What Comes To Mind When Your Gf Is Not A Virgin?

[fortune_cookie]

Perhaps the right question would concern preference. I think these days very few indeed considers virginity an issue. But let's say in choosing between two girls, and all things being equal except for virginity, which would you choose?

 

I've read before that in terms of preference, more men still prefer marrying virgins, but surprisingly, more women prefer to marry non-virgins.

 

How about the ladies here in MTC, would you prefer to marry non-virgins as well?

[exciting_night_owl]

Not important but definitely a plus.

[missmanners]

why should there be a premium on women who choose to be virgins? are hymens that remain intact really any indication of what's important? is an intact hymen evidence of the kindness of a woman's heart? or how generous she is? or how successful she is at her job?

 

there are already so many unrealistic and unfair expectations and double standards in this country that women have to put up with. virginity and the "maria clara" myth is nothing but that--a myth. to think that we're already in the third millennium and still so many of the men here in this country have sensibilities that are still stuck in the 18th century. "maria clara" is dead, boys. and rightly so. because it was and is this philosophy that makes it so much harder to be a filipina.

 

why is that men don't have to undergo the same pressures? why is it that men who remain virgins are laughed at and ridiculed? why aren't virgin men appealing to women as life partners? why is it that men f*ck around and it's ok? why is it that when women aren't virgins anymore there is a ready presumption that she is a slut?

 

virginity is a choice. we all make decisions about our bodies everyday, whether it's based on religious preference, personal reasons, etc. why should anyone be lauded for making this choice?

 

virginity should not be a prevailing standard anymore in the choice of life partners. it's unfair and it's stupid. and guys who prescribe to the "i want a virgin for a wife" are downright dumb.

[girlet]

nice topic.....

kung ako lalake...it wouldn't matter

[murusame]

The question is How many. I don't mind if she is not a virgin anymore, but if she had slept with 30+ men, then I would think twice if she is the right person for me (Why that much?) Siguro there's a valid reason.

[finalfrontier]

it does not matter, what matters is we are together and we love each other.

Edited November 10, 2004 by finalfrontier

[dietherhunk23]

i dont think that a guy a has right to take againts a gurl if she is not virgin anymore.lets face it, pad inlove ka naman ok lang na MAKIPAGLOVEMAKING RIGHT?

[jeane_anne]

basta ako il save it for my one and only :hypocritesmiley:

[splintercell]

I dont care if she is virgin or not as long that we both love each other and comfortable .. that is enough for me ...

[bastard69]

kung mahal mo, tatanggapin mo maski ano man siya... andun na tayo..pero guys, who would you rather be with? virgin or no virgin? :upside:

[Alex_Corvis]

depende

 

if i asked her and she said she's not a virgin anymore, ok lang sa kin. But if i found out later na hindi na, magagalit ako. bakit nya kailangan magsinungaling?

[Silent Partner]

It doesn't matter !!

 

Kahit may anak pa basta mahal ko iyung tao

and mahal nya rin ako !!

[da_juan]

it really doesn't matter.... bcoz if it happened b4 ur relationship, you can't control that. as long as it didn't happen during our relationship.... i really don't care, as long as i love the person

[vpac]

Don't care, don't matter :cool:

[Alphamale-X]

Just think about this bro.

 

scenario1:

you got married with a girl (virgin), since you're very particular with virginity you married her and you're marriage did not turn out fine, she was not a good wife, nor a mother to your children, and in the end she turned out to be slut ( not litterally I mean she committed adultery), which turned your life miserable

 

senario2:

you got married to a non-virgin, but you tied the strings anyway, she truned out to be a good wife, she took care of you real well, she became a good mother, raising your children with good morals, making sure their fed well and supplying their needs and giving them everything she can as a mother..and she was loyal to you as a wife and became your best friend.

 

Now ask your self, with you still prefer a virgin?..although this is pure hypothesis but the point is "VIRGINITY IS NOT EVERYTHING" a woman can offer you much more that her hymen. Erase that double standard crap from you mind. What you have to do is Know your girl, try to know her as a whole, her personality, her characteristics, everything! and afterwards use that as a basis to judge her..not her virginity..believe me you wont be disappointed...think of your future together not her past..

 

hope this help...peace out!