Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[anakngtupig]

My contribution that's the reason I don't get in love with them... I let them love me... and I don't, Spend,,... if you look like a tsinoy or koreano telanobela im that one.... I use my vanity, to bleed their heart.  :)Bleed their pockets im the winner.  <img src='http://manilatonight.com/public/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' /> their boy toy.  <img src='http://manilatonight.com/public/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

Edited June 20, 2013 by anakngtupig

[heimlich]

try a workout hobby like running. the endorphins you release make you feel good

 

get other girls. i was able to understand the lives of mp girls doing this. thus, yung obsession ko dati na-convert sa pity and later understanding or sympathy

 

in the process, my heart became more guarded

 

Agree on this.. GREAT ADVICE

[Fusarium_jimini]

I missed this thread! Hehe, been there, done that, moved on for me..

 

 

Much as I wanted to share my experience here, I can't. Masyado mahaba.

 

 

much better siguro kung mag-eb sa isang inuman na lang, hehehe..

[alex1025]

even if you feel madaming pera ang nagastos mo sa isang girl, wala pa dun ang latest cellphone, ipad, tuition ng anak, house rental, forever21, lacoste, jewelries (necklace na may pendant na less than 1 karat na diamond pero nasa 25k, or earrings na 30K), gucci na wallet, dkny na ladies bag, etc etc etc

 

. . . . . . . . in the end, my only consolation is, if the girl remembers me, wala siya masasabi. then i move on. that's what i'm sharing. you can't have everything in life, even the girl, at least nakacontribute ka sa kanyang buhay, wala siya masabi sayo, then move on . . . .

 

Bow naman kami sa iyo eyesharp, Papunta pa lang kami, pero pabalik ka na. You're correct that at the end of the day, what matters is to make a difference in someone's life... For me naman i helped her pass her board exam and i challenged her to get a real job to follow her dream. I ended our relationship the moment she got a real job. Life is ironinc, i spent the whole time wishing and hoping for my girl to get her dignity back(job that they can be proud of) and when she finally got it. it is time to say goodbye.

[heimlich]

I missed this thread! Hehe, been there, done that, moved on for me..

 

 

Much as I wanted to share my experience here, I can't. Masyado mahaba.

 

 

much better siguro kung mag-eb sa isang inuman na lang, hehehe..

 

share ur story bro..

im learning thru this partcular thread.

share pa at nang mahimasmasan na kami..

[maxiev]

Bow naman kami sa iyo eyesharp, Papunta pa lang kami, pero pabalik ka na. You're correct that at the end of the day, what matters is to make a difference in someone's life... For me naman i helped her pass her board exam and i challenged her to get a real job to follow her dream. I ended our relationship the moment she got a real job. Life is ironinc, i spent the whole time wishing and hoping for my girl to get her dignity back(job that they can be proud of) and when she finally got it. it is time to say goodbye.

This one I can relate to. What's really important is making a difference in someone else's life. That's what really counts.

[Fusarium_jimini]

share ur story bro..

im learning thru this partcular thread.

share pa at nang mahimasmasan na kami..

 

hahaha! andito rin yung gist of my experience with a high-caliber thera..backread na lang pre..laki ng naitulong nina eyesharp, kojie, and muttley sakin..cheers!

 

 

bottomline: the point will come when you will and need to realize that its all a delusion.. much more so when you start to muse about the future, your future.

 

 

madami pa pero public thread kasi ito, some things are best left unsaid; or at the very least, shared with like minds and liked experiences, hehehe.

[Bameboy]

We are always in a delusion created by the illusion that's full of confusion when we enter this type of relation. I've had my shares of experiences but sir eyesharp is right it does not matter how much you spend you don't even need to do that what matters in the end is being able to make a difference in their lives, kumbaga naipakita mo na iba ka sa lahat ng nakilala niya and i'm sure she will never forget you kahit mag asawa pa siya...this is true kasi may fm kami na nakausap and til this day she still regrets na hindi siya sumama dun sa guy na matino...her life could have been a bit different...as my friend always say: it's the what ifs that haunt us at night that will make us regret the descisions that we make...

[alex1025]

DAMN THAT IS JUST SO SAD.............really sorry to hear that.

 

Thank you for the kind words to soften the blow, actually my major intention was really to help her pursue her goal and the intimacy was just on the side, but as i got to know her a lot better i fell in love... Well that is life for you mountains and valleys... At the end of the day sabi nga nila " It is better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all" Moving on to the next adventure that life has to offer..

 

[Za09]

try a workout hobby like running. the endorphins you release make you feel good

 

get other girls. i was able to understand the lives of mp girls doing this. thus, yung obsession ko dati na-convert sa pity and later understanding

in the process, my heart became more guarded

experience is the best teacher ika nga.

[alex1025]

curious lang dre. if na achieve goal niya, why did you say goodbye? in most of my experiences, hindi na achieve ang goal. any nanaig was yung ugali ng girl na sagarin ang pagbenta ng katawan niya while she can which forced me to bid fareewell.

 

Well, the major intention of the relationship is to help her since i saw the strength of character and resiliency in her eyes.. with side benefits of course, unluckily i fell in love in the process. I found out early on na marami pala kaming spare tire niya.. and the jealousy is driving me crazy... like what you said in your previous post we always wish na tayo lang and one and only nila.. i was very naive back then.. I held on to the relationship (in excrutiating pain of course) just to see my goal achieved with my very own eyes.

[Bameboy]

well at least nakatapos siya and goal achieved. pero didn't you part as friends man lang dre?

 

ako kasi, with those i had similar experiences with, while kumalas ako and they did not want it, or they were very emotional about it, galit and sadness halo halo, kasama puro papansin, puro pakunsensiya, etc etc etc, i still gave them the assurance and impression na i'm still a friend.

 

and months later, a few of them nagparamdam, humihiram. pinahiram ko naman.

 

example, one would make paramdam, and mangungumusta. i would reply na eh ikaw, galit ka pa? bakit ka ba nagalit noon eh ikaw pero wala sa lugar, ako ang nasa lugar kaya wala ka karapatan magalit. she would then change her tone and be sweeter. ako friendly lang. then hihiram siya making all sorts of reasons. she'd say 1OK if puede. pinahiram ko 4K. then she'd say thanks babayaran daw niya etc etc etc. pero hindi ko na siningil. kahit man lang humingi ng sex di ko ginawa. this happened also with the others, iba iba lang situation.

 

pero wala sila masabi dre. hindi na rin sila nangulit. they'd text later on like christmas, etc. and i never felt na nalugi or naloko nils. if ever meron nanloloko or tatamaan ng kunsensiya, eh sila na yun.

 

never gave any of them a reason na masusumbatan nila ako dre. cost me alot i know, and yung nagawa nila na pagsabayin ako with other guys really hurt, but in the end, wala sila masusumbat. sa opinion ko, kahit nagkakilala kami sa pay for sex situation, i showed them character in the end.

Correct sir eyesharp what matters in the end is you making a difference and being able to stand out from the rest of the guys that they met...

[alex1025]

well at least nakatapos siya and goal achieved. pero didn't you part as friends man lang dre?

 

ako kasi, with those i had similar experiences with, while kumalas ako and they did not want it, or they were very emotional about it, galit and sadness halo halo, kasama puro papansin, puro pakunsensiya, etc etc etc, i still gave them the assurance and impression na i'm still a friend.

 

and months later, a few of them nagparamdam, humihiram. pinahiram ko naman.

 

example, one would make paramdam, and mangungumusta. i would reply na eh ikaw, galit ka pa? bakit ka ba nagalit noon eh ikaw pero wala sa lugar, ako ang nasa lugar kaya wala ka karapatan magalit. she would then change her tone and be sweeter. ako friendly lang. then hihiram siya making all sorts of reasons. she'd say 1OK if puede. pinahiram ko 4K. then she'd say thanks babayaran daw niya etc etc etc. pero hindi ko na siningil. kahit man lang humingi ng sex di ko ginawa. this happened also with the others, iba iba lang situation.

 

pero wala sila masabi dre. hindi na rin sila nangulit. they'd text later on like christmas, etc. and i never felt na nalugi or naloko nils. if ever meron nanloloko or tatamaan ng kunsensiya, eh sila na yun.

 

never gave any of them a reason na masusumbatan nila ako dre. cost me alot i know, and yung nagawa nila na pagsabayin ako with other guys really hurt, but in the end, wala sila masusumbat. sa opinion ko, kahit nagkakilala kami sa pay for sex situation, i showed them character in the end.

 

Well i think we parted ways as friends naman, i made it clear naman to her from the start that this is a temporary arrangement since we are both committed to another person.. When i said goodbye wala namang galit or masakit na salita na binitawan... She even said thank you for all the things that i have done for her. I know deep down hurt siya.. but i never gave her any reason to hate me because i was a perfect gentleman all the way.

 

You're very much correct that we must show character in the end... That is clearly separates men from boys and something we could be proud of looking back at the past and carry with us into the future....

[alex1025]

wait dre, now that is a different matter altogether, yung may mga commitment kayo sa isa't isa.

 

kasi in all my dealings and affairs, relationships, hiwalay na ako. and single. yung ibang girl ko noon ang may sabot. so sa umpisa pa lang, if you are a guy and you cannot commit, unfair na agad yan kasi sa huli wala talaga aasahan ang girl. kaya just give tulong if you want to and bukal sa loob mo and let her find a single guy who can take care of her. just chatting w you pare ha? hindi ako humuhusga. seen too many of these things lang. very complicated

 

Yup, no offense taken. You do provide a very just and reasonable argument naman. Thank you for that and to paint a clearer picture for you I'm married and she has a boyfriend when we met at the spakol which we both did not admit at the start...

You're also correct that to give help whole-heartedly is what i did..

 

So i said goodbye once that i saw my job is done so she could find a single guy to take care of her..and move on with her life. Cguro mahirap lang talaga tanggapin kasi napamahal ka na rin sa tao.

 

Thank you dre for your wisdom that you shared.. it kinda knocked some sense into me now..

(FYI, i said goodbye just last week kaya the wound is still fresh.)

[Bameboy]

Kudos to you sir for being able to do that...i know it's really hard to change someone lalo na if they're already in that kind of work...i've tried lots of times but i've yet to succeed

[alex1025]

Kudos to you sir for being able to do that...i know it's really hard to change someone lalo na if they're already in that kind of work...i've tried lots of times but i've yet to succeed

 

Thank you for the warm compliment... But it paid a very heavy emotional price for it.

[alex1025]

Di naman hype siguro at paid advertising mga kwentutan dito. Noh

 

Dre, no offense meant, but it you would backread the thread you would notice that there is no establishment or names being mentioned so paid advertising is definitely not on the agenda, Furthermore most of the comments are from guys and guys are really not emotional per se... So your question of hype??? It isjust guys who have broken hearts or broken spirits needing an outlet to vent their anger, frustrations and regrets to issues that cannot be discussed wide open with friends and families because of the taboo of the said topic.. I hope i made sound logic with my argument.. just my 2 cents worth.

[alex1025]

I just want to cry.... and cry...... and cry until there's nothing left in me.

 

Why?? What happened... I guess my only consolation to share is tips on how to mend a broken heart (speaking from recent experiences.. hehe)

 

1. You could share your story in this forum, the guys here have been through your situation and the wealth of knowledge and experience that they have is consoling.

2. Talk to a close friend preferably with alcohol to release the sama ng loob and trust me you will feel better.

3. If you're a member of fitness first there is this class called Body Combat sure heck releases all your anger after one session.

4. List down all the negatives about the girl your crying about in a piece of paper... then burn it

 

If all else fails... then magbabae ka ng magbabae, then you will realize that the girl you were crying about is a dime a dozen.

 

Remember life is too short to waste on self-pity,sorrow and anger.

[ganagana]

curious lang dre. if na achieve goal niya, why did you say goodbye? in most of my experiences, hindi na achieve ang goal. any nanaig was yung ugali ng girl na sagarin ang pagbenta ng katawan niya while she can which forced me to bid fareewell.

 

 

Hi guys. i wasn't able to read the start of this discussion, but i have a very similar experience.

 

Ako naman fell for her while she's an MPA, dream niya lang maging transciptionist, she can work from home and earn a decent living. Pinag aral ko siya, short course lang naman..she finished and was able to find a good job naman. Drawback is like what you guys experienced, marami silang spare tire..since we can only see them once o twice a week and since sex for them is just really work and they have beocme good friends with some of their regulars before, marami silang natatawagan pag wala ka.

 

I thought i would be genuinely happy she finds a good job and then settles down for good and live a normal life..but i'm only human andun siempre ang jealousy...although i try to close my eyes to the fact na marami siyang ibang ka J...i still can't leave her..

 

I still see her once a week, although i still give her a token amount, the sex with her is as genuine to real lovemaking as you would ever find, lovemaking on the wild side..ha..she let me do things to her that i would never think of asking a wife or a gf, but having done those things to her , makes me care for and love her even more....it makes me feel cared for and loved...although may trabaho na siyang desente..part of me knows that she still sees other regulars for a quick buck, but parang natanggap ko na, na once they've sold their bodies for a living it's hard to get it out of their system, easy money, and the regulars that they go with are probably friends of theirs narin....i don't know, hirap isipin...

 

I feel jealous at times, angry at times..but still can't get enough of her and get to leave her...will I ever think of settling down with her, cause sometimes i think about her all the time, is it just the mindblowing sex? maybe, but we've been doing it for the past 7 years and i don't think i can ever stop having her on the side...even though alam ko there are several of us..

 

Hahaha..gulo ng comment ko..just wanted to vent and see or validate if what i experience or feel is similar to the experiences of others here...

[Fusarium_jimini]

Why?? What happened... I guess my only consolation to share is tips on how to mend a broken heart (speaking from recent experiences.. hehe)

 

1. You could share your story in this forum, the guys here have been through your situation and the wealth of knowledge and experience that they have is consoling.

2. Talk to a close friend preferably with alcohol to release the sama ng loob and trust me you will feel better.

3. If you're a member of fitness first there is this class called Body Combat sure heck releases all your anger after one session.

4. List down all the negatives about the girl your crying about in a piece of paper... then burn it

 

If all else fails... then magbabae ka ng magbabae, then you will realize that the girl you were crying about is a dime a dozen.

 

Remember life is too short to waste on self-pity,sorrow and anger.

 

 

tama sinabi ni alex1025

 

to add, magbusy ka sa trabaho and productive things.

 

ang mahirap sa pambababae eh you isolate yourself from the rest of the world sometimes, because you spend a lot of time sa babae mo and text and call her even when hindi na kayo magkasama

 

so productive time and quality time with other family members and relatives mo, bonding with friends, officemates, bosses etc. which you used to do before becoming obsessed with the girl suffered and all the people who also matter in your life LOSE CONNECTION WITH YOU. so go back to your roots and connections

 

date and be close to 2 other women and share your problem with that girl with them. nakakatulong gun.

 

do all these and do all that will be advised to you in 3 to 4 weeks. after that you will feel more confident. then TIME will now work on you and will make the moving on moving forward process more effective.

 

I did all of the above for about 2-3 weeks only..

 

Your biggest enemy and ally kasi is time..so just keep yourself busy..rediscover your passions..

 

concrete examples (just this summer):

1. pre-fellowship rotation for 3 subspecialtis in 3 different hospitals. (2weeks per subspec)

2. out-of-town medical missions and pro-bono clinics.

3. outing with family, friends, and even her co-workers

4. prepping / upgrading my airsoft units in time for the end of the comelec gun ban.

5. carshows!

6. guitars, guitars, guitars!

7. band music in preparation for our medical alumni association.

8. daan-daan sa spa pag may time, hehehe (pure visit lang)

9. last but not the least, my patients

 

other advise:

1. don't drown yourself in alcohol. You'd just feel empty after the effects wear out..then you'd start feeling depressed again..magiging viscious cycle lang yan.

 

2. date one woman at a time (wag yung mambabae nang mambabae; be mindful not to let yourself have a negative view of women in general, as if their pieces of meat)..remember that your club/mpa/thera girl is not the collective epitome of what a woman is.

 

3. no matter what you do or how noble your intention may be, "you just can't teach old veteran dogs some new tricks"..kung ganun sila ka-conceited or what, ganun na talaga sila..don't waste your time, money, effort, and iota of mental energy doing everything you can and hoping that she at least has a change of attitude for the better, for her own good..HINDI MANGYAYARI YUN.

 

 

'nuff said mga pre.. O.R. in about an hour.

[alex1025]

I just want to cry.... and cry...... and cry until there's nothing left in me.

 

A Wise Man Once Said....

 

The prettiest eyes have cried the most tears...

The cutest smile hides the most secrets....

The kindest hearts have felt the most pain....

 

I guess she has a cute smile.... and you have a kind heart....

[mrderek]

Gud pm mga gms, nice thread.

Been back reading and i can probably sum up most advice as "Stop while you can. It will only end bad."

 

Pero, does it really end bad, always? Why can't you fall in love with them? Tao din naman sila?

I know this is is just me rationalizing. Kasi I think I'm beginning to get sucked into the vortex.

 

I think i'm starting to fall for this girl. I only met her twice and we only talked the entire time, kulitan lang. May konting hipo hipo pero no sex (not any form). Siguro mejo marupok lang ako ngayon after a bad ended relationship pero with those two sessions I had with her I think I'm beginning to like her.

 

Gusto ko itext sya lagi. Tapos hinihintay ko reply. Right now I wan't to go there sa club to see her, pero kakagagaling ko lang dun recently.. Gusto ko nga sya itext ngayon kumustahin lang pero baka kung ano isipin sakin etc...

 

Is it wrong to continue with this? This is human nature, human emotions, mahirap kalabanin. i just probably need advice. Help mga masters...

[Bameboy]

Gud pm mga gms, nice thread.

Been back reading and i can probably sum up most advice as "Stop while you can. It will only end bad."

 

Pero, does it really end bad, always? Why can't you fall in love with them? Tao din naman sila?

I know this is is just me rationalizing. Kasi I think I'm beginning to get sucked into the vortex.

 

I think i'm starting to fall for this girl. I only met her twice and we only talked the entire time, kulitan lang. May konting hipo hipo pero no sex (not any form). Siguro mejo marupok lang ako ngayon after a bad ended relationship pero with those two sessions I had with her I think I'm beginning to like her.

 

Gusto ko itext sya lagi. Tapos hinihintay ko reply. Right now I wan't to go there sa club to see her, pero kakagagaling ko lang dun recently.. Gusto ko nga sya itext ngayon kumustahin lang pero baka kung ano isipin sakin etc...

 

Is it wrong to continue with this? This is human nature, human emotions, mahirap kalabanin. i just probably need advice. Help mga masters...

I guess the best words to say is keep your emotions at bay and learn how to control them. You know for a fact na THIS IS THEIR WORK so whatever actions or words they may say it's all part of an illusion. I've been there done that 3x to be exact i never learned and now i'm different a different game when i go to clubs it's all about having fun and i'm no longer going to fall for their sweet words, kind gestures etc... It's how the game is played so i guess try a different approach and you'll see it in a whole new perspective

[Fusarium_jimini]

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I guess the best words to say is keep your emotions at bay and learn how to control them. You know for a fact na THIS IS THEIR WORK so whatever actions or words they may say it's all part of an illusion. I've been there done that 3x to be exact i never learned and now i'm different a different game when i go to clubs it's all about having fun and i'm no longer going to fall for their sweet words, kind gestures etc... It's how the game is played so i guess try a different approach and you'll see it in a whole new perspective

 

So true.. Couldn't have said it better myself.

[alex1025]

Gud pm mga gms, nice thread.

Been back reading and i can probably sum up most advice as "Stop while you can. It will only end bad."

 

Pero, does it really end bad, always? Why can't you fall in love with them? Tao din naman sila?

I know this is is just me rationalizing. Kasi I think I'm beginning to get sucked into the vortex.

 

I think i'm starting to fall for this girl. I only met her twice and we only talked the entire time, kulitan lang. May konting hipo hipo pero no sex (not any form). Siguro mejo marupok lang ako ngayon after a bad ended relationship pero with those two sessions I had with her I think I'm beginning to like her.

 

Gusto ko itext sya lagi. Tapos hinihintay ko reply. Right now I wan't to go there sa club to see her, pero kakagagaling ko lang dun recently.. Gusto ko nga sya itext ngayon kumustahin lang pero baka kung ano isipin sakin etc...

 

Is it wrong to continue with this? This is human nature, human emotions, mahirap kalabanin. i just probably need advice. Help mga masters...

 

Simple lang naman and dilemma mo... If you do not want to get burned... then don't play with fire..