Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Simikiel]

dapat siguro ang maging rule dito kung magkakaroon ng feelings sa isa't isa yung GRO(ito na lang term na gagamitin ko, pero it encompasses them all) at client nya, mas maganda sigurong maunang mahulog ang loob ng GRO. kasi in the first place, andun sila sa ganung trabaho to earn money, and part of their job is to charm their clients. hindi dapat ipagkamali ng isang kliyente na mahal na sya nung girl kung may ipinapakitang espesyal at sweetness ito sa kanya kasi nga kumbaga sa pelikula, trabaho lang ito, walang personalan. pero once a GRO falls in love, matindi talaga, lahat gagawin nila just so they can please you. tao rin naman sila eh, nagkataon lang na yun ang nature ng work nila, just beware of the jaded ones however, because they are very adept at pretending to love you, all the while, dami pala kayong sabay sabay na nagogoyo nya. the saner thing to do of course is to just relax and enjoy the GRO's company, pero minsan napakahirap din namang hindi tamaan sa kanila, sa dami ba naman ng magaganda at malalambing sa kanila eh!! kung talagang hindi mo na kayang iwasang makipagrelasyon sa kanila with feelings involve, you should do it with your eyes open. kalingan ng napakalawak na pang unawa, at dapat may pera ka rin, kasi ang tamang gawin dun eh ialis mo na sila sa trabahong yun. i agree with a comment made a few posts back, na if ever na tutuluyan mo yung girl, dapat magpakalayo na kayo, so the chance of meeting a former client of your girl will be remote.

sa totoo lang, ang ganda nila, mababait at malalambing pa, paano ka ba namang makakaiwas? pero para isama feelings? there are so many cons, than pros, pero sabi nga nila, pag pagmamahal na usapan, PATAY TAYO DYAN!!

[darthvader0917]

Well nothing is impossible, as I have learned. I fell in love with Jen even before I met her. And the more I did when I finally got to meet her. But I don't think that letting her know will do me any good towards a relationship. But I am willing to take care of her and support her. The thing is I think she is infatuated with someone now. Well, that's life...

[boogernights]

tao sila.... tao ka din... and if things click even after several "takens" and even after meeting outside of the mp, maybe you've got something there...

 

ako naaawa din sa kanila, because most of them are in emotional shitholes, aside from the fact that they have to do what they do.. think what this must be doing to their mindsets and egos.. i wouldnt be surprised if i wasnt the only one whose met several mpas na jaded and torn and desperate for love, apart from the desire most men have for them.. so treating them nice and fair is good, as most people have posted, but to realize that they are potential partners too might be too much for your everyday average joe.. but then again, you can never tell..

Edited May 27, 2007 by boogernights

[Guest mzmn]

I can't say I've fallen in love...infatuated maybe. She may be doing me and several others at the same time. She may be lying through her teeth. But it doesn't matter. I don't expect that we have an exclusive relationship. I don't care if what she's saying is the truth.

 

I simply enjoy her company.

[StarEye]

People keep referring to "treating them fair". This is vague and nebulous. Don't even try to nail this one down.

 

My advice, keep your guts in and your emotions out NO MATTER how lovable they may seem. Remember even if they're not aware of it...they've become pros. And pros (in any field) are predators.

 

So grow up men> Keep your heads out of the pink pu*y clouds.

[iwalkalone]

People keep referring to "treating them fair". This is vague and nebulous. Don't even try to nail this one down.

 

My advice, keep your guts in and your emotions out NO MATTER how lovable they may seem. Remember even if they're not aware of it...they've become pros. And pros (in any field) are predators.

 

So grow up men> Keep your heads out of the pink pu*y clouds.

ano namang vague sa "treating them fair".? ibig sabihin lang tratuhin silang tao at hindi hayup...sa sex halimbawa...wag silang insultuhin, laiitin, husgahan...in short, keep your mouth shut kung wala ka namang masasabing

maganda...Magbayad ng tama lagi...di naman kailangang sobra pero kung nakita mo namang nahirapan na yung tao...

pero pinilit parin nyang tapusin service nya...aba'y wag naman kayong kupal..dagdagan nyo naman bayad nyo...pampalubag loob man lang...tang ina masakit sa panga mag bj ng matagal noh..tas pag matagal pa mag come customer...nagagagasgasan sila! masakit yun. tas kala nyo madaling mag pump ng 1 1/2 hr o kahit 1 hr? kahit nga pina pump ka lang nakakapagod na eh...ikaw kaya...tagtagin ka ng 1 1/2 oras? ... tas minsan para pa silang mga basahan na pinag wawagwagan ng ibang guest...feeling ba ng guest walang buto na mababali sa katawan ng mg kawawang babae na to...eh kahit nga mag hj lang ng 15 mins...parang makokomang ka na eh. Kaya lalo na yung mga lalake na di nagbabayad at nambuburaot, pati yung mga binibilog ulo ng mga girls para lang maka libre!...nakuuuu tamaan sana kayo ng kidlat!

so ano...vague parin ba?

 

at para naman di ot...i suggest iwasan nyong pahulugin loob nila sa inyo...kung wala naman sa pagkatao nyo yung mag seseryoso sa mga ganitong klase ng babae....kawawa naman sila...they've been through alot...di na dapat dagdagan pa. Iwasan nyong makipagkita sa kanila outside the workplace...nagiging personal na kase pag ganun...it will only complicate matters....for both of you.

Edited May 28, 2007 by iwalkalone

[THUG]

ano namang vague sa "treating them fair".? ibig sabihin lang tratuhin silang tao at hindi hayup...sa sex halimbawa...wag silang insultuhin, laiitin, husgahan...in short, keep your mouth shut kung wala ka namang masasabing

maganda...Magbayad ng tama lagi...di naman kailangang sobra pero kung nakita mo namang nahirapan na yung tao...

pero pinilit parin nyang tapusin service nya...aba'y wag naman kayong kupal..dagdagan nyo naman bayad nyo...pampalubag loob man lang...tang ina masakit sa panga mag bj ng matagal noh..tas pag matagal pa mag come customer...nagagagasgasan sila! masakit yun. tas kala nyo madaling mag pump ng 1 1/2 hr o kahit 1 hr? kahit nga pina pump ka lang nakakapagod na eh...ikaw kaya...tagtagin ka ng 1 1/2 oras? ... tas minsan para pa silang mga basahan na pinag wawagwagan ng ibang guest...feeling ba ng guest walang buto na mababali sa katawan ng mg kawawang babae na to...eh kahit nga mag hj lang ng 15 mins...parang makokomang ka na eh. Kaya lalo na yung mga lalake na di nagbabayad at nambuburaot, pati yung mga binibilog ulo ng mga girls para lang maka libre!...nakuuuu tamaan sana kayo ng kidlat!

so ano...vague parin ba?

 

at para naman di ot...i suggest iwasan nyong pahulugin loob nila sa inyo...kung wala naman sa pagkatao nyo yung mag seseryoso sa mga ganitong klase ng babae....kawawa naman sila...they've been through alot...di na dapat dagdagan pa. Iwasan nyong makipagkita sa kanila outside the workplace...nagiging personal na kase pag ganun...it will only complicate matters....for both of you.

 

e bakit naman ako di nagbayad dun sa ex gf ko kahit isang kusing pero di naman sya napapagod kaka kadyot sa akin.. matutulog kami tapos sa madaling araw pag kita nya na matigas etits ko bigla ba namang uupuan sabay banat na malupit....

 

saka di ko sya pinahulog .. sya tong lumalapit at tumatawag sa akin..

 

bakit di rin ba mahirap sa lalaki ang kumadyot? mahirap din sa amin yun ah.. saka eto pa ha.. di ba ang lalaki ang nagbayad? e bakit kahit na yung lalaki ang nagbayad e umuungol sa sarap yung babae? walang karapatang mag enjoy yung babae dun kase yung lalake ang nagbayad.. dapat yung nagbayad sya lang ang nag e enjoy..

[don juan casanova]

Sa ngaun graduate nako sa mga gro and mps, gusto ko mga medyo matino naman like Hooters style ung mga waitress na babae ay magaganda bawal table etc. nasa iyo na un sa diskarte mo meron bang ganito sa pilipinas?

[Ret.hGv]

I've been there!!!!

And I'm still there...

Ewan ko b bkit masyado akong hook up sa mga babaeng ganito

I guess tamad n a kong manligaw ng seryoso o matagalan...

hehheehe

D2 kse s mga 2, bsta u look serious okay n

masarap dn namn silang mgmahal ehhh

galing p sa kangkangan

[bong-O]

wala naman siguro maging masama if magkarelasyon ka sa MPA/PSP/GRO... tao din naman sila...

their work doesn't me them less human....

 

ang sa akin lang is yung pagiging committed sa karelasyon mo...

sa MPA/GRO puwede siguro kasi i'm assuming na wala naman sex involved with thier customers...

sa PSP mahirap kasi yung talaga ang work nila...

 

if kaya naman buhayin ng guy si girl para tigil sa psp --- siguro puwede naman tigil di ba...

ang hirap lang kasi may relasyon kayo pero may karelasyon din iba sabay....

 

yun ang mahirap mawala sa isip ng guy if MPA/GRO/PSP ang karelasyon mo....

 

pero relasyon advance topic na.. hehehehe fall in love lang naman ang question....

di mahirap humanga (admire) at umibig (fall in love) sa kanila.. dahil tao lang din tayo.... di ba

[GreenHornyGiant]

ano namang vague sa "treating them fair".? ibig sabihin lang tratuhin silang tao at hindi hayup...sa sex halimbawa...wag silang insultuhin, laiitin, husgahan...in short, keep your mouth shut kung wala ka namang masasabing

maganda...Magbayad ng tama lagi...di naman kailangang sobra pero kung nakita mo namang nahirapan na yung tao...

pero pinilit parin nyang tapusin service nya...aba'y wag naman kayong kupal..dagdagan nyo naman bayad nyo...pampalubag loob man lang...tang ina masakit sa panga mag bj ng matagal noh..tas pag matagal pa mag come customer...nagagagasgasan sila! masakit yun. tas kala nyo madaling mag pump ng 1 1/2 hr o kahit 1 hr? kahit nga pina pump ka lang nakakapagod na eh...ikaw kaya...tagtagin ka ng 1 1/2 oras? ... tas minsan para pa silang mga basahan na pinag wawagwagan ng ibang guest...feeling ba ng guest walang buto na mababali sa katawan ng mg kawawang babae na to...eh kahit nga mag hj lang ng 15 mins...parang makokomang ka na eh. Kaya lalo na yung mga lalake na di nagbabayad at nambuburaot, pati yung mga binibilog ulo ng mga girls para lang maka libre!...nakuuuu tamaan sana kayo ng kidlat!

so ano...vague parin ba?

 

.

 

easy, iwa. kaw naman pumapatol ka pa.

 

iba problema ko e. ako nahuhulog ang loob sa kanila. e paano naman hindi, galing talaga nila. i mean mag-asikaso, maglambing and everything. may skill talaga, ika nga.

 

at kahit ibaon ko sa isip ko na di totoo nangyayari sa loob ng kwarto, wala effect, more often than not bibigay pa din sa kinalaunan. most of the time, nakakaiwas pa din, at the last moment. habang istorya..

 

para sa kin, iba kasi yon. when you do it, you give part of yourself. kaya di ko maiwasan. tang*na, baduy ko. pero

parang sarap nila mahalin kasi. eto naman isang dahilan bakit 'na-i-in-love' mga clients sa MPA and vice versa di ba.

at kahit ano pang sabihin nyo na sex at gamitan lang, minsan di maiiwasan may mangyari. taas nga lang mortality

rate nyan ganyang relationship. kahit ok kayong dalawa, kalaban mo naman mundo.

 

siguro kanya kanyang diskarte lang. it's a temporary state. like you for example, now that you are out of the game

coz of your own choice... ( wag ma-re-react, i mean it as a compliment )

 

teka muna, seryoso, paano ba makakaiwas magmahal ? paano ba magbagong buhay ? normal ba to o ako yung exception. sorry, di ko alam kung marami ganito.

[Evil_Whiz]

e bakit naman ako di nagbayad dun sa ex gf ko kahit isang kusing pero di naman sya napapagod kaka kadyot sa akin.. matutulog kami tapos sa madaling araw pag kita nya na matigas etits ko bigla ba namang uupuan sabay banat na malupit....

 

saka di ko sya pinahulog .. sya tong lumalapit at tumatawag sa akin..

 

bakit di rin ba mahirap sa lalaki ang kumadyot? mahirap din sa amin yun ah.. saka eto pa ha.. di ba ang lalaki ang nagbayad? e bakit kahit na yung lalaki ang nagbayad e umuungol sa sarap yung babae? walang karapatang mag enjoy yung babae dun kase yung lalake ang nagbayad.. dapat yung nagbayad sya lang ang nag e enjoy..

 

That's cold man.. ahhaahahah.. but point taken. Depending on my mood.. I sometimes tend to reason out that way hahahahaha!

[scofield]

like it or not, falling in love is "falling in love", it doesnt matter what you do, when you fall for someone, you accept them for who/what they are dba... do all of you remember what "Love" is?

 

there is no right or wrong in this topic, only opinions, one cannot fault a person for falling in love diba... the tricky part is if it is mutual, diba, mahirap mag assume on both parties...pero this can happen, you just need to know and communicate with one another, and accept. then you come up with a next step.

 

you have to stop living in the past, and fearing what tomorrow brings, live for today and live it to the fullest. Nothing will happen if you consume your todays looking back at yesterdays and looking forward to tomorrow if you are not living in the present.

[babymaker]

Contraceptive sex is always de-humanizing.

Live sex, real sex, life-giving sex should bring everyone back to being HUMAN again.

[Evil_Whiz]

I dunno fellow menyaks pero I love pretty girls and women! I love the feeling of being with them, not only by one but different ones with different looks and personalities. Perhaps it's just my nature, pero I can't help myself.. keep coming back for more hahahahaahah. lalo na kung around 18 to 22 yrs old.. nangkupo! Cant' get enough. How bout you guys? Tsaka sarap ng feeling ng na-iinfatuated lagi heheheheh.. parang laging may challenge o laman ang isip ko... First time ko mag karoon ng fling sa Coronel, Chile. Wayback noong 19 yrs old pa lang ako. Ganda talaga..parang artista pero GRO din. But it didnt work out as usual and I found out na mas masarap magmahal ang pinay. Eversince sa pinay na ako. Miss ko na nga tong fling ko ngayon,gal;ing mag alaga.. sarap na naman umuwi sa pinas pero kayod muna to get lead for the pencil. Mahirap goodtime dito sa US. Minsan tinatanong ko nga sarili ko, bakit pa ko pumupunta sa MP's dito sa US eh ang mahal..yung ibang MP's eh mukhang senior citizen na.. I guess a menyaks gotta do what he's gotta do para makaraos... Beats the hell out of raping somebody ang going to jail...

[machogwapito69]

My Answers to iwalkalone's comments........

 

 

i think gagaguhin ka lang if you make her feel na nag gagaguhan lang kayo...

iba naman siguro si chad at yung gf nya...like iba rin si cinnamon at yung gf nya....

 

Yeah......maybe youre right........But in our realtionship.......Never akong nanggago......Ako palagi ginagago niya...Hindi ako yung nagpapahatid sa "Pigeon Hole" niya somewhere in Caloocan tapos sasabihin manunood lang daw ng Princess Hour......Yun pala tumitira na ng SHABU :thumbsdownsmiley: Hindi ba panggagago yun?

 

another sweeping generalization!..di kaya ikaw din si thug?

 

I dont think so........

 

well...baka kulang...baka nahihiya naman yung girl na iasa sa kanya lahat...y'know..

 

I give her P15,000 monthly(kahit ano gawin niya dun bahala siya) plus ako pa sumasagot ng pagkain niya, bahay niya, pati kuryente, pati tubig, pati mga kapatid niya......So that means Kulang? Kung kulang pa yan.......I got ONE WORD for ya:MALUHO :thumbsdownsmiley:

 

ofcourse...sila manggagatas...sila ang babae eh...at kayo ang lumalapit sa kanila...gamitan lang diba?

buti naman kung seryoso talaga kayo sa kanila...hanggang kasalan!

isa pa...when a "user" dumps you...be thankful...atleast di ka na nya magagatasan diba?

"game over"? ... what do you expect? it was all a "game" (was it not? if it wasn't...you'd give anything to make her feel

secured and loved...make her realize you are there for her...and that she need not do that kind of work anymore..)

so since it has always been a "game" (admit it or not) ...it was bound to be over sooner or later...nagkataon lang

it was the girl who declared it over first....baka nakapag isip-isip na din...finally...hmmm?

 

First of all it wasn't her who ended it(game or not).........IT WAS I who ended it.......

 

You don't know anything about what happened between the 2 of us..........nakakahiya man sabhihin gusto ko na siyang seryosohin eh........But nalang nagising ako! :hypocritesmiley:

 

Btw its very RARE for USERS to DUMP people ........Kaya USERS eh.......Hanggat may mapipiga kakapit pa rin sa'yo yan

 

 

I don't know kung bakit masyado kang(iwalkalone) active dito sa thread na'to........I don't know kung miyembro ka ng GABRIELA or any feminist group........All I'm doing was telling the TRUTH........and nothing but the TRUTH

[vincechase]

at para naman di ot...i suggest iwasan nyong pahulugin loob nila sa inyo...kung wala naman sa pagkatao nyo yung mag seseryoso sa mga ganitong klase ng babae....kawawa naman sila...they've been through alot...di na dapat dagdagan pa. Iwasan nyong makipagkita sa kanila outside the workplace...nagiging personal na kase pag ganun...it will only complicate matters....for both of you.

 

Dearest Iwalkalone:

 

I think this piece of advice is far too late for me. I see HER every week outside (this is our seventh month). While she never asks for anything, I make sure to put a substantial amount of cash in her bag. "Is this love?" I'm not sure anymore, but I sure hope so. She says she loves me, and for always. I'm positive that she has a busload of admirers. I'm realistic in the sense that she may be seeing other guys. So, when we are together I make the most out of it because I know its literally borrowed time and will not last forever. But what does? When we are together, it beats everything that I've experienced before. I've been literally all around the world and the key to my happiness is with her. I wish it will never end, but I know for a fact that it will. Reality bites. I guess the fact that I know that the relationship is finite makes it all the more intense.

 

Vinny

Edited May 29, 2007 by vincechase

[Evil_Whiz]

Dearest Iwalkalone:

 

I think this piece of advice is far too late for me. I see HER every week outside (this is our seventh month). While she never asks for anything, I make sure to put a substantial amount of cash in her bag. "Is this love?" I'm not sure anymore, but I sure hope so. She says she loves me, and for always. I'm positive that she has a busload of admirers. I'm realistic in the sense that she may be seeing other guys. So, when we are together I make the most out of it because I know its literally borrowed time and will not last forever. But what does? When we are together, it beats everything that I've experienced before. I've been literally all around the world and the key to my happiness is with her. I wish it will never end, but I know for a fact that it will. Reality bites. I guess the fact that I know that the relationship is finite makes it all the more intense.

 

Vinny

 

Brother, I feel your pain. May mga guys talagang tulad natin..likhang mapagmahal at mapagbigay(naks!). But on the other hand, some of the other guys have a valid point too. Dati puso ang pinaiiral ko, but after realizing how the whole system (Vicious circle) works , I got smarter. You know you can control it pre, you just simply chose not to. Well, whatever makes you comfortable and you think you could afford it.. why not diba?I'm right behind you.. I wouldn't mind doing it again for someone special.. that I know deserves it. Yung second to the last na GRO na naka fling ko.. MUKHANG PERA talaga kala mo may ipinatago kung makahingi. Tell you what though, she got more that what she bargained for. Didnt call her up after 2 dates. Ginamit ko lang siya..manigas siya!!!Ok lang magbigay kung alam kong kailangan niya.. just not too obvious ba...I know I'm dumb when I'm horny.. but certainly not stupid heheheheheheh...

[Evil_Whiz]

MACHOGWAPITO.. pre..tama yung desisyon mong iwan siya.. ako if there's anything at all regarding the use of drugs associated sa fling ko, it's time to split. If there's one thing I can't stand, it's a slut junkie. Somehow..it can never get any worse that that!

[iwalkalone]

I don't know kung bakit masyado kang(iwalkalone) active dito sa thread na'to........I don't know kung miyembro ka ng GABRIELA or any feminist group........All I'm doing was telling the TRUTH........and nothing but the TRUTH

 

aww...okay, i read you bro... ang sakin lang naman... syempre...kayong mga guys lang naman madalas nag bibigay ng points nyo dito...leaving these girls exposed and defenseless...kase side nyo lang naman syempre ang laging bida. But ofcourse...if that was really your experience...then i'd say...malas lng talaga...lik i said before...iba-iba talaga ugali ng tao...but don't blame it all on the fact na dahil mpa sya o gra o psp....nasa pagkatao yan. yung ex mong adik...kahit di mpa yun...mag aadik parin yun...at mangloloko parin ng ibang tao siguro...to susain al her luho and bisyo.

it's good that you dumped her...you did the right thing.

 

Dearest Iwalkalone:

 

I think this piece of advice is far too late for me. I see HER every week outside (this is our seventh month). While she never asks for anything, I make sure to put a substantial amount of cash in her bag. "Is this love?" I'm not sure anymore, but I sure hope so. She says she loves me, and for always. I'm positive that she has a busload of admirers. I'm realistic in the sense that she may be seeing other guys. So, when we are together I make the most out of it because I know its literally borrowed time and will not last forever. But what does? When we are together, it beats everything that I've experienced before. I've been literally all around the world and the key to my happiness is with her. I wish it will never end, but I know for a fact that it will. Reality bites. I guess the fact that I know that the relationship is finite makes it all the more intense.

 

Vinny

 

best of luck vinny :flowers:

 

err..sowee po mali-mali type...nasira keybored ...eek keyboard pala! :upside: e kase natapunan ng empie :upside:

Edited May 29, 2007 by iwalkalone

[blow_gobi]

"When we are together, it beats everything that I've experienced before. I've been literally all around the world and the key to my happiness is with her. I wish it will never end, but I know for a fact that it will. Reality bites. I guess the fact that I know that the relationship is finite makes it all the more intense."

 

I think this is how you approach this relationship - enjoy every moment, but don't presume too much

[singkit`]

Falling in love with someone (decent or not) isn't bad.

It would be great if the other party falls in love with you too.

And if the relationship doesn't work for whatever reason, just let go.

Stop whining, be a man.

[Guest mzmn]

For me, both of you are using each other. I use her for her company (among other things) and she uses me for my company (among other things). Sure, I give her money (for her and her baby), but she never asks. I only give what I can.

 

What's real weird is that since I can't provide for all her needs, I even set up gigs for her! Especially now that its tuition time.

 

Vinny, just go with the flow, but remember you're using each other. Don't expect her to tell you the truth, we're in it not for their honesty and frankness. Don't expect her to drop everything if you're not going to drop everything for her.

 

Question that remains, can I let her go? I probably can, but I don't want to yet. I still like the feeling of infatuation. I'm happy when she's with me and I can see that she's likewise happy.

[Shinn]

madali lang magmahal pero mas mahirap mag-ipon ng pera :flowers: tamad lang tayu maghanap ng taong magmamahal sa atin kaya lagi na lang dun tayu sa mga easy prey. naranasan ko na din mapamahal sa mga gro/mp kaso nagising ako dahil i realized its hard to fall in love with somebody lagi na lang kapos sa pera. Its like pag wala ka na mabigay na help hindi ka na din papansinin ng mga babae.

 

So its better to spend money wherein wala ka na aasahan kapalit.

[Guest mzmn]

Shinn, di naman sa tamad maghanap ng iba, for all we know, like me, most people falling for MPA's and the such have other relationships too.

 

Pero maganda yung isang punto mo: mahirap mapamahal sa isang taos kapos sa pera! Bakit nga sila ganun? There are a few I know that make at least half the money I make, but are always kapos.

 

Maybe it's a knight-in-shining-armor-damsel-in-distress thing. Just keep in mind, don't try to change them. You shouldn't get into a relationship with this species of woman in order to change them. Just help them make their lives a bit more bearable since they're providing you with some semblance of a relationship in exchange.

 

If they do change because of you, meaning, change professions, well good for you!