How Important Is The Sexual History Of Your Partner?

[calmado]

Everything is about balance and context. Yes, a girl can only be good in sex if she's had some practice, maybe with countless partners or with one master and a couple of clueless nerds. If she's one of the talented few and is disease-free, I'm guessing most guys will overlook her sexual history and gladly take her in as a partner.

Sexual partner, no doubt. Dunno if it'll be as easy to take her in for a serious relationship though. It may be unfortunate, and there will be exceptions, but the truth is most men will resist the idea at the back of their heads.

Edited March 20, 2016 by Badoinkdoink

[calmado]

And it doesn't have to be an issue with quantity. I once used to date a hot model looker, runner up of a provincial beauty pagent. Later I find out she used to be maintained by the province's aged governor who's son was my friend. Couldn't help getting turned off.

[p-colossus]

Not important. What matters is her relationship with me and that's what I will focus on. Caring about your partner's sexual history for reasons other than curiosity is a sign of insecurity. When one loves, they should give their best and focus on what they have now rather than keep digging up one another's pasts.

[Mark232]

don't care that much...wag lang pag-usapan...

[Kingkongphils]

i think there is a difference between not telling everything and lying.

 

i've encountered girls who would gloss over details, skip a few numbers, give a vague statement and demand to move on or just keep silent. i wouldn't know if a girl was definitely lying as they would never admit to it.

This is one of my point. Honesty is a very rare commodity. One girl will say I have just slept with one, but really she had slept with the whole basketball team. Or one will say naka 15 na akk but really she havent been with anyone, she only is testing you. And you end up giving away a virgin who loves you makes you happy. Nobody will ever really know your history unless kilala mo na cya since nung wala pa kyong underwear at 24/7 mo syang kasama. Asawa nga pwede ka pa ring torototin e, may anak ka pa nun.

Plus I could not imagine someone pushing someone to tell the truth about their sexual history or investigating. Meron iba inadvertently nalalaman and they just got turned off, but they will not push for it to know. Pero ung asa "checklist" na dapat malaman. I havent met someone who has that in their checklist. Meaning, "seriously" asking how many sexual partners their partner had.

Sa mga gustong malaman. If you dont mind me asking how would you "really" know? How would you ask them and know if it is true? Personnaly, if I am a girl and I have half feelings for you, you ask me that, e good bye I can look for other men not as shallow as you. Lalo na pag alam ko na kartada 10 ako.

[black cat]

This is one of my point. Honesty is a very rare commodity. One girl will say I have just slept with one, but really she had slept with the whole basketball team. Or one will say naka 15 na akk but really she havent been with anyone, she only is testing you. And you end up giving away a virgin who loves you makes you happy. Nobody will ever really know your history unless kilala mo na cya since nung wala pa kyong underwear at 24/7 mo syang kasama. Asawa nga pwede ka pa ring torototin e, may anak ka pa nun.

Plus I could not imagine someone pushing someone to tell the truth about their sexual history or investigating. Meron iba inadvertently nalalaman and they just got turned off, but they will not push for it to know. Pero ung asa "checklist" na dapat malaman. I havent met someone who has that in their checklist. Meaning, "seriously" asking how many sexual partners their partner had.

Sa mga gustong malaman. If you dont mind me asking how would you "really" know? How would you ask them and know if it is true? Personnaly, if I am a girl and I have half feelings for you, you ask me that, e good bye I can look for other men not as shallow as you. Lalo na pag alam ko na kartada 10 ako.

Oh I remember I did that, told the guy that I am no longer a virgin just to check if he is shallow. Buti na lang he passed.

 

I agree with you 101%

 

Going back to satisfying, ewan ko lang ha, sa dami naman ng porn na puwede panuorin lalo kung matalino ka, plus may research ka pa through google, ang dali na lang matuto mag bj even without practicing it.

 

Sa tema ng mga posts ng guys dito, dapat pala mga girls di iisip ng way to satisfy guys kse maiisipan sila na pokpokish sila. Dapat pala pakatuod na lang sa kama.

[j]

Oh I remember I did that, told the guy that I am no longer a virgin just to check if he is shallow. Buti na lang he passed.

 

I agree with you 101%

 

Going back to satisfying, ewan ko lang ha, sa dami naman ng porn na puwede panuorin lalo kung matalino ka, plus may research ka pa through google, ang dali na lang matuto mag bj even without practicing it.

 

Sa tema ng mga posts ng guys dito, dapat pala mga girls di iisip ng way to satisfy guys kse maiisipan sila na pokpokish sila. Dapat pala pakatuod na lang sa kama.

it's sad the way society seems to think that way.

 

pero most of the posts here just seem to say they dont care about about past partners.

the ones who post about being careful about history revolve around health or cheating. i dont think any guy mentioned anything negative about being able to please or being good in bed.

 

sabi mo naman pokpokish meant having no quality, kahit sino. and we haven't established that having a million billion partners automatically makes you an expert.

i mentioned that it would take a few tries. i would think that on an average there is a saturation point where one will eventually get bored or will even regress. and i would always refer to the majority, because there would always be those rare finds who are extraordinary.

i think we even established that having a few quality partners will not make you pokpokish.

 

what makes it sad is the statement comes from a lady. that girls should just quit.

[j]

This is one of my point. Honesty is a very rare commodity. One girl will say I have just slept with one, but really she had slept with the whole basketball team. Or one will say naka 15 na akk but really she havent been with anyone, she only is testing you. And you end up giving away a virgin who loves you makes you happy. Nobody will ever really know your history unless kilala mo na cya since nung wala pa kyong underwear at 24/7 mo syang kasama. Asawa nga pwede ka pa ring torototin e, may anak ka pa nun.

Plus I could not imagine someone pushing someone to tell the truth about their sexual history or investigating. Meron iba inadvertently nalalaman and they just got turned off, but they will not push for it to know. Pero ung asa "checklist" na dapat malaman. I havent met someone who has that in their checklist. Meaning, "seriously" asking how many sexual partners their partner had.

Sa mga gustong malaman. If you dont mind me asking how would you "really" know? How would you ask them and know if it is true? Personnaly, if I am a girl and I have half feelings for you, you ask me that, e good bye I can look for other men not as shallow as you. Lalo na pag alam ko na kartada 10 ako.

would you say that by not telling everything it is the same as lying?

 

there will always be reasons for omitting the facts.or not going into details. i would not say this is a bad thing. but that is my personal opinion.

 

there may be others who will have a different line of thinking.

 

which would be in line with my asking how important is sexual history, what type information are you prioritizing? what facts and data are you looking for?

i think it would be safe to say most of us have a point where we can say that we have all we need and the rest is just noise. that it is up to us to draw the line.

I would agree with what you said about really knowing. mahirap talaga yan.

sabi nga nung umpisa ng thread, there should be trust as well.

Edited March 20, 2016 by j

[Kingkongphils]

From what I know, pag kwentuhan bastos, mas detailed clang magkwentuhan on their sexual exploits. Sa guys very generic ang kwentuhan, pro sa girls apparently ultimo the way the kiss goes, ung first position, transitions e napagkwekwentuhan nila.. dont know if its true. So maybe napagkwentuhan lang nila ng friends nila and they decide to try it out. maybe our lady friend can confirm? 😊. I tried to toss the salad of one of my gfs, kasi sabi sa net to try it didnt really pleased her, but she asked where I got the idea, sabi ko sa net. Our next DO she tried to place 2 balls on her mouth, drove me crazy. Asked her, she said she saw it in the net. If I were paranoid I would think na ginawa nya sa iba kaya alam nyang masasarapan ako.

I guess my point is, if you dwell on the past especially sexual past, everything that she would do sexually there will always be that nagging thought in you that she may have done it to others.

Edited March 20, 2016 by Kingkongphils

[j]

From what I know, pag kwentuhan bastos, mas detailed clang magkwentuhan on their sexual exploits. Sa guys very generic ang kwentuhan, pro sa girls apparently ultimo the way the kiss goes, ung first position, transitions e napagkwekwentuhan nila.. dont know if its true. So maybe napagkwentuhan lang nila ng friends nila and they decide to try it out. maybe our lady friend can confirm? . I tried to toss the salad of one of my gfs, kasi sabi sa net to try it didnt really pleased her, but she asked where I got the idea, sabi ko sa net. Our next DO she tried to place 2 balls on her mouth, drove me crazy. Asked her, she said she saw it in the net. If I were paranoid I would think na ginawa nya sa iba kaya alam nyang masasarapan ako.

I guess my point is, if you dwell on the past especially sexual past, everything that she would do sexually there will always be that nagging thought in you that she may have done it to others.

sana nga they would?

 

my guess if the gals really trusted you, they would be more detailed? or as detailed as they could get.

iba nga mga gals pag sila sila lang.

 

nice point. basta ginawa para sa iyo, huwag mo na itanong kung saan o paano niya natutunan. isa lang ata yun ang puwede itanong: "isa pa nga?"

[Kingkongphils]

Oh I remember I did that, told the guy that I am no longer a virgin just to check if he is shallow. Buti na lang he passed.

 

I agree with you 101%

 

Going back to satisfying, ewan ko lang ha, sa dami naman ng porn na puwede panuorin lalo kung matalino ka, plus may research ka pa through google, ang dali na lang matuto mag bj even without practicing it.

 

Sa tema ng mga posts ng guys dito, dapat pala mga girls di iisip ng way to satisfy guys kse maiisipan sila na pokpokish sila. Dapat pala pakatuod na lang sa kama.

IKR... ang hanap pa dn ata ng iba dito e maria clara.. well baka naman bata pa cla kaya they want a more closer to maria clara type of girl.

Sabi ko nga I had this girl na I thought e virgin but turns out hindi pala, and I kind of broke her heart kasi maybe I got cold with her, or transparent lang ako kaya kita nya ung disappointment ko. Isa un sa mga pinagsisisihan ko. I hurt a girl just because she was my first and I was not hers. If I could turn back time, that will be the first mistake that I will correct.

[black cat]

From what I know, pag kwentuhan bastos, mas detailed clang magkwentuhan on their sexual exploits. Sa guys very generic ang kwentuhan, pro sa girls apparently ultimo the way the kiss goes, ung first position, transitions e napagkwekwentuhan nila.. dont know if its true. So maybe napagkwentuhan lang nila ng friends nila and they decide to try it out. maybe our lady friend can confirm? . I tried to toss the salad of one of my gfs, kasi sabi sa net to try it didnt really pleased her, but she asked where I got the idea, sabi ko sa net. Our next DO she tried to place 2 balls on her mouth, drove me crazy. Asked her, she said she saw it in the net. If I were paranoid I would think na ginawa nya sa iba kaya alam nyang masasarapan ako.

I guess my point is, if you dwell on the past especially sexual past, everything that she would do sexually there will always be that nagging thought in you that she may have done it to others.

Actually this is true. Girls are so graphic as in we all get horny tuloy afterwards. Haha! May isa pa nga ako na gf who specifically asked me how to do bj. So I told her to buy a popsicle and dun nya ipractice. Successful naman. Haha!

 

And yes, tutuo yun research thing. I do that a lot kasi.

[j]

Actually this is true. Girls are so graphic as in we all get horny tuloy afterwards. Haha! May isa pa nga ako na gf who specifically asked me how to do bj. So I told her to buy a popsicle and dun nya ipractice. Successful naman. Haha!

 

And yes, tutuo yun research thing. I do that a lot kasi.

was watching porn not enough?

[Kingkongphils]

Girls are very complicated people.. I think they are more into reading than watching. I got horny as F when I watched fifty shades of grey but this friend of mine kinilig sa movie, but gets horny ang snugly sa book ng fifty shades. I dont know if it has something to do with it. Usually pag ang wwbsite meant for guys, may pics, pero pag meant for girls all text.

[black cat]

Girls are very complicated people.. I think they are more into reading than watching. I got horny as F when I watched fifty shades of grey but this friend of mine kinilig sa movie, but gets horny ang snugly sa book ng fifty shades. I dont know if it has something to do with it. Usually pag ang wwbsite meant for guys, may pics, pero pag meant for girls all text.

It is not really reading per se. Speaking for myself, I need to feel the emotion, that's why reading (with full description and all) gets me horny than just watching porn, I think mas okay pa yun mga rated R lang kasi you get to somehow feel their emotion (mas magaling siguro yun mga artista kesa sa porn stars).

 

Regarding 50 shades naman, para kasing fast forward yun movie. Sobrang daming cut compared dun sa book na pati yun pinakamaliit na detalye na nararamdaman ni Anastasia dinescribe sa book.

Edited March 24, 2016 by black cat

[xRain]

Reading is better.. you will imagine things on your own.. it's like your own world dictating what is happening.. (especially if you have a great imagination)

 

compared to a porn/movie/picture what you see is what you get.

[guytalker]

Wala akong pake sa past nya...

 

QUITS lang kami

 

WALA naman akong future e... LOL!

[anosayo]

My life

[Irishman_2]

Not that important to me!!!

[1palaiyot]

me too...

[💜Violet Sy]

for me i dont care .

[DareDevil22]

Not that important but I'd like to know if I can do anything she experienced before which I can do again

[Solaryan]

for me fundamentals lang. healthy ba?

 

now, if napag usapan yun past. okay lng din. pero di ganun kaimportante. basta mahal ka at mahal mo at wala naman kayong sakit na ihahawa sa isat isa...

[BRAIN FOR HIRE]

I appreciate skills- I don't care how she got them, my hat off to the industrious fellow who taught her WOT, reverse cowgirl, that thing I like, etc. When you are with someone then be with them- simple as that, if you say I love you, then love them. Its not really that complex.

[wheeljack]

admitting your sexual history to someone is coming clean about who you were before. you are laying it out in the open and letting the other person decide if you are worth it. it takes guts to admit your sexual history and while what happened in the past stays in the past, admitting what you did before tells me that you truly value me because you don't want to keep any secrets from me.