 by babymaker Quote Link to comment
Pepeng Manas Posted July 6, 2006 Share Posted July 6, 2006 I really don't want to offend anybody with my statement... I'm just curious why people ... who are obviously have a larger body than the average sized people would say that they are proud to be fat rather than taking time to commit themselves in regualr exercise and diet..... did they lost their will to trim down or what? I used to be really fat when I felt that I need to trim down when I was in highschool.... kasi panget na nga ako then it would be complemented by my very big belly... kay todo exercise ako at diet.. pero not to the extent of torturing myself..... lahat ng tao pwde magpapayat ..... they just need time and determination.. pati discipline... pero bakit ang daming gustong maging large framed sila for life? Why? not to offend kasi marami din ako friends na large... well, i bet they didn't choose to be fat. it's either genetic, or they just love to eat. either way, we all know everyone can lose weight. although, a lot of fat people may have a problem on this -- "time and determination." and... as what jack black's character in 'school of rock' said-- "i love to eat... is that such a crime?" Quote Link to comment
babymaker Posted July 6, 2006 Share Posted July 6, 2006 I learned to love to eat the foods that are nutritious and beneficial for my health. Now that I'm slim, I am disgusted at the junk I used to eat that made me fat and unhealthy. Quote Link to comment
Obese_F Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 (edited) i guess there is nothing to be proud of if you are proud.. I am not proud of being this big. But i am proud of what i have achieved so far despite the fact that my size is one of my biggest difficulties in life. yes, i consider it as my difficulties since i really find it hard to lose weight. I have been big since birth... it is genetic, i must say. but at the back of my mind, i never give up on trying to lose a bit slowly... emotionally, i am suffering.. coz i take the public transport.. and i take the jeep if i can't afford the cab. you can hear people giving their remarks.. it hurts, yes, but i can't complain.. they are just reacting to what they see in me. I do not want to defend myself everytime i hear such remark. i cannot change the way they see.. but i know i can change what they see in me. every day is like starting from the starting line... if i failed yesterday, today is a new day. i am taking it one day at a time.. the more i think of it, the more it digs a hole in my emotion... so now i am proud to say i am determined to do something about my weight. Edited July 13, 2006 by Obese_F Quote Link to comment
JesusFreak! Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 Go for it, bro!!! I used to be obese and I share the same sentiments with you... and it really hurts when people would say remarks about you... but long ago i have made a decision to lose weight and i did... The process may not be as easy as it seems, it's really hard work and strong will... but if you really wanted to lose weight then go for it. i guess there is nothing to be proud of if you are proud.. I am not proud of being this big. But i am proud of what i have achieved so far despite the fact that my size is one of my biggest difficulties in life. yes, i consider it as my difficulties since i really find it hard to lose weight. I have been big since birth... it is genetic, i must say. but at the back of my mind, i never give up on trying to lose a bit slowly... emotionally, i am suffering.. coz i take the public transport.. and i take the jeep if i can't afford the cab. you can hear people giving their remarks.. it hurts, yes, but i can't complain.. they are just reacting to what they see in me. I do not want to defend myself everytime i hear such remark. i cannot change the way they see.. but i know i can change what they see in me. every day is like starting from the starting line... if i failed yesterday, today is a new day. i am taking it one day at a time.. the more i think of it, the more it digs a hole in my emotion... so now i am proud to say i am determined to do something about my weight. Quote Link to comment
SugarPrincess Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 hmmm in nOt fat perO may mga matataba naman na bagay sa kanila diba??? Quote Link to comment
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