Edmund Dantes

 

yan ang problem pag mag clean carbs and protein tayo mga boys, broccoli is a good source of clean protein, unfortunately, nakaka baho ng smell ng semen, kaya ako puro pineapple juice and fruits =) hahahaha

Kasi nakakataas levels ng testosterone broccoli.

Basta para sakin, ang bisyo talaga na ieenjoy ko sa holidays ay tsibog! Ill be sure though to get a good afterburn muna before enjoying the new years eve

i had sex with a ES-pakol once,medyo bago palang sya sa isang massage parlor. maybe 3 months,, shes 24 im 25,

well first i saw her wow, shes pretty, i asked her kung may bf na sya sabi nya wala... agad after the sex, she was asking my number, well i give it, after i left her, napansin kong malungkot sya but i say cheer up we will see again,, in short yes we did date at nagka relationship kami for 7 months and quited her job immidiately,,, skip 7months well after we've been having sex she admitted na mahal daw nya ako.. i was shocked,,, pero i dump her kasi may GF (fiance) na ako of 5 years at that time at sinabi ko that it wont work given the fact na ung past nya at (wala pa naman syang naging anak pero yung trabaho nya kasi).. plus i am a political figure i cant be with her,,,,, next thing i know she ran away crying,, tbh,, i kinda fall for her,,,, kasi kahit pokpok sya eh napaka sweet at inoccent yung personality nya,,, at pinasaya nya ako ng di ko kayang ma explain,,,,, napasaya nya ako ng grabe na di kaya ipakita ng fiance ko,, i have done alot of things that i havent done before with her, i felt the love everytime she hugs me,,,,, well after breaking up with her my life became miserable. i always longed for her scent and love, until i decided that i look for her, i broke up with my gf and for 5 weeks of finding i found her,, in her hometown sa rizal,,, in a COFFIN,, apparently she died commiting suicide, WHY??! coulndt she wait me?!

 

I can somewhat relate. I lost 2 people who were close to me, and the first one I felt so responsible. Until now dala ko pa yung guilt. But the thing is, we have to learn to forgive ourselves. Maaring alam mo na di ikaw may kasalanan bakit kinitil nya sarili nyang buhay, but from your post, hala na may konting regret and resentment. Sana tol mapatawad mo kahit papano sarili mo. Yan ang natutunan ko eh. Kelangan talaga patawarin mo sarili mo kundi traumatic experiences in your life will stick with you like a pet demon. And I did carry my guilt for years and let it affect the decisions Id make in the future. Come to think of it, all the bad sh!t id get myself into went back to that awful day.

So sana, you come into terms and forgive yourself. Scars will always remain, but thats how life works

Para maiba naman, ikaw yung nasa other side of the coin. hehe

Inakupo, ako naman magpost ng masalimoot at kumplikadong emosyon? Hahahaha! Dude in case di mo alam, it hasn't been a secret that I did have a problem with alcohol and sought counselling for it. See a year ago, my bar friends are convincing me na iraos ko na lang ito at baka makatulong. Just have mindless sex with someone. Pero sa taong may depression hindi naman pleasurable ang orgasm. And besides, masyado akong maraming walls sa sarili ko nung panahon na ayun. I didn't wanna be intimate with anyone because Id feel defenseless.

After spending some time in counseling and seeking good professional advice, binago ko lifestyle ko. Kasi the better you treat your body, the better you feel about yourself. So aside from trying to complete a number of days being sober, and abstaining muna hangang mahanap ko yung perfect emotional balance. When I get to be intimate ulit with someone, I will want it to be special. lol Dramaaaaaaa!

Tsibog na lang pwede? Dun game ako! Ilang buwan na akong puro chicken breast at brocolli, wala pang coke huhuhu

 

Onga, E.Dantes, sama ka samin, may papakilala ako sayo brother, one time lang

Walang sabit yan ha!

 

Wag ka mag alala EDantes, SPA lang un pupuntahan natin at hindi MP...

hmmmmm Spa lang talaga ha.... sige na Im open to meet halfway lol

Actually, it cuts deep when you find out that the girl was only after your money. Of course, this is just me. By the way, this is not based on experience. I just know when I'm about to get conned so I know when to nip it in the bud that's why this never happened to me. Again, when going to these places, keep in mind that, to these ladies, it's all about the money, it's all about the dum dum dudum dum.

Sakin kasi, alam ko din naman na she had genuine feeling for me. I know she needed money. But I also know na ginagamit nya yung feelings namin sa isat isa para makautang lagi. Kahit nga ni minsan hindi naman ako binabayaran. Para sakin, panloloko pa din yun at some level. But to be fair with her, she really respected me ng maayos and ito kasi yung relationship na maganda closure. Tanggap namin pareho na babalik din sya sa bansa nya, and nangakong di kami magkakaroon ng sama ng loob sa isat isa in the days to come na di na kami magkikita.

If Pacquao really wants to make this fight happen he should impose on his promoter or fire him if he needs to

My gf akong thera. Matagal na kame. Hindi parin mawala sa isip ko kung ano ginagawa nya tuwing wala sya.

Then maybe di mo dapat pinasok itong relasyon na ito dont you think?

 

nope, un rebound ko nuon, activity based eh, Gym tsaka wakeboard, tapos beach, out of town most of the time, pag stressed out lang ako nuon kaya ako napapadpad sa batcave, and yun primary therapist ko nuon dun sa batcave ko eh, hindi sya un woman na sinasabe ko =) and she's out of the spa scene na din sya lately, I've finally convinced her to stop na. every time na umuuwe ako sa kanya, its like a normal setup, she cooks dinner, prepares my shirt for work, I got stuff at her place para kung dun ako mag spend ng gabi, at least sa umaga may gamit ako pag pasok sa office, ayos naman tulad din ng setup ko with my previous girlfriends, but now ine-evaluate ko din un mga past mistakes ko para hindi na maulet.

 

Maybe my major flaw way back is that I'm a career driven person before, to the point na neneglect ko un mga past girlfriend ko because I'm pursuing my career lalo na nung na second ako sa New York Office nung Firm namin dati. pag balik ko ng Pilipinas, wala na ako binalikan dun sa Apartment ng X ko. only my stuff were left. badvibes noh??? well ang lalake kasi parang Government Treasury Shares, it will take a significant amount of time to Mature...hahahah. pero lesson learned from all of it, is that, "Never Neglect A Woman's Feelings" sure sometimes that it may seem irrelevant, but if you add up every issues left un resolved, it would create a ripple that may ruin everything and you'll realize that everything is lost. Hopefully, Wag na mangyare ulet yun =)

 

oo naman!!! minsana kasi pag nag rreach ka na sa peak mo during the act itself, may mga words na hindi dapat sinasabe =) dun nag kaka mindf#&k, there's a very thin line between romance during sexy time and love itself.

OK good! Thats you chewing on that shame sandwich. Does you good doesn't it. Pero what I am really wondering is if you properly defended yourself emotionally noon? If I may share something, yun ang realization ko noon sa sarili ko. Dahil masaya ako, dahil mahal ko, I failed to emotionally look after myself. Hence I attracted the wrong women. See its not even always a case of them leaving, sometimes it was a case of them sticking around longer than they were supposed to. I guess what I am trying to say is sa lahat ng relasyon na papasukan mo, be fair sa sarili mo. Dont make compromises that will make you feel insecure sa sarili mo. See when all this said and done parekoy bros before..... well ayoko na gamitin yung salitang yun at may magagalit. Basta sa mga ganitong usapin syempre tayo tayong mga may Y-chromosome dapat nagkakampihan.

And maybe we can invite Sir Edmund sa mga batcave natin and refer him sa regular natin (Idamay pa sa kalokohan natin, B.I.)

Hahaha! Ok 2 conditions lang ako mga parekoy

1. Wala munang alak, I promised to complete a certain number of days being sober.

2. Wholesome muna ako hangat maari. Baka ako naman isang araw makita nyong sumasabit sa ganitong sitwasyon at magpost dito.

This happened to me before (and not only once!). It never ends in a nice way, but I don't regret the experience.

Well thats the important thing, tinaggap mo at natuto ka at yan na ang magiging bahagi ng pagbabago mo sa sarili mo.

When you go to places like these, you shouldn't be emotionally vulnerable, otherwise, you are sure to be caught in their web. Like I said in my previous post, girls in these professions are de facto psychiatrists and it is easy to get drawn to them if you're not careful. It is human nature to be drawn to persons who listen to you and give you undivided attention. To their clients, they can epitomize solace and succor.

Kaya nga always know your limits. Walang masama makipagkaibigan sa mga ganitong klaseng tao. Pero there are simply things you must not do to protect yourself emotionally. Like I said, naloko na din ako ng babae sa pera eh. Pero of all na ginago ako, ito yung madali ko napatawad. Kasi pera lang naman yan eh. Kikitain ko lang ulit. I am not filthy rich and all, but I do live naman comfortably. If one day mawalan ako ng trabaho, meron naman akong itinabi. Pero ang mapaglaruan emotionally, ang madurog pride mo bilang lalake, yun ang matindi at napakasakit. That sh!t stays with you for a while. A long long while.

Oo therapist nga sya pero, Hndi naman nya ako client, and pinatigil ko na sya. =)

Lets hope it stays that way, kasi tingin ko malaki laki emotional investment mo sa taong ito. Kung di sya magbabago, dude, durog sigurado pride mo bilang lalake nyan.

There is nothing wrong in falling in love with these girls but reality check is mas lower % of success rate compare to others. Mostly kasi sinasamantala lang ng mga theras yung vulneraibility nung guy or sometimes the other way around. But love don't care about statistics, they always say they can do anything in the name of love. They can move the world as they say. Those with better resources have higher chances though.

Anybody can fall in love, but just because you are in love with the person it does not mean you should pursue a serious relationship.

 

yun kasi naman talaga na experience ko, wrong choice of words lang hahahaha, as I have said, I had several girlfriends before na tulad ko na CPA din, may Nurse, Marketing Officer, Call Center Agent...lahat sila may matinong trabaho, but unfortunately, it didn't work out, some of them nag cheat, some of them hindi lang talaga kame compatible, pero they all have one thing in Common na medyo ouch, hindi ko alam kung coincidence lang, pero lahat sila, Nag Asawa after ko naging GF. That how f#&ked up may past relationships were. yun pala un kulang dun sa mga kwento ko E.D.

 

Note: Linawin ko lang, Hindi ko ako nag ge-generalize ng work, it so happen lang that before all of this roller coaster ride with my current woman, I had a life before na at one point ay naging masaya din ako, but it all went downhill for some reason na hanggang ngayon iniisip ko pa din what went wrong. =) Water under the bridge, I'm happy with this woman right now, settling down somewhere in the south by first quarter of next year.

Man,

This may not be something that youd like to hear, but truth of the matter is may kasalanan ka din most likely why those relationships failed or why you became so attractive to women of poor character. Again di ko sinasabing masama ka, ang sinasabi ko its healthy din kasi to sometimes chew on that shame sandwich paminsan minsan. Kasi dyan tayo matututo eh, pag tinanggap natin na may mali satin na dapat ayusin. Pag nagawa mo yan, hindi ka paulit ulit lang ng pagkakamali sa mga darating pang relasyon mo di ba?

Lahat naman ng babaeng dumarating sa buhay mo, at one point prinsesa sila, napasaya ka ng sobra, at "special". Higit pa dyan, hindi mo naman inakalang sasaksakin ka sa likod ng mga yan di ba?

Let me ask you this since naungkat naman, were you going to her place of work nung time na kagagaling mo lang sa isang breakup? Parang on a rebound course ka then nagkakilala kayo?

Maganda po ang isinusulat ninyo sir Edmund Dantes. Mas maganda po talaga kung ang ating babaeng napupusuan ay lalabas sa kanyang sarili sa industriyangito upang ihanda ang kanyang sarili para sa mga lalaking tulad po ninyo para po sila maging dapat.

 

Sa akin lang sir na matagal na sa industriya at marami nang kaibigan sa kanila at marami na ring natulungan maialis sa industriyang ito na di sila ginagarahe, ang natutunan ko po ay ito: people respond to incentives and rational people think at the margins.

 

Sa pagkakila ko po sa mga babae rito tulad ng maraming mga naging kaibigan nila, bubuksan nila ang kanilang pribadong buhay dahil alam nila na hindi sila huhusgahan. Malalaman po ninyo ang samu't- saring dahilan kung papaano at kung bakit sila nasa industriyang ito.

 

Malalaman din po ninyo na ang mga babae sa indusyriyang ito, informally ay marunong mag plano katulad po ng mga strategic management plans na itinuturo sa AIM.

 

Kung may type ka na thera, sinisiguro ko po sa iyo na hindi po niya iiwan ang kanyang plano dahil liligawan mo po siya.

 

Kaya mahirap paibigin ang thera. Mas mahirap kaysa sa ibang babae kasi pinatatag na sila ng mga lalake sa industriyang ito.

 

Kaya't kung may kapangyarihan ka naman sanpamamagitan ng talino, abilidad, diskarte, koneksiyon o panimulangnpamumuhunan, sa aking palagay mas marapat na tulungan sila sa mga oportunidad makaalis sa industriya kaysa idemand na umalis sila sa kanilang sarili para pagdapatin ang kanilang sarili.

 

Kung kaya nilang umalis sa sarili nila at kung ang kalalabasan ng pag alis ay mas mabuti kaysa manatili eh di wala na sila dapat sa industriyang ito in the first place, di po ba?

 

 

Sa pagkakilala ko po sa kanila, if the marginal benefits of leaving is greater than the marginal benefits of staying, these girls will stay out.

 

Yun naman pong mga may karelasyon na sa iba't - ibang lebel ng komitment, sa akin pong pagkakilala sa ilan sa kanila, mahirap pong magsalita ng mga sweeping statement na libog lang yan, infatuation, puro emotion, puso at puson etc.

 

Gaya po nang una kong post, kaysa maglabas po tayo ng sweeping generalizations at stereotypes, sikapin po katin tingnan ang bawa't kaso, bawa't relasyon, bawa't babae bilang unique o may sariling kakanyahan.

 

Patuloy po kayong magsulat at magtulak ng inyong mga prinsipyo sir Edmund. Kailangan pong mabasa ng nga gms ang inyong mga puntos bagonpo nila pasukin ang pakikipag relasyon sa mga babae sa industriya

Una sabi nyo ang mga babaeng ganito ay tulad din ng ibang babae na pwede magmahal. Pero sa post na ito, parang taga ibang planeta sila at napaka "special" kaya "special" people din ang pagbibigyan nila ng puso? hmmmmm. I don't particularly buy it only because may mga babae din naman sa labas ng industrya ang maingat magtiwala sa emosyon nila.

OO relationships are case to case. Pero healthy relationships in all forms require some level of maturity and being fair to your partner as well as to yourself. Lahat tayo basta masaya willing to make compromises na di natin naiintindihan ng gaano. Everything looks different kapag emosyon na ang nagiisip. Yung pangit nagiging maganda, yung baluktot nagiging tuwid. Ito na lang si Carding, will make naive sweeping generalizations na mas may prinsipyo pa pagdating sa pagibig ang mga babaeng ito kesa sa mga babaeng may office work.

Ang pagalis at pananatili ay responsibilidad ng babae mismo at hindi ng kung sino pa man. Kung mananatili sya, eh di pangatawanan nya na hindi pa sya handa para sa isang romantic relationship. Kasi hindi sya nagiging fair sa partner nya. At yung lalake hindi rin nagiging fair sa sarili nya. Kung iwanan nya trabaho nya na yan, matanggap ng lalake nakaraan nya, then better ang chances for healthy relationship.

Para sakin kung tutulungan babae makaalis sa gantiong trabaho, hindi ba mas maganda kung tutulungan sila ng walang kapalit na sexual or emotional favor? Mas sincere sakin yung ganun. Sincere both parties.

May isang nagsabi dito na tayo din naman mga lalake nagkaroon ng ibat ibang partners. OO tama yun! So in a way ang lalake pwedeng marumi din nakaraan. Pero dapat nakaraan na yun at di na babalikan. Kaya nga sa susunod na makahanap ako ng partner, gusto ko bukas na aklat nakaraan ko. Kasi gusto ko tanggapin nya kung ano at sino ako. Pero Im sure walang matinong babae tatangap sakin kung may ibang babae akong hinahawakan din.

Lastly, o huwag masyado ako patandain. Masyado naman magalang ang post mo.

Whew! It's been a while since I read this forum... Simply browsed through most posts.

 

To those people like C.Tigas:

 

If you put yourself in an objective state of mind, meaning, it's not you in the situation but someone dear to you like a brother, or maybe your son in the future. What would you advise them to do? If it's your son, what would you tell him to do?

 

Your answer to this question above will prove the right course of action.

 

To E. Dantes:

 

I for one appreciate your inputs, I look forward to your posts actually. But knowing human psychology, there are certain people who tend to get blinded when they get criticized for the things that they are doing. So instead of following yor advise, they become stubborn and go the opposite direction.

 

I'm in no way a psych guru, but if your intention is truly to help and advise people make the right decision in their life, maybe there's another way to reach to this group of people? Just thinking...

Like I said, sometimes what I say is appreciated, sometimes it is not. I am just really discussing a topic here, and when one offers himself to the table, then I guess wala naman masama if I volunteer to disect him. Maybe these people will listen to me, maybe they wont. Sakin kasi, hindi ko pa naranasan makipagrelasyon sa thera, MP, PSP etc. Pero I know the feeling of going against all odds because one woman just makes you feel so happy and secure. If I bank on one thing its the time and years I spent going in and out of relationships.

Customers of establishments where these ladies work should always think that the TLC is part of their job and more often than not, they don't mean it. It's the client's choice if he will take the girl's TLC seriously or not. To quote an immortal movie line, "Walang personalan, trabaho lang."

Good point! Kaya nga yung mga pumapasok sa ganitong lugar na medyo vulnerable emotionally ang madli natatamaan

 

Lifting a Quote from one of my favorite movie actor on one of his films "The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place... and I don´t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently, if you let it. You, me or nobody, is gonna hit as hard as life. But ain't about how hard you hit... It's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward... how much you can take, and keep moving forward. That´s how winning is done. Now, if you know what you worth, go out and get what you worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits. And not pointing fingers saying: You ain´t what you wanna be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain´t you! You´re better than that..." - Rocky Balboa

Lol! Idol ko din si Rocky Balboa. Well sana nga mapanindigan mo ito parekoy. Madali magbitaw ng mapapalabok na salita pag wala pa yung palo ng realidad sayo. Pero yun nga, sana nga tulad ng quote mo na yan, you can keep moving forward and taking the punches when mawala na yung infatuation or even attraction.

Tayong mga nagmahal na sa mga babae sa industriyang ito at sa mga gms na sa kasalukuyan ay nagmamahal sa kanila, naiintindihan natin ang concerns ni sir Edmund Dantes. Talaga pong hindi biro ang mahalin sila in terms of time, treasure, understanding, patience, trust, faithfulness, forgiveness, forgetting, sacrifices, etc. Maayos pong napapahayag ni ginoong Dantes lahat po ng mga yaon sa calculus of risk minimization under uncertainty and asymmetric information.

 

Sa kabilang dako naman, naiintindihan din natin ang puso, isipan at kalagayan ni sir Cardingtigas dahil dinaanan na natin at sa iba, dinadaanan ang nangyayari at nararanasan niya.

 

Sa aking sariling palagay, kapag lumaya na ang ating isipan sa stereotypes na ating nakagisnan, mamumulat tayo sa pagtanggap sa bawat babae at sa bawat relasyon bilang unique o kakaiba. Ito marahil ang magbibigay at nagbibigay sa marami na hindi maging sarado kay sir Edmund pero may tibay ng kalooban para di maging duwag sa hamon ng isang kakaibang relasyon.

Himala, magalang at parang di kumukulo dugo mo sakin ngayon. Lol!

Ulit lang, hindi issue ang pagkatao ng mga babaeng nasa ganitong industrya. Hindi ito basta basta paglalagay ng stigma sa kahit kanino. Ang pinaguusapan natin ay context ng isang seryosong romantic na relationship. Lahat ng relasyon nilalagay dapat sa tama at pinaghahandaan. Hindi dapat magbibigay ng unfair compromise dahil lang sa nararamdaman. Kaya nga kalokohan yung "understand from the heart" na yan eh. Feel with your heart, but understand with your mind. Emotional intelligence ang tawag dun.

Sa madaling salita, kung gusto ng babae pumasok sa romantic relationship, eh di iwan nya trabaho nya at magbago sya ng linya. Kundi nya kaya iwan, eh hindi pa sya handa ibig sabihin panindigan ang isang seryosong relasyon. Ganun!

Lets just be happy for them whoever they maybe. Respect their decisions. Di natin alam kung ano ending pro at least they are trying...

 

 

kikala ko ba yan boss carding?

Sabi ko nga, hindi komo medyo antagonist ang dating ko eh ibig sabihin ayaw kong maging masaya ang kahit na sino. Ang mga magulang natin kung minsan antagonistic din ang dating, pero hindi ibig sabihin nun ayaw nila tayo maging masaya. Isa pa, tulad ng paulit ulit na sinasabi dito, sa isang taong masaya, lahat nagiging tama. Walang mali

Hehehe eto nanaman ako masyadong contrabulate.

Lahat gusto ng happy ending. Pero being realistic, hindi totoo ang mga romcom at fairy tale happy endings. Ang ibig ko sabihin kung sa totoong buhay nangyari kwento ni Cinderella, taon matapos yung kasal magaaway malamang sila ng prince charming nya. Pwedeng malosyang din sya pagkatapos manganak at magkakabilbil si Prince Charming. lol.

I am not trying to sound pessimistic here. Ang punto ko, happy endings in real life are not all rainbows and sunshines all the way through. Dadaan kayo sa mga pagsubok at maraming away. At kung yang infatuation lang na meron kayo sa isat isa panghahawakan nyo, eh hindi kayo magtatagal. kahit sinong beterano na sa maraming cycles ng paguumpisa ng relasyon at pagtatapos nito sasabihin na hindi sapat yung happiness na nararamdaman mo to say its a relationship worth having. Ang key talaga dapat is matibay yung foundation ninyo. Matagal yung naging evolution at solid.

Sa kaso ni Cardingtigas, of course we all wish him the best. Sana yung babae eh totoo yung sincerity at sana din pareng carding, kaya mo panindigan ng mabuti desisyon mo. Sana at sana talaga na kung dumating na yung panahon na past infatuation phase na talaga kayo at nandun na sa puntong hindi lagi sumisikat maganda araw eh hindi na mauungkat nakaraan nung babae. Kasi masakit yan sa babae pag biglang bugso ng damdamin masusumbat mo yan. Ngayon oo tanggap mo at balewala kasi masaya ka pa.

Maliwanag naman isip ko, and last night we talked about our situation, convinced her to retire from thr spa scene and focus on her last sem, as in total retirement na nya and ayaw ko na din sya pag work sa ganun industry, we both consider na mag enter sya sa corporate world with in the next few months after her graduation, with that part sa tingin i could work things out for her, kahit entry level muna. Hopefully everything would workout. =)

 

Ok din naman kasi we have plans on spendingthe holidays down south

Mabuti kung ganun then. Sana lang she appreciates the help she is getting

Here is another tip I got.

Do most of your lifts from a standing position instead of a seated one. For example, if you do the military press, bicep curl, shrugs, or any shoulder exercise dont use a gym chair. What this does is force your core and leg muscles to tighten up. Kaya nga pag nahihirapan na sa bicep curls minsan sa paa at sikmura ka hihingi ng pwersa.

Depends what your fitness goals are.

If you really wanna be massive then of course they help.

Pero in my case, since kuntento ako sa frame ko at gusto ko na lang magkaroon ng definitions mas ok sakin ang wala and all natural healthy eating. Para kasi sakin, mas preferred ko yung swimmer physique than a bodybuilders. Tama lang yun laki, proportional yung muscles, hindi naman pumuputok na mga ugat kung san san. Ok din ang fighters physique, huwag lang tipong parang 0% body fat na gaya kay Timothy Bradley. Di rin maganda tignan yun.

Although, supplements help add the calories you need to fuel your hectic workouts. Alangan naman kumain ka lagi, so mas convenient kung iinomin mo na lang.

 

lalo na squats and dead lifts, pero wag na wag kalimutan ang leg raise to failure =)

The squat is one of the best weighted exercise there is. I think in any training program dapat kasali ito. It mainly hits thighs but it activates almost all your muscle groups including forearms

This is one exercise I dont really try to add too much weights on, instead I practice going lower lower lower until makuha ko yung ass-to-grass form. Squat kasi is more about perfect form than weight. And yes maganda tama nya sa core kasi kelangan higpitan mo husto sikmura mo at likod para makuha mo ng sobrang pababa.

All relationships are about taking risks, but calculate your risks properly. Hindi lang dapat damdamin lagi masusunod. Kasi kung puro damdamin lang, magco-collapse din yan pagdating ng panahon na tapos na kayo sa infatuation phase. Never make compromises na unfair sa sarili mo, if you can't be fair with yourself, then how do you expect your partner to be fair in the relationship?

anyone tried roller? Im thinking of buying one

Yeah I do this, masaya ito at malakas tama sa abs

But I dont do core so much. Kahit anon lifts naman halos you can workout the core din

Saw the terminator genisys trailer and.....

I got a bad feeling about this. I am a huge T1 and and T2 judgement day fan. T3 was watchable because at the time, Arnold in his 50s still got it. T4 was crap. This one? Well its nice Arnold is back, but..... on the flipside maybe this looks like a character that does not make sense anymore for his age. Parang mas ok kung si the Rock naman. I understand that this is supposed to be an aging T800, but who wants to see that really? He hardly looks badass from what I saw in the trailer.

Moreover, parang ang pangit ng storyline. Reboot of the first movie and I am like.... uh.... why? If it aint broke don't fix this it. Masyado nilang ginugulo timeline ng franchise. Isa pa, puro lahat reference lang to previous T1 and T2 movies. Ibang iba na talaga franchise nung nawala na vision ni James Cameron.

Oh well, Ill still give this movie a chance

3 importanteng aral ang natutunan ko ngayong taon na ito. At pag sinabi kong natutunan ko, magiging bahagi na ito ng kung sino ako.

1. Its your obligation to love yourself. To truly love ones self, we must learn to forgive ourselves for our mistakes no matter how grave they are. More importantly, learn to have emotional independence. Hindi ka lagi pwede umasa sa ibang tao para pasiyahin ka. Hindi rin pwedeng sa ibang tao ka hihingi ng emotional needs na dapat ikaw nagbibigay sa sarili mo. When you do not have emotional independence you always seek validation from others, and thats how you get abused.

2. To truly move on, you have to be willing to let go of the good memories, the bad memories, and the person you used to be. Take only the lessons learned at huwag na magaksaya ng oras panghinayangan ang mga nawala na. Magsumikap na lang mapalitan ito ng bago. Higit sa lahat, baguhin na din sarili mo. Kasi the experience made you more mature and wise, so hindi na ikaw ang taong nasa nakaraan mo.

3. Embrace pain. Do not run away from pain. Embrace it. Sabi nga ni Robert Downey Jr. "embrace the cactus". While I may not be blissfully happy at the moment, the pain I feel helped shape a stronger and wiser me. My pain is what motivates me to be better than I was yesterday. Pain teaches us something and we should embrace it.

To be stronger and wiser than you are happy

 

Your comments and suggestions really helps a lot of GMs including me. And I read your stories before, glad your okay now, Maybe having professional help really fasten the recovery.

Salamat naman kung nakakatulong parekoy. Pero I am a sport din naman kung minsan meron tayong naiinis. Naiintindihan ko reactions nila, kasi naging ganun din naman ako. Ibaiba nga lang siguro tayo ng mga sitwasyon, pero sa huli may mga common behavioral patterns tayo.

Di man aminin ng ilan, may mga pumumunta sa mga threads na ganito para maghanap ng tulong o kalinawagan. Kaso minsan ang gusto nilang tulong ay validation.

Napansin ko na marami sa mga GMs dito ang naga-abiso na pumunta sa MP, mangtable ng babae etc tuwing duguan ang puso. Nung ako yung sugatan yan din abiso sakin. Pero sa totoo lang, walang matutulong ang rebound sex sa rehabilitation mo. Pagkatapos mo makaraos at lahat, andyan pa din sayo yung problema na di mo inaayos. Isa pa, I think going to these places when you are emotionally vulnerable is dangerous. Syempre you will be intimate ng konti sa babae, papakitaan ka ng pagaalaga, madali ka talaga mainfatuate which you can easily mistake for love. The lady maybe sincere or not, but at the end of the day relationships are about fair setups. Not making unnecessary compromises dahil lang tingin nyo nagmamahalan kayo.

Totoong its better talaga to try and seek professional help and get some counseling if you feel you need it. At least a doctor can give you something to help you sleep and fix your appetite sa pagkain. Nilalagyan lang kasi masamang stigma lagi ang mga taong gusto ng professional help as sira ulo satin. Which I think is ignorant. Yes it really did help me a lot find the right solutions to my problems then. Hindi ko pa masasabing 100% ok na ako, lets just say I learned to deal with my pain better. And dumadating na din sa punto na natuto ako ng sobra.

Para sa diwa ng paskong parating, tara boys shot tayo!!! Constructive naman un mga sinasabe nyo and hndi naman ako na ooffend, mahirap lang mag construct ng reply mahina ako sa grammar kasi hahahaha...

Hahahaha! Id love to parekoy. Kaso mahirap yan eh. I have to complete a certain number of days being sober. If you read my post from about 8 months to a year ago, you will see na I had a problem with alcohol. Lol! Of course ngayon pwede ko na tawanan matapos ko umatend ng counselling at sundin recovery program ko. So ayan, may idea ka na ng pinagdaanan ko. Lahat yan dahil sa babae din. Kaya nga sabi ko, kung ako lang, hindi ko gugustuhin ang kahit na sinong kapwa ko lalake na daanan pinagdaanan ko. Tell you what, ako na lang sasagot ng first round nyo ni mason, at ako na lang magmamaneho pag lasing na kayo.

Seriously though, I am happy you take my posts constructively. Look, wala samin ang gusto na di ka maging masaya at fulfilled. Sabi ko nga dun sa isa, I wish him all the best at sana di sya lokohin ng babae because as a true fellow male species, Id hate that bitch pag niloko sya. Ikaw ang masusunod sa anong gusto mo sa huli. Kaya sana depensahan mo yang puso mo ng maigi. Tandaan mo, if you are willing to give a lot more, then walang masama if you demand something from her and ask her to be worthy of it. Don't ever short change yourself

I would have to agree with the Count of Monte Cristo although it is spelled with a "U" instead of an "O" because there is already someone by that name. Trivialities aside, ED sympathizes and empathizes with CT since ED had already been there. To those who are involved in this kind of relationship, ask yourselves these questions:

 

1. Are you willing to introduce these girls to your parents/relatives?

 

2. Are you ready to take the backlash that comes with it?

 

3. Are you ready to be disavowed by your friends and relatives?

 

4. Are you willing to support the girl's relatives?

 

If the answer to all the four is a resounding yes, then, by all means, go for it, but, if not, just let it go.

Yeah thats true. Hindi ko intensyon na manghamak ng babae at mangbasag ng kaligayahan ng kapwa ko lalake. Lalake din ako at alam ko kung ano ang pakiramdam ng lokohin ka ng babae. Di na bale pera eh. Kikitain mo lang yan. Madali mo mapapatawad babae dahil sa pera. Pero yung durugin pride mo, paglaruan emosyon mo etc. Yun ang napakahirap. Dumaan din ako sa period ng depression at yung inabot ko, hinding hindi ko gugustuhin mangyari kahit sa kanino mang kapwa ko lalake. Kahit gaano ko kagalit.

Ayan pareng carding, valid questions ang mga yan. try mo sagutin mga tanong ni Pareng Mason sayo at pagisipan mo ng maayos. Malamang kalaban tingin mo samin pero sa bagay na yan naiintindihan ka namin. Sa huli lahat naman ng sinasabi namin ay para din sayo di ba?

Again if I had not said it enough, lahat ng babae sa industryang ito dapat bigyan ng pagkakataon magbagong buhay. Wala tayong problema dyan. Kaya nga sana, bago sila pumasok sa isang relasyon, talikuran na muna ang buhay na yan. Para din naman yan sa ikakaayos ng reslsyon eh

Papa jack ikaw ba yan? =)

I have been called that a lot in this thread lol. I don't exactly know who this guy is, I only know he has a radio program. But like I said before, I don't expect to make many friends dito sa thread na ito.

Contrary to what you might wanna think na di kita naiintindihan, sobrang naiintindihan kita. Kahit nga yung halatang pagkainis mo na, naiintindihan ko din. Kasi dinaanan ko din naman yan. Ang mga response na "wala kayong alam", "hindi nyo ako naiintindihan", "buhay ko ito" "tignan nyo nga muna mga sarili nyo", lahat yan sinabi ko din. I acted like a rebellious teenager who is lovestruck. I treated anyone who didn't give me my validation as a threat to my happiness. But I learned that the last thing a fish notices is water.

If I am thankful for one thing in all those cycles of falling in love, hurting, and going through phases of self-destruction is that natuto naman ako ng husto. Kaya nga yung huli kong heartbreak, di ako nagmadali pumasok sa isa nanamang relasyon kahit andyan may kumakatok and offering tenderness and care I could use. BUT I chose the path of embracing my pain and allowing it to teach me lessons I keep refusing to learn when I was happier.

 

I can do what you suggest even date other theras but that's not my intention (to have sex), pera lang yan okay na. What I want is to go out with her so we can know each other further if there will be a future in it?

What I am saying, does it have to be women from this industry in particular? You can do that with other women from outside the trade too. Whats stopping you?

I think that's true on ordinary working girls, but on these girls na into this kind of work, you have first to prove to them that you respect the thera you are pursuing so she will know and understand that they don't court you and be your GF just to get free sex but rather to have a true relationships. Then kung okay na kayo sa isa't isa then tsaka papasok yung sex without inhibitions kasi lama na ang iyong true intentions.

Yun na nga sinasabi ko. Pano na pag pumasok kayo dun. Syempre sa umpisa ang saya saya. But what if the reality of the situation starts to catch up and become real already? You have given so much of yourself sa tao, and pano kung wala kang panghawakan in the end. Kaya nga di ba? Yung iba gusto hangang friendship lang, walang romance walang sex. Yung iba naman sex lang gusto. Kasi walang panghahawakan sa huli

ano man ang trabaho legit or not, love and romance is universal. kung main love ka sa thera or mpa then go! you will still undergo the same ups and downs of a relationship maybe you'll get the results as your past failed relationships and if maganda naman sa tingin mo ang kalalabasan then good for you CardingT.

 

in defense of EdmundD, concerned lang naman siya siguro sa yo CardingT. Maybe based on EdmundD experience or his friend's experience, just giving his opinion/advise ikaw pa din ang masusunod di ba Carding?

 

And to leave this forum for today....a quote from John Bridger(Donald Sutherland) in the movie The Italian Job "Find somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with, and hold onto her forever."

Yep true. I dont expect many friends for saying what I do here. Surely nerves are gonna be tapped. I try to keep it civil naman, but sometimes some will act really childish at pepersonalin ka dahil lang hindi mo binibigay gusto nilang validation. But its all good, hindi naman lahat hateful sa sinasabi ko. In fact one thank me, and another one medyo taking naman what I said with an open mind.

Pero I agree romance is universal. Heartbreak is heartbreak. Thats why, sabi nga di ba, a bird and a fish could fall in love but where would they live.