willow_boy Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 This happened to me with the last girl I dated before I met my wife. Religion was the issue. To begin with, we already had different faiths when we met; she was Protestant while I was (still am) a Catholic. Pero ok lang iyon. Things were fine for a couple of years. Needless to say, we had a lot of fun. Then came a day when one of her friends took her to a bible institute. The group was what we would call fundamentalist Christians. From then on, things changed slowly but surely. When before, religion wasn't an issue. Now it was. Big time. She started rejecting the tenets of my faith and it became a frequent topic and source of argument whenever we were together. In short, I reached a point na even though I loved her and would have loved to marry her, I decided to just disappear from her life. It was very difficult and I was depressed and couldn't sleep for months pero I simply had to do it. I still feel a tinge of sadness whenever I remember the relationship because of the way it had to end. :cry: (Mayroon bang may Kleenex diyan?) Quote Link to comment
hottlipss Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 (edited) ^^ awwww.... I took mine to the extreme to forget my ex-fiancee since moving to 3 different states still didn't work...I got married to somebody else I only knew for less than a month hoping to forget him. Extreme Rebound relationship! Even after having 2 kids and 5 years of marriage, my ex-fiancee was still in my heart. Didn't help that I was married to an a$$hole. When my ex-fiancee found out that I was legally separated and waiting for my divorce, he called me up and wanted to start off where we left off. He flew to Hawaii from Cali to meet but on the last minute, I realized that it's not going to work out....too many things have changed and happened and I worked so hard to forget him...I just didn't want to be in that circle anymore. And I started realizing that it's better na hindi na lang ibalik ang nakaraan. So I called him up, explained my feelings, and cancelled. With all the things that's happened in our respective lives, I don't think we can ever overlook them and just start where we left off. I must have intimacy and commitment issue kasi with my hubby now, I cancelled our wedding the night before. I saw our marriage as something that might ruin his life because of our age difference. I figured I'll be the better person and let him go inspite of our love kasi mas nakakatanda ako. Ako na lang ang lalayo para hindi masira ang buhay niya dahil nga package deal na ako with 2 toddlers in tow. So what was supposed to be our happiest day, I broke up with him instead. But after a couple of days, he managed to kidnapped me and marry me at the nearest courthouse. He is the only one that's ever worked so relentlessly to break down the wall I've built around my heart. So in the end, I couldn't stay away from him. Edited June 7, 2006 by hottlipss Quote Link to comment
tsunade Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Sulk... then stay far far far away from that person... until you're ready to face him/her without feeling anything anymore. Quote Link to comment
free2nyt Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 You just CANT!!! You might be separated physically but that special someone always stays in your heart and soul... Free :mtc: Quote Link to comment
Guest hotbabe0629 Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 I dont know!!! Napakahirap gawin, lalo na pag nasanay ka na na kasama sya. Quote Link to comment
silentkilla Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 Tulad ng sinasabi sa akin, just think of the ugliest things that they have and that way you would be so sick and irritated when having thoughts of him/her Quote Link to comment
tsunade Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 how about someone you hate now but used to love or even plain like??? just stay far far away... delete him from your life.... Quote Link to comment
silentkilla Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 how about someone you hate now but used to love or even plain like??? just stay far far away... delete him from your life.... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I agree to that Quote Link to comment
petejam Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 You simply do it. Stay away. And stay away, no matter what. Itapon mo SIM mo. Cut off all contact. Kung taga -MTC, wag ka muna mag-log-in. Kung officemate, mag-resign ka or pa-assign sa ibang branch. A few years ago, I fell for this guy... his wife found out about us and it was a painful thing to watch him get torn. I'd die a little each time we'd say goodbye coz he was obviously finding it hard to let go. We'd be having a great time talking tapos suddenly he'll heave a sigh and stare at me wistfully... He was hurting too much. I had to stay away to give him back the normalcy of his life. It killed me to ignore his calls, delete his emails without reading them, but I'd made the decision that if we wouldn't be meeting again, then I'd stay out of his life completely. It's been 5 years. Kinaya naman.<{POST_SNAPBACK}> it was the same with me, but i was on the other end of the stick. She ignored all my calls, texts and email. I really miss her but I made my decision so I have to live with it. Its been almost 2 years. I still miss her. Very much. Quote Link to comment
QTkolehiyala Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 yup.... how do u stay away na frm d person u care.. un sbrang care kna for dat prson pro u fil neglected p dn?? nkksad tlga.... Quote Link to comment
pkeyman Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 i get closer, so her bf wil take here away, enought dat i cnt reach anymore Quote Link to comment
daggerlady Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 been there but on different circumstance with Lian.we were both in long-term relationships.the risks of loving him were great.i got coward.i went far away.i cut all communications.i tried to forget him but i cant.the feelings will stay. Quote Link to comment
pussycatdoll Posted June 23, 2006 Share Posted June 23, 2006 So what was supposed to be our happiest day, I broke up with him instead. But after a couple of days, he managed to kidnapped me and marry me at the nearest courthouse. He is the only one that's ever worked so relentlessly to break down the wall I've built around my heart. So in the end, I couldn't stay away from him. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> wow, ms. hottlipss, what a story! ang galing naman ninyong dalawa! :thumbsupsmiley: hay... how to stay away from someone you love so much? stay away from the phone, i-silent mo ang cell mo, stay away from yahoo messenger and always pretend you're too busy to talk on the rare occassions his calls get through. keep yourself busy with work and your old friends, take a class, pick up a new hobby, anything to keep your mind occupied. eventually you'll get over him/her. yun nga lang, di ko lang alam kung gaano katagal ang "eventually" para sa 'yo. i know some people who are over their loves within weeks, samantalang yung iba naman taon na ang binibilang ay in love pa rin sa mga ex nila. Quote Link to comment
wonderwoman30 Posted June 23, 2006 Share Posted June 23, 2006 ako nagpapaclose pa ko sakanya then i will realize na hindi cya worth it Quote Link to comment
snake_5ph Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 have a brain and heart surgery (replace them both)... ask a professional to hypnotize u nd erase all memories of that person (if possible erase all your memories)... lastly dig atleast 6ft below the ground and have someone bury you and wait till next day to get you out... if all these still does'nt work then you're meant to be with that person... Quote Link to comment
heavygatin_but_cutie Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 no ifs and no buts.... WILL power lang po..... stop all connections...cut all communications... Quote Link to comment
charmellan Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 A nice article I got from the internet, I hope this helps Let the healing begin... Breaking up is never fun. The end of arelationship means the beginning of a period ofmourning and healing for both people. If the breakup was mutual both people will experience a periodof adjustment where they are getting used to nolonger being together. If the break up was notmutual the person who ended things may be dealingwith guilt and feelings that they may have made amistake. The person being broken up with willdefinitely have to adjust, first to being rejectedand second to life without somebody they stillcare for. How do you get through those first fewweeks? Here we list eight essential thingseverybody must do in the early days of a break upto let the healing begin. 1. Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, thisisn't being immature. Seeing your former flame canbring out emotions and may cause you do to or saysomething you will regret. In the first few weeksthe best thing you can do for yourself is not bewhere you know they will be. 2.Talk out your feelings with close friends. Geteverything out so that you won't hold it inside.Your friends may get sick of hearing you talkabout the situation but you need to let out allyour feelings and thoughts or they may come backto bite you later. 3. Cry if you want to. It's OK to cry over a loss.Don't hold back, let the tears roll just do it ina safe and private place where it is unlikely toget back to your ex. You don't want your tears tobe used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is tocleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back. 4. Let go of mementos. Put away or give awayanything and everything that reminds you of therelationship. Hide them out of sight so they willbe out of mind until you are able to remember therelationship without longing for it to still begoing strong. 5. Don't slip up and get together with your ex.When you are feeling sad or missing a relationshipit can be very easy to fall back in to the arms ofyour ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set youback and let's face it, if things ended therelationship wasn't perfect to begin with so whywould you want to rekindle things? 6. Focus on all the things about your ex thatdrove you crazy, turned you off, or that you justplain found annoying. Think about these thingsoften and replay them in your mind over and over.Dwell on them. It will make you feel better toremember that your former flame was not perfectand that there are things you won't really miss. 7. Think about the mean, cruel or rude things yourex may have done in your relationship. Really givethese things play in your memory. Remind yourselfthat somebody who truly cared for you would nothave done such thoughtless things and tellyourself (over and over) that you are better offwithout that kind of ego crushing behavior in yourlife. 8. Maintain a strict no contact policy and stickwith it. Don't pass notes through friends. Don'tmake any calls. Stay away from instant messagingor texting on your cell. Just don't contact yourex until you are totally and completely sure youno longer want to be with him or her. It is theonly way. Mending a broken heart is not easy but it can bedone. Just stick to the game plan outlined aboveand before you know it you'll be just fine. Quote Link to comment
warmheat Posted June 24, 2006 Share Posted June 24, 2006 make a stand..thou its hard......bear in mind..If kinawawa ka then ikaw lang makakapag bangon sa sarili mo Quote Link to comment
Blue_Harbour Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 I cant stay away from her, even if she doesnt know i still do care and love, i check on her from time to time, asking her close friends if, shes ok, what may be her problems, still sending anonymous gifts, my intentions now is to just take care of her without expecting something in return, it hurts really... Now I've seen her going out with a new guy, I guess, I just wish her my farewells and goodbyes... I just hope I made her smile... "The ones you love, doesnt love you back, the ones you ignore are the ones who love you the most..." Quote Link to comment
Thorn_Elemental Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 its really hard to stay away! i just make my self super occupied to divert my atention, specially if the one you love is already married...... and you always see her at work and whats funny is that you belong in the same team on the same shift...... it really hurts so bad, Quote Link to comment
Thorn_Elemental Posted June 25, 2006 Share Posted June 25, 2006 malas lang talaga, but life goes on! Quote Link to comment
iwalkalone Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 umm...dapat magka amnesia siguro! :boo: Quote Link to comment
mhim101 Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 amnesia nga.....yong hindi na babalik ang alaala mo Quote Link to comment
Miguk Posted June 29, 2006 Share Posted June 29, 2006 I have the opposite problem. She originally wanted a married man as a BF cause I was safe daw, but it had come to the point that I was ready to give up everything for her but she couldn't do it. She wasn't ready was guily I think about breaking up my family. That really hurt. I didn't make the decision lightly. I also love my wife and hated the idea of hurting her, but the other woman was all that and more. Why does society limit us to loving one person at a time? I know that sounds childish and selfish, but at times it is reality. Quote Link to comment
dominique_m77 Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 I have loved somebody… but unfortunately he’s already committed and has a family of his own. We shared the love before.. but I guess he already changed.. the feelings for me had alreadygone.. and I really don’t know the reasons why. Maybe, he really has so many reasons... one of them is we’re not legal, we cannot come out to the world. Guilty feelings i guess. Or maybehe just fell out of love for me. It just hurt sometimes to see him and to know that he's with somebody else and seeing him happyas if nothing happened between us. I just hope he still cares for me like I am still to him. But I’m also looking for ways to stop my feelings for him, coz I feel it is now one sided. I really don’t know how to stay away from him… and I don’t think I can do that at this moment in time. We still talk, chat and see each other once in a while... but now... me as a friend to him. Quote Link to comment
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