Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[WalkingWallet]

Even when i know that it's their job to make men fall in love with them...

I still have some hope that it might not always be the case...
We are human... they are too... of course the Thera always has their own personal reasons why they do what they do.. but in the end of the day it's all about survival... this is mostly their way of surviving...

I can see that it's a lonely road for them too and sometimes they seek love as well as we do...
The problem will always be related to their (Thera's) work... but if you can get past that... then there is a chance things might work out... but best way if you really want her... she has to leave this industry... but that's a decision she has to make..

[edotensei]

For me they just want us to like their service so we can be repeat customers.

 

i do agree that like any human they too seek love. But the cold truth is they dont want to fall to guys like us who knows what they do for a living. Guys or guests that they know who cheat on their gf or wife.

Up... Sapul ako dito.. Fall and fail. Epic fail.

In the end, issues that I have shared from the very start.. Is the issue that she dumped me with...

Let be this a lesson, don't be stupid..

Sorry to say it is what it is.. If they meet you as a G, it is very hard to change that.... You will just f#&k up your life..

Sweet messages (send to all), dates outside (she goes almost with everyone)most of them are just ruses to keep you hooked on them like a drug...

Most theras are like that.. Not all.

 

My advice be realistic, if you have a wife, old, unattractive. Don't fall she is only seeing you as customer.. Get another Thera, Don't Get HOOKED..

 

Just my advice. Saying in general.. Thanks

[Mogster]

it's not fiction, it's true, she does that to all her gms

I refer to the first two lines of each paragraph I wrote. That is the fiction I meant.

 

Sorry kung confusing.

[barrackbeard]

I refer to the first two lines of each paragraph I wrote. That is the fiction I meant.

 

Sorry kung confusing.

 

then don't stop at fiction, lover boy

[BlackHoleSun]

Just came off the heels from a relationship with a therapist. I want to vent out but unfortunately walang "fallen for a therapist" thread haha kaya dito na lang.

 

Para on topic, I think its just natural to fall for a therapist. Debate all you want, pero sa linya at bisyo na ganito this is very much a common occurence. Anuman yung dahilan mo, I'm here to validate that and tell you that its perfectly normal.

 

But before you invest more time and effort kay theralabs, remember that a serious relationship always involves both heart and mind. Saktong balanse ng emotions and logic.

 

If you are in this situation right now, let me share with you the three important things I learned to give you a sort of checklist to think about. Right now most probably solid na yung emotions part, lets work on the logic part.

 

1. A relationship with a therapist must be built on TRUST.

Tiwala. Hindi chemistry. Hindi awa. Hindi physical attraction. Lalo na hindi sa libog haha. Kung tutuusin, all romantic relationships should be bulit on trust. Pero kung plano mo talaga seryosohin si theraloves, siguraduhin mo sa sarili mo na kaya mo siyang pagkatiwalaan ng buong-buo at kaya rin niyang gawin yun sayo. Lahat ng sasabihin niya hindi ka magdadalawang-isip. Kapag tahimik siya hindi mo pag-iisipan ng masama kung anuman ang ginagawa niya. Kailangan ito dahil sa important thing #2..

 

2. Accept that your girl works, lives, and breathes in an environment full of FAKES and LIES.

Si thera-loves ay isang sex worker. Her work asks her to be very intimate with other men and she creates a false version of intimacy to fulfill the requirements. Let's not fool ourselves - you and her customers get to experience that same intimacy. A client will not pay good money if he did not feel that she was his girlfriend or personal pornstar for an hour or two. She also creates false versions of herself in public, with co-therapists, and with people close to her who do not know what she does for a living. Magagawa mo lang to kung alam mo ang totoong dahilan kung bakit siya napunta sa ganitong trabaho - not the crap she tells everyone else. Knowing this will help you fully accept this fact. Try to work it out and draw that fine line and create a space wherein hindi na niya kailangan magpanggap at magsinungaling.

 

3. If anyone breaks the other's trust, LEAVE.

If by any reason ikaw or si theraloves broke a promise, nagsinungaling, or does anything na makakasira ng tiwala. Time to call it quits and end the relationship. If you or si theraloves crosses over that fine line, wala nang pagkakaiba yung relationship ninyo at yung relationship niya sa mga cliente niya. Yung tiwala will be the differentiator - what makes you special and unique. Not the night outs, not the livewire sex, not the money and the gifts. Each person will have different gauges kung kailan niya masasabi na wala na yung tiwala niya. Ang importante ay itigil na yung relasyon ninyo kung may isang nawalan na ng tiwala kasi everything will only go downhill.

 

To conclude, you can fall for a therapist but as long as she is in this line of work a functional romantic relationship will not prosper. It will only cause more pain and sadness rather than joy and happiness. Getting theraloves out of this business is actually easy as long as she whole-heartedly wants to. I think that time would be the best time to pursue the relationship.

[vrunich09]

Kapag GM ka na nya at naiinsulto sya kapag magbabayad ka

[K0RN - RETIR3D]

For me they just want us to like their service so we can be repeat customers.

 

i do agree that like any human they too seek love. But the cold truth is they dont want to fall to guys like us who knows what they do for a living. Guys or guests that they know who cheat on their gf or wife.

Highly agree to this. A FUBU Set-up could be a better set-up if thats what GMs are really after.

[Santa_666]

we do pay for the GFE\PSE experience; confusing it with love; isipin mo na lang lahat ng guest niya as long as he pays will get the same experience; from what i know you can add more (money or gift) if you want livewire (be very careful sa theras doing this gawa ng STDs); para hindi magulo just pay them and move on to the next; if you decide to be GF outside; be prepared for her real persona; not the thera persona; magkaiba yun; you man not like what she is outside work; and if supporta or money outside service is involved; walk out; chances are pineperahan ka lang

[Santa_666]

being friends with thera for a discount, extra ES or freebie?

[BlackLabel61997]

"Learn to discipline your emotions because if you don't your enemies will use it against you." - Bruce Lee. Or for our case our theras will use it to milk us. Ito na yung pinapa ulit ulit ko para maging mindset ko para labanan ang lason na nararamdaman ko.

[harveyspecter]

Just came off the heels from a relationship with a therapist. I want to vent out but unfortunately walang "fallen for a therapist" thread haha kaya dito na lang.

 

Para on topic, I think its just natural to fall for a therapist. Debate all you want, pero sa linya at bisyo na ganito this is very much a common occurence. Anuman yung dahilan mo, I'm here to validate that and tell you that its perfectly normal.

 

But before you invest more time and effort kay theralabs, remember that a serious relationship always involves both heart and mind. Saktong balanse ng emotions and logic.

 

If you are in this situation right now, let me share with you the three important things I learned to give you a sort of checklist to think about. Right now most probably solid na yung emotions part, lets work on the logic part.

 

1. A relationship with a therapist must be built on TRUST.

Tiwala. Hindi chemistry. Hindi awa. Hindi physical attraction. Lalo na hindi sa libog haha. Kung tutuusin, all romantic relationships should be bulit on trust. Pero kung plano mo talaga seryosohin si theraloves, siguraduhin mo sa sarili mo na kaya mo siyang pagkatiwalaan ng buong-buo at kaya rin niyang gawin yun sayo. Lahat ng sasabihin niya hindi ka magdadalawang-isip. Kapag tahimik siya hindi mo pag-iisipan ng masama kung anuman ang ginagawa niya. Kailangan ito dahil sa important thing #2..

 

2. Accept that your girl works, lives, and breathes in an environment full of FAKES and LIES.

Si thera-loves ay isang sex worker. Her work asks her to be very intimate with other men and she creates a false version of intimacy to fulfill the requirements. Let's not fool ourselves - you and her customers get to experience that same intimacy. A client will not pay good money if he did not feel that she was his girlfriend or personal pornstar for an hour or two. She also creates false versions of herself in public, with co-therapists, and with people close to her who do not know what she does for a living. Magagawa mo lang to kung alam mo ang totoong dahilan kung bakit siya napunta sa ganitong trabaho - not the crap she tells everyone else. Knowing this will help you fully accept this fact. Try to work it out and draw that fine line and create a space wherein hindi na niya kailangan magpanggap at magsinungaling.

 

3. If anyone breaks the other's trust, LEAVE.

If by any reason ikaw or si theraloves broke a promise, nagsinungaling, or does anything na makakasira ng tiwala. Time to call it quits and end the relationship. If you or si theraloves crosses over that fine line, wala nang pagkakaiba yung relationship ninyo at yung relationship niya sa mga cliente niya. Yung tiwala will be the differentiator - what makes you special and unique. Not the night outs, not the livewire sex, not the money and the gifts. Each person will have different gauges kung kailan niya masasabi na wala na yung tiwala niya. Ang importante ay itigil na yung relasyon ninyo kung may isang nawalan na ng tiwala kasi everything will only go downhill.

 

To conclude, you can fall for a therapist but as long as she is in this line of work a functional romantic relationship will not prosper. It will only cause more pain and sadness rather than joy and happiness. Getting theraloves out of this business is actually easy as long as she whole-heartedly wants to. I think that time would be the best time to pursue the relationship.

 

 

Very well said sir Afterman. I believe that Trust is the core/main structure in any relationship, more so in a GM-thera relationship.

 

Once broken, no amount of money can repair the damage done.

[barrackbeard]

"Learn to discipline your emotions because if you don't your enemies will use it against you." - Bruce Lee. Or for our case our theras will use it to milk us. Ito na yung pinapa ulit ulit ko para maging mindset ko para labanan ang lason na nararamdaman ko.

exactly, i had a thera who is a student, took her out after our only session in the spa... she was nice and soft spoken, di mo akalaing gagatasan ka haha, of course looks are irrelevant, but at least she didnt seem like it

 

in less than a week, nagpapatulong for her requirement, kailangan ng paprint, bind, pc use sa shop (nasira daw laptop nya), so i gave her 500, went out of my way just to give her 500

in less than a week, kailangan daw nya pacheckup sa dentist nagkaproblema daw yung braces nya, i just gave her 1.5k

i knew na baka ginagatasan lang ako but still gave her the benefit of the doubt and 2k total damage was not a problem

 

aba, after a week... nakalimutan daw nya bayaran muna yung dorm nya, inuna nya yung tuition khit medyo matagal pa, kailangan daw nya kagad ng cash

 

never replied again, i received texts and calls everyday for almost a week after that and nagawan na raw nya ng paraan, but never replied again, nambobola pa na miss na nya ko and she likes me haha

 

i'm pretty sure may mga gms na napafall muna ng thera nila bago gatasan, so sobrang laki ng damage

in my case my max was 2k, more than that, i move on, already got what i wanted

[TonySpank20]

Mahirap talaga Ma in Love sa kanila, everyday kelangan mong harapin sa sarili mo na ME makakasama na naman s’ya na ibang lalake, ang hirap tanggapin pero kelangan tibayan mo ang loob mo kung gusto mong mag work ang relationship n’yo, napakarami pang lalake na gustong kunin s’ya syo dahil ginagamit nila ang weakness ng thera na kelangan ng pera kya binibili nila ang feeling ng thera, nakakainis pero wala lng magagawa dhil part ng Risk yan pag ng mahal ka ng isang thera. Siguro dun mo din masusubukan kung mahal ka tlga ng GF mo na thera. Andun pa ung mga lalaking mga Aya sa labas ng spa para mgawa nila ung mga gusto nilang gawin na hindi pwede gawin sa workplace. Right now im in deep s@%t im so in Love with her pero parang nagbago na s’ya sa akin ginawa n n’ya ung mga hindi n’ya dapat ginawa. Iniiwasan n’ya na din ako its Been 4 days na hindi ko na s’ya nakikita, and im so lost im so down right now, gusto ko na nga tapusin tong buhay na ito andami ko ng lumalabas na problema sa trabaho dhil D nko makatrabaho ng maayos kaka isip sa kanya at kung ano bang nagawa ko para bigla siyang magbago skn, hindi ko na alam ang gagawin ko andami ko ng iniiisip isang araw na lng cguro bibigay na ung katawan ko para matapos na ito

 

 

I feel you brad. tibayan mo lang. It will be worth the risk. wag ka magisip ng negatibo, wag ka maparanoid.

[Santa_666]

Simply like helping out a friend in need

Helping by getting her services right

[Hobbit345]

best way to control falling is divert attention to other thera...wag ma trap sa isang fantasy

[Sir Galahad®]

being friends with thera for a discount, extra ES or freebie?

 

Actually ganyan na yan kahit nung madalas ako sa mga PSP noon.

 

It could be either of the following:

Yung mautak na GM gusto gawing GF si PSP para makalibre ng sex (Naalala ko tuloy yung friend ko, after mo na-repeat walk ng 5x, Free na dapat yung kasunod ahahahaha)

Yung mautak na PSP ginawang BF si GM para sa financial support

 

There was actually 1 relationship na PSP/GM ang nagwork nung time ko. Pero I think what happened is umalis sila sa industria that time.

[Santa_666]

Kung kaibigan o mahal mo si thera mo; do your best to get her out and give her a decent job. Money maybe fast in this industry pero matamaan ka lang ng std forever mo na dala yan ; will affect you and your loved ones; remember condom is not 100% effective to prevent pregnancy; sa std pa kaya

[Mr.Bing]

Its a double edge sword!

[제이크]

Only for the brave... and the foolish... hehehe

[JasonX 8X-limited edition]

pwedi naman magtry pero wag ibibigay ang lahat mga 20-30 percent lang para hindi gaano masaktan just incase

Edited January 16, 2019 by Draven 🔎

[K0RN - RETIR3D]

I agree. Their line of thinking is different from women we meet in our everday life. Physical intimacy to them is just part of their job which may be misconstrued by some gms especially the lonely ones. So relax and always think that they can reject you anytime of the day. Sometimes they vanish without a trace. Happened to me on a few occasions.

 

Again they do seek love but not with guys or guests like us.

 

With that, its BEST leave your emotions at home.

[Redderredder]

Wala naman nakakahiya kung magmahal ka ng ganun na klase na therapist. Hindi nakakahiya magmahal, intindihin mo lang trabaho niya at wag mawala sa tamang isip. Enjoy niyo lang buhay niyo basta wala kayo maaapektuhan sa masamang paraan.

 

Sa opinyon ko, alamin ang pagkakaiba ng infatuation at romantic love.

 

Para sa akin, masmabuti na itanggal ang emotions sa sex. Focus nalang kayo sa pleasure, sayo man o sa iba. Give and take. Wala rin naman masama kung maging hedonista, pero to each their own nga naman.

[TOPpie.1]

I did and think im doing it again...

No regrets.

[ej_qn]

let's have some REAL talk here. A thera MIGH consider having a relationship with you if you have 1) the looks or 2) the money. If you can't satisfy her carnal pleasures by your good looks then drown her with your cash. I've seen too many of these set-ups from GRO's to Theras and their system is one and the same. My college buddy had a "relationship" with a thera from one of the spas in ortigas siguro mga almost 8 months na lokohan yan... puro rinig mo sa usapan nila na baby, daddy, mommy, love.. pero sa huli't huli pera ang need ni thera. Even theras who have been out of the industry inuuwi ang practice nila sa ka relasyon nila. It's mostly all about the benjamins.

[Hobbit345]

bizness is bizness..hehehe...they have a daily quota to meet kaya wag pa fall...been there done that....mas enjoy ang ES kapag di nag fall...kung ang thera eh not after the money..pero kung money lang....naku..they will make you play with their music