Falling For Somebody 15 Years Older

[maniaclara]

Most of the time we don't know what we are consenting to until it's too late. That's why I say some are taking advantage of the situation especially when vulnerabilities are concerned.

 

Going into a relationship maybe a choice. But I don't think Love is.

love is blind then.

or else, ignorant based on your first sentence.

 

oh well...

 

 

 

[friendly0603]

love is blind then.

or else, ignorant based on your first sentence.

oh well...

Has been said time again that love is blind and make fools out of intelligent people. However, ignorant I don't really agree to.

[darthvader0917]

Age is not a factor..my GF is half my age and we get along perfectly.

[friendly0603]

Age is not a factor..my GF is half my age and we get along perfectly.

Congrats!

Do you ever go out with her friends or she with your friends? What does her family say about you? vice versa?

[friendly0603]

I remember a friend calling her bf "lolo" and we all laughed about it. I'm sure if you were the bf you wouldn't appreciate those kinds of talk.

[erato]

I remember a friend calling her bf "lolo" and we all laughed about it. I'm sure if you were the bf you wouldn't appreciate those kinds of talk.

 

I agree. My mom used to refer to my dad as the old guy. I didn't find it cute or amusing at all.

[cHinitababe86]

parang award lang. most of the time earn alot of attention especially in public places.

it is considered different from the others lalo na if young ung isa, the other one obviously look much older

than he/she is.

madalas of those people are "usi".. wondering, and cguro the others, think negatively about it.

as for me, i really don't care about them, they dont know me, they also dont know my partner,

and how much happiness we have from each other whenever were together.

as what my lola said,

"kung saan ka masaya, basta wala kang naaapakang tao, other's comment wouldn't really matter, go for it."

[friendly0603]

There are girls who are after a father figure. Is there something psychological about their choice?

 

People can't help observe and make comments. Same with a handsome/beautiful person going out with someone not so attractive or with a young straight looking male going out with outlandishly gay older partner or a beautiful girl with a dude looking lesbo.

 

It's not the norm. For some, it's jealousy, gossip or whatever. They can't feel what you feel so they definitely won't understand until it happens to them or they know the both of you.

[JHP]

Someone mentioned norms and conventions, which serve to preserve order and stability in society. Like it or not, if you disregard them, you pay the price, one way or another, as in being subjected to manifestations of social disapproval (dirty looks and derogatory comments). At worst, you can go to jail (for statutory rape).

 

Each one draws his or her own line and limits -- between norms and conventions on one hand, and personal behavior on the other. And each one decides how much of a price he / she is willing to pay. Hell, a former boss once told me about someone he knew who ended up living with his daughter-in-law; what happened is she left her husband for his father. Imagine what kind of a price that would exact.

 

Myself, in a case where there are lines of authority and responsibility involved (she's a student or subordinate), i'd rather not get involved, because in a sense it's abuse and / or dereliction.

[cbr600rr]

Had a relationship with a girl. I was 11 years her seniour but didnt really matter because she introduced me to her parents as only 4 years older than her, and she got a way with it.

 

I draw the line when the girl works for me. Right at the very start, I tell the girls in my office na sorry na lang, as long as you work for me, I can't touch you. Kaya ayun, some of them nag-resign.

[erato]

Right at the very start, I tell the girls in my office na sorry na lang, as long as you work for me, I can't touch you. Kaya ayun, some of them nag-resign.

 

:lol:

[Miss Zelda]

to each his or her own preference. Older men are no different than younger men, jerks, masturbators, whatnot.

[Guest Serenity12]

take out a year and I can say, yes I have experienced this. Maybe it's a bit weird that he was in high school on the year I was born but hey, we grew up to be a perfect fit. and went to the same high school at that!

[adonis69]

im a 25 year old guy and i have fallen for lady 15 years older than me.

 

i'd like to know if anybody has experienced this. what were the obstacles you encountered?

 

if you haven't had such a relationship. what do you think of it?

we are on the same boat...obstacles,mdami like sa mga children niya,minsan kulang time namin para mgbonding kase nauubos time niya sa mga anak niya,nghhnap pa kmi ng timing para i open up yun relationship namin sa mga anak niya

[Guest mirang]

age really matter but if you have enough love then, it won't