How Important Is The Sexual History Of Your Partner?

[happycore]

not that important to me. kasi sa tingen ko nagmahal lang sya at binigay nya lahat.

[j]

For me, how many sexual partner is irelevent, BASTA, lahat ng qualities na hanap ko sa kanya bilang partner e asa kanya. (Cyempre given na ung dapat wala syang sakit, or basta na gamot na).

Tama unh post ni sir j.. pag escort service ba sya deal breaker na para syo. I mean pano kung masaya kyo everyday, ma alaga cya. Lahat lahat ng hinahanap mo asa kanya. Nga lang naging escort service sya. Would you give up all of that?

Again sabi nga ni sir j, kung oo, e choice mo un. No judgement here. Kasi ako personnaly, like shallow hal, if I am happy, and I think she is perfect, as long as she is loyal to me e ayus na un, I dont need to know.

yun lang...

 

di ko ma-imagine kung paano ka mag shallow hal sa spa.

 

sobrang saksakan ng laki na thera na kamukha ni gwyneth?

[kira21]

There is a saying: yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present.

[j]

tungkol ba sa history ang shallow hal? di ba about physical appearance yun?

[kira21]

TRUE LOVE, always forgives and forgets No MATTER how deep or dark her past is as long as she is a change person now and LOVES you as well...

[Kingkongphils]

Ang shallow hal if you analyze its meaning is about how you look at things, how you look at the imperfection of others. Hindi ba ang symbolism ng movie e two panget guys who are looking for the most beautiful girls.. if you put it here.. here we are guys, in a sort of immoral website, we go to spas, we go to mps, we sex EB, and here we are judging a girl or a partner who has a lot of sexual partners.. shallow hal is about looking at whats really inside a person. Not the outside or what is seen in the eye.. thus the title SHALLOW which means mababaw. Judgemental... if you dont understand that symbolism I dont think you are capable of understanding a lot of people here, specially persons who share their REAL experience..

[ChinitoSan]

Not really unless she got std from her Sexual history

[j]

Ang shallow hal if you analyze its meaning is about how you look at things, how you look at the imperfection of others. Hindi ba ang symbolism ng movie e two panget guys who are looking for the most beautiful girls.. if you put it here.. here we are guys, in a sort of immoral website, we go to spas, we go to mps, we sex EB, and here we are judging a girl or a partner who has a lot of sexual partners.. shallow hal is about looking at whats really inside a person. Not the outside or what is seen in the eye.. thus the title SHALLOW which means mababaw. Judgemental... if you dont understand that symbolism I dont think you are capable of understanding a lot of people here, specially persons who share their REAL experience..

i guess this shows why negative agad ang tingin sa question ko.

 

pagsinabi history, inisip agad dami ng partner.

 

puwede naman konti o wala.

 

siguro may connection sa sine na iyon. pero mga connection na ganun nasa nagbibigay ng interpretasyon.

 

puwede naman tungkol sa paghusga yun tanong. pero puwede rin naman tungkol sa ibang bagay. tulad ng paano gumawa ng decision ang isang tao. anu-ano ang mga bagay na tinitignan niya para umabot sa sagot niya. kung ano yun importante sa kanya.

 

mababaw ba o shallow yun gamitin ang isang aspeto para gumawa ng desisyon?

 

magandang topic siguro yan para sa ibang thread.

[Kingkongphils]

Tama ka na hindi nmn masama ang mamili, e kung sa ayaw mo ng ganun bakita nga ba nmn, e ikaw nmn ang makikisama dun. Kaya dapat mamili ka.

 

I think one thing becomes shallow when you look for things that you yourself is not. You want a pretty girl, pro kartada 2 ka naman. Gusto mo ng mayaman, e ikaw nan ayaw mong mag batak ng buto.

 

Kaya nga I placed the symbolism here. The question was how important is your partners sexual history. I mean we all here are horny people. We are not a member here because of the news, or the articles. We are a memeber here mainly because malibog tyo, and libog equates to sex. Almost all the guys here either goes to spa, mp, sex eye ball, sex chat, swingers. So for a person in this very room to be bothered by their partners sexual history weathet it be one only or hundreds, is for me shallow. Why? You stick your penis to girls you dony even know that well, and you read FRs on who does this to a client, and you want to know partners sexual history.

 

Take an example, one guy, here, nalibugan, sees an FR for a spa or mp, goes there have sex go home. Her girlfriend feels libog calls a friend kasi wala c bf, have sex goes home. What is the difference?

 

Siguro kung hindi ka memeber dito at member ka ng Singles for Christ o Couples for Christ or you havent set foot to any spas or mps, or havent had sex outside marriage siguro you are not shallow kasi you only want your partner to be as pure as you.

[ryokan21]

Not really a deal breaker, since it will only add up to what you know about him/her, but if you love your partner it shouldn't be a problem...

The only problem is if you couldn't accept their past, simply means you do not LOVE them for real... True Love will not shy away to any impurities or imperfection, for such are what makes the one you love "PERFECT" in your eye's...

This is where the phrase: "Beauty lies on the beholder..." may also come into play, if you love someone everything else is just icing on the cake (whether it tastes good or bad...)

Just my 2 cents...

[t3sla]

Not really a deal breaker, since it will only add up to what you know about him/her, but if you love your partner it shouldn't be a problem...

 

The only problem is if you couldn't accept their past, simply means you do not LOVE them for real... True Love will not shy away to any impurities or imperfection, for such are what makes the one you love "PERFECT" in your eye's...

 

This is where the phrase: "Beauty lies on the beholder..." may also come into play, if you love someone everything else is just icing on the cake (whether it tastes good or bad...)

 

Just my 2 cents...

 

Good insight.

[miaka21]

for the peace of mind..

[j]

for the peace of mind..

maganda talaga yun straight to the point...

pero are you saying it's important or not important?

kasi kung disclosed, may peace of mind

pero pag ignored, may peace of mind din di ba?

[jgc813]

If you love someone, the past does not matter... Easier said.

 

Ano ba itong love na ito? It seems like it is something so easy. Romance? Kilig? Sa sine lang mga yan.

 

I think we all agree that love entails a decision. It may start with feelings, but it will always end up with rationality, and a decision. No one can decide without knowing. Kaya, how important is knowing the past of your partner? The knowing is important, because you cannot accept anything you do not know. You cannot decide on anything without prior knowledge of the good or bad, the advantages and disadvantages, the projected scenarios, your options, etc., etc.

 

In short: you cannot love what you do not know.

 

Is knowing the sexual history of your partner important? It's part of the knowing. You cannot just know the name, age, birthday, likes and dislikes of your partner-to-be. You have to know him/her to the full, as much as possible. Only then can you make a decision to accept or not to accept. That's the only time you can say, "despite one's past, I chose to love/accept him/her."

 

Di ba?

[Kingkongphils]

I think a lot of the people here are given on the knowing part. Kaya nga some say okey lng basta wala syang sakit. I think its the importance part nagkakatalo. Gaya nga ng sabi pwedeng isa lang ang naging partner pro sino un ang what bothered you, or dahil madami b kya ka na bother. Kya nga tinanong ni master j, kung mababaw b kung gagamitin mong sukatan ang isang bagay sa pag pili. In this case e ang sexual history. Kaya naitanong nga dn kung deal breaker ba kpg dating escort service?

 

Siguro ang magandang tanong para sa akin, dahil I have established na para sa akin okey lang kahit sino at kahit gaano karami ang naging sexual partner mo. (Basta walang std o nagkaroon man pero nagamot at minor lang) e okey lang sa akin. Basta masya ako sa kanya at nasakanya lahat ng hinahanap ko.

 

Ang tanong siguro ay what is it in your partners sexual history that will be a deal breaker? Kung ano ung malaman mo? Kung dati cyang escort service? Wala break na. Kung hindi sya escort service madami lang naging bf kaya umabot ng 20 ang naging partner? Kung malibog lang talaga at makati kya kung sino sino timitira dati? Isa lang naging sex partner pero tatay mo pla, or kapatid mo or best friend mo. Or ni rape cya ng tatay nya.

 

Sa akin kasi malibog tyo dito and I had sex with girls I barely know, so I dont think for me to demand that my partner did not have sex, or dapat isa lang or 2 lang e unfair naman. Plus if we are together, I dont think I can promise I wont sleep with anyone else. Although I can promise I have protected sex all the time. Pro cyempre, iba dn ang infidelity issue.

[j]

 

In short: you cannot love what you do not know.

 

Is knowing the sexual history of your partner important? It's part of the knowing. You cannot just know the name, age, birthday, likes and dislikes of your partner-to-be. You have to know him/her to the full, as much as possible. Only then can you make a decision to accept or not to accept. That's the only time you can say, "despite one's past, I chose to love/accept him/her."

 

Di ba?

great point.

 

i guess define love first? but that should be a different thread.

 

siguro nagiging cliched answer yan love above all else.

tapos yun sisi kasi di sustained yun love?

 

maganda yun point na make an informed decision. i do not believe love is blind.

Edited February 1, 2016 by j

[j]

I think a lot of the people here are given on the knowing part. Kaya nga some say okey lng basta wala syang sakit. I think its the importance part nagkakatalo. Gaya nga ng sabi pwedeng isa lang ang naging partner pro sino un ang what bothered you, or dahil madami b kya ka na bother. Kya nga tinanong ni master j, kung mababaw b kung gagamitin mong sukatan ang isang bagay sa pag pili. In this case e ang sexual history. Kaya naitanong nga dn kung deal breaker ba kpg dating escort service?

 

Siguro ang magandang tanong para sa akin, dahil I have established na para sa akin okey lang kahit sino at kahit gaano karami ang naging sexual partner mo. (Basta walang std o nagkaroon man pero nagamot at minor lang) e okey lang sa akin. Basta masya ako sa kanya at nasakanya lahat ng hinahanap ko.

 

Ang tanong siguro ay what is it in your partners sexual history that will be a deal breaker? Kung ano ung malaman mo? Kung dati cyang escort service? Wala break na. Kung hindi sya escort service madami lang naging bf kaya umabot ng 20 ang naging partner? Kung malibog lang talaga at makati kya kung sino sino timitira dati? Isa lang naging sex partner pero tatay mo pla, or kapatid mo or best friend mo. Or ni rape cya ng tatay nya.

 

Sa akin kasi malibog tyo dito and I had sex with girls I barely know, so I dont think for me to demand that my partner did not have sex, or dapat isa lang or 2 lang e unfair naman. Plus if we are together, I dont think I can promise I wont sleep with anyone else. Although I can promise I have protected sex all the time. Pro cyempre, iba dn ang infidelity issue.

thanks for the insight.

 

gasgas na ata yun what if in the industry ang partner mo. kung ok lang sa iyo, then i'm sure you'll make it work. very rare ata yun di mo alam taga industry siya before you met.

 

i think ok naman sa majority yun nagkaroon ng multiple partners basta walang sakit. siguro puwedeng palusot yun nagkaroon at gumaling. at kelangan pag-isipan yun recurring o di na gumagaling or yun paulit ulit na nagkakasakit.

 

nice point with "what is it in..."

i'll ask if specifics ba o patterns in history ang factor?

siguro naman pag 100 daan yun partner pero isa isa niyang pinag check up regularly, medyo ok yun?

what if frigid... dapat consider rin yun other side of the spectrum.

 

will a one time thing be weighty enough? or will you multiple small things be the deal breaker for you?

[t3sla]

So how do you cope up? How do you "fully" accept? Minsan hindi mawala sa isip natin na kung sweet ang girl satin, at one point naging super sweet din sya sa iba. Ang kung medyo sexy time kayo, may gumawa na din nun before you. Might be even more..

 

Example ulit, what if malaman mo na nakikipag threesome pala si wife or girlfriend sa 2 guys dahil depressed sya nung mga time na yun or dahil nag experiment sya sa past or naging kabit ni congressman ganito ganyan at "ginarahe" pa.

 

Thoughts.

[j]

So how do you cope up? How do you "fully" accept? Minsan hindi mawala sa isip natin na kung sweet ang girl satin, at one point naging super sweet din sya sa iba. Ang kung medyo sexy time kayo, may gumawa na din nun before you. Might be even more..

 

Example ulit, what if malaman mo na nakikipag threesome pala si wife or girlfriend sa 2 guys dahil depressed sya nung mga time na yun or dahil nag experiment sya sa past or naging kabit ni congressman ganito ganyan at "ginarahe" pa.

 

Thoughts.

interesting point.

 

when people said that "past is past." shouldn't that mean that every thing should be accepted? or will they retract and say that their trust was broken because it was not disclosed early on and then say that love is now lost and then start being all emo about love?

 

more questions or things to consider -- will it matter when it is discovered? or if it is disclosed?

 

i think the tipping point depends on the individual. how much can you really take?

[Kingkongphils]

If you want to go the way of knowing. I dont think you have to cope. You just have to accept. If you choose to cope, it will never be LOVE, it will all boil down to trust. You see I am a believer of God, and I think, God is so good that he created sex to give good things and to give bad things equally. That is why he made a way that sex is SUPPOSED TO BE an expression of love, and should not be done outside marriage, this is the reason.

Example. Ikaw c congressman na may kabit, but you love your family more than anything, in as much as someone out there is "coping" with loving the girl na ibinahay mo, your wife may not be coping and may decides to leave you. See the congressman is broken, and the kabit is also broken.

Another example, your girlfriend and you have sex because you love her very much. You want to do everything for her. You would sacrifice everything for her. But things did not work out and you broke up. But you know in your mind you love her and you wish her the best and all you can think about is ang swerte ng magigng asawa nya kasi she has a good heart. But her next boyfriend could not accept the fact that the girl slept with a lowly creature like you, and just decides to make the girl parausan. Would not that hurt you? If not then lets make that girl your daughter, dont you think everybody a girl or a boy deserves someone to save them or fix them.

I guess this is the part when you understand why some people would not like to know.

"I saw a knockout, I dont care what any people say" - hal.

Like I said you may be dating the real meagan young right know and she is head ove heels for you and would do anything for you, even the kinky stuff you only dream off, but what if you knowned her sexual past. Or baliktarin ntn, what if she had known your sexual past. It will leave you hurt most def.

Like I said, ikaw dn ang mamimili ng gusto mong makasama. Or maybe I just have "known" a lot of girls that are great people its just that for them sex is just sex, not that they are giving it away to anybody but when they feel loved they give it. I wont call them fubu, kasi I do or did love them honestly.

[Lordace13]

Not a big deal.we all go through some rough roads along the way

[dibdba]

The only things I really want to know about her sexual past are: if she has ever gotten STD and if she's given birth or has had an abortion. Of course, if she's a regular partner you'd also want to know how exclusive you are to each other.

[Hari ng Spakol]

We need to know or to check to ensure she has not infected of any sexual diseases.

[ofw]

For me its not that important anymore

[BennyChang]

The sexual history of your partner depends on what u can take. Kung ok sayo, well thats good. Kung nagfaflashback naman sayo na sinisibak ng iba un gf mo nung hindi mo pa sya gf ,well mahirap nga yun. Walang tama walang mali. Nasa sayo yun.