spongebobby Posted July 4, 2005 Share Posted July 4, 2005 Spongebobby, what you posted hit me. First it was in a way an anwer to my question (love may be infinite, but our capacity is not). But I dont think it was the couple of beers po that made me do it with him. It was there kasi all along and we both ignored it. For years, we genuinely showed our "special concern", for each other until we can't hide it anymore. The beers might have lowered our inhibititions and made us admitt whatever it was all this time. And just today, after that night, we we're together again with friends and without alcohol... We were OK about it and in fact continued to show affection / concern like we used to. Except that we are open and honest this time... I may sound spiritual or religious, but I humbly and sincerely ask for your prayers. I want to work it out with my boyfriend. I could afford to lose my married friend but not my guy. I have been trying very hard to correct the mistake i did. And one friend is a witness to all that. I just dont know the fix for my heart that i may be worthy of the love of my boyfriend.<{POST_SNAPBACK}> I am reminded of an experience many years ago. I had a very close friend and we both had separate love lives. After one bar-hopping session, though, we ended up in bed. It was something we’ve kept to ourselves, with none of our mutual even having an idea about it. Our friendship became awkward, as most would probably if sex were introduced into the equation. We tried to end it, put a period in it, but there was so much closeness that it became an ellipsis. About ten years later, our high-contact friendship resumed, but we’ve drawn the line and sex is not an option. It was a special moment between friends, but something we’d rather not do again. I wish you acceptance and empathy--It takes a strong woman to admit she’s done wrong. I wish you discernment--to know when it is time to fight for your love, and when it’s time to let go. And no matter what you do, and what you decide on, stay away from the beer. Quote Link to comment
fashionmannequin Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 In my case, I can't....There is a big difference between liking and loving. It is possible for me to like a guy and love the other. Ibig sabihin.....hindi sila pareho. But there is a possibility for me to fall inlove with the other guy I like if and only if, the relationship with the guy I love turns sour....However, that would take quite some time....... Quote Link to comment
khulet Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 elow po sa inyo lahat.... makikiasagot lang po... yah, you can love 2 person or even more at the same time, but of course in different level....dami naman klase ng love, diba? =) pero hirap malaman kung sino ba talaga ang pinaka LOVES mo...hirap pumili... haaaaaaayyyyyyyy.... la lang.... Quote Link to comment
Guest globetrotter Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 i think its possible.the only difference will lie on the intensity and depth of love you want to give to the other persons.i do understand your situation and im in it right now...oh well.... Quote Link to comment
mala_chinita Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 possible...<{POST_SNAPBACK}> Possible? I know you have more to say than that. Sensible that is. Quote Link to comment
Jay123456 Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 yes, you can love 2 persons at the same time but for different reasons. Quote Link to comment
Misteriosa Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 i really dunno... probably u could ask my EX :boo: he was able to "love" me and that bitch at the same time hehehehhe :boo: Quote Link to comment
dreddfool Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 you can't... love can never like that. :goatee: Quote Link to comment
bentotz Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 maybe pero not on the same level... Quote Link to comment
arrow Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 (edited) I had to post this question that with your help, I may be able to clear the situation I am into right now. I am inlove with my boyfriend and I think i am still inlove with him even if i am sort of currently seing somebody right now. Actually, he's a friend. So, initially when he invited me over for a couple of beers, I thought it was harmless. Ever since though, people thought that we have something going on between us. But of course, these "tuksuhan" didn't really mattered or bothered me at all as my guy friend is already married. Besides, i knew all of his "side trips" relationships. And I'm really inlove and happy with my bf. One night that he told me that he loved me. He told me though that he didnt want to take me away from my bf as he has nothing to offer. What he meant by that... if you know what i mean.. he has a family and all. With all might, i tried to fight it off. Until in one of our usual couple of beer sessions, we ended up in bed. We knew what we got ourselvs into and we agreed how to deal with it. Frustrating thing is that, I had no regrets... And that's what's starting to bother me. I know in my heart that I love my boyfriend as I could not see myself having a family other than him. So I had to ask myself a question, CAN YOU REALLY LOVE WITHOUT REALLY LOVING? My friend thought my question was funny as i was scrutinizing love against love. Simplified though, CAN SOMEONE LOVE TWO PERSON at the SAME TIME? Help. :heart:<{POST_SNAPBACK}> asses yourself on what you were lookin' (still want to see) to your bf. your just needy of sumthin that you still cannot identify. and there are many aspects of it both physically and psychologically.start with "why you do that" questions. Edited July 15, 2005 by arrow Quote Link to comment
wyette Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 have to say, yes, you can love 2 persons at the same time but always and always at a different level, or at a different intensity. Been reading the very sensible posts from the 1st page and yes, i just have to agree with Mr. Spongebobby, Ms. Lipstick, ms. wyld, and the rest on their points of view. Theirs were well-thought of ideas that may help you think and rethink your situation. I suggest do it when things aren't too late yet. I know you'll be fine though. As mr. spongebobby said, it takes a strong woman to admit her flaws... i see you're strength too. Goodluck! and yes, my prayers are with you. Quote Link to comment
imijin Posted July 16, 2005 Share Posted July 16, 2005 Yes, you can love two persons at the same time. and right, you love them at different levels. You wanted to keep them both but one is more important than the other. Ive known friends who are into this and i understand them.... Im into it myself.... Quote Link to comment
MHY® Posted July 16, 2005 Share Posted July 16, 2005 If you really love someone,there would be no unwanted space for another one in your heart. Quote Link to comment
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