Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[rhubs]

So far, we went out on a date. Just got home. Sinundo ko pa siya via cab sa harap ng spa, we went to a mall, had lunch there. Busog naman kami.

 

Bought her a stuffed toy na matagal na namin pinaguusapan.

 

Dapat pupunta siyang nearby out of town pero went out instead with me. There was one moment where her brother called tapos kinamusta lang siya. Then sinabi niyang kasama niya ako at pinakilala as the boyfriend. We talked at kinamusta rin naman ako. Small talk.

 

Gist:

We just ate and walked around the mall for hours. Wala naman siyang hiningi. Kusa kong binigay. After, that hinatid ko siya pabalik ng spa.

[spirochete]

Hi,

 

Got into a service of a personal massage provider hooker/escort 7 mos ago, we started as clients then develop into friends with benefits, she is having a bad time with her old BF who keeps her as a mistress back then when we get to know each other. Days past she always open up to me and we get to meet twice a week. I treat her well and dated her to be happy. Never paid for her anymore from then on and just treated every meetup date like a normal girl. I make it clear to her that I am not rich but we went on with out dates.

 

After 2 months the working girl started contacting me daily and shows signs of loving me. She even keep on asking what I feel about her and that she loves me, she said she have never met anyone like me who would treat her that way. From then on she introduces me to her parents and friends and even stayed at their province for a week.

 

Days past she pushes for a relationship with me, I said I am happy with her but its hard for me to trust her because she still has a BF and with her work. I told her if she ends her unhappy relationship with his BF I will there to catch her. After a month it happened she brokes up with her old BF and we get more closer with each other. She even gave her life savings to me to invest on equities and we made it official as BF and GF.

 

Right now after 7 months my love for her also deepened but a part of me now gets hurt when she talks about her clients that she also dates away from her massage service from time to time just for the money. I want to trust her but her work is still on the way. I would want to support her financially and get her off her work but I am not rich and just a normal working man. Because of that I taught her how to have an online retail business and she have just started with her fellow workmates as customers.

 

Is this relationship worth it to continue knowing that the working girl fell for me first? Is she genuinely in love with me with the circumstances? I also came from a breakup when we have met and she is amazing than my ex from so many ways. I want this to last and make it work.

Edited November 2, 2014 by spirochete

[rhubs]

Hi,

 

Got into a service of a personal massage provider hooker/escort 7 mos ago, we started as clients then develop into friends with benefits, she is having a bad time with her old BF who keeps her as a mistress back then when we get to know each other. Days past she always open up to me and we get to meet twice a week. I treat her well and dated her to be happy. Never paid for her anymore from then on and just treated every meetup date like a normal girl. I make it clear to her that I am not rich but we went on with out dates.

 

After 2 months the working girl started contacting me daily and shows signs of loving me. She even keep on asking what I feel about her and that she loves me, she said she have never met anyone like me who would treat her that way. From then on she introduces me to her parents and friends and even stayed at their province for a week.

 

Days past she pushes for a relationship with me, I said I am happy with her but its hard for me to trust her because she still has a BF and with her work. I told her if she ends her unhappy relationship with his BF I will there to catch her. After a month it happened she brokes up with her old BF and we get more closer with each other. She even gave her life savings to me to invest on equities and we made it official as BF and GF.

 

Right now after 7 months my love for her also deepened but a part of me now gets hurt when she talks about her clients that she also dates away from her massage service from time to time just for the money. I want to trust her but her work is still on the way. I would want to support her financially and get her off her work but I am not rich and just a normal working man. Because of that I taught her how to have an online retail business and she have just started with her fellow workmates as customers.

 

Is this relationship worth it to continue knowing that the working girl fell for me first? Is she genuinely in love with me with the circumstances? I also came from a breakup when we have met and she is amazing than my ex from so many ways. I want this to last and make it work.

 

 

I'd like to say that it's worth continuing but that would be unfair. I'd push it because I am currently at the beginning of your story. We are going out but due to my financial limitations, I cannot ask her to quit her means of income that is her main financial support for her family. I do have come into terms with her profession. --- Is that the right term? "come into terms" ---- iniintindi ko I mean...

[spirochete]

I'd like to say that it's worth continuing but that would be unfair. I'd push it because I am currently at the beginning of your story. We are going out but due to my financial limitations, I cannot ask her to quit her means of income that is her main financial support for her family. I do have come into terms with her profession. --- Is that the right term? "come into terms" ---- iniintindi ko I mean...

 

yup tama ka tangap ko work nya I made it clear to her, pero syempre I would like to lift her up from her profession in the future. She is insecure lagi nya sinasabi na natatakot cya iwan ko cya at hindi daw nya ako ma sisi kapag ginawa ko un dahil sa work nya. My parents / friends does not know na ang ka relationship ko ay nasa ganun work, how can I. I said that lets give it a year at ng makaipon cya at malago nmin ang business then we will see from there.

[dninjamoves1]

Hi,

 

Got into a service of a personal massage provider hooker/escort 7 mos ago, we started as clients then develop into friends with benefits, she is having a bad time with her old BF who keeps her as a mistress back then when we get to know each other. Days past she always open up to me and we get to meet twice a week. I treat her well and dated her to be happy. Never paid for her anymore from then on and just treated every meetup date like a normal girl. I make it clear to her that I am not rich but we went on with out dates.

 

After 2 months the working girl started contacting me daily and shows signs of loving me. She even keep on asking what I feel about her and that she loves me, she said she have never met anyone like me who would treat her that way. From then on she introduces me to her parents and friends and even stayed at their province for a week.

 

Days past she pushes for a relationship with me, I said I am happy with her but its hard for me to trust her because she still has a BF and with her work. I told her if she ends her unhappy relationship with his BF I will there to catch her. After a month it happened she brokes up with her old BF and we get more closer with each other. She even gave her life savings to me to invest on equities and we made it official as BF and GF.

 

Right now after 7 months my love for her also deepened but a part of me now gets hurt when she talks about her clients that she also dates away from her massage service from time to time just for the money. I want to trust her but her work is still on the way. I would want to support her financially and get her off her work but I am not rich and just a normal working man. Because of that I taught her how to have an online retail business and she have just started with her fellow workmates as customers.

 

Is this relationship worth it to continue knowing that the working girl fell for me first? Is she genuinely in love with me with the circumstances? I also came from a breakup when we have met and she is amazing than my ex from so many ways. I want this to last and make it work.

 

who are we to judge? is there someone here who is perfect?

 

i fully understand wat ur going through, n i admire d sincerity, respect n love dat u gave to ur gf. But then again admit or not, 1 of d biggest factor dat u fell is "awa" another thing is, us guys always want to play d hero thing like saving her on her situation, plus d thrill of course of having her while she has a bf dat time. D question is, how long it will last?

 

if in case she quit, ss u mentioned ur not rich, lets just say u or her family encountered a dificult financial issue, how sure r u dat she wont go back if d financial issue become tight again?

 

n btw, if she quits, ur parents or friends doesnt need to know, u can keep it between d 2 of u, as a respect to her so called past, by dat time.

 

ask urself, is it worth it? do u deserve just like this or u think u deserve better? do u feel anxious about it? do u feel stress? can u accept her na wlang sumbatan in d future?

 

if yes, den fight 4 it, u took d gamble den take d risk. have a heartache, stress n anxiety everday of ur life, sounds fun dba? enjoy d missery.

 

if all ur answers are no, den go on with ur life, ders a lot fishes in the ocean, binata k brad at tingin ko nman may matino kang trabaho, explore not just in pay4service but in d real world.

 

goodluck n hoping dat both of u will be happy to d choices dat u made. will be successfull in ur planned biz, n have a happy family. life is short, we deserve to be happy. I salute u brad if dat us wat u called true love.

[BB-8]

Hi,

 

Got into a service of a personal massage provider hooker/escort 7 mos ago, we started as clients then develop into friends with benefits, she is having a bad time with her old BF who keeps her as a mistress back then when we get to know each other. Days past she always open up to me and we get to meet twice a week. I treat her well and dated her to be happy. Never paid for her anymore from then on and just treated every meetup date like a normal girl. I make it clear to her that I am not rich but we went on with out dates.

 

After 2 months the working girl started contacting me daily and shows signs of loving me. She even keep on asking what I feel about her and that she loves me, she said she have never met anyone like me who would treat her that way. From then on she introduces me to her parents and friends and even stayed at their province for a week.

 

Days past she pushes for a relationship with me, I said I am happy with her but its hard for me to trust her because she still has a BF and with her work. I told her if she ends her unhappy relationship with his BF I will there to catch her. After a month it happened she brokes up with her old BF and we get more closer with each other. She even gave her life savings to me to invest on equities and we made it official as BF and GF.

 

Right now after 7 months my love for her also deepened but a part of me now gets hurt when she talks about her clients that she also dates away from her massage service from time to time just for the money. I want to trust her but her work is still on the way. I would want to support her financially and get her off her work but I am not rich and just a normal working man. Because of that I taught her how to have an online retail business and she have just started with her fellow workmates as customers.

 

Is this relationship worth it to continue knowing that the working girl fell for me first? Is she genuinely in love with me with the circumstances? I also came from a breakup when we have met and she is amazing than my ex from so many ways. I want this to last and make it work.

 

have you had fights that really tested your relationship? i dont think so, 7 mos is still honeymoon period all is sweet and lovely. its going come then post again what you feel.

[Sephirot]

I really envy those GMs that can really put their feelings away from physical pleasure when getting these kind of girls. For me, there will be that one girl na tatamaan ka rin, regardless of her job. But if you frequent these establishments, more likely it will be one of these girls. Kahit your a veteran in these establishments, pwede pa rin kasi ma in love when there is a time na vulnerable ka and a good timing na yung girl will connect to you like a cupid shot an arrow to your heart.

[kali7]

The real problem I see in these relationships is pag nagsama na kayo. Either live-in or getting married. Lalabas na lahat ng ugali for both and this will test the relationships. Mahirap lang pag nagkaanak na. Wala nang bawian. Remember, most of these girls are uneducated kaya nga wala ng mapuntahang ibang trabaho. The ratio in these relationship is still marami pa rin ang nagsisi kesa sa happily ever after. Do you consider your self as the knight and shinning armor who will save the princess in despair?

[markjoycehailey]

Your view hinges on an assumed premise - that people will never change. If you believe this premise to be infalliable, then you will be correct.

 

However, I believe the contrary. Yes, it will require significant time to change a value system that a person may have had for so long, therefore the patience and perseverance of both parties will play a huge part. But this is not impossible. Improbable as it may be.

 

Let's not lose faith in humanity, bro.

 

Let"s not forget that whores are the dark side of humanity.😎

[Edmund Dantes]

+99

it all comes down to reality, get a life outside, wag sanayin ang sarili sa mga bayaran like clubs, mps at spas.

try mo pag wla k pera, ni isa walang papansin sayo jan. kahit pangit bsta may matinong trabaho e nkakahanap ng matino at may itsurang babae.

ask urself? u want to be with someone na isang bayaran for d rest of ur life? "hi mom n dad, hello frends n colleagues, shes my wife, ymmv yan, dating p#ta pero nagbago na"...

dis is not a fairytale or a movie. its reality!

 

Hehehehe, aruuuuuuuuy! Marami kang matatamaan dito sa sinabi mong ito, pero wala tayong magagawa, masaklap na sampal sa iba ang katotohanan. I remember one idiot in this thread who held so much resentment on the things that I said. Lumabas pang white knight ng mga attendants at MPA. He claims mas marami daw syang naiintindihan at nalalaman kasi "matagal na sya sa industya". Madalas daw kasi nagbabad sa mga MP at KTV lol. And Im like isa ba itong bagay na dapat ipagmalaki? Seryoso? Pinagmalaki pa na puros GRO at MP nya ginagastos oras at pera? Lol.

 

Hindi tayo nagmamalinis dito, pero una, lahat ng sobra eh masama. Pangalawa, papano lalawak ang perspective at wisdom mo kung laging puro yung mga kelangan bayaran ka lang nakakadevelop ng intimacy? Tama ka with most of what you said.

[Wanderlusting]

Let"s not forget that whores are the dark side of humanity.😎

 

Funny, now that you mention it. But I always thought people who have power but use it for selfish reasons or to put down other people are the dark side of humanity. (READ - Corrupt people)

 

This gives me an idea. Food for thought:

 

Money is Power.

Sex is Power.

So Sex for Money is just an exchange of Power.

[markjoycehailey]

Funny, now that you mention it. But I always thought people who have power but use it for selfish reasons or to put down other people are the dark side of humanity. (READ - Corrupt people)

 

This gives me an idea. Food for thought:

 

Money is Power.

Sex is Power.

So Sex for Money is just an exchange of Power.

 

True, but caling a spade a spade - telling the truth is not putting down other people.

 

Whore: a woman who engages in sexual acts for money; a promiscuous or immoral woman

 

On the other hand, charging money for sex is an immoral act, the act of a whore.

[Wanderlusting]

Hey, just chill, bro. You may have misunderstood my post. My comment on "putting down people" is meant for people in power (I.e. Corrupt Government)

 

True, but caling a spade a spade - telling the truth is not putting down other people.

 

Whore: a woman who engages in sexual acts for money; a promiscuous or immoral woman

 

On the other hand, charging money for sex is an immoral act, the act of a whore.

[Wanderlusting]

Although it now occurs to me that certain people here may be government officials. On that note, I will stop before I bury myself farther...

[BB-8]

True, but caling a spade a spade - telling the truth is not putting down other people.

 

Whore: a woman who engages in sexual acts for money; a promiscuous or immoral woman

 

On the other hand, charging money for sex is an immoral act, the act of a whore.

 

most of us knows what the meaning of whore but pls refrain from calling them that. its hurts my ears and senses. im sure it will hurt most of the female members here if they get to read this post. thank you.