j Posted January 22, 2016 Author Share Posted January 22, 2016 As long as they don't have any std its not important at allnice!Napanuod nyo ba yung ex with benefits? yung character ni coleen, she sleeps around to reach her target quota. Malaman nyo na ganun, okay pa din sa inyo? Thoughtswould the type of relationship matter? Quote Link to comment
happybloke Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 Before you ask your partner that question, review your past first Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 Not really. But if it's more than the fingers can count, you gotta have second thoughts.on one hand or two? Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 cleanliness, basehan dn yun pra makilala partnerphysical cleanliness? Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 past may be past, but are we not interested in how that affects the present? Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 (edited) Before you ask your partner that question, review your past firstdoes this mean if you have a checkered past you should not ask about your partners' past? what if you present your past or are willing to, can you ask your partner to do the same? what if your past is "clean" can you ask about your partner's? what if your partner asks first? Edited January 23, 2016 by j Quote Link to comment
happybloke Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 does this mean if you have a checkered past you should not ask about your partners' past? what if you present your past or are willing to, can you ask your partner to do the same? what if your past is "clean" can you ask about your partner's? what if your partner asks first?It means that you should be able to come clean when that time comes or if you know you have a shady past why ask for her history? In the end, if you really love her, her past shouldn't really matter and whatever it may be(past), you should accept her regardless of any negatives Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 25, 2016 Author Share Posted January 25, 2016 pragmatism vs idealism Quote Link to comment
t3sla Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 Another question specially to the gentlemen here,I know it's easy for people to say na "kapag mahal mo wala ka ng pakialam sa past nya" but of course, you can't help but get affected a bit knowing na your sweet girlfriend or girlfriend-to-be had a history. (Ex. one night stand, did it inside the car with an ex boyfriend etc.) Â How do you guys cope up with this or how do you fully accept her past?Kung kamukha ni Coleen yung girl, would you even mind? Â Haha sabagay sir! On the serious note, most likely mag w-wonder ka pa din kung gano kadami yung na "ice cream technique" nya haha.. Quote Link to comment
jgc813 Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 I am somewhat appalled by those who say that the past sexual history doesn't matter. 1. We are talking about SEXUAL HISTORY, and we're not passing any judgments whether it refers to being shady, slutty, polygamous, cheating, etc. The judgment will depend on the each one, and I suppose the conclusion will be based on "an informed choice," and not "a blind one." Besides, how can there be "an acceptance" if there is no prior knowledge. One can only claim "the past is not important as long as there is love" when there is knowledge of the past. Acceptance is taking-in the person despite one's past. Is there such a thing as "blind acceptance?" Isn't that foolish? 2. Many have been saying the past is not a problem as long as "one is clean." I assume being 'clean' means free from any STI at the very least. So how can you know for sure not unless you would know the history? And knowing one's past sexual history is not even a guarantee that one is 'clean.' Then, again, doesn't a person who has had several sexual partners be more of a risk than one who has had just one? It boils down to making an informed choice, not a blind one. 3. There is a difference if someone just came from a monogamous sexual relationship from another who has had simultaneous multiple sexual relationships. Likewise, even if the sexual relationship was monogamous, there is a difference between one who has had a long-term sexual relationship compared to someone who has had several continuous short-termed sexual relationships.  4. One doesn't need to go through a check-list of questions in order to know the past sexual relationships. There are many ways of knowing. You don't have to be an investigator for you to know something. Unless you just want to throw caution to the wind, then, go ahead. Jump into bed with just anyone without knowing his/her past sexual history. Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 25, 2016 Author Share Posted January 25, 2016 I am somewhat appalled by those who say that the past sexual history doesn't matter. 1. We are talking about SEXUAL HISTORY, and we're not passing any judgments whether it refers to being shady, slutty, polygamous, cheating, etc. The judgment will depend on the each one, and I suppose the conclusion will be based on "an informed choice," and not "a blind one." Besides, how can there be "an acceptance" if there is no prior knowledge. One can only claim "the past is not important as long as there is love" when there is knowledge of the past. Acceptance is taking-in the person despite one's past. Is there such a thing as "blind acceptance?" Isn't that foolish? 2. Many have been saying the past is not a problem as long as "one is clean." I assume being 'clean' means free from any STI at the very least. So how can you know for sure not unless you would know the history? And knowing one's past sexual history is not even a guarantee that one is 'clean.' Then, again, doesn't a person who has had several sexual partners be more of a risk than one who has had just one? It boils down to making an informed choice, not a blind one. 3. There is a difference if someone just came from a monogamous sexual relationship from another who has had simultaneous multiple sexual relationships. Likewise, even if the sexual relationship was monogamous, there is a difference between one who has had a long-term sexual relationship compared to someone who has had several continuous short-termed sexual relationships.  4. One doesn't need to go through a check-list of questions in order to know the past sexual relationships. There are many ways of knowing. You don't have to be an investigator for you to know something. Unless you just want to throw caution to the wind, then, go ahead. Jump into bed with just anyone without knowing his/her past sexual history.my guess is that the comments about just accepting the past is something done on top of their heads? not really one that was given careful thought. it does reflect back then on how those comments were given in the first place. Quote Link to comment
~sp Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 before I don't worry about the past, but I think, I have start digging... Quote Link to comment
Kingkongphils Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 Well cguro nga some people really think ot does not matter. Hindi ba nung bata tayo, gusto natin, maganda, sexy, matalino, mabait, mayaman, paglipas ng panahon, maganda, matalino at mabait nalang, pag lipas pa ng panahon e mabait nalang. I think as we grow, experience may have taught us lessons in life that makes us decide what really matters most. Probably ung iba gusto ng konti lang ang naging sexual partner ng partner nila kasi okey lang sila on some other short comings ng partner nila, ung iba nmn okey lang ang madami kasi probably all the rest are good or great. I think ung question lang nagkaka misunderstanding. Kasi nga there is a big difference between knowing and accepting and just plainly accepting what you dont know. Quote Link to comment
Kingkongphils Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 Ang haba na e hindi ko na ma back read, pero, itatanong mo ba sa girl o cya na bahala mag sabi? Yun pala ang magandang tanong. Pano kung ala meagan young ang gf mo, and perfect for you in every way tatanungin mo b? Pano kung tinetesting ka nya? Sabihn nya dati syang escort service, tapos un pala never been touched never been kissed, naku, sayang ang maegan young.. Quote Link to comment
Kingkongphils Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 Ang haba na e hindi ko na ma back read, pero, itatanong mo ba sa girl o cya na bahala mag sabi? Yun pala ang magandang tanong. Pano kung ala meagan young ang gf mo, and perfect for you in every way tatanungin mo b? Pano kung tinetesting ka nya? Sabihn nya dati syang escort service, tapos un pala never been touched never been kissed, naku, sayang ang maegan young.. Quote Link to comment
t3sla Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 Ang haba na e hindi ko na ma back read, pero, itatanong mo ba sa girl o cya na bahala mag sabi? Yun pala ang magandang tanong. Pano kung ala meagan young ang gf mo, and perfect for you in every way tatanungin mo b? Pano kung tinetesting ka nya? Sabihn nya dati syang escort service, tapos un pala never been touched never been kissed, naku, sayang ang maegan young.. Yan din tingin ko dilemma ng marami.. I personally met an escort girl before. She looks really sweet lalo na pag nakita mo facebook nya. Pero yun nga kapit sa patalim. Dami nanliligaw sa kanya she has the typical cute look, with braces and tisay... pero syempre di niya sinasabi kung ano talaga work nya. Itatanong mo ba kung gano kadami naging sexual partner nya? what if sinabi nya, kaya mo ba tanggapin? Quote Link to comment
pedroz Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 Â Yan din tingin ko dilemma ng marami.. I personally met an escort girl before. She looks really sweet lalo na pag nakita mo facebook nya. Pero yun nga kapit sa patalim. Dami nanliligaw sa kanya she has the typical cute look, with braces and tisay... pero syempre di niya sinasabi kung ano talaga work nya. Itatanong mo ba kung gano kadami naging sexual partner nya? what if sinabi nya, kaya mo ba tanggapin? Â Â Yup.. if you want to ask then dapat handa ka din sa sasagot niya. And it happen in her past ala ka pa naman sa buhay niya.. What will you choose? Something you have no control or what's ahead....? Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 26, 2016 Author Share Posted January 26, 2016 Ang haba na e hindi ko na ma back read, pero, itatanong mo ba sa girl o cya na bahala mag sabi? Yun pala ang magandang tanong. Pano kung ala meagan young ang gf mo, and perfect for you in every way tatanungin mo b? Pano kung tinetesting ka nya? Sabihn nya dati syang escort service, tapos un pala never been touched never been kissed, naku, sayang ang maegan young..i think madami sinasabi about the character of the person kung magsasabi siya o itatago? or kung mahilig siya mag test o hindi? Quote Link to comment
Kingkongphils Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 Kaya cguro some people say that it does not matter, weather they know or not. Naalala ko tuloy ung movie ni jack black. Ung shallow hal. Sabi nya it does not matter what everybody saw, I saw a knockout. Parang okey lang na hindi nya alam na talo sa totoo ung nakita nya, basta nakita nya maganda. Kaya cguro ung iba e okey lang kahit hindi malaman. Love is something you should not fool around with... Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 26, 2016 Author Share Posted January 26, 2016 (edited) Kaya cguro some people say that it does not matter, weather they know or not. Naalala ko tuloy ung movie ni jack black. Ung shallow hal. Sabi nya it does not matter what everybody saw, I saw a knockout. Parang okey lang na hindi nya alam na talo sa totoo ung nakita nya, basta nakita nya maganda. Kaya cguro ung iba e okey lang kahit hindi malaman. Love is something you should not fool around with...good point. ang tanong naman ay, matimbang ba yun nakaraan o hindi.  nasa tao naman kung paano niya gamitin yun impormasyon di ba? yun nakakatakot siguro yun hindi man lang pinag isipan o yun nag isip na bahal na si batman Edited January 26, 2016 by j Quote Link to comment
t3sla Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 good point. ang tanong naman ay, matimbang ba yun nakaraan o hindi.  nasa tao naman kung paano niya gamitin yun impormasyon di ba? yun nakakatakot siguro yun hindi man lang pinag isipan o yun nag isip na bahal na si batman Nice.. yup I agree dun sa matimbang ba ang nakaraan o hindi at kung pano gagamitin ang impormasyon pero deep inside kasi, tayong mga lalake ay ma ego din lalo na pagdating sa territory natin. Alam ko mali at hindi tayo mga santo pero napaka hypocrite naman kung at one point ay hindi ni misnan na bother ang guy sa sexual past ng girlfriend or wife nya.. Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 26, 2016 Author Share Posted January 26, 2016  Yan din tingin ko dilemma ng marami.. I personally met an escort girl before. She looks really sweet lalo na pag nakita mo facebook nya. Pero yun nga kapit sa patalim. Dami nanliligaw sa kanya she has the typical cute look, with braces and tisay... pero syempre di niya sinasabi kung ano talaga work nya. Itatanong mo ba kung gano kadami naging sexual partner nya? what if sinabi nya, kaya mo ba tanggapin? would you make being an escort a deal breaker? pag oo, eh di hanggang doon na lang. pag hindi, ano pa ibang factors yun bibigyan pansin? dito papasok kung matibang ba yun nakaraan niya. legit naman yun points and concerns raised... magbabago ba siya? babalikan ba siya ng nakaraan niya? Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 26, 2016 Author Share Posted January 26, 2016 I think what we want to avoid is magsisi sa huli. iba kasi yun alam mo yun pinasok mo, tapos gusto mo umatras at sabihin mo nabigla ka.siguro may pagkakaiba yun nasurpresa ka dun sa nasaktan ka pa rin. naiisip ko na lang na yun may bahala na mindset, parang hands off dun sa decision. Quote Link to comment
kira21 Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 Past is past, what matters is today and your future together... 1 Quote Link to comment
Kingkongphils Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 For me, how many sexual partner is irelevent, BASTA, lahat ng qualities na hanap ko sa kanya bilang partner e asa kanya. (Cyempre given na ung dapat wala syang sakit, or basta na gamot na). Tama unh post ni sir j.. pag escort service ba sya deal breaker na para syo. I mean pano kung masaya kyo everyday, ma alaga cya. Lahat lahat ng hinahanap mo asa kanya. Nga lang naging escort service sya. Would you give up all of that?Again sabi nga ni sir j, kung oo, e choice mo un. No judgement here. Kasi ako personnaly, like shallow hal, if I am happy, and I think she is perfect, as long as she is loyal to me e ayus na un, I dont need to know. Quote Link to comment
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