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I feel you bro. Happened twice that I've been in failed relationships with a thera.Shelled out roughly 100k for dates, helping out the family, etc.

But I've always lived by the maxim to "respect people for who they are,not who I want them to be." The same principle applies in relationships.These ladies are there for their own personal reasons and I respect that.I don't put them in a box and control them. Besides, the choice is theirs to make whether they decide to be loyal to me or make a fool out of me.It is their life anyway. I have no control over that. As for me- my choice is to forgive, learn, and move on. Life is short we gotta make the most out of it.

Thanks for the comments. Agree with your philosophy--life is too short to hold grudges. Forgive, learn from your mistakes and move on. I'm older and wiser. Going forward, will stick to why I go to the spa in the first place - have fun, meet as many RTs, GTs, SGTs time and money will allow, GFE without the emotional investment, PSE if you're lucky. Peace out.

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So let's say that in the long run there will be a relationship between one GM and one thera

 

For this relationship to work, financial issues should be thrown out of the window. The GM should not give any monetary support to thera. The thera should not ask any monetary support from the GM. When that happens, you now enter the Sugar Daddy - Sugar Baby relationship which is not based on love but on Money.

 

Second, the GM should not visit the girl in her workplace. Also the GM should not try to pry into whatever what happens between the thera and other guys. Conversely, the thera should also not ask the guy what his activities are. When you two are together, nothing else matters.

 

I think one of the best ways to ruin this relationship if the guys asks ano ES ng girl sa ibang guys or the girl offers to say what she does with the other guy.

 

(This is OT, I am not in a relationship with a thera, but sometimes with a regular it is quasi type one and hearing your regular thera do things with other guys minsan nakakasama ng loob in a way that I went to a different thera just to do the same thing)

 

Third, there should always be intimacy. Regardless of the activities the one have or how tired the guy is from work there should be sex, Mahirap na. Baka manumbat si guy na maraming partners si girl or manumbat si girl na tinatabangan na yung guy. I don't think any relationship survive long without the intimacy.

 

And to make this really work, both of them should leave the industry at the same time...

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So let's say that in the long run there will be a relationship between one GM and one thera

 

For this relationship to work, financial issues should be thrown out of the window. The GM should not give any monetary support to thera. The thera should not ask any monetary support from the GM. When that happens, you now enter the Sugar Daddy - Sugar Baby relationship which is not based on love but on Money.

 

Second, the GM should not visit the girl in her workplace. Also the GM should not try to pry into whatever what happens between the thera and other guys. Conversely, the thera should also not ask the guy what his activities are. When you two are together, nothing else matters.

 

I think one of the best ways to ruin this relationship if the guys asks ano ES ng girl sa ibang guys or the girl offers to say what she does with the other guy.

 

(This is OT, I am not in a relationship with a thera, but sometimes with a regular it is quasi type one and hearing your regular thera do things with other guys minsan nakakasama ng loob in a way that I went to a different thera just to do the same thing)

 

Third, there should always be intimacy. Regardless of the activities the one have or how tired the guy is from work there should be sex, Mahirap na. Baka manumbat si guy na maraming partners si girl or manumbat si girl na tinatabangan na yung guy. I don't think any relationship survive long without the intimacy.

 

And to make this really work, both of them should leave the industry at the same time...

 

Agree with master sir galahad, especially the last line...that both of them must leave the industry at the same time!

 

For the GM, it is like attempting to seat at the "The Perilous Seat" wherein it is fatal to attempt if one is not worthy or deserving. Only the likes of Sir Galahad, with pure heart (and deep pockets), would one day be successful in the quest for the "Holy Grail." :)

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That's a nice thought sir, but you have to realize we theras made this choice because of circumstances in life which guided us in this industry. I am a degree holder, i already got accepted in a bank, but I chose this profession. Why? Because I have dreams for me and my family and going the usual employment route would not allow me to reach my goals in the timeline that I desire. Do I have plans to exit the spa world? Of course, that is always the long term objective. As you said, we have the FV/BV puhunan, thus, I am maximizing my "assets" at this point of my life to earn and save for tomorrow. I felt that doing this is the best chance I have to provide my family with a good life at the soonest possible time.

 

Cheers sir. Good afternoon all. ;)

 

"...to earn and to save for tomorrow."

 

Sadly, a lot of therapist has yet to develop the habit of saving. Parati kong sinasabihan mga nakikila kong theras na ang labanan pag dating sa pera ay hindi paramihan ng kita (income)...ang sukatan ng pera at paramihan ng natira sa kita (yung net or yung savings). Pag ang isang tao hindi marunong mag-ipon or save ng income, parating kakapusin yan kahit gaano pa kalaki ang kikitain or income niya. Parati siyang kulang sa budget, kahit gaano pa kalaki ang ibibigay or gaano pa karami ang kangyang sponsor GMs...kasi nga walang ipon.

 

So if the GM would like to seriously help the therapist, he must also teach financial literacy to her. I might be mistaken, but for me, this can be the GM's best legacy to the therapist...much better than just giving her outright money.

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"...to earn and to save for tomorrow."

 

Sadly, a lot of therapist has yet to develop the habit of saving. Parati kong sinasabihan mga nakikila kong theras na ang labanan pag dating sa pera ay hindi paramihan ng kita (income)...ang sukatan ng pera at paramihan ng natira sa kita (yung net or yung savings). Pag ang isang tao hindi marunong mag-ipon or save ng income, parating kakapusin yan kahit gaano pa kalaki ang kikitain or income niya. Parati siyang kulang sa budget, kahit gaano pa kalaki ang ibibigay or gaano pa karami ang kangyang sponsor GMs...kasi nga walang ipon.

 

So if the GM would like to seriously help the therapist, he must also teach financial literacy to her. I might be mistaken, but for me, this can be the GM's best legacy to the therapist...much better than just giving her outright money.

I definitely AGREE on this! 100% TRUE!!! Theras, listen well. This is the BEST ADVICE you will ever get to hear. So please listen.

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That's a nice thought sir, but you have to realize we theras made this choice because of circumstances in life which guided us in this industry. I am a degree holder, i already got accepted in a bank, but I chose this profession. Why? Because I have dreams for me and my family and going the usual employment route would not allow me to reach my goals in the timeline that I desire. Do I have plans to exit the spa world? Of course, that is always the long term objective. As you said, we have the FV/BV puhunan, thus, I am maximizing my "assets" at this point of my life to earn and save for tomorrow. I felt that doing this is the best chance I have to provide my family with a good life at the soonest possible time.

 

Cheers sir. Good afternoon all. ;)

that makes sense, actually. maximize income at every life stage! kung ganyan 'yung potential income, mapapaisip sigruo kahit sino. so i guess top theras must earn about as much as managers or executives (perhaps even more)? i just hope na most theras realize that this isn't a forever thing, na kailangan may exit at long-term plans.

 

pero i guess same thing applies for GMs din. habang hinde pa tanders at dependent sa viagra sulitin na ang pagpunta sa spa hahaha ;)

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That's a nice thought sir, but you have to realize we theras made this choice because of circumstances in life which guided us in this industry. I am a degree holder, i already got accepted in a bank, but I chose this profession. Why? Because I have dreams for me and my family and going the usual employment route would not allow me to reach my goals in the timeline that I desire. Do I have plans to exit the spa world? Of course, that is always the long term objective. As you said, we have the FV/BV puhunan, thus, I am maximizing my "assets" at this point of my life to earn and save for tomorrow. I felt that doing this is the best chance I have to provide my family with a good life at the soonest possible time.

 

Cheers sir. Good afternoon all. ;)

 

I totally commend you Ms. May for having an exit plan... and you are right to maximize your "assets" to earn and save for tomorrow.

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Yes sir, I would not be good looking and "curvy" forever, thus I had to maximize what I have now to earn and save as much as I could. Yes, I could have gone the usual route, accepted the offer of the bank that hired me, get 15K monthly salary and maybe get promoted in 2 years. That would have been the more "respectable" thing to do. But everytime I go home, I would need to listen to my siblings complain about their broken shoes, having no baon for their school, my parents arguing about where to get the money to buy tomorrows groceries etc. We are not a rich family, if you guys have followed my posts, you would have known my only dream then was to treat my family to an out of town trip. Yes, it's shallow but it was something that we haven't done together until last December....Thus, I made a choice. Should I get employed in the bank but be almost powerless to help my family? Or enter a spa and give my family a good life? I chose option 2. Does that make me less of a person because I did so? Does that me unworthy to be loved by a GM? There are times I cry myself at night, thinking what have I done to myself, but remembering the smiles of my siblings as they open their toy gifts, my parents pride as I financed the repair of our home, I say to myself it was all worth it. I would make the same choice 10 out of 10 should I return in time and be faced with the same situation.

 

Do I have an exit plan? Yes, I do. I have saved enough for me to start a small business. To GMs close to me, you have probably all heard the "eatery" I have always wanted to establish. Haha....Well, i have pampered my family quite a bit already, now its time to go to phase 2 and go into entrepreneurship. Once the flow of income is stable and I know for certain we will never again have monetary difficulties, then I shall step away and retire from being a thera....and know what, that time is not far away. I am almost at the finish line. :D :D :D

Solid post. Made my day. Happy thurday everyone

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Yes sir, I would not be good looking and "curvy" forever, thus I had to maximize what I have now to earn and save as much as I could. Yes, I could have gone the usual route, accepted the offer of the bank that hired me, get 15K monthly salary and maybe get promoted in 2 years. That would have been the more "respectable" thing to do. But everytime I go home, I would need to listen to my siblings complain about their broken shoes, having no baon for their school, my parents arguing about where to get the money to buy tomorrows groceries etc. We are not a rich family, if you guys have followed my posts, you would have known my only dream then was to treat my family to an out of town trip. Yes, it's shallow but it was something that we haven't done together until last December....Thus, I made a choice. Should I get employed in the bank but be almost powerless to help my family? Or enter a spa and give my family a good life? I chose option 2. Does that make me less of a person because I did so? Does that me unworthy to be loved by a GM? There are times I cry myself at night, thinking what have I done to myself, but remembering the smiles of my siblings as they open their toy gifts, my parents pride as I financed the repair of our home, I say to myself it was all worth it. I would make the same choice 10 out of 10 should I return in time and be faced with the same situation.

 

Do I have an exit plan? Yes, I do. I have saved enough for me to start a small business. To GMs close to me, you have probably all heard the "eatery" I have always wanted to establish. Haha....Well, i have pampered my family quite a bit already, now its time to go to phase 2 and go into entrepreneurship. Once the flow of income is stable and I know for certain we will never again have monetary difficulties, then I shall step away and retire from being a thera....and know what, that time is not far away. I am almost at the finish line. :D :D :D

 

nice to read something like this from a therapist. wish you good luck there may.

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Yes sir, I would not be good looking and "curvy" forever, thus I had to maximize what I have now to earn and save as much as I could. Yes, I could have gone the usual route, accepted the offer of the bank that hired me, get 15K monthly salary and maybe get promoted in 2 years. That would have been the more "respectable" thing to do. But everytime I go home, I would need to listen to my siblings complain about their broken shoes, having no baon for their school, my parents arguing about where to get the money to buy tomorrows groceries etc. We are not a rich family, if you guys have followed my posts, you would have known my only dream then was to treat my family to an out of town trip. Yes, it's shallow but it was something that we haven't done together until last December....Thus, I made a choice. Should I get employed in the bank but be almost powerless to help my family? Or enter a spa and give my family a good life? I chose option 2. Does that make me less of a person because I did so? Does that me unworthy to be loved by a GM? There are times I cry myself at night, thinking what have I done to myself, but remembering the smiles of my siblings as they open their toy gifts, my parents pride as I financed the repair of our home, I say to myself it was all worth it. I would make the same choice 10 out of 10 should I return in time and be faced with the same situation.

 

Do I have an exit plan? Yes, I do. I have saved enough for me to start a small business. To GMs close to me, you have probably all heard the "eatery" I have always wanted to establish. Haha....Well, i have pampered my family quite a bit already, now its time to go to phase 2 and go into entrepreneurship. Once the flow of income is stable and I know for certain we will never again have monetary difficulties, then I shall step away and retire from being a thera....and know what, that time is not far away. I am almost at the finish line. :D :D :D

 

There goes a saying .... Life is always a matter of choice, at least you chose this stage of your life temporarily..good luck on the next stage..!

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Yes sir, I would not be good looking and "curvy" forever, thus I had to maximize what I have now to earn and save as much as I could. Yes, I could have gone the usual route, accepted the offer of the bank that hired me, get 15K monthly salary and maybe get promoted in 2 years. That would have been the more "respectable" thing to do. But everytime I go home, I would need to listen to my siblings complain about their broken shoes, having no baon for their school, my parents arguing about where to get the money to buy tomorrows groceries etc. We are not a rich family, if you guys have followed my posts, you would have known my only dream then was to treat my family to an out of town trip. Yes, it's shallow but it was something that we haven't done together until last December....Thus, I made a choice. Should I get employed in the bank but be almost powerless to help my family? Or enter a spa and give my family a good life? I chose option 2. Does that make me less of a person because I did so? Does that me unworthy to be loved by a GM? There are times I cry myself at night, thinking what have I done to myself, but remembering the smiles of my siblings as they open their toy gifts, my parents pride as I financed the repair of our home, I say to myself it was all worth it. I would make the same choice 10 out of 10 should I return in time and be faced with the same situation.

 

Do I have an exit plan? Yes, I do. I have saved enough for me to start a small business. To GMs close to me, you have probably all heard the "eatery" I have always wanted to establish. Haha....Well, i have pampered my family quite a bit already, now its time to go to phase 2 and go into entrepreneurship. Once the flow of income is stable and I know for certain we will never again have monetary difficulties, then I shall step away and retire from being a thera....and know what, that time is not far away. I am almost at the finish line. :D :D :D

 

Bakit ikaw yung naging bread-winner ng family ninyo Miss May?

 

Diba dapat role yan ng parents mo?

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Yes sir, I would not be good looking and "curvy" forever, thus I had to maximize what I have now to earn and save as much as I could. Yes, I could have gone the usual route, accepted the offer of the bank that hired me, get 15K monthly salary and maybe get promoted in 2 years. That would have been the more "respectable" thing to do. But everytime I go home, I would need to listen to my siblings complain about their broken shoes, having no baon for their school, my parents arguing about where to get the money to buy tomorrows groceries etc. We are not a rich family, if you guys have followed my posts, you would have known my only dream then was to treat my family to an out of town trip. Yes, it's shallow but it was something that we haven't done together until last December....Thus, I made a choice. Should I get employed in the bank but be almost powerless to help my family? Or enter a spa and give my family a good life? I chose option 2. Does that make me less of a person because I did so? Does that me unworthy to be loved by a GM? There are times I cry myself at night, thinking what have I done to myself, but remembering the smiles of my siblings as they open their toy gifts, my parents pride as I financed the repair of our home, I say to myself it was all worth it. I would make the same choice 10 out of 10 should I return in time and be faced with the same situation.

 

Do I have an exit plan? Yes, I do. I have saved enough for me to start a small business. To GMs close to me, you have probably all heard the "eatery" I have always wanted to establish. Haha....Well, i have pampered my family quite a bit already, now its time to go to phase 2 and go into entrepreneurship. Once the flow of income is stable and I know for certain we will never again have monetary difficulties, then I shall step away and retire from being a thera....and know what, that time is not far away. I am almost at the finish line. :D :D :D

 

 

You said it well. Goodluck on your chosen path, You will always be remembered May......must see you again in the track-field before you reach the finish line. :D :D :D

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Yes sir, I would not be good looking and "curvy" forever, thus I had to maximize what I have now to earn and save as much as I could. Yes, I could have gone the usual route, accepted the offer of the bank that hired me, get 15K monthly salary and maybe get promoted in 2 years. That would have been the more "respectable" thing to do. But everytime I go home, I would need to listen to my siblings complain about their broken shoes, having no baon for their school, my parents arguing about where to get the money to buy tomorrows groceries etc. We are not a rich family, if you guys have followed my posts, you would have known my only dream then was to treat my family to an out of town trip. Yes, it's shallow but it was something that we haven't done together until last December....Thus, I made a choice. Should I get employed in the bank but be almost powerless to help my family? Or enter a spa and give my family a good life? I chose option 2. Does that make me less of a person because I did so? Does that me unworthy to be loved by a GM? There are times I cry myself at night, thinking what have I done to myself, but remembering the smiles of my siblings as they open their toy gifts, my parents pride as I financed the repair of our home, I say to myself it was all worth it. I would make the same choice 10 out of 10 should I return in time and be faced with the same situation.

 

Do I have an exit plan? Yes, I do. I have saved enough for me to start a small business. To GMs close to me, you have probably all heard the "eatery" I have always wanted to establish. Haha....Well, i have pampered my family quite a bit already, now its time to go to phase 2 and go into entrepreneurship. Once the flow of income is stable and I know for certain we will never again have monetary difficulties, then I shall step away and retire from being a thera....and know what, that time is not far away. I am almost at the finish line. :D :D :D

very well said Ms May. I commend you for having an exit strategy and for having a planned future.

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To all well wishers in my endeavor, my heartfelt gratitude for your words of encouragement. This venture would not be possible had the clients been not receptive to my services. I have gained a lot of real friends in this industry and I do hope you will all remain as my friends even after my thera career is done. :D :D

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Yes sir, I would not be good looking and "curvy" forever, thus I had to maximize what I have now to earn and save as much as I could. Yes, I could have gone the usual route, accepted the offer of the bank that hired me, get 15K monthly salary and maybe get promoted in 2 years. That would have been the more "respectable" thing to do. But everytime I go home, I would need to listen to my siblings complain about their broken shoes, having no baon for their school, my parents arguing about where to get the money to buy tomorrows groceries etc. We are not a rich family, if you guys have followed my posts, you would have known my only dream then was to treat my family to an out of town trip. Yes, it's shallow but it was something that we haven't done together until last December....Thus, I made a choice. Should I get employed in the bank but be almost powerless to help my family? Or enter a spa and give my family a good life? I chose option 2. Does that make me less of a person because I did so? Does that me unworthy to be loved by a GM? There are times I cry myself at night, thinking what have I done to myself, but remembering the smiles of my siblings as they open their toy gifts, my parents pride as I financed the repair of our home, I say to myself it was all worth it. I would make the same choice 10 out of 10 should I return in time and be faced with the same situation.

 

Do I have an exit plan? Yes, I do. I have saved enough for me to start a small business. To GMs close to me, you have probably all heard the "eatery" I have always wanted to establish. Haha....Well, i have pampered my family quite a bit already, now its time to go to phase 2 and go into entrepreneurship. Once the flow of income is stable and I know for certain we will never again have monetary difficulties, then I shall step away and retire from being a thera....and know what, that time is not far away. I am almost at the finish line. :D :D :D

wishing you the best of luck in your post-spa endeavors ms. may! pati sa lovelife na rin haha!

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Yes sir, I would not be good looking and "curvy" forever, thus I had to maximize what I have now to earn and save as much as I could. Yes, I could have gone the usual route, accepted the offer of the bank that hired me, get 15K monthly salary and maybe get promoted in 2 years. That would have been the more "respectable" thing to do. But everytime I go home, I would need to listen to my siblings complain about their broken shoes, having no baon for their school, my parents arguing about where to get the money to buy tomorrows groceries etc. We are not a rich family, if you guys have followed my posts, you would have known my only dream then was to treat my family to an out of town trip. Yes, it's shallow but it was something that we haven't done together until last December....Thus, I made a choice. Should I get employed in the bank but be almost powerless to help my family? Or enter a spa and give my family a good life? I chose option 2. Does that make me less of a person because I did so? Does that me unworthy to be loved by a GM? There are times I cry myself at night, thinking what have I done to myself, but remembering the smiles of my siblings as they open their toy gifts, my parents pride as I financed the repair of our home, I say to myself it was all worth it. I would make the same choice 10 out of 10 should I return in time and be faced with the same situation.

 

Do I have an exit plan? Yes, I do. I have saved enough for me to start a small business. To GMs close to me, you have probably all heard the "eatery" I have always wanted to establish. Haha....Well, i have pampered my family quite a bit already, now its time to go to phase 2 and go into entrepreneurship. Once the flow of income is stable and I know for certain we will never again have monetary difficulties, then I shall step away and retire from being a thera....and know what, that time is not far away. I am almost at the finish line. :D :D :D

 

This is good to know Ms. May that you have exit plan, goodluck I know you can do this.

Hope your not retiring yet since we had just our first session a few days back.

And I want to know more of you and be your friend GM too.

friend, always be here for you!

 

I will do my FR once I have open access on Midas page.

 

3 - 0 na GSW!

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To all the Gms that have relationships with a thera or is currently nanliligaw sa thera.. Would you still do/continue the same if you know na may bf sila na iba?

at first plan ko na ligawan talaga...siya lang kinukuha ko sa spa na yun exclusive talaga...kaso nalaman ko may bf di ko na tinuloy plan ko kasi baka wala naman patutunguhan but i still visit her...atleast every week if kaya ng sched...hehehe

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Yes sir, I would not be good looking and "curvy" forever, thus I had to maximize what I have now to earn and save as much as I could. Yes, I could have gone the usual route, accepted the offer of the bank that hired me, get 15K monthly salary and maybe get promoted in 2 years. That would have been the more "respectable" thing to do. But everytime I go home, I would need to listen to my siblings complain about their broken shoes, having no baon for their school, my parents arguing about where to get the money to buy tomorrows groceries etc. We are not a rich family, if you guys have followed my posts, you would have known my only dream then was to treat my family to an out of town trip. Yes, it's shallow but it was something that we haven't done together until last December....Thus, I made a choice. Should I get employed in the bank but be almost powerless to help my family? Or enter a spa and give my family a good life? I chose option 2. Does that make me less of a person because I did so? Does that me unworthy to be loved by a GM? There are times I cry myself at night, thinking what have I done to myself, but remembering the smiles of my siblings as they open their toy gifts, my parents pride as I financed the repair of our home, I say to myself it was all worth it. I would make the same choice 10 out of 10 should I return in time and be faced with the same situation.

 

Do I have an exit plan? Yes, I do. I have saved enough for me to start a small business. To GMs close to me, you have probably all heard the "eatery" I have always wanted to establish. Haha....Well, i have pampered my family quite a bit already, now its time to go to phase 2 and go into entrepreneurship. Once the flow of income is stable and I know for certain we will never again have monetary difficulties, then I shall step away and retire from being a thera....and know what, that time is not far away. I am almost at the finish line. :D :D :D

 

Saludo ako sa iyo Miss May.

 

Try getting a franchise from Potato Corner or invest in the Stock Market.

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To all the Gms that have relationships with a thera or is currently nanliligaw sa thera.. Would you still do/continue the same if you know na may bf sila na iba?

 

Nope...kasi labas mo niyan e maging "damulag" ka lang ng bf niya.......ikaw yung kumakayud habang iba yung nakikinabang........

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Bro sorry to say mahirap mag invest sa stock market if you do not know the basic. Baka maipit pera nya.

 

Noted.......Potato Corner na lang kasi mabili yan......Lalo na pag si Miss May ay nandyan sa Kiosk nya..........m sure....pila...pila....yan....pati yung mga Daddies.....

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