Too Shy Ask For His/her Number

[iwalkalone]

now this is uncalled for...

 

it's unfair to call mtc girls who respond to or even initiate pm's or dates as ugly, desperate, or for hire. :thumbsdownsmiley:

 

if a girl agrees to give her number to a guy whether mtc, in a jeepney, or in a bar, it doesn't make her a cheapo.

 

 

And I always thought people here were open minded mature and intelligent GROWNUPs.

 

NOT.

 

Responding to a PM, agreeing to meet someone for coffee (or more) does not make one cheap.

 

What makes a person cheap is when he or she claims to be as pure as the driven snow when he or she is obviously not.

 

Get real kid.

 

LOL.

 

and that LOL was really a way out loud LOL!!!

 

ooooh! sorry! didn't mean to offend anyone....that's juz the way i am...and even when i WAS still an MPA...i never gave out my number that easily unless...the guy confirms that he's about to go to goodlife already...like in a few hours?! :boo:

some get lucky though....they blackmail me...saying..."i'm about to give you something really special...i'm going to leave it at Goodlife's frontdesk....i have to have your number so i can tell you when exactly...that way you can pick it up in time and be sure it doesn't get lost "

some are just too smart ....saying....they're not interested in me ....and that all they want is to text me ( and promises to send load naman in return ) :boo:

Edited January 4, 2007 by iwalkalone

[silvercross000]

well usually i just say " can we exchange numbers?" that simple. when she rejects be polite. sometimes she might just change her mind when you ask politely. hehe.

[enlightenme]

thanks guys!!!

 

but my problem is, i'm not really good with coming up with topics, or anything to discuss with her... any suggestions on this?

yun din kasi problema ko kapag nakuha ko na yung no. hirap akong i-pa-feel na gusto ko pa siya makausap, and typically ang nangyayare sa akin kapag kausap ko na eh parang question and answer lang kami... wala man lang follow-up sila, para tuloy wala talagang interes sa akin... parang katawan ko lang habol nila e... hahaha!!!

 

what do women want to talk about? girls help naman po... hehehe!!!

 

thanks ule!!!

[spongebobby]

thanks guys!!!

 

but my problem is, i'm not really good with coming up with topics, or anything to discuss with her... any suggestions on this?

yun din kasi problema ko kapag nakuha ko na yung no. hirap akong i-pa-feel na gusto ko pa siya makausap, and typically ang nangyayare sa akin kapag kausap ko na eh parang question and answer lang kami... wala man lang follow-up sila, para tuloy wala talagang interes sa akin... parang katawan ko lang habol nila e... hahaha!!!

 

what do women want to talk about? girls help naman po... hehehe!!!

 

thanks ule!!!

 

the best conversationalist is still the one who knows how to listen. in this case, though, that might be a phase two, since you're non-existent as far as the girl is concerned. so i'll share with you something that has worked for me all these years.

 

think of something to complement sincerely. wag iyong bola na ang ganda ng mata mo pero duling, etc. believe me, there is always something to say nice about a person, no matter how horrendous. the keys are: look for that quality and give a sincere compliment. wag na wag na bola na halatang damoobs.

 

and no matter what you do, never start a conversation by saying:miss, puwedeng makipagkilala?

[Wang-BU]

sakto d2 ung nangyari skin this morning.. my katabi kc ko sa bus na cute girl... kunwari gentleman ako, ndi ako masyado dumidikit sa kanya kc bka sabihin nya eh manyak ako (na totoo nman.hehehe) gusto ko sana kuhanin # nya.. kso ala ako naisip na epektib na modus operandi eh...gang sa nkababa na xa ng bus ala ako ngawa...haaayy....sa mga beterano jan konting advice nman.

[FlavoredBeer]

sakto d2 ung nangyari skin this morning.. my katabi kc ko sa bus na cute girl... kunwari gentleman ako, ndi ako masyado dumidikit sa kanya kc bka sabihin nya eh manyak ako (na totoo nman.hehehe) gusto ko sana kuhanin # nya.. kso ala ako naisip na epektib na modus operandi eh...gang sa nkababa na xa ng bus ala ako ngawa...haaayy....sa mga beterano jan konting advice nman.

 

haha.. syang un dude.. sna gumamit ka ng mga pick up lines.. kht luma at korny pero ung tipong maka2open ng conversation..

 

ex. "miss anong orasna??.. lam mo familiar ka.. haven't we already met?? or ask her kng nag-aaral ba xa sa..____(give k n lang ng skul) kasi parang nkita kta don..

 

then the rest kaw na dumiskarte.. just be confidence at wag bastos dating :cool:

[FlavoredBeer]

i had this experience, don sa skul library.. well kasama ko xa sa isang table.. shes really cute..

 

eh ala akng maicp na aproach para makuha ko no. nya.. ksi mejo busy xa sa mga books.. ka2hiya nmn

mang is2rbo..

 

well i remember ung comercial ng juicy fruit.. hehe..

 

mejo sinunod ko ung gnwa don.. i write on a piece of paper..

 

hi.. im Mack.. pwd bang makipagkaibgan?? heres my no. 0910--------

 

well.. lucky me.. tnxt nya nmn ako..

 

kaya lang.. my long time bf na pala.. :boo: :boo:

 

pero friend nmn kame ngaun,,

[nightingale]

to shy to ask for her number?

 

then just give yours!

[King`Of`Klubbs]

I follow the 3 second rule: When seeing a hot chick, I only have three seconds to hesitate before apporaching and just say 'Hi'. Three seconds is enough for me to visualize the chick sititng on a toilet, sweaty and all, trying to dump a large turd. If that doesnt demistify the chick for you guys, I dont know what will.

 

Hahaha! This is very good advice! I haven't tried it but I already see it working. A lot of literature have been saying to imagine yourself being this and that. But I see this as more effective. Hehehe! How I see this working: 1) It make you laugh. This will put a bug smile on your face, thus making it appear that you are enjoying yourself. 2) It puts her off the pedestal. Makes her more human again. That should get you talking. 3) You can even use it as a pick-up line. If she asks you, "what seems to be so funny?" You can say, "I just thought of you doing something very... shall we say, natural?" This can make a girl curious. If she bugs you to tell her what's on your mind, then you know that the game is on. Nice!

 

 

thanks guys!!!

 

but my problem is, i'm not really good with coming up with topics, or anything to discuss with her... any suggestions on this?

yun din kasi problema ko kapag nakuha ko na yung no. hirap akong i-pa-feel na gusto ko pa siya makausap, and typically ang nangyayare sa akin kapag kausap ko na eh parang question and answer lang kami... wala man lang follow-up sila, para tuloy wala talagang interes sa akin... parang katawan ko lang habol nila e... hahaha!!!

 

what do women want to talk about? girls help naman po... hehehe!!!

 

thanks ule!!!

 

Ok, the situation is that you were already able to get her number or at least start a conversation. The problem is that there's lag in the interaction. Though I think hindi para dito itong scenario na 'to, pwede pa rin naman.

 

So going back, I agree that listening is key. Listen to subtle clues. Now, pa'no pag wala talaga? A usual response that we guys could get is a dead answer. You get this by asking close-ended question. Never ask a categorical question (answerable by a "yes" or "no.") Always go for an open-ended one. Now, sometimes even if it's open-ended, we end up with a boring response. But you'd only get it if you ask a boring question (see below).

 

Another concern that we have: we always want to start a conversation focusing on her. Questions like, "where are you studying?" or "what's your favorite music?" Basically the same, old, boring questions which would show that we are interested. I say this will make you come across as a boring individual. And that's also the reason why you run out of questions to ask. You've been programed to ask boring questions. Pano nga naman kung naubusan ka na? Then the answer is, ask creative questions! Heck! It doesn't even matter if the question is stupid! Basta you can put a twist in it.

 

Sample:

Naubusan na kayo ng topic dahil parang interview na ang ginawa mong kwentuhan. Meaning puro, "what school are you from?" or "ilan ang kapatid mo?" "anong favorite color mo?" or "anong music or sinong artist ang madalas mong pakinggan?" etc. Syempre kinakabahan ka na kasi wala ka nang matanong. Tahimik na lang din sya.

 

First thing you do is, look like you're in deep thought. Tumingin ka muna sa kawalan. Kunwari nagmumuni-muni. Then ask her a creative question like, "Which one would you choose: sail the seven seas in a galleon, or travel around the 8 planets inside a rocket ship?" Then ask why. Just keep on probing. But here's a caveat: don't make it boring. Lagyan mo pa ng twists. Gawin mong nakakatawa. Pag sumagot na sya, pwede mong dagdagan ng "Eh pano kung dun sa space ship, ang kasama mo eh arabong tatlong dekada nang hindi naliligo (assuming pinili nya yung spaceship)?"

 

I'm sure marami na kayong mapag-uusapan dito. One time I used this, tumagal pa ng isang oras ang usapan namin. Lumabas pa pati yung mga fears nya sa buhay, mga experience nya with her barkada, at kung anu-ano pa. And take note, this is a girl na kilalang malakas mambara.

 

Basta don't ask boring questions!

 

Yang hirit mo na, "parang katawan ko lang ang gusto nila," gamitin mo sa kanila. Say that out loud. Pag tahimik sya, sabihin mo, "Tahimik ka ata. Siguro iniisip mo nang mabuti yung katawan ko ngayon noh?!" or something like that.

 

 

 

 

sakto d2 ung nangyari skin this morning.. my katabi kc ko sa bus na cute girl... kunwari gentleman ako, ndi ako masyado dumidikit sa kanya kc bka sabihin nya eh manyak ako (na totoo nman.hehehe) gusto ko sana kuhanin # nya.. kso ala ako naisip na epektib na modus operandi eh...gang sa nkababa na xa ng bus ala ako ngawa...haaayy....sa mga beterano jan konting advice nman.

 

Ngitian mo lang. Gawin mo yung payo ni Yama. Sigurado lalaki ngiti mo sa mukha. Basta wag lang ngiting manyak.

 

Sobrang torpe din ako at natututo pa lang maging Don Juan. Pero yung mga sinabi ko sa taas ang napatunayan ko nang gumagana. Pero tanchahan din yan.

[bher2]

ang hirap kasi din minsan na sumabak sa giyera na hindi ka pa sanay. baka sabihin ng girl na antipatiko ako!

Edited January 25, 2007 by bher2

[baseballer]

Just ask!

 

Try the SALESMAN's method.

 

If you strike-out, forget her/him don't take it personnaly, go to the next target, then do it all over again. You will get one eventually.

[compadrei]

Hahaha! This is very good advice! I haven't tried it but I already see it working. A lot of literature have been saying to imagine yourself being this and that. But I see this as more effective. Hehehe! How I see this working: 1) It make you laugh. This will put a bug smile on your face, thus making it appear that you are enjoying yourself. 2) It puts her off the pedestal. Makes her more human again. That should get you talking. 3) You can even use it as a pick-up line. If she asks you, "what seems to be so funny?" You can say, "I just thought of you doing something very... shall we say, natural?" This can make a girl curious. If she bugs you to tell her what's on your mind, then you know that the game is on. Nice!

Ok, the situation is that you were already able to get her number or at least start a conversation. The problem is that there's lag in the interaction. Though I think hindi para dito itong scenario na 'to, pwede pa rin naman.

 

So going back, I agree that listening is key. Listen to subtle clues. Now, pa'no pag wala talaga? A usual response that we guys could get is a dead answer. You get this by asking close-ended question. Never ask a categorical question (answerable by a "yes" or "no.") Always go for an open-ended one. Now, sometimes even if it's open-ended, we end up with a boring response. But you'd only get it if you ask a boring question (see below).

 

Another concern that we have: we always want to start a conversation focusing on her. Questions like, "where are you studying?" or "what's your favorite music?" Basically the same, old, boring questions which would show that we are interested. I say this will make you come across as a boring individual. And that's also the reason why you run out of questions to ask. You've been programed to ask boring questions. Pano nga naman kung naubusan ka na? Then the answer is, ask creative questions! Heck! It doesn't even matter if the question is stupid! Basta you can put a twist in it.

 

Sample:

Naubusan na kayo ng topic dahil parang interview na ang ginawa mong kwentuhan. Meaning puro, "what school are you from?" or "ilan ang kapatid mo?" "anong favorite color mo?" or "anong music or sinong artist ang madalas mong pakinggan?" etc. Syempre kinakabahan ka na kasi wala ka nang matanong. Tahimik na lang din sya.

 

First thing you do is, look like you're in deep thought. Tumingin ka muna sa kawalan. Kunwari nagmumuni-muni. Then ask her a creative question like, "Which one would you choose: sail the seven seas in a galleon, or travel around the 8 planets inside a rocket ship?" Then ask why. Just keep on probing. But here's a caveat: don't make it boring. Lagyan mo pa ng twists. Gawin mong nakakatawa. Pag sumagot na sya, pwede mong dagdagan ng "Eh pano kung dun sa space ship, ang kasama mo eh arabong tatlong dekada nang hindi naliligo (assuming pinili nya yung spaceship)?"

 

I'm sure marami na kayong mapag-uusapan dito. One time I used this, tumagal pa ng isang oras ang usapan namin. Lumabas pa pati yung mga fears nya sa buhay, mga experience nya with her barkada, at kung anu-ano pa. And take note, this is a girl na kilalang malakas mambara.

 

Basta don't ask boring questions!

 

Yang hirit mo na, "parang katawan ko lang ang gusto nila," gamitin mo sa kanila. Say that out loud. Pag tahimik sya, sabihin mo, "Tahimik ka ata. Siguro iniisip mo nang mabuti yung katawan ko ngayon noh?!" or something like that.

Ngitian mo lang. Gawin mo yung payo ni Yama. Sigurado lalaki ngiti mo sa mukha. Basta wag lang ngiting manyak.

 

Sobrang torpe din ako at natututo pa lang maging Don Juan. Pero yung mga sinabi ko sa taas ang napatunayan ko nang gumagana. Pero tanchahan din yan.

 

 

galing.. nice tol.. thanks sa mga pointers..

[mohao]

right now i wanna ask someone's number but di pede...

 

 

 

kaibigan niya eh

[Cutefreak]

Cold feet i my biggest weakness...and I havent found the cure yet...

[Aquaenigma]

guess im really not that aggressive to do the first move

esp in asking ones number upfront and in person

 

maybe what i can do is to ask his number from someone else that we both know

or ask his number from someone i know that knows him too hehehehe..

diskarte ika nga but if that wont work too

i just say to myself that maybe we're not meant to be so no need to push it further

 

However i already tried asking for ones number from those that i was able to talk to tru chat or emails

i was able to muster some "guts/ courage" once i already made some conversation with that someone that i find interesting

 

 

in the past i remember back in college

there was this someone who sent me a message, giving his contact number and asking me to call him and be friends

and it was written on the back of "dahon ng sagin" ..we're in the beach then and i guess he was not able to find a paper

the boy/ messenger said that the note was for the girl with my description

and i admit i can't help not to admire his creativity and guts

i tried to call him but the line that he gave me was always busy

hangan sa nawalan na rin ako ng gana na tawagan sya