Falling For Somebody 15 Years Older

[shampooh]

13 lang for me.... men mature late so nagkaabot lang kme sa pagdating sa maturity.... besides mas malilibog mga lalaki din at that age... hahahaha

[krispycreme]

puede naman. sabi nga - age doesn't matter....

[JHP]

13 lang for me.... men mature late so nagkaabot lang kme sa pagdating sa maturity.... besides mas malilibog mga lalaki din at that age... hahahaha

 

 

In my time i've been involved with women 8 to 23 years older. Am grateful for the insights, the learning and oh yes, the great sex

 

Each one was special and i loved each of them. But there are occasions when one must move on.

[BitchyRed]

*sigh. they still break hearts as if they never left 3rd grade.

[JHP]

*sigh. they still break hearts as if they never left 3rd grade.

 

 

Hi, if you were in any way referring to my post, i must apologize.

 

It wasn't my intention to be flip or cavalier about dealing with, and especially ending, relationships. I may sometimes have the disposition of a boy who's in third grade, but i have never sallied forth with the intention of breaking anyone's heart, or toying with anyone's affections, or setting out to make a "conquest."

 

All the best :flowers:

[Miss Zelda]

some get lucky some don't but age isnt the factor, they have more money, more understanding and treat you much better than most men do younger than their age.

[peterparker]

hmm.. i think age is just a number..

 

it works both ways, being with a man or woman significantly older than you..

 

the important thing is, magkasundo kayo, you make beautiful music together.. :cool:

 

to hell with what others would say or think.. :thumbsdownsmiley:

 

 

 

:mtc:

[Guest romantico888]

im a 25 year old guy and i have fallen for lady 15 years older than me.

 

i'd like to know if anybody has experienced this. what were the obstacles you encountered?

 

if you haven't had such a relationship. what do you think of it?

 

 

there's nothing wrong with it. mas madaling intindihin ang matured women. pero may consequences yan, unang una kung pwede pa syang magka baby?(optional sayo to pre) pangalawa, kung tanggap sya ng magulang mo. pangatlo, okay lang ba syong mag alaga ng matanda? mauuna sya syempreng magkasakit ng mga pang matandang sakit. mas mahirap alagaan ang matanda kesa sanggol. Good luck pare! :thumbsupsmiley:

[Psyren]

In my opinion and what I believe as long as both of you are happy contented and understand each other the go for it, i will if it happen to me

[bulz]

hell yeah!! age doesnt matter and its not a factor or a big deal..

[jhn888]

ok lang

if men with younger women is acceptable

so are women going out with younger men

i think they call women cougars

i think society now accepts that

even my secretary is dating way younger men

[leo jr.]

madalas mga babae nkakatuluyan older men. i know someone 17 yrs old wants to marry a really old foreigner. hirap kc buhay nila.

Edited March 20, 2009 by leo jr.

[peterparker]

What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?

Exploring the modern coupling phenomenon

 

There appears to be a trend of older women dating younger men, notably illustrated by celebrity couples including Demi Moore and Aston Kutcher, Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry, and the most recent fling between 48-year-old Linda Hogan and 19-year-old Charlie Hill. According to a study of 50,000 women daters over 30, conducted by an online dating site in 2007, more than one-third of the subjects showed interest in men at least 5 years younger. And in 2003, an AARP survey revealed 34 percent of 3,500 women (between ages 40 and 69) dated men who are 10 or more years younger than themselves. This trend appears to be shocking to some people, but I don't find it so unusual.

 

Socially, there's a role reversal of sorts going on, women are more powerful now than ever before and may want men who are younger, and perhaps, more flexible; men who can handle it if the woman's career and lifestyle takes priority over their own. Media portrayals in "Sex and the City" (like movie characters Smith Jerrod and Samantha Jones) and "Desperate Housewives" are also showing women that dates don't have to be older. Women who have high-powered careers -- or a well-developed self-image -- are exercising more choice. Women who have been divorced and are established single moms may enjoy having a playmate, someone to have fun with; who doesn't try to control her.

Can these older woman/younger man relationships last?

 

In my counseling office, I have seen many relationships succeed with this kind of older woman/younger man scenario.

Age difference is an adolescent worry: When you're a teenager, an age difference of even two or three years makes a vast difference in your experience and your outlook on life. Such a difference can interfere with communication, life goals, outlook, and relationship experience. In addition, for the young, the social reaction to such a relationship is often negative. If one partner is underage, a sexual relationship is even against the law.

 

But, as you get older, life experience and emotional growth help to equalize your relationship skills and resources. A 10-year or more difference in your ages makes little difference in how well you can conduct your relationship.

Don't focus on an arbitrary numbers difference in your ages. If you are getting along, you have good communication and problem solving, and you love each other, that's a precious thing, and far more important than any age difference could be. If other people have a problem with it, let it be their problem.

 

Whether or not a relationship is healthy is not determined by age differences, but by the interaction between the partners. A 10-year difference is not too difficult to bridge, but a 20-year differences or more in age can lead to some difficulties as the partners get older. For example, the younger partner may mature and reconsider his or her choices, or an older partner may confront aging problems much sooner. But, as long as both parties are adult, and the couple has talked about their age difference and the future possibilities, I don't make judgments about their respective ages.

 

Dealing with the generation gap

There are healthy and unhealthy reasons to date someone of a different generation.

 

A younger partner isn't going to reverse the aging process or protect you from old age. Obviously, a man or woman who dates someone as young as his or her children is going to run into some social opposition, but the differences that can cause the biggest problems within the couple's relationship are differing maturity levels.

 

As more and more women choose younger partners for relationships, the question arises: Are women in their late 30s and early 40s likely to be successful with partners who are 10 to 15 years younger than themselves?

Success in these relationships depends on what the motivations of both people are. Some older people feel younger at heart than their contemporaries and like to date people who are as active as they are. Chronological age doesn't always reflect either physical capability or emotional maturity. Sometimes an age difference creates a mentoring relationship the older person advises the younger one on life or career. This can backfire if and when the younger person decides he or she has learned enough, and wants to move on.

 

If you're asking: "Is it OK for me to have a partner who is much older or younger than I am?" You'll do better off if you forget about your ages and concentrate on whether the relationship works for both of you, or not. What really makes a romantic relationship succeed is the emotional connection.

 

 

:mtc:

[pixel888]

15 years lang ? kahit another 15 years pwede pa. :heart: depende sa guy siempre. one of the loveliest couples i saw was a 70 year old guy with his 40 year old wife. hay ang sweeeeet nila !

 

 

 

True.

 

 

 

 

Age is

 

 

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number.

[blow_gobi]

It's strange, though. I'm getting older, they're getting younger. The age gap seems to be widening. About 12 years ago, I had an 18-year old GF with a 20-year age gap between us. It was an on-off relationship for 7 years.

 

Had 2 brief affairs after that, the first with a 23-year-old then with a 19-year old, then finally settled for 3 years whom I met when she was 22 (an age gap of 25 years). She finally left me heartbroken just this year at age 25, and would have wanted to be with someone older, say, 25-35 year old, to ease the pain of the break-up and to find happiness back in my life. But the people who were eager to help me introduced me instead to a 22-year old, so the gap has even widened to 28 years!

[xyberguy]

It's strange, though. I'm getting older, they're getting younger. The age gap seems to be widening.

We've either turned into DOMs without realizing it or have simply become even more attractive with age. My gf now is 35 years my junior. We actually get along quite well.

[QTkolehiyala]

yup, and its hard.. really hard to fall out of love with the guy...

[FNX]

hmmm a cougar who is 15 years older than me - sounds plausible, might make for an interesting experience but i doubt itll last

[77i9]

I don't think I'll ever go out with someone 15 years older than me....nothing wrong with it I just don't think I'll do it.

I've only been with somebody older than me twice in my life. but I have been with somebody 15 years younger than me.

 

I'm 36 just in case ur guys are wondering........

[JustInnCase]

yes. para sa aken mas gusto ko ang mas mature na babae. para ako yung binebaby. haha

[ink]

so far, i haven't been in a relationship with someone more than 10 years older...

 

but i believe as long as both parties understand each other and are happy together... i agree with pixel8. age is just a number.

Edited June 22, 2009 by ink

[wyette]

Have been with someone 11 years older than me.

 

maganda sa una. pero pag istrikto sya, panget rin.

[cadbury007]

yes.. I was 25 that time and shes only 15 yo, tall and pretty. always waiting for me to come around in their eatery and join me in my meal. Nevertheless the feeling become mutual so it goes..

[Seishi]

once... it was okay and sweet at first kaya lng di kami nagkakasundo... may generation gap ata hehe

[Jonas2085]

I experienced something similar. The girl is 9 years my senior but she doesn't look like it because she's a petite girl and I'm a sucker for petite sexy girls. Things was getting pretty serious back then. Good thing she has to leave for the states. The relationship died a natural death.