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Posted 22 October 2015 - 08:35 AM

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Posted 23 October 2015 - 03:12 PM

Saw this on the other thread. Some sort of a "Success Story"

 

 

Just sharing..

I, myself, have been a Thera before in a MP, 6 years ago.. I've been through this kind of relationship wherein one of my guests got me out of this industry and supported me financially.. His name was RM, he was my regular for about 3 months and he used to visit me in my workplace around 3-4 times a week (with ES) and he picks me up from work almost every night.. We are not in a "commitment" as what he always say.. He insists that he's a businessman and he doesn't have time and chance to engage in a romantic relationship.. He said he just wanted to help me, that's all.. I was then a nursing student who stopped for two years due to financial incapacity. An amount of 30k is hitting my account every 8th of the month, nothing compared to how much I am earning but a great start for people like me who wanted to quit the job and focus on my studies. Just so you know, this started as a deal between us. The only thing he's asking in return is for me to quit and forget the industry I have been for more than a year. He asked me to change my number and not communicate with anybody from the said business - friends, guests, co-theras, everybody.. He wanted me to meet new friends, new environment.. I did so not until his mom found out about a "ghost employee" in their company's payroll.. Yes, he is a bachelor, a businessman, an expat and a mama's boy..
It was so sudden when I stopped receiving my monthly 'support', and haven't heard from him for a month, wherein he used to call and chat with me every night before he goes to sleep.. Just heard about his "mom" thing from a former colleague.. Yes, he still visits the MP.. The awkward thing is, from the day we had the deal, he stopped "doing" it with me..
He said he wanted me to feel like a normal person and get the respect that he wants me to receive.. I loved him, yes... I loved him that much that I feel jealous whenever I hear about the different therapists he is getting everytime he visits my former workplace.. But of course, I can't complain.. One of the rules is for me to not get in touch again with anybody from the 'business'.. Afraid that he will question me back.. I have broken only this rule.. But I NEVER EVER did it with ANYBODY again.. I don't have a boyfriend that time and it's him that I consider as my boyfriend though he doesn't see it that way..
To cut the story short, I went back to college to pursue my studies with the help of his money.. I was in my 3rd year then.. Though it lasted for only 6 months, I kept the promise to myself that I won't go back since I already got out.. I managed to be a scholar in a university.. fees weren't that high, my dad was self employed, my mom got a job from a security agency as a lady guard.. In short, I made it.. I graduated last 2010, passed the board exam in my first take.. I am working as a staff nurse here in Abu Dhabi for 2 years now.. Still single, 28, yet love life is in the least of my priority..
Haven't heard of him until now.. He changed his number 6 years ago..
If we will be given the chance to bump with each other again, I would really want to give him a big hug and express my gratitude and big big thanks for helping me "get-out".. Wondering if it weren't for him, I may not be where I am now.. He's got a special place in my heart and he will never be forgotten..

Sorry, I'm not that good in composing a blog like this but I hope it's still understable..
Just sharing..

 



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Posted 23 October 2015 - 07:17 PM

i want to hear therapist falling in love with client



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Posted 26 October 2015 - 08:33 AM

Any successful story?

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Posted 08 November 2015 - 09:31 AM

Alam mo yung ok naman kayo. Intimacy level is high. Tapos pag wala ka dahil late siya sa reservation nya sayo or kung wala ka talaga, kumukuha siya ng iba kasi ung akala mong ok, release lang pala ang hanap. That makes you a release too. Nakaka turn off boo! And oo, nakakairita mga ganung client. So sa mga nagtatanong, oo naka affect lalo na kung isa siya sa pinunta no sa araw na yun.

Edited by Mistress Mia, 08 November 2015 - 09:37 AM.


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Posted 08 November 2015 - 10:03 AM

Alam mo yung ok naman kayo. Intimacy level is high. Tapos pag wala ka dahil late siya sa reservation nya sayo or kung wala ka talaga, kumukuha siya ng iba kasi ung akala mong ok, release lang pala ang hanap. That makes you a release too. Nakaka turn off boo! And oo, nakakairita mga ganung client. So sa mga nagtatanong, oo naka affect lalo na kung isa siya sa pinunta no sa araw na yun.


Ms Mia bf mo ba siya or client lang? Or client na almost maging jowa? Kasi kung client lang, at isa lang siya sa marami, wala namang reason magselos.

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Posted 08 November 2015 - 01:00 PM

Ms Mia bf mo ba siya or client lang? Or client na almost maging jowa? Kasi kung client lang, at isa lang siya sa marami, wala namang reason magselos.


Unang una, hindi naman ako Thera. I go to the spa and accept clients upon special request. For you to not know this ok lang pero not only that the money is wasted for travel but also the effort and time.

Second, intimacy? Not jowa he's married, not gf, if I were his gf I wouldn't be accepting any other client, let's just say a regular client with special bonding. We go out and he met my family but as a guest lang siya when I held a party.

So, uulitin ko, we have a different chemistry. He reserved me, he is 2 hours late. I had to accept other request dahil buffer ako sa amount ng Thera vs. Client na dumadating and poof. Pumunta siya, looked for me and when I'm not there to get him, he took another Thera.

Let's just simply put it this way. Di ko siya inaangkin but most of my clients either wait or go home without getting others if I'm not around.

So as far as I can remember, we have a special bond not a relationship pero mas matino at loyal pa yung ibang regulars ko sa kanya. It didn't hurt me. It pissed me off.
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Posted 09 November 2015 - 08:10 AM

Unang una, hindi naman ako Thera. I go to the spa and accept clients upon special request. For you to not know this ok lang pero not only that the money is wasted for travel but also the effort and time.

Second, intimacy? Not jowa he's married, not gf, if I were his gf I wouldn't be accepting any other client, let's just say a regular client with special bonding. We go out and he met my family but as a guest lang siya when I held a party.

So, uulitin ko, we have a different chemistry. He reserved me, he is 2 hours late. I had to accept other request dahil buffer ako sa amount ng Thera vs. Client na dumadating and poof. Pumunta siya, looked for me and when I'm not there to get him, he took another Thera.

Let's just simply put it this way. Di ko siya inaangkin but most of my clients either wait or go home without getting others if I'm not around.

So as far as I can remember, we have a special bond not a relationship pero mas matino at loyal pa yung ibang regulars ko sa kanya. It didn't hurt me. It pissed me off.


Thank you po sa clarification. Nakakainis talaga yung mga late sa reservation. Tapos kukuha pa ng iba.

One question na lang po: since you said na di ka tthera pero nagmamassage at nag-es sa espa,ano po ang dapat na classification sa iyo?

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Posted 09 November 2015 - 10:03 AM

Thank you po sa clarification. Nakakainis talaga yung mga late sa reservation. Tapos kukuha pa ng iba.
One question na lang po: since you said na di ka tthera pero nagmamassage at nag-es sa espa,ano po ang dapat na classification sa iyo?


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Posted 09 November 2015 - 01:55 PM

Thank you po sa clarification. Nakakainis talaga yung mga late sa reservation. Tapos kukuha pa ng iba.
One question na lang po: since you said na di ka tthera pero nagmamassage at nag-es sa espa,ano po ang dapat na classification sa iyo?


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Posted 09 November 2015 - 05:27 PM

Unang una, hindi naman ako Thera. I go to the spa and accept clients upon special request. For you to not know this ok lang pero not only that the money is wasted for travel but also the effort and time.

Second, intimacy? Not jowa he's married, not gf, if I were his gf I wouldn't be accepting any other client, let's just say a regular client with special bonding. We go out and he met my family but as a guest lang siya when I held a party.

So, uulitin ko, we have a different chemistry. He reserved me, he is 2 hours late. I had to accept other request dahil buffer ako sa amount ng Thera vs. Client na dumadating and poof. Pumunta siya, looked for me and when I'm not there to get him, he took another Thera.

Let's just simply put it this way. Di ko siya inaangkin but most of my clients either wait or go home without getting others if I'm not around.

So as far as I can remember, we have a special bond not a relationship pero mas matino at loyal pa yung ibang regulars ko sa kanya. It didn't hurt me. It pissed me off.

 

ouch... :mellow:


Edited by Flirtpool, 09 November 2015 - 05:29 PM.


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Posted 09 November 2015 - 06:24 PM

ouch... :mellow:


Hmmm sorry

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Posted 09 November 2015 - 09:59 PM

interesting topic.

 

because of everyones input, i  remembered something that a friend said.

 

Friend 1: " hey guys i just met maria ozawa!"

Crew: "ooohhh congrats! (and then usual guy stuff)"

..

Friend 1: "she shook my hand, ugh!" 

               "i immediately washed my hand, how many d***s..."

 

..

and this was a decent guy, gentleman, wont touch someone who has a boyfriend even if the girl was the one to initiate.

 

its sad how some people no matter how smart they are and even if they have a good upbringing , can still say something like this.

 

people (me and women) should be more educated and look at this from a larger perspective and not from what... whatever it is that degrade people who work in this industry.

 

PSE's do this as a job, and they are looked down upon, but i know people who just f#&k around for free and you dont hear people bad mouthing them like that.

 

even if you look at this from a logical point of view, it makes sense, at least for me (and the numbers).

 

 

 

we are human, it is normal to fall. how many people go through with love even though they know it might hurt them in the future?

the pain is worth it, at least for those moments.

 

i agree. it's funny how other people think of themselves as someone who's so clean and mighty while belittling girls from these type of industries. but in reality they're even worse.


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Posted 10 November 2015 - 12:43 PM

 

i agree. it's funny how other people think of themselves as someone who's so clean and mighty while belittling girls from these type of industries. but in reality they're even worse.

 

it's hypocrisyand foolish to think of ourselves as above them simply because we pay them and they serve our earthly desires...

 

actually, wala na pinag-iba ang thera/MPA/GRO/PSP at ang mga parukyano nila...idagdag mo na yun mga handlers/pimps/managers/bugaws at ang mga corrupt officials and whoever is  making money out of this racket...

 

both are doing illegal and criminal acts ....equally liable...equally guilty...


Edited by manananggol, 10 November 2015 - 12:44 PM.


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Posted 10 November 2015 - 01:01 PM

it's hypocrisyand foolish to think of ourselves as above them simply because we pay them and they serve our earthly desires...
 
actually, wala na pinag-iba ang thera/MPA/GRO/PSP at ang mga parukyano nila...idagdag mo na yun mga handlers/pimps/managers/bugaws at ang mga corrupt officials and whoever is  making money out of this racket...
 
both are doing illegal and criminal acts ....equally liable...equally guilty...


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Posted 10 November 2015 - 01:27 PM

At last, I can share a story to all of you; Although I'm not really sure if it should be posted in this thread or in the other.

There was this client named Jigs whom I met. He was a real gentleman. He's not young, 47 to be precised and yes, he has a family. He and his wife is not legally separated yet tho they only have the marital agreement on paper but not through their relationship anymore. When he saw me, he immediately asked me questions like, "what if there is someone that is willing to accept you for what you are and tonsupport you, would you agree? And what do you need to make that relationship work?" I was blunt, I told him, "Communication, responsibility and financial support". He was glad of my answer and he asked me that very same question not only twice but I think at least 5 times until he proposed. He said, "I'm not getting younger and I need to find the woman for me". He asked me how much I am earning per month and I told him, my basic salary is just an estimation of 25k per month but I'm earning around 40-60k depending on my mood and if probably there is lesser abuse of short changing scenarios.

He said, I am earning at least 500k a month and I am willing to support you. He was outright and straight forward with his offer but I'm not a newbie. I mean, I used to receive those indecent proposals way back I was younger and not because a man promised you of something, it's true, right?

Now going back, on our first meeting, we had our first session and he handed over 4k. The thing that was turning me off is he was enforcing me to stop working and to respond "I love you too"everytime he say "I love you".

Now, I can't just stop. He hasn't given me the amount he promised. What if it's just talkshit? I can't also say what he was asking. How on earth can someone tell you "I love you" on the very same day that he met you? Call me a bitch but not a liar.

The next day, he wanted to meet again for a lunch date but I can't since I'm too busy with my stuffs at home. I explained to him that I'm looking after 2 babies in the afternoon. My daughter and my lil bro. But he keep on asking me out in the afternoon. As the day goes by, he became more and more demanding. Well, it's understandable because he's leaving for Oman already. But, I keep on suggesting him that we should meet in the evening. Days passed we failed. If he's not available, he is not replying.

And then before he left, he was showing this mellow drama attidue of "Siguro hindi ako ang lalaking para sayo" and that instantly cut my temper out. Ayoko sa drama especially when there is no feelings involved. At least not yet, remember, we only met once.

I told him, "I already told you of my availability, I was suggesting a time for us but it's you who's not responding during the evenings. I told you I'm still looking for kasambabays. Now if you can't understand my situation, take your offer with you because I can live without submitting to someone who can't understand my situation".

The very least I can probably do is let him go. I may not really be for someone with that kind of relationship. But yeah, it's a fail story. Time is important and understanding too.

Edited by Mistress Mia, 10 November 2015 - 01:34 PM.

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Posted 10 November 2015 - 01:50 PM

At last, I can share a story to all of you; Although I'm not really sure if it should be posted in this thread or in the other.

There was this client named Jigs whom I met. He was a real gentleman. He's not young, 47 to be precised and yes, he has a family. He and his wife is not legally separated yet tho they only have the marital agreement on paper but not through their relationship anymore. When he saw me, he immediately asked me questions like, "what if there is someone that is willing to accept you for what you are and tonsupport you, would you agree? And what do you need to make that relationship work?" I was blunt, I told him, "Communication, responsibility and financial support". He was glad of my answer and he asked me that very same question not only twice but I think at least 5 times until he proposed. He said, "I'm not getting younger and I need to find the woman for me". He asked me how much I am earning per month and I told him, my basic salary is just an estimation of 25k per month but I'm earning around 40-60k depending on my mood and if probably there is lesser abuse of short changing scenarios.

He said, I am earning at least 500k a month and I am willing to support you. He was outright and straight forward with his offer but I'm not a newbie. I mean, I used to receive those indecent proposals way back I was younger and not because a man promised you of something, it's true, right?

Now going back, on our first meeting, we had our first session and he handed over 4k. The thing that was turning me off is he was enforcing me to stop working and to respond "I love you too"everytime he say "I love you".

Now, I can't just stop. He hasn't given me the amount he promised. What if it's just talkshit? I can't also say what he was asking. How on earth can someone tell you "I love you" on the very same day that he met you? Call me a bitch but not a liar.

The next day, he wanted to meet again for a lunch date but I can't since I'm too busy with my stuffs at home. I explained to him that I'm looking after 2 babies in the afternoon. My daughter and my lil bro. But he keep on asking me out in the afternoon. As the day goes by, he became more and more demanding. Well, it's understandable because he's leaving for Oman already. But, I keep on suggesting him that we should meet in the evening. Days passed we failed. If he's not available, he is not replying.

And then before he left, he was showing this mellow drama attidue of "Siguro hindi ako ang lalaking para sayo" and that instantly cut my temper out. Ayoko sa drama especially when there is no feelings involved. At least not yet, remember, we only met once.

I told him, "I already told you of my availability, I was suggesting a time for us but it's you who's not responding during the evenings. I told you I'm still looking for kasambabays. Now if you can't understand my situation, take your offer with you because I can live without submitting to someone who can't understand my situation".

The very least I can probably do is let him go. I may not really be for someone with that kind of relationship. But yeah, it's a fail story. Time is important and understanding too.

Thanks for that sharing Ms Mia..

 

Medyo premature pa siguro lang yung offer ni kuya "Jigs"....for you to seriously consider and accept his offer, dapat medyo may enough time for you if he's for real or drawing lang.....

 

Yung 4k is not even enough to signify if the dude was truly generous...

 

He wants to meet during daytime is a sign that he needs to be home by  night time hehe...

 

besides, did you even like the guy as a potential boyfriend and exclusive partner?..

 

Just my take..


Edited by manananggol, 10 November 2015 - 01:51 PM.


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Posted 10 November 2015 - 02:06 PM

I'm going to extrapolate from what i read from your post but alarm bells went off in my head when you mentioned that he only wanted to meet at lunch. That's the only time he's available? With regards to his "so called" separation with his wife. it seems like a moot conjecture. If they were truly separated he would show sincerity and adjust his schedule so he can meet you.

 

And the no replies suggests, he might be with his family so he can't really message you. I don't buy the "he's leaving for Oman" excuse because clearly he is hurrying you to go and meet with him. Clearly he wanted to seal the deal with you so he could probably add you to his list of conquests. It sounds awfully like a booty call.

 

From your description, the guy seems high on himself and he feels like a self indulgent prick looking to score.

 

In summary, not a serious guy. He tried to sell you on how much he was making by asking you that. I guess that's straightforward talk but it reeks of desperation to me.

 

It's not a failed story. but a failed attempt to score on you. Don't bother with these type of guys. Not worth it



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Posted 10 November 2015 - 02:48 PM

I'm going to extrapolate from what i read from your post but alarm bells went off in my head when you mentioned that he only wanted to meet at lunch. That's the only time he's available? With regards to his "so called" separation with his wife. it seems like a moot conjecture. If they were truly separated he would show sincerity and adjust his schedule so he can meet you.
 
And the no replies suggests, he might be with his family so he can't really message you. I don't buy the "he's leaving for Oman" excuse because clearly he is hurrying you to go and meet with him. Clearly he wanted to seal the deal with you so he could probably add you to his list of conquests. It sounds awfully like a booty call.
 
From your description, the guy seems high on himself and he feels like a self indulgent prick looking to score.
 
In summary, not a serious guy. He tried to sell you on how much he was making by asking you that. I guess that's straightforward talk but it reeks of desperation to me.
 
It's not a failed story. but a failed attempt to score on you. Don't bother with these type of guys. Not worth it


He don't live with his family. He has his own flat in a condo somewhere near my place.

Although yes, right before we meet, he already said that he will leave. He is I believe head of the engineering department. He goes to other country for a month and will stay here for a month and he will leave again. He told me that I was his routine.

Anyway, ano gusto nya? Iwan ko mga bantay ko right? No way I'm gonna stay with a man who cant understand my shits. :)

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Posted 11 November 2015 - 01:12 AM

ano po nararamdan nyo girls kapag meron na kayong bf pero d kasal live in lng tpos may anak na kyo, tpos dumating ung single na lalake na gm  na sobrang mahal na mahal ka  tanggap ang lahat sa iyo, effort hanggang sa makakaya nya, sincere, khit hindi mamahaling bagay pero napapasaya ka, thoughtful generous and kind. alam nyang may ka live in ka pero minamahal ka parin nya, pero d sya ganun kayaman , may kaya lng na kaya ka lng suportahan minsan. titignan nyo bang tanga etong lalakeng eto? talo rin sya sa huli kc may pamilya na kayo mas pipiliin nyo ang future ng anak nyo dba na magkaroon ng tatay at completo ang pamilya nyo kahit gaano kayo kahirap at minsan ikaw lng bumubuhay sa pamilya nyo kahit ung lalake mong bf walang matinong trabaho?


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