Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[goldmanx29]

Pano pag siya nafall sayo? 

[simonnag]

This is a prelude to a writing of a story about a love that started beautiful but ended sad. Normally, one keeps these things private. However, the tug is extremely melancholic that it needs a form of expression, in a hope that it will commence the process of healing, regardless of the tears it will evoke. Its not helpful that I am an artist. Being one grays out the demarcation between what is real and what is romantically fabricated. Nevertheless, whatever the product, rest assured that it comes from a source of love. 

To begin, let me state the fairly obvious:

I fell in-love with a therapist. And she fell in love with me. In both cases, madly. Almost a year and a half. It seemed to have ended just a few says ago. A sad refrain. But I am getting ahead of myself.

To reiterate, I fell in-love with a therapist. I will refer to her as Satine.

That name, inspired by a timeless but tragic narrative, only I know when I bestowed it upon her. It references a proximity to the true theme, tale and even a geography that betrays the exact details of our existence.
 

The point, though, is purposive, with me, hoping that she will find this post (1/many) familiar and a pathetic way of telling that I still love her very much. I also be believe that she feels the same.
 

To be continued…(Next Chapter: My name is Christian)

 

Note: I can only post 1 or 2 per day and the characters are limited. Apologies.

Edited December 1, 2022 by simonnag

[handsomebob]

4 hours ago, simonnag said:

This is a prelude to a writing of a story about a love that started beautiful but ended sad. Normally, one keeps these things private. However, the tug is extremely melancholic that it needs a form of expression, in a hope that it will commence the process of healing, regardless of the tears it will evoke. Its not helpful that I am an artist. Being one grays out the demarcation between what is real and what is romantically fabricated. Nevertheless, whatever the product, rest assured that it comes from a source of love. 

To begin, let me state the fairly obvious:

I fell in-love with a therapist. And she fell in love with me. In both cases, madly. Almost a year and a half. It seemed to have ended just a few says ago. A sad refrain. But I am getting ahead of myself.

To reiterate, I fell in-love with a therapist. I will refer to her as Satine.

That name, inspired by a timeless but tragic narrative, only I know when I bestowed it upon her. It references a proximity to the true theme, tale and even a geography that betrays the exact details of our existence.
 

The point, though, is purposive, with me, hoping that she will find this post (1/many) familiar and a pathetic way of telling that I still love her very much. I also be believe that she feels the same.
 

To be continued…(Next Chapter: My name is Christian)

 

Note: I can only post 1 or 2 per day and the characters are limited. Apologies.

anticipating the second part of this for sure!

 

[Amancio O]

On 11/28/2022 at 6:35 PM, goldmanx29 said:

Pano pag siya nafall sayo? 

I understand the question, but whats the problem?

[kuzan]

eotr

[plug]

4 hours ago, crius said:

Help! Still stuck in this situation. Made her stop working and been supporting her and her siblings. The Problem is if i leave, babalik daw sya spa which i don't want to happen 🥺

 

 

On 11/6/2022 at 1:41 AM, plug said:

Kung determined kang fit siya sa gusto mo then nasa pagdadala mo na yan para maging faithful siya sa iyo.

Pero dapat determined ka rin na bitawan siya once di mo nagustuhan ang nangyayari. Dagdag pahirap manghinayang sa oras at pera na nawala unless may pera kang patapon.

I am still related to one pero with my help kita kong siryoso siyang maging independent sa akin kasi she hates returning back to her previous work.

Buti mga kapatid lang kargado sayang naman kung kinuha mo may mga anak ng ibang lalaki. 

[menyeks]

Make sure na di manloloko 

Kaya a big NO

[handsomebob]

16 hours ago, crius said:

Help! Still stuck in this situation. Made her stop working and been supporting her and her siblings. The Problem is if i leave, babalik daw sya spa which i don't want to happen 🥺

you can only control the things you can, some things are out of your reach, meaning hanggang kaya mo suportahan mo siya, if she goes back to her work -- that is on her, at least you can live with yourself you did everything you can to make it work,

all the best bro!

[Santiagowalker]

On 11/26/2022 at 11:15 AM, K0RN - RETIR3D said:

Nagpost na ako dati dito mga 3-4 years ago. Haha! 

Kilala ba namin to idol? Or Si Labs mo to? Haha

[K0RN - RETIR3D]

1 hour ago, Santiagowalker said:

Kilala ba namin to idol? Or Si Labs mo to? Haha

Retired na to Idol. Hahaha. Alam mo na kung saan itatanong yan. Hehehe

[handsomebob]

2 hours ago, K0RN - RETIR3D said:

Retired na to Idol. Hahaha. Alam mo na kung saan itatanong yan. Hehehe

saan bro? taga spa yata siya if i read your posts way before my friend...haha

 

[jonlennon]

I am close to deleting my account here … to avoid falling to a regular. But I soon came to my senses so I can control now and NEVER AGAIN”.

[bronsonamo13]

Need to control

[markmark1981]

life is short enjoy lang

[lalabasna]

Captain save a ho

[Eastpak]

Less chances now as spa scene is very impersonal already.

[TortangTalong6996]

Hmm… 

[darwin2k4]

If both are single I don't see a problem

[goldmanx29]

maybe but with boundaries? 

[Iceman7]

On 12/3/2022 at 1:21 PM, handsomebob said:

you can only control the things you can, some things are out of your reach, meaning hanggang kaya mo suportahan mo siya, if she goes back to her work -- that is on her, at least you can live with yourself you did everything you can to make it work,

all the best bro!

He deleted his post, this situation sounds familiar, I wanted to ask him how much is a paying to support the ex Thera and her siblings. I know of Theras who have many siblings so I am guessing it can get costly

Edited December 12, 2022 by Iceman7

[handsomebob]

6 hours ago, Iceman7 said:

He deleted his post, this situation sounds familiar, I wanted to ask him how much is a paying to support the ex Thera and her siblings. I know of Theras who have many siblings so I am guessing it can get costly

depende din sir sa lifestyle ni Thera, kapag maluho 50k a month will not be enough di ba 

[Auto Boy]

I am new in MTC and I am reading this thread...I am NOT yet allowed to view the list of Spa though.

It appears that a lot of GMs fall for a Thera...but bottomline, it is not advisable and should be avoided at all.  That is my inferenece, I hope I am right

Edited December 14, 2022 by Auto Boy

[markmark1981]

Im all so new 

[knightdavion]

Think pare is it worth fell for thera?

90% thera have a BF that one he love or even husband.

the question how can the bf and husband still let them work as thera?

i know that one thera of japanese spa have 2 kids and husband and still work for now.

is it impossible the husband dont know the wife work

 

just curious for men who can know that the wife work as thera and get bang of other men

[Exec]

I am writing this not to seek advice but to share to those who might still be trying to find answers.

 

She’s a veteran, disciplined, single and endowed with top tier beauty both outside and inside -  good heart, above average height, slim, very fair complexion, pretty face, etc.  My thera GF lives less than ten-minute drive from me.  Her work discipline accumulated her a few properties which she is leasing and producing just enough passive income to support her parents and brothers.

 

I am in my early 50’s,  an executive of concurrent corporations.  Hindi ako guwapo pero hindi naman pangit -  just ordinary.  I’m in good shape because my work requires me to be physically active. My married life is blessed and happy.  I was loyal to my wife for many years and am not prolific in the flesh trade.

 

When I first availed my thera GF last Apr,  the previous one was decades ago when I worked overseas.  After much thought,  I decided to let loose of my feelings and our relationship progressed in recent months.  We see each other almost daily occasionally more than once.  The decision required considerable effort to find the answers to difficult questions.   The actual task of carrying out with the relationship came with heart aches as I rewired my mindset.

 

There are very few articles about relationships with sex workers.  This thread is a treasure and I wish I’ve found it earlier. So here is my share.

 

If a GM decides to pursue this kind of relationship,  then the GM must embrace the mindset that what the thera does is just work.  It is simply society’s prejudice that labels it dirty.  Minsan marangal ang tingin natin sa mga politiko pero alam natin na karamihan sa kanila ay kawatan.  When a GM needs to release,  the thera is there to offer the service for a fee within the bounds of her rules.  Even GFE can be purchased so don’t fool yourself that it is not fakery.

To avoid grief,  both the GM and thera must carefully delineate between work and personal.  In the West/NA,  personal starts when the hooker goes for a date without a fee.

 

Most of them started at the poorest of conditions.  The home of my GF was subject to squatter demolition in the long past.  When a thera gets to a relatively comfortable level,  she can be earning much more than an average manager in a corporation.  Theras know they are earning more than some of their clients.  Do not be surprised if you find a thera not wanting to be saved.  At this point,  she would have already acquired the trait of being independent.

 

Many theras do not know much about any other work likely because of limited education and lack of training.  My GF really tried and was swindled a few times -  eSabong, pautang, etc.  She has purchased another vacant lot and aims to build apartments there.  Now going to her dawn,  she has set herself to retire in just a few years with that little project as an end goal.  She’s independent and won’t accept money from me.  She knows it is within her means to earn it with her ‘work’.

 

Many of her friends did not succeed in the profession – got hooked with the wrong guy, drugs, hosto, casino, etc.  She’s relatively well off compared to her peers mainly due to her discipline and being a hard worker.  Be that as it may,  I concluded that even the better thera does not come to that high point without being severely scarred -  as in battle scars.

 

She has developed addiction to solitude.  She has loved several times and failed.  When we talk about relationships,  she would always brag – ‘been there,  done that’.  I am the amateur in those discussions.  She has a good heart and loved faithfully in the past.  Her last break up was in 2018,  she found out that her GM BF lied of being a married.  It took severe depression and two years with most nights in tears for her to move on.    I can still see telltale signs of that past.  She still has occasional bouts of depression.  There are also signs that she is now a man hater and perhaps I am the luckiest to have penetrated her barrier of distrust.

 

Why do I do this.  I loved my wife faithfully for two decades.  I thought that love was constant,  but the reality is the feelings fade in time.  When I crossed path with my thera GF,  I ‘really felt in love’ again and,  boy,  I was missing so huge.  This is like how it truly felt in my 20’s.  Love songs which I ignored for years has now acquired new meaning for me.  The sun shines differently now and in full colors.  It is grace.  It is priceless.  The least I can do is pay it back by truly loving her.

 

She is resigned to the notion she will grow old single and alone.  I always disagree with her.  She claims she has really prayed to God for me to arrive ‘kaya lang may sabit ang dumating’ -  i.e.,  married.  She is in no illusion that she’ll still find a mature and kind hearted bachelor,  thus her ‘will grow old single and alone’ disposition.  I promised to her that that will not happen because I intend to be there for her for life.  That is, unless she finds a better man than I am -  it will hurt bad but I will let go.  For now,  we try to enjoy each other. She is toying with the notion of bearing a child a few years from now.

Edited December 18, 2022 by Exec