Divorce In The Philippines

[sexmachine76]

While I am Catholic, (albeit non-practicing) I agree that we should re-examine our stand on divorce. If both parties can no longer stand one another, why should they be forced by the state or the church to be together? Our current system of Annulment is just not enough. People make mistakes, give them a chance to correct them.

[occam]

According to recent studies conducted by US experts, the number one cause of divorce is marriage.

[zencalix]

According to recent studies conducted by US experts, the number one cause of divorce is marriage.

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bwahahaha!

 

oks ka talaga pareng occam!!

 

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[ric2000]

I am a divorcee, let me just say that I think that the Philippines needs a Divorce Law to protect the individual rights of all especially any children from the marriage. In a Divorce Law provissions ensure for the financial well-being of the minor children. After all they deserve protection under the law.

If the couple is without children then "no fault" divorce is the perfect solution to prevent years of sadness and possible abuse both physical and mental.

[echo2knight]

Difference of divorce in RP context:

 

Divorce: Sees the marriage as non existent (no marriage ever occured), greatly affects the community of property, and succession;

 

Annulment: Sees marriage as existent.

 

Legal Separation: Marriage exists. Parties dwell in apart.

[babymaker]

Divorce - American style is a proven disaster, marriage is now a joke, reduced to the status of a boyfriend girlfriend relationship

 

Divorce - Islamic Filipino style is workable, marriage is still taken seriously, boyfriend girlfriend relationships not allowed.

 

Divorce - Philippine Christian style happens when boyfriend - girlfriend relations "break-up". Marriages still somewhat works because boyfriend girlfriend relationships serve as stage 1 trial marriage where divorce is rampant and acceptable.

[lomex32]

Hi MA

Shouldn't be one become more careful and more responsible after a single marriage-divorce cycle?

Happiness indeed has it cost .....

 

Now this is something that you cannot impose on anyone, let alone a divorcee.

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And even if the reasons for the infinite cycle of marriage-divorce-marriage-divorce-marriage are not as honorable or romantic as love, still, we are not in any authority to pass on bigoted judgments.  People marry primarily to be happy.  Some of them file for divorce in order to dissociate themselves from things/situations that have ceased to bring them happiness.  At some point they remarry because they find themselves happy again. 

 

Such, my dear, is life.

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occam. Hahahaha

According to recent studies conducted by US experts, the number one cause of divorce is marriage.

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[lord_alessi]

you can't have divorce in the philippines. first of all, family laws are not pro-women so having a divorce law is non-sensical. change existing family laws first before making new ones.

 

second, a divorce law stipulates that both parties, in the absence of pre-nuptial agreements, will split assets 50/50. take note, nearly half of the congressmen and senators have one or more mistresses. if they sign a divorce law, imagine how much they're going to lose.

 

third, the church does not support divorces for the sole reason that marriages are sacred (duh). weird, they support more expensive and traumatic annulments than divorce.

 

i've seen many of my friends suffer bad marriages. it is time that we have a divorce law. support rep. liza maza's divorce bill.

 

yun lang

[MA]

Hi MA

Shouldn't be one become more careful and more responsible after a single marriage-divorce cycle?

Happiness indeed has it cost .....

 

 

Yes, of course Lomex.

 

Once bitten twice shy, ika nga.

 

But then again, there are things that you don't have control over.

 

Like, say, falling in and out of love on a regular basis.

 

I know it sounds preposterous as some people can't even tell whether or not they've actually fallen in love. But sometimes it happens that one falls in love and decides (blindly) to tie the knot, be happy for a year or two, wake up one morning only to realize that love has flown out of the window, petition for annulment/separation/divorce, gets it eventually, tries to pick up the pieces and start living like the single man/woman that he or she is (legally), meets someone, falls in love again, and the rest of this wonderful (albeit, painfully predictable) lovestory is well, history.

 

Bottomline, we CAN always try and opt to be careful the next time but there's really no telling what's gonna happen when we're not looking. Unless we're clairvoyants. In which case, happy-ever-after endings would be easy-peasy for us.

 

For that, let me state again FOR the RECORD that I am all for Divorce!

Edited February 27, 2006 by MA

[lomex32]

Does one need to define the man/women that will make them happy?

 

If we associate the qualities of a person to whatever makes us happy this person

may indeed exist and sooner go ...... di na happy eh

 

Love may not be that predictable, though drawing a picture will help one find one.

And when one finds the person he draws/plans/hopes/dreams/desires it is perhaps

the moment also that both share their happiness .... happiness through reciprocity, mutual happines

whatever we may call it ....

 

:heart: :heart: :heart:

 

 

 

I know it sounds preposterous as some people can't even tell whether or not they've actually fallen in love.  But sometimes it happens that one falls in love and decides (blindly) to tie the knot, be happy for a year or two, wake up one morning only to realize that love has flown out of the window, petition for annulment/separation/divorce, gets it eventually, tries to pick up the pieces and start living like the single man/woman that he or she is (legally), meets someone, falls in love again, and the rest of this wonderful (albeit, painfully predictable) lovestory is well, history.

 

Bottomline, we CAN always try and opt to be careful the next time but there's really no telling what's gonna happen when we're not looking.  Unless we're clairvoyants.  In which case, happy-ever-after endings would be easy-peasy for us.

 

For that, let me state again FOR the RECORD    that I am all for Divorce!

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[zencalix]

Yes, of course Lomex.

 

Once bitten twice shy, ika nga.

 

But then again, there are things that you don't have control over.

 

Like, say, falling in and out of love on a regular basis.

 

I know it sounds preposterous as some people can't even tell whether or not they've actually fallen in love.  But sometimes it happens that one falls in love and decides (blindly) to tie the knot, be happy for a year or two, wake up one morning only to realize that love has flown out of the window, petition for annulment/separation/divorce, gets it eventually, tries to pick up the pieces and start living like the single man/woman that he or she is (legally), meets someone, falls in love again, and the rest of this wonderful (albeit, painfully predictable) lovestory is well, history.

 

Bottomline, we CAN always try and opt to be careful the next time but there's really no telling what's gonna happen when we're not looking.  Unless we're clairvoyants.  In which case, happy-ever-after endings would be easy-peasy for us.

 

For that, let me state again FOR the RECORD    that I am all for Divorce!

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vics,

 

love fades... ganun talaga... admit it or not, it happens... sana we could be in love with our partners our whole lives pero very seldom nangyayari ito! im sure may mga exceptions pero in general, after 5-10 years of seeing each other day in and day out, you sort of get tired of each other... and then along comes this new person and just because he/she is new, bumabalik ang kilig!! well, napupunta na ko sa pagiging "unfaithful"! hehehe! that is for another thead...

 

divided ako sa issue ng divorce... kasi pag may divorce at madali nang magkahiwalay, magiging cycle na yan! people will get married without thinking kasi madali naman magdivorce if it doesnt work out?! pero on the other hand, when a marriage isnt working out... mahirap... maraming pros and cons ang divorce... live in na lang pagusapan natin!! trial muna bago bilhin! taste test kung baga!! see if you can live with the person muna bago magpakasal! when it comes to marriage, mahirap magkamali!

 

buti na lang may divorce dito! hehehe! at madali lang ang process!! hay salamat!!

 

ang gulo ng post ko!! sensya na kayo!!

 

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[revi]

Don't you think that divorce may be abused by some people.. (ex. when Dennis Rodman married Carmen Electra to gain publicity and then the following day or week divorce agad).. meaning they will get married then after a while just file a divorce coz may nahanap na naman na iba.. With divorce kasi its easy to get in & out of a marriage.. unlike with annulment and legal separation proceedings..

 

However, in the Phils., sometimes because annulment and legal separation entails money (lots of it).. poor folks resort to single parent living na lang.. so hiwalay lang but may papers na nagsasaad na kasal kayo.. Unlike sa States, na divorce would make you a free man/woman.. and you could re-marry.. In this scenario, divorce becomes more of a necessity.. don't you think?

 

So, I guess there are pros and cons of not having divorce in our country.. To put this issue to rest, I think divorce should be availabe in our country.. but dapat siguro may hangganan.. example is that you can only use divorce 2 times.. so that divorce will not be used in womanizing efforts of a man.. or in promiscuity of a woman.. What do you think?

[Guest Inquisitive]

Allow me to reiterate my earlier post to this engaging and animated discussion:

 

I agree that there should be divorce in the Philippines especially to those cases that merit it. Imagine a wife who is always beaten black and blue by his husband every single night not to mention their children who are also battered too. Legal separation will not do since the spouses are only to be separated from bed and board but legally they are still husband and wife. Hence, the wife will have to live her life alone and not get the chance to be happy and start over.

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[edc]

Bka Gawin lng yung ginagawa ni Tom Cruise. Type nyo ba yun mga girls?

 

Pag ang ginaya ng phils yung Divorce Law ng USA, Ang kawawa yung mga girls.

 

Pero pag yung divorce law hindi ipapattern sa USA, baka mas ok. Yung may sarili divorce law dapat pinas. Wag puro gaya-gaya sa USA.

[Elai]

There are marriages that are not good for either the man or the woman, for example, cases of adultery or physical abuse. Thus it is better for both if the marriage was dissolved. I know of a few unions that were better off broken...... that's the way life goes. The divorce however should not be taken advantage of, and I still believe in marriages lasting forever.