Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[NMD]

Here is my take on that. Who would not fall in love with an angelic lady that you get intimate with from time to time? I must admit it, this therapist and I have a connection. In the basis of going out without involving tips, just pure company and some sexy time, I'd like to believe that she likes me also as we have done it for several times already. The thing is, am I ready to take further steps and date her? I don't think so, yet. I wish that she gets out of this and achieve everything that she plans in her life. Thinking about it, this might be a transient thing that GMs may go thru. I just hope it is.

 

Should a GM decides to pursue a thera, he must be willing to accept the fact that the selling point of his girl's day job is intimacy in exchange of money (because that is what it is).

 

If he can't accept that fact, then he must go out of his way to get the girl out of the industry without being selfish. Let us put emphasis on the word "selfish". He can't just simply ask the thera to live with her, nor marry her and everything will be fine. The hard part of convincing them to leave the industry is making them realize that the world out there is different and making money will never be easy, and they may have to deal with changing their lifestyles immediately upon exit.

 

Now, if this lady is willing to do that for you, you can be any of the two: lucky AF or in deep dead trouble. If you are the "lucky AF", go ahead and love her. Court her, be a real GM (gentleman), and make her realize further that she made the right decision of choosing you. However, if you are the "in deep dead trouble", don't leave her hanging. Be man enough to admit it and tell her that you are not that serious. Will she be be hurt? Of course, a**h***.

 

Going back, if you can't accept the fact that your girl will be intimate with other guys as this is part of her job, then you are out of your mind. Nevermind falling in love with her.

 

Just my two cents.

 

PS: curvymay, hoping to meet you soon.

[Jake Celestine]

Maybe you should get yourself a real gf, bro.

 

I am in a situation right now where I have therapists that are more attractive, smarter, and performs better in bed than my ex.

 

If I'll get a girlfriend now, she'll just be inevitably compared to my previous experiences. It will just be unfair to the girl.

 

After being in a relationship for so long (I started my spa life after the breakup), I came to appreciate the many perks of being single.

 

The only way a relationship can be called successful is when your partner supports you in your personal aspiration (whatever that is).

 

A lot of times, a girlfriend just waits for the guy to give up his pursuits (hobbies, interests, friends, and even family), hoping that the guy finally decides to settle down with her (while also giving up the other things mentioned).

 

I don't want to generalize too much, pero kadalasan naman talaga ganito ang nangyayari.

[curvermay]

2016 has ended and a new one has just began. Before I move forward, I look back and reflect on what has been a very eventful year. It was a time of milestones, of firsts, of bursting emotions. It was the year I graduated from college, it was the first time my heart got broken, it was the year I entered Midas and became a therapist.

As I reminisce, I can't help but feel that the hand of destiny played a hand in guiding me here. I remember the speech that I made in college that one day, I will have enough resources to treat my whole family to an out of town trip. The dream may seem simple for others, but truth be told, it was out of my reach back then. Just this Christmas, I was able to fulfill that promise and I felt so uplifted seeing the happiness in the faces of my loved ones. Being able to provide their needs, helping them reach their goals give me inspiration to even do better in 2017.

To the Midas management, thank you for taking me in and providing me an avenue to earn what i do now and thus, be able to slowly reach my dreams. To all the GMs that I have met and bonded with, you have my heartfelt appreciation. To those who took the time to share meaningful FRs, you have my utmost gratitude. I love reading them and it gives me motivation when I see that I was able to give satisfaction and happiness to my clients, even if it was only for a moment. To those who have not yet tried the "May" experience, I hope you find the time to do so in the coming year. I am giving you my personal guarantee, you may not be able to get ATW, but you will have the time of your life. I will make your ESPA experience among the best that you will ever have.

Happy happy new year and I am looking forward to seeing you all in Midas!

[lone23]

2016 has ended and a new one has just began. Before I move forward, I look back and reflect on what has been a very eventful year. It was a time of milestones, of firsts, of bursting emotions. It was the year I graduated from college, it was the first time my heart got broken, it was the year I entered Midas and became a therapist.

As I reminisce, I can't help but feel that the hand of destiny played a hand in guiding me here. I remember the speech that I made in college that one day, I will have enough resources to treat my whole family to an out of town trip. The dream may seem simple for others, but truth be told, it was out of my reach back then. Just this Christmas, I was able to fulfill that promise and I felt so uplifted seeing the happiness in the faces of my loved ones. Being able to provide their needs, helping them reach their goals give me inspiration to even do better in 2017.

To the Midas management, thank you for taking me in and providing me an avenue to earn what i do now and thus, be able to slowly reach my dreams. To all the GMs that I have met and bonded with, you have my heartfelt appreciation. To those who took the time to share meaningful FRs, you have my utmost gratitude. I love reading them and it gives me motivation when I see that I was able to give satisfaction and happiness to my clients, even if it was only for a moment. To those who have not yet tried the "May" experience, I hope you find the time to do so in the coming year. I am giving you my personal guarantee, you may not be able to get ATW, but you will have the time of your life. I will make your ESPA experience among the best that you will ever have.

Happy happy new year and I am looking forward to seeing you all in Midas!

You are an Interesting person madam May. Hope to see you in person madam. Matalino ka. You have this very positive thinking. Sana makadalaw ako. -lone23

[wheeljack]

Happy new year ms may! I was a fan before and I am a bigger fan now. Maybe one day we will be able to shoot the breeze, sit down and talk. Maybe one day I'll get a chance to relish the May experience but until that day I comes, I will enjoy reading your posts here and the insights in the mind of, not just a therapist, but of a woman as well.

 

The challenge is finding more like you who's company we will enjoy

[drewbrees]

 

Good day Mr. PPK....Sorry for the late response as I have work until 12 AM.

 

That right there is the crux the problem, that type of mindset. You have a definition of what a thera should be and it seemed quite impossible for you to think that there might be something beyond our boobs and butt. Just because this successful young person enjoys time with me, yes - I admit I am just simple therapist, you are jumping to the conclusion that he is a lonely guy who has confidence issues and could not get another girl outside, hence he has to pay me to get naked and be his sounding board? What if I tell you some of our sessions did not include ES, no need for me get naked? What if I say there were several instances where I refused to accept a tip because well, I also did enjoy having him around? Would you then believe me if I insist me and the guy had a connection? It doesn't have to be in the romantic sense, but a thera-client relationship which eventually evolved into real friendship.

 

I know we theras are not your best friends, we are not your lunch buddies, heck some of you may even deem it unthinkable that we can be real girlfriends. At the onset, we are here to give you a quick fix, a massage and masculine release. In most cases, our interactions with you remain that way, nothing else. Everything gets confined inside the 4 corners of a spa cubicle. However, there are also instances where we develop real friendships with GMs, some of us even find love, because you know what, we are real people too with emotions and aspirations, just like you do.

 

Happy New Year May, i hope you had a nice time with your family. Going back to your sessions where you said you did not have ES. It gives me all the more reason to confirm my suspicions. So he likes talking to you and doesn't need ES but in order for him to do it he needs to go to the spa to get a conversation from you? I'll be subtle and just say that's unconventional if you are looking for someone to talk to and you need to pay for an hour to talk to that person.

 

I wonder what my girl friends would think if i call them and say. "hey you free this afternoon? ill pay for an hour of your time so i could talk to you". It really makes me wonder a lot what goes on in the mind of that I.T. guy who you said is successful and doesn't have "issues".

 

Anyway let's move on I've made my point from all the info you gave me. I wanted to ask you this question and you have to answer honestly. Do you think when a Gm gets into a relationship with a therapist or sometimes even marries them since this coincides with the topic of the thread. Do you honestly believe that 50% ouf of a 100 of the GM's tell their families and friends the truth when it comes to how they met their therapist GF/wife?

 

If they don't tell them the truth. Why do you think they don't? Why would they want to lie? If they can accept their therapist GF/wife then it shouldn't be a big deal for them to tell their own families and friends that their thera GF/wife used to massage different men for a living and perform fellatio and other sexual activities in exchange for money. It would seem hypocritical for these GM's who fell in love to spout that "Love conquers all" cliche and still have the ability to lie to their own loved ones right? Because you can't build Love on a Lie in my opinion because its destined to fail.

 

I can probably compare these situations to how pornstars deal with their personal lives. Because I've read that most of their personal relationships are pretty open and they didn't hide who they were when they were doing porn. But realistically speaking i doubt these GM's who fall in love will be as open as the pornstars are.

[drewbrees]

Happy new year ms may! I was a fan before and I am a bigger fan now. Maybe one day we will be able to shoot the breeze, sit down and talk. Maybe one day I'll get a chance to relish the May experience but until that day I comes, I will enjoy reading your posts here and the insights in the mind of, not just a therapist, but of a woman as well.

 

The challenge is finding more like you who's company we will enjoy

 

I can relate my friend. I used to do what you do before. You can't juggle all the balls in one sitting. You wouldn't want to disappoint your "friends" from the "stars" if they knew you were double dipping in another spa

[curvermay]

 

Happy New Year May, i hope you had a nice time with your family. Going back to your sessions where you said you did not have ES. It gives me all the more reason to confirm my suspicions. So he likes talking to you and doesn't need ES but in order for him to do it he needs to go to the spa to get a conversation from you? I'll be subtle and just say that's unconventional if you are looking for someone to talk to and you need to pay for an hour to talk to that person.

 

I wonder what my girl friends would think if i call them and say. "hey you free this afternoon? ill pay for an hour of your time so i could talk to you". It really makes me wonder a lot what goes on in the mind of that I.T. guy who you said is successful and doesn't have "issues".

 

Anyway let's move on I've made my point from all the info you gave me. I wanted to ask you this question and you have to answer honestly. Do you think when a Gm gets into a relationship with a therapist or sometimes even marries them since this coincides with the topic of the thread. Do you honestly believe that 50% ouf of a 100 of the GM's tell their families and friends the truth when it comes to how they met their therapist GF/wife?

 

If they don't tell them the truth. Why do you think they don't? Why would they want to lie? If they can accept their therapist GF/wife then it shouldn't be a big deal for them to tell their own families and friends that their thera GF/wife used to massage different men for a living and perform fellatio and other sexual activities in exchange for money. It would seem hypocritical for these GM's who fell in love to spout that "Love conquers all" cliche and still have the ability to lie to their own loved ones right? Because you can't build Love on a Lie in my opinion because its destined to fail.

 

I can probably compare these situations to how pornstars deal with their personal lives. Because I've read that most of their personal relationships are pretty open and they didn't hide who they were when they were doing porn. But realistically speaking i doubt these GM's who fall in love will be as open as the pornstars are.

 

Hi PPK,

 

Happy new year!I hope you had a great time with your family too.

 

In the context of your question, you have to consider the origin of the friendship/relationship. In our case, it started in the spa, hence, logic will dictate that a lot of our future meetups will happen in the same setting. How different is it from you guys whose friends you met in DOTA, wouldn't it be logical to assume your sessions will most probably be in computer shops?

 

The IT guy wanted to talk and yes I admit sometimes does ES, thus, he consumes 1 hour or more of my work time. Consequently. he insists that he pay for the duration when our bonding sessions happen in my business hours. Like what I said, I have several times declined the money but since he is also a professional himself, he understands that during my working hours, I have to generate revenue. Should we fault him for that?

 

Now, your question about letting family and friends know the reality of what we do. My stand on that is, does it matter? The important thing is that the guy accepts what the thera does, knows the truth about her background and accepts her completely. How they present their relationship to the public (friends, relatives, etc) is subject to how they think what is best for them in the long run. For conservative families, of course they cannot say the woman does hand jobs for a living. The only thing that matters really is that the man and woman are in love and understand how to manage the perception of the outside world in order to avoid unnecessary inconveniences that may arise. At the end of the day, it is the 2 of them who will be living together, it is the 2 of them who will bond themselves as husband and wife. Ultimately, the only acceptance and truth that really count is between these 2 people, no one else.

 

 

May

[Piaggio]

I am in a situation right now where I have therapists that are more attractive, smarter, and performs better in bed than my ex.

 

If I'll get a girlfriend now, she'll just be inevitably compared to my previous experiences. It will just be unfair to the girl.

 

After being in a relationship for so long (I started my spa life after the breakup), I came to appreciate the many perks of being single.

 

The only way a relationship can be called successful is when your partner supports you in your personal aspiration (whatever that is).

 

A lot of times, a girlfriend just waits for the guy to give up his pursuits (hobbies, interests, friends, and even family), hoping that the guy finally decides to settle down with her (while also giving up the other things mentioned).

 

I don't want to generalize too much, pero kadalasan naman talaga ganito ang nangyayari.

 

I understand where you're coming from, bro. Freedom is not easy to give up. I myself retired fubus and gfs at one time to create or regain personal space. It became less complicated to merely purchase an hour of GFE time at the spa and enjoy the variety of choice at the same time. Yun nga lang it also became a never-ending addiction that eventually makes it impossible to place realistic expectations on a real relationship.

[wek1012]

are most men here single?

 

there be better chance not to fall if you are in a relationship or married? just looking for some fun/ variety

[yezir]

I got curious about this thread because I find myself in the same situation at present.

 

Kudos to my fellow gents for sharing your experiences.Likewise, to the ladies who add new angles to the discussion. I'm being schooled here and I'm learning a lot!

 

I'm currently in a relationship with a wonderful person. Similar to most of you, I'm on a steep climb trying to sustain the relationship.Napakahirap talaga even when my GF assures me that she has my heart. Just sharing my current journey with the intention to inspire and seek expert advice.Apologies for the long post.Hope it will be worh your while.

 

For me, what seems to help at this point in the relationship are 2 things- Perspective and Self Esteem (lots of it)😅. It sounds easy but theres a lot of self awareness and inner work involved.

 

This 2017, I've 'hardwired' myself to set aside the 'drama'as much as possible. By drama i mean petty fights brought about by my insecurities.Ilang beses na ako napaiyak ng dahil dito...😔

 

Now, I aim for a no frills type of relationship. Hindi naman kasi dapat i complicate ang buhay.Mahirap na nga, i-cocomplicate mo pa and then you bring drama to the relationship na complicated na nga to begin with.

 

I've embraced the fact that falling in love should be a wonderful feeling, why fight it?Best to just dwell on it. As for me, I would choose it over fear,paranoia,anger and jealousy

 

I also live by the latin aphorism of CARPE DIEM. I seize the day and live in the moment while I am alive.This way, there will be no regrets.

 

This means, when I am with my GF, I make the most out of it. Love is a verb-you need to show it! ipakita mo habang magkasama kayo...Ipadama mo rin miski hindi kayo magkasama. If she genuinely loves you back, then good.

 

If she does not reciprocate or if she lies and plays you out, so be it. Yes, it will hurt- but be content that you have done your part with the best and purest of intention. Its like giving a gift with the intention of making a person happy with no conditions-and Love is a gift. If she rejects/fakes it, remember that there will be someone else more deserving of your gift. This requires a lot of self esteem to be able to accept and move on.

 

I'm still trying to work on the "ka-praningan" part. But I know that over analyzing ,worrying, thinking of what-ifs only leads to anxiety, or worse -depression.I do not want that. Tatanda tayo ng maaga niyan.😬

 

So how will I deal with this?While my girl does her thing at work- I keep busy in my profession and focus on my hobbies.I also sorround myself with a lot of friends. I go out and connect with people as much as possible.In other words, do not let your life revolve around each other. Both of you should grow as individuals too.The litmus test of any relationship is to allow each other to grow. Pag nawala yung isa(God forbid)- both of you have upgraded to a better version of your old self.All because you have learned so much from each other.Hindi ka nag deteriorate as a person.

 

Also, I try my best to look beyond the profession and focus on the person.Mahirap ito pero I focus on why I love her in the first place. More than the physical, its her attitude, dedication to family and your love for each other should be the one that prevails. Everything else negative that goes with her job should be insignificant.It's a challenge, but this can be achieved when you trust each other.

 

There is no perfect relationship,so I just flow with it.I focus in the NOW and graciously accept what it brings-I let it unfold because It is less complicated this way.I am a sucker for life's surprises kasi it makes you feel more human and alive.That is why we are here naman diba? Kung masaya, e di salamat and I cherish it.Kung masakit e di ganun talaga, learn from it. Pero wag mong tambayan. Ikakamamatay mo yan.😏

 

But you know what? This paradigm works for me because I seem to attract positive things in life-girls seem to dig this too.😉.Most of them I hung out with, prefer the 'chill', magaan, cool, walang drama, joker and spontaneous na mahilig mang sorpresa type.

 

To begin with,may mga baggages na rin ang GF's natin na bitbit sa buhay.Wag na tayong dumagdag pa.Life is better this way. But that's just me.

 

So, sa mga in love at infatuated diyan-Love is a verb, Carpe Diem! instead of overanalyzing and delving too much on this thread - do something about it. 🙂 Text her, invite her out, visit her. Seize the day! At least you tried diba?No regrets in the end.If all else fails then learn to move on and move on fast. Sayang kasi ang oras.😊

 

Finally, for the gents and ladies in a challenging relationship like myself- LOVE YOURSELF FIRST-do a lot of inner work- because you cannot give what you don't have.

 

Wag kang magpapa-upos na parang kandila with nothing more to give and nothing left for yourself in the end.Wag ganun!

 

Wishing you well in your journey this 2017 my fellow gents and ladies. Just let life flow and nature to take its course. Enjoy the ride and all will be good whatever happens...Namaste🙏🏻... ..

 

P.S. Thanks GF for inspiring me to write this.

[Jake Celestine]

So your girlfriend is a therapist?

 

Uhmmmmm, there's this one therapist who I just did the nasty with while her boyfriend is just nearby. And yes, she was moaning good. LOL!

 

Medyo weird nga lang that the boyfriend is literally nearby. Wasn't able to chit chat with her much. Conversation plays a huge role kasi sa interaction ko with a thera.

 

So a thera getting wet with another guy while the boyfriend is just around, I mean, better check on your sense of self worth. You will need lots of it.

 

I mean, pogi points yun sa client, pero sa significant other?

[Turk]

Well.... I normally get attached to a thera when we have a good rapor on our session...

I've been going to spa because I have no significant other and no time to find one...

Once, I think me and the thera have connection, she will be became my regular thera and I won't get another thera beside her...

And true sometimes there is no ES or massage just plain talking with friends and sharing of experience, stories etc...

Hence, I've dated a thera before and we became friends... I really like her and wanted her but when time goes by she is the one who make a move for us not to meet... On a sad note, I know she can't be mine...

Been back and forth for spa for a while...

Got another jewel again... But got her 3x again and still a work on progress...

Hopefully it works or I will be in the same cycle again

[drewbrees]

I got curious about this thread because I find myself in the same situation at present.

 

Kudos to my fellow gents for sharing your experiences.Likewise, to the ladies who add new angles to the discussion. I'm being schooled here and I'm learning a lot!

 

I'm currently in a relationship with a wonderful person. Similar to most of you, I'm on a steep climb trying to sustain the relationship.Napakahirap talaga even when my GF assures me that she has my heart. Just sharing my current journey with the intention to inspire and seek expert advice.Apologies for the long post.Hope it will be worh your while.

 

For me, what seems to help at this point in the relationship are 2 things- Perspective and Self Esteem (lots of it). It sounds easy but theres a lot of self awareness and inner work involved.

 

This 2017, I've 'hardwired' myself to set aside the 'drama'as much as possible. By drama i mean petty fights brought about by my insecurities.Ilang beses na ako napaiyak ng dahil dito...

 

Now, I aim for a no frills type of relationship. Hindi naman kasi dapat i complicate ang buhay.Mahirap na nga, i-cocomplicate mo pa and then you bring drama to the relationship na complicated na nga to begin with.

 

I've embraced the fact that falling in love should be a wonderful feeling, why fight it?Best to just dwell on it. As for me, I would choose it over fear,paranoia,anger and jealousy

 

I also live by the latin aphorism of CARPE DIEM. I seize the day and live in the moment while I am alive.This way, there will be no regrets.

 

This means, when I am with my GF, I make the most out of it. Love is a verb-you need to show it! ipakita mo habang magkasama kayo...Ipadama mo rin miski hindi kayo magkasama. If she genuinely loves you back, then good.

 

If she does not reciprocate or if she lies and plays you out, so be it. Yes, it will hurt- but be content that you have done your part with the best and purest of intention. Its like giving a gift with the intention of making a person happy with no conditions-and Love is a gift. If she rejects/fakes it, remember that there will be someone else more deserving of your gift. This requires a lot of self esteem to be able to accept and move on.

 

I'm still trying to work on the "ka-praningan" part. But I know that over analyzing ,worrying, thinking of what-ifs only leads to anxiety, or worse -depression.I do not want that. Tatanda tayo ng maaga niyan.

 

So how will I deal with this?While my girl does her thing at work- I keep busy in my profession and focus on my hobbies.I also sorround myself with a lot of friends. I go out and connect with people as much as possible.In other words, do not let your life revolve around each other. Both of you should grow as individuals too.The litmus test of any relationship is to allow each other to grow. Pag nawala yung isa(God forbid)- both of you have upgraded to a better version of your old self.All because you have learned so much from each other.Hindi ka nag deteriorate as a person.

 

Also, I try my best to look beyond the profession and focus on the person.Mahirap ito pero I focus on why I love her in the first place. More than the physical, its her attitude, dedication to family and your love for each other should be the one that prevails. Everything else negative that goes with her job should be insignificant.It's a challenge, but this can be achieved when you trust each other.

 

There is no perfect relationship,so I just flow with it.I focus in the NOW and graciously accept what it brings-I let it unfold because It is less complicated this way.I am a sucker for life's surprises kasi it makes you feel more human and alive.That is why we are here naman diba? Kung masaya, e di salamat and I cherish it.Kung masakit e di ganun talaga, learn from it. Pero wag mong tambayan. Ikakamamatay mo yan.

 

But you know what? This paradigm works for me because I seem to attract positive things in life-girls seem to dig this too..Most of them I hung out with, prefer the 'chill', magaan, cool, walang drama, joker and spontaneous na mahilig mang sorpresa type.

 

To begin with,may mga baggages na rin ang GF's natin na bitbit sa buhay.Wag na tayong dumagdag pa.Life is better this way. But that's just me.

 

So, sa mga in love at infatuated diyan-Love is a verb, Carpe Diem! instead of overanalyzing and delving too much on this thread - do something about it. Text her, invite her out, visit her. Seize the day! At least you tried diba?No regrets in the end.If all else fails then learn to move on and move on fast. Sayang kasi ang oras.

 

Finally, for the gents and ladies in a challenging relationship like myself- LOVE YOURSELF FIRST-do a lot of inner work- because you cannot give what you don't have.

 

Wag kang magpapa-upos na parang kandila with nothing more to give and nothing left for yourself in the end.Wag ganun!

 

Wishing you well in your journey this 2017 my fellow gents and ladies. Just let life flow and nature to take its course. Enjoy the ride and all will be good whatever happens...Namaste... ..

 

P.S. Thanks GF for inspiring me to write this.

 

Your situation is comparable to a BF of a pornstar. The BF knows what his pornstar GF does for a living and still accepts her. He accepts that she sucks off different men gets cunnilingus from them and other "things". But in the end he accepts that its work and not love. By the way I've tried your GF. she performs REALLY WELL. I've definitely Seized the day with her.

 

Happy New Year.

Edited January 2, 2017 by ppk

[curvermay]

If your doing hand jobs,blowjobs and everything in between to make a living or whatnot,i say theres more to you to look beyond those acts.theres also your tits to fondle,ass to grab and hair to pull..mens pretty sure theres more to a thera but its going to take a lot more of everything to persuade a gm to look beyond the physical and the downright absurdity of pay for pleasure dynamics..to theras and gms alike,i say whatever float your boat!

 

Exactly sir...that is why it is so difficult for us theras to trust a GM...yes, real love happens but unless it transcends lust, then it would never work out in the end. We are in the business of giving you tits to fondle, ass to grab and even hair to pull, why in the world would someone want to be in a relationship with a woman like that? It would take a lot of for a GM to convince me that he sees me as more than a thera. My idealistic and romantic notion keeps this door open for me, but I am also realistic enough to admit Mr. Right is a bit unlikely to come from this environment.

[kambing]

Kung mainlove ba ako sayo miss May, magpapaligaw ka ba?

[curvermay]

Kung mainlove ba ako sayo miss May, magpapaligaw ka ba?

 

Wla naman problema kng manligaw sir...ang tanong is mapapasagot mo ba ako?

[jacksilva16]

Tatambay muna ako ng library or bookstore para magbasa ng maraming libro bago ako manligaw kay May hehe..or pwede rin dala na lang ng tissue

kung sakali mag-nosebleed haha..

[smooth_dawg]

Nku, malupit yan c May....big time mga nanliligaw jan....itago natin ung isa sa pangalang....Kryptonite.

[Solaryan]

Nku, malupit yan c May....big time mga nanliligaw jan....itago natin ung isa sa pangalang....Kryptonite.

 

 

hahaha! iba na ang usapan ah.. ligawan na. happy new year sa aten!

[w3pa]

 

Exactly sir...that is why it is so difficult for us theras to trust a GM...yes, real love happens but unless it transcends lust, then it would never work out in the end. We are in the business of giving you tits to fondle, ass to grab and even hair to pull, why in the world would someone want to be in a relationship with a woman like that? It would take a lot of for a GM to convince me that he sees me as more than a thera. My idealistic and romantic notion keeps this door open for me, but I am also realistic enough to admit Mr. Right is a bit unlikely to come from this environment.

 

Hi May!

 

Happy New Year (again). Well I went online for a bit, and would like to say that yes, it will be hard. Most people would confuse infatuation with love, although how you can tell is an entirely different monster that would warrant a longer discussion. Once you've invested yourself in someone else, it will be hard to get out of that situation. I've told you about my situation, and I appreciate your words of wisdom on the matter, in this case I'd like to think that I saw her as more than just a pair of "tits to fondle, ass to grab and even hair to pull". On trust, as many have pointed out, it does go both ways, it's hard for a Thera to trust a GM, but GMs will also find it hard to trust a Thera, especially in terms of differentiating GFE with the real thing and the fact that she spends 8-12 hrs (or more) a day with different men per hour every day. Not to mention the thought of other men courting her or giving her gifts some of us can't afford (or if they have prior experience with a Thera who lied to them). Of course, there will always be GMs who would see you as a person and not an object of lust. And that takes a very special kind of woman, I think for most of us you would fit that description to a tee. Yes, we go to Spa's for different reasons - release, loneliness, dissatisfaction with current partners, to move on, etc. Every person is unique, and every person is special, there are just those that are more special than others to each of us, and what's to say that can't happen between a GM and a Thera.

 

Society will dictate certain norms and standards for each of us, sadly these said norms would always make it hard for GMs to be in a relationship with a Thera, there will always be the "How do I introduce her to everybody?" question. But when you do find someone who can see beyond that, and see you as a person, regardless of what you do, you should treasure that person, if not as a lover, then at least as a friend.

 

On another note, It's nice to know that you have a long-term game plan, I didn't even know you graduated with honors (maybe we can discuss that more next time I see you). I will cheer you on and, as I've said many times before, I do look forward to seeing you again.

[NMD]

Basta pag nainlove ka kay thera, isipin mo na ilang titi na ang nakapitan niya, haha.

Plus one to this guy who thinks using his dick, instead of his brain. SMH.

[Solaryan]

People are entitled to their opinion.

 

But, this here is my own opinion. Even if you met a girl in a bar or in your office, does that guarantee that she was not promiscuous or she touched less dick than a thera you met in a spa? Come on, I for one have met a few ladies who goes to bars or gimmick places and hooks up with a guy they fancy. They do that almost 3-4 times a week. They have full blown intercourse. As for a thera, they may jack off clients but not all of them go all the way.

 

So, I say, go to where your heart leads you.. Hahaha! It doesn't really matter if they were former hookers or porn stars (who does all sort of things). At the end of the day, is that the person you want to be with or not? If it is, then go for her. Full throttle. Don't hold back.

[Solaryan]

 

 

1. I wonder what my girl friends would think if i call them and say. "hey you free this afternoon? ill pay for an hour of your time so i could talk to you". It really makes me wonder a lot what goes on in the mind of that I.T. guy who you said is successful and doesn't have "issues".

 

2. Anyway let's move on I've made my point from all the info you gave me. I wanted to ask you this question and you have to answer honestly. Do you think when a Gm gets into a relationship with a therapist or sometimes even marries them since this coincides with the topic of the thread. Do you honestly believe that 50% ouf of a 100 of the GM's tell their families and friends the truth when it comes to how they met their therapist GF/wife?

 

If they don't tell them the truth. Why do you think they don't? Why would they want to lie? If they can accept their therapist GF/wife then it shouldn't be a big deal for them to tell their own families and friends that their thera GF/wife used to massage different men for a living and perform fellatio and other sexual activities in exchange for money. It would seem hypocritical for these GM's who fell in love to spout that "Love conquers all" cliche and still have the ability to lie to their own loved ones right? Because you can't build Love on a Lie in my opinion because its destined to fail.

 

3. I can probably compare these situations to how pornstars deal with their personal lives. Because I've read that most of their personal relationships are pretty open and they didn't hide who they were when they were doing porn. But realistically speaking i doubt these GM's who fall in love will be as open as the pornstars are.

 

I have been meaning to get into this discussion, but, did not have the time. Hehe. Now that I do, I would like to throw in my 2 cents. I numbered your points from 1 to 3 and my answers are below:

 

 

1. I know we don't call our female friends and offer to pay them to spend time with us. But, I have on several occasions, called on my friends (female) and asked them to accompany me to a movie or eat somewhere new that I want to try out and they sometimes will tell me that they don't have enough money, so I treat them (not always. so don't get any ideas. hahaha) Is that any different from this situation? Where a guy spends some money to have female companionship?

 

On a few occasions, here in the office, I chat or talk to some of my female colleagues while they are working (and I am lounging about), that is feasible because we are in the same work environment. Now, what you said about the thera and her GM. It just so happens that the thera is on duty and her "friend/GM" wants to spend time with her. So, given that she is in her place of work (Spa) then he has to pay for the entrance/service to avail of her time to hang out with her. Is this really difficult to comprehend?

 

Now we don't know that this is the only time that they see each other or if on her time offs or after her work they also spend time. Since what they do is their own business.

 

2. If by circumstances within my control, I do end up with a thera. Personally, I will give the decision to her (thera). If she wants me to tell the world (including my family and work colleagues) that she used to be a thera, I will do it. They can all suck an orange for all I care.

 

That for me, is what love is. I am happy that I am with that person, devil may care about her past, so long as we are together and that we want to have a future together.. But again, that's just me.

 

Now, if she (the thera) does not want me to tell people about her past, then I will honor her wishes. Since it is HER PAST. She did the things she needed to do to get by. It's like meeting a former assassin, then you fell in love with that person. Is that really different? Morally speaking isn't an assassin more sinful than a prostitute? Hahaha!

 

3. Yeah, porn stars are exactly that - STARS. Meaning, they are more visible and less discreet than theras. Why? Because, for most porn stars they make more money, but at the expense of their private lives. People, can save copies of their work and jack off or watch it lustfully whenever they damn want to. As they say, what is in the media nowadays, are forever (haha andun pala ang forever).

 

So please don't compare porn stars to therapists. Because, therapists still enjoy a certain level of privacy. I know they have picture posted in their thread and all. But, the pictures posted are sexy and gives hints of naughtiness, but it is not and in NO way the same as the pictures of porn stars f*cking or sucking d*cks. If you see a picture of a thera posted here in MTC doing that, please PM me Coz' I haven't seen that one yet.. Hahahaha! Just kidding Mods.

 

Anyway, like I said. This is me throwing my 2 cents into this discussion, so I look forward to more input from my fellow GMs who may or may not share the same thoughts that I have on this matter.

 

Good day! =)

[lone23]

MU sa Thera pwede rin mangyari.