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On 1/18/2023 at 1:03 AM, rtz said:

To GMs,

“Pag humahapdi na ang bawat bagong FR sa kanya, kabahan ka na!” Hahahaha!

 

 

Na-leche na tlga...

 

Prang 2-3 weeks after plng ata nun, masakit na e. Kaya nakaka kaba mgbrowse sa FR Journal bka may mabasa nnmn ako na bago. Umiiwas nko dun.

I promised myself pa naman that I won't let myself be hurt again. Pero wala, may pagka marupok tlga.. 😅

 

Pero nag 'let go' na din nmn ako in an attempt to move on. Sabi ko nlng sa kanya, kung kelangan mo ng friend, willing ako maging friend mo. Pero kung ano ibig sabihin nun, sya na bahala. Bsta hnd nko aasa ng any special treatment (ung pra malaman ko na hnd lng ako just like every other customer. but, the truth hurts 🥲). Ayun, hnd na nagreply sa chat, 2 days na..haha fml.

 

Baka busy lng tlga sya.. 🤡

 

 

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1 hour ago, SDMNXIX said:

 

Na-leche na tlga...

 

Prang 2-3 weeks after plng ata nun, masakit na e. Kaya nakaka kaba mgbrowse sa FR Journal bka may mabasa nnmn ako na bago. Umiiwas nko dun.

I promised myself pa naman that I won't let myself be hurt again. Pero wala, may pagka marupok tlga.. 😅

 

Pero nag 'let go' na din nmn ako in an attempt to move on. Sabi ko nlng sa kanya, kung kelangan mo ng friend, willing ako maging friend mo. Pero kung ano ibig sabihin nun, sya na bahala. Bsta hnd nko aasa ng any special treatment (ung pra malaman ko na hnd lng ako just like every other customer. but, the truth hurts 🥲). Ayun, hnd na nagreply sa chat, 2 days na..haha fml.

 

Baka busy lng tlga sya.. 🤡

 

 

Hehehe! Been there bro 😅

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On 1/15/2023 at 8:22 PM, EPJ said:

Yung bagong episode nagyon ng Lovely Ladies Dormitory ng Vivamax ang maraming marerelate regarding sa napagusapan dito sa thread na ito po. di na po eexplain yung mga details regarding sa tema nagpausapan sa show dahil medyo na cross the line na di po pwede pagusapan sa thread na ito po.

D ko napanood yan pero yung expensive candy ni julia barreto relate na relate. Sobra focus ko dun sa movie nayun nung pinanood ko lol

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2 hours ago, SDMNXIX said:

 

Na-leche na tlga...

 

Prang 2-3 weeks after plng ata nun, masakit na e. Kaya nakaka kaba mgbrowse sa FR Journal bka may mabasa nnmn ako na bago. Umiiwas nko dun.

I promised myself pa naman that I won't let myself be hurt again. Pero wala, may pagka marupok tlga.. 😅

 

Pero nag 'let go' na din nmn ako in an attempt to move on. Sabi ko nlng sa kanya, kung kelangan mo ng friend, willing ako maging friend mo. Pero kung ano ibig sabihin nun, sya na bahala. Bsta hnd nko aasa ng any special treatment (ung pra malaman ko na hnd lng ako just like every other customer. but, the truth hurts 🥲). Ayun, hnd na nagreply sa chat, 2 days na..haha fml.

 

Baka busy lng tlga sya.. 🤡

 

 

Si according to u e "wala na may nanalo na" ba yan bro? 😀

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8 hours ago, rtz said:

Hehehe! Been there bro 😅

Any additional advice? 😁     

Nakakatulong ba ung tryng other theras..? Iniisip ko kse either i stick with sya lng tlga or i meet others. Ang concern ko if sya lng, yes masaya pag magkasama kme, pero aftr nun i know na balik sa dati na wlng pansinan nnmn so prang nireremind lng ako of my sad reality.

 

7 hours ago, darwin2k4 said:

Si according to u e "wala na may nanalo na" ba yan bro? 😀

I invoke my right against self incrimination 🤐 

Haha. Wla nmn sanang laglagan..

Lowkey lng tau d2 sa gedli. Bka lalo akong hnd pansinin 🥲

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5 hours ago, SDMNXIX said:

Any additional advice? 😁     

Nakakatulong ba ung tryng other theras..? Iniisip ko kse either i stick with sya lng tlga or i meet others. Ang concern ko if sya lng, yes masaya pag magkasama kme, pero aftr nun i know na balik sa dati na wlng pansinan nnmn so prang nireremind lng ako of my sad reality

5 hours ago, SDMNXIX said:

 

Advice? Well let's see...

If you're letting go, it's a matter of where and when you want to get hurt. It's either you get hurt now hanggat mababaw pa or sa dulo when you're in too deep na. Can't reiterate enough which one will be more devastating.

If you're planning to pursue, well sorry man. I haven't gotten that far yet. Though I know it's every man for himself. 

And yes. Nakakatulong mag iba ng thera,,,,... for a day or two 🤣 Hahahaha! Di mo maiisip masyado si orig during those couple of days. However, after a few days you'll find yourself wanting the orig again. And again. And again. 

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1 hour ago, rtz said:

Advice? Well let's see...

If you're letting go, it's a matter of where and when you want to get hurt. It's either you get hurt now hanggat mababaw pa or sa dulo when you're in too deep na. Can't reiterate enough which one will be more devastating.

If you're planning to pursue, well sorry man. I haven't gotten that far yet. Though I know it's every man for himself. 

And yes. Nakakatulong mag iba ng thera,,,,... for a day or two 🤣 Hahahaha! Di mo maiisip masyado si orig during those couple of days. However, after a few days you'll find yourself wanting the orig again. And again. And again. 

Kaya nga kinausap ko na din sya agad and nagtapat na ako sa kanya in the hopes na magkaroon na ng some kind of closure. Akala ko after that, ok nko kaso meron pren lingering feelings. Maybe I'll just give it more time.

Ang concern ko if I try other theras, best case scenario is mka hanap ng iba who can somehow be more responsive to me pero I'm not holding my breath for that. Mas probable na mangyari is ma disappoint lng ako and ma compare ko lng sila sa kanya. Tapos maiisip ko na sana hnd nlng ako nagtry at nagsayang ng pera sa iba.

In your case ba, did you stop seeing her pra mka move on..?

 

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Nag pause muna ako sa MTC non to get my sh!t together. Then I dated other girls outside spa then luckily i was able to open a new business kaya nabaling na din attention ko. After months nakita ko instagram nya, then dun ko napatunayan wala na spark. Didn't follow her sa insta but from what I saw, I'm quite happy for her. 

But iba sitwasyon natin bro. She was on board and muntikan na kami.

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8 hours ago, SDMNXIX said:

Any additional advice? 😁     

Nakakatulong ba ung tryng other theras..? Iniisip ko kse either i stick with sya lng tlga or i meet others. Ang concern ko if sya lng, yes masaya pag magkasama kme, pero aftr nun i know na balik sa dati na wlng pansinan nnmn so prang nireremind lng ako of my sad reality.

 

I invoke my right against self incrimination 🤐 

Haha. Wla nmn sanang laglagan..

Lowkey lng tau d2 sa gedli. Bka lalo akong hnd pansinin 🥲

the high is worth the pain bro 😫  pero I advise you this, if you show na talagang lovestruck ka at hindi ka nya type, iiwasan ka nya lalo, their life is already complicated as it is, hiding their work from family, or may bf/husband/lip, some have school pa mga yan and they always wonder if alam ba sa school work nya, mga ganyan and u want to add more to drama? iiwasan ka to avoid complication

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1 hour ago, rtz said:

Nag pause muna ako sa MTC non to get my sh!t together. Then I dated other girls outside spa then luckily i was able to open a new business kaya nabaling na din attention ko. After months nakita ko instagram nya, then dun ko napatunayan wala na spark. Didn't follow her sa insta but from what I saw, I'm quite happy for her. 

But iba sitwasyon natin bro. She was on board and muntikan na kami.

Ahh I see..I don't think I have that kind of distraction right now. And if she was into you as well, then yea magkaiba nga sitwasyon nten..Mine is clearly not mutual.

I don't think I'd go cold turkey muna ngayon, mejo wait and see cguro. If lumalala lng kalagayan ko as I continue to see her then I'll stop.

44 minutes ago, darwin2k4 said:

the high is worth the pain bro 😫  pero I advise you this, if you show na talagang lovestruck ka at hindi ka nya type, iiwasan ka nya lalo, their life is already complicated as it is, hiding their work from family, or may bf/husband/lip, some have school pa mga yan and they always wonder if alam ba sa school work nya, mga ganyan and u want to add more to drama? iiwasan ka to avoid complication

If wala nmng endgame I don't see the point na dagdagan pa ung pain 😅 just seems unnecessary. Kaya din kinausap ko na sya agad ng maayos.

Gets ko nmn to. Thats why hnd rin ako nagkakandarapa nmn sa kanya. Also why I floated the idea to be her friend instead.

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2 hours ago, SDMNXIX said:

Kaya nga kinausap ko na din sya agad and nagtapat na ako sa kanya in the hopes na magkaroon na ng some kind of closure. Akala ko after that, ok nko kaso meron pren lingering feelings. Maybe I'll just give it more time.

Ang concern ko if I try other theras, best case scenario is mka hanap ng iba who can somehow be more responsive to me pero I'm not holding my breath for that. Mas probable na mangyari is ma disappoint lng ako and ma compare ko lng sila sa kanya. Tapos maiisip ko na sana hnd nlng ako nagtry at nagsayang ng pera sa iba.

In your case ba, did you stop seeing her pra mka move on..?

 

kung ako gago, kukunin ko yung close friend niya which is what i will do in the next few weeks, hindi pa naman kami ganun kalalim but she did say I love u and was really cheesy nung pasko kaso nung new year nag lamig na so I will shit test her and get her best friend na madalas na pumasok ngayun. if she gets hurt i knew mas malalim ang pagmamahal niya sa akin, if not then i made the right choice

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3 hours ago, SDMNXIX said:

Ahh I see..I don't think I have that kind of distraction right now. And if she was into you as well, then yea magkaiba nga sitwasyon nten..Mine is clearly not mutual.

I don't think I'd go cold turkey muna ngayon, mejo wait and see cguro. If lumalala lng kalagayan ko as I continue to see her then I'll stop.

If wala nmng endgame I don't see the point na dagdagan pa ung pain 😅 just seems unnecessary. Kaya din kinausap ko na sya agad ng maayos.

Gets ko nmn to. Thats why hnd rin ako nagkakandarapa nmn sa kanya. Also why I floated the idea to be her friend instead.

Kamusta yung usap nyo ng maayos? You got rejected ba or may pahiwatig pa?

Just be careful bro. Don't dig the hole too deep, you might find yourself stuck in it. Worst thing can happen is you wake up one day and find yourself obsessed with her. Daming ganyang case dito. 

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14 hours ago, rtz said:

Kamusta yung usap nyo ng maayos? You got rejected ba or may pahiwatig pa?

Just be careful bro. Don't dig the hole too deep, you might find yourself stuck in it. Worst thing can happen is you wake up one day and find yourself obsessed with her. Daming ganyang case dito. 

 

I think ok nmn ung usapan nmen. I think she heard what I said and na-confirm din naman ung hinala ko na she's not really looking to get into anything serious. Ako din naman not ready to be in a relationship pero may mga feelings kse na nag grow. There wasn't anything to reject nmn ata since I didn't ask her for anything. Pero sinabi ko sa kanya na since we met, may nade-develop akong feelings for her. Kinausap ko na sya ng ganun primarily for my own sake kasi umaasa ako that she would feel the same way. Unfortunately, it didn't seem like that was gonna happen. So para lng hnd nko mag-suffer emotionally, sabi ko hindi nako aasa and if she needs a friend, willing ako maging friend nya. Pero kung ano ibig sabihin nun na friend nya ako, hnd ko alam..haha. Siya na bahala kung pano nya ako i-treat as a friend. It's my way of letting go.

So I think safe to say na wala siyang pahiwatig.

Yea ayoko rin nmn ma-obsess kaya din kinausap ko na sya. Kumbaga, nip it in the bud before it gets worse for me. Yun lng, may mga lingering feelings pa pero hopefully with a bit more time, magiging ok na din.

 

 

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Listening to a YouTube Music generated playlist of OPM music, this song came on and reminded me of a "partner" who was humming it late last week. This is December Avenue's "Huling Sandali", a song that may be appropriate for this thread.
 

Hindi mapigil ang bugso ng aking puso
Sa tuwing ako'y papalapit sayo
Maaari bang hingin ang iyong kamay
Hawakan mo't huwag mong bitawan
Hindi mapigil ang tibok ng aking puso
Sa tuwing ako'y nakatingin sayo
Maaari bang huwag kang humiwalay
Dahil sandali na lang
Darating din ang gabing walang pipigil sa'tin
Kung hindi ngayon aasa bang maibabalik ang kahapon
Kahit sandali palayain ang pusong 'di mapigil
Sana'y tayong dalawa sa huling pagkakataon na ika'y magiging akin
Hindi matigil ang gulo sa aking isip
At para bang walang kasing sakit
Alaala mong hindi ko malimutan
Oras lang ang may alam
Kung darating din ang gabing walang pipigil sa'tin
Kung hindi ngayon aasa bang maibabalik ang kahapon
Kahit sandali palayain ang pusong 'di mapigil
Sana'y tayong dalawa sa huling pagkakataon na hindi na para sa'tin
At sa bawat minuto
Ako'y 'di natuto
Ipilit mang iba ako'y maghihintay sayo
Ikaw ang aking kapiling sa huling sandali
Kasalanan ba kung puso natin ang magwawagi
Kahit sandali palayain ang pusong 'di mapigil
Sana'y tayong dalawa sa huling pagkakataon na hindi na para sa'tin
Kahit sandali patawarin ang pusong 'di tumigil para sa'ting dalawa
Ang maling pagkakataon na ika'y magiging akin
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17 hours ago, rtz said:

Kamusta yung usap nyo ng maayos? You got rejected ba or may pahiwatig pa?

Just be careful bro. Don't dig the hole too deep, you might find yourself stuck in it. Worst thing can happen is you wake up one day and find yourself obsessed with her. Daming ganyang case dito. 

This is true many in the end too deep they became obsessed.

maybe can you sir dont too became obsessed or how to someone obsessed let it go?

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On 1/20/2023 at 7:36 AM, dominickcruise said:

would you get the best friend of a therapist na niligawan mo pero binasted ka for some reason? ako I would and I will pretty soon! she is also hot and maybe even hotter than the one na niligawan mo lol

Its time to try it my friend, nag end naman na and basted na so whats the point of pushing your self to her dba. Try naman si bff nya baka un ang bumigay.

On 1/20/2023 at 12:54 PM, rtz said:

Advice? Well let's see...

If you're letting go, it's a matter of where and when you want to get hurt. It's either you get hurt now hanggat mababaw pa or sa dulo when you're in too deep na. Can't reiterate enough which one will be more devastating.

If you're planning to pursue, well sorry man. I haven't gotten that far yet. Though I know it's every man for himself. 

And yes. Nakakatulong mag iba ng thera,,,,... for a day or two 🤣 Hahahaha! Di mo maiisip masyado si orig during those couple of days. However, after a few days you'll find yourself wanting the orig again. And again. And again. 

Sinubukan ko din yan to get other thera just to forget and hopefully mawala un feeling kay orig but ayun you cant buy un pag genuine ng tao lalo na sa deed if may feelings din sya sayo. You can feel that and makikita mo sa mga mata ng original mo if you have mutual feelings. Laban lang haggang dulo if you really love orig. Time will tell kelan ka susuko 

 

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3 hours ago, SDMNXIX said:

 

I think ok nmn ung usapan nmen. I think she heard what I said and na-confirm din naman ung hinala ko na she's not really looking to get into anything serious. Ako din naman not ready to be in a relationship pero may mga feelings kse na nag grow. There wasn't anything to reject nmn ata since I didn't ask her for anything. Pero sinabi ko sa kanya na since we met, may nade-develop akong feelings for her. Kinausap ko na sya ng ganun primarily for my own sake kasi umaasa ako that she would feel the same way. Unfortunately, it didn't seem like that was gonna happen. So para lng hnd nko mag-suffer emotionally, sabi ko hindi nako aasa and if she needs a friend, willing ako maging friend nya. Pero kung ano ibig sabihin nun na friend nya ako, hnd ko alam..haha. Siya na bahala kung pano nya ako i-treat as a friend. It's my way of letting go.

So I think safe to say na wala siyang pahiwatig.

Yea ayoko rin nmn ma-obsess kaya din kinausap ko na sya. Kumbaga, nip it in the bud before it gets worse for me. Yun lng, may mga lingering feelings pa pero hopefully with a bit more time, magiging ok na din.

 

 

Good for you bro.. Atleast you know where you stand. 👍

 

2 hours ago, AngGwapo said:

Listening to a YouTube Music generated playlist of OPM music, this song came on and reminded me of a "partner" who was humming it late last week. This is December Avenue's "Huling Pagkakataon", a song that may be appropriate for this thread.
 

Hindi mapigil ang bugso ng aking puso
Sa tuwing ako'y papalapit sayo
Maaari bang hingin ang iyong kamay
Hawakan mo't huwag mong bitawan
Hindi mapigil ang tibok ng aking puso
Sa tuwing ako'y nakatingin sayo
Maaari bang huwag kang humiwalay
Dahil sandali na lang
Darating din ang gabing walang pipigil sa'tin
Kung hindi ngayon aasa bang maibabalik ang kahapon
Kahit sandali palayain ang pusong 'di mapigil
Sana'y tayong dalawa sa huling pagkakataon na ika'y magiging akin
Hindi matigil ang gulo sa aking isip
At para bang walang kasing sakit
Alaala mong hindi ko malimutan
Oras lang ang may alam
Kung darating din ang gabing walang pipigil sa'tin
Kung hindi ngayon aasa bang maibabalik ang kahapon
Kahit sandali palayain ang pusong 'di mapigil
Sana'y tayong dalawa sa huling pagkakataon na hindi na para sa'tin
At sa bawat minuto
Ako'y 'di natuto
Ipilit mang iba ako'y maghihintay sayo
Ikaw ang aking kapiling sa huling sandali
Kasalanan ba kung puso natin ang magwawagi
Kahit sandali palayain ang pusong 'di mapigil
Sana'y tayong dalawa sa huling pagkakataon na hindi na para sa'tin
Kahit sandali patawarin ang pusong 'di tumigil para sa'ting dalawa
Ang maling pagkakataon na ika'y magiging akin

Medyo malupit nga mga bagsakan nyang December ave idol.

"Kasalanan ba kung puso natin ang magwawagi"

Mukang matindi ang pinaghugutan.. "Huling sandali" ata yon bro hehe

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9 hours ago, rtz said:

Good for you bro.. Atleast you know where you stand. 👍

 

Medyo malupit nga mga bagsakan nyang December ave idol.

"Kasalanan ba kung puso natin ang magwawagi"

Mukang matindi ang pinaghugutan.. "Huling sandali" ata yon bro hehe

@rtzthe entire song is full of who goats.

Then, for those who do ninja moves and find themselves falling...

"Kasalanan ba kung puso natin ang magwawagi
Kahit sandali palayain ang pusong 'di mapigil

Sana'y tayong dalawa sa huling pagkakataon na hindi na para sa'tin
Kahit sandali patawarin ang pusong 'di tumigil para sa'ting dalawa

Ang maling pagkakataon na ika'y magiging akin"

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Here’s a thought that a GM usually needs to contend with when entering this kind of relationship:

Behaviors become embedded in their nature because of their work. Once they are deep into their work, the behaviors that are required in their jobs subconsciously spillover to their personal lives. In short, they themselves do NOT know when it is sincere and when it is an act. As a result, you will be pulled into their subculture.

For example, initially, outside of their own colleagues, there is hardly anything definite. Things like age, names, kids, exe’s, or just anything to pin down identity, will always be in constant flux. Its in the nature of therapists to be protected by their layers of misinformation (lies). And because of that, you will feel constant doubt or at least feel that everything is surreal from time to time.

There are some cases also that they are desensitized to idea of cheating which means its less of an issue for/with them. They can have sex with just anybody and use work as an excuse. Remember that for them to last long in their work, they need to enjoy it too. Thus, the blurring of what is real and what is an act. In short, it doesn’t stop with the thought that at least 5 pair of hands touch them daily. Its 5 pair of hands that they also enjoyed, one way or another. Bluntly, that’s 5 dicks. Daily. 
 

Contend with that. Once you get over it, you’re on your way on a possible fairy tale. Or you did not get over that thought but you’re into stronger drugs now. ;) Good luck! 

 

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