Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Skorpius]

pwede nmn mainlove.. posible tlga.. lalo na pag sweet & maganda yung girl

[gimmickb4work]

I have had some friends who are into it. I know some ladies who almost are falling for clients but then again... here is my lesson for all of you guys out there...

 

YOU CAN ALWAYS TAKE A GIRL OUT OF A BAR BUT YOU CAN NEVER TAKE THE BAR OUT OF THE GIRL.

[tagalupa]

Aray ko! ang sakit naman nung sinabi mo. Dont you see most of the guys here are the ones getting hurt sa break ups. that means totoo ang mga feelings namin, and di kami nangiisa. Wag lang yung di kaya abutin ang hingin ng babae, we will try to give what we can afford to in every way.

 

hahaha..nice one bro..

[tagalupa]

I agree with the "illusion of romance" concept na sinabi ng isang poster, its there job to make you feel welcome and comfortable at the bar with flirting and being intimate, yun ang job description nila e, kase nga ikaw ang guest nila... ako matagal ko nang tinanggap na kasalanan ko to kung bakit ako na inlove sa gro ko and sometimes I feel that our romance is an illusion but everytime na nilalagay ko sarili ko sa lugar ko as a customer, nasasaktan ko cya ,minsan napapaiyak ko pa kase halata nya pag iniiba ko ugali ko ...meaning yung approach ko sa kanya, im really confused at times, hindi nyo maiiwasan un kahit sabihin pa nating gf mo ung gro mo ,kahit pinapakitaan ka ng maganda... andoon pa rin ung pagdududa kung may feelings ba talaga sa iyo ang gro mo or ginagawa lang nya trabaho nya, its because of their job so hindi mo na ma differentiate kung kelan cla nagpapakatotoo or nagpapaka-gro lang.

 

ako nga partida, naging cautious ako sa kanya, kahit inaaya nya ako lagi sa tinitirhan nya,umaayaw ako kase i dont wanna get deeply involved with her pero i still fell for her pero hindi parin ako nakikipagrelasyon sa kanya up to now, para at least hindi ako masasaktan ng todo todo pag may ka-table cya or ka vip cya na iba, ang gro ko, dancer din sa bar nila nagtotopless pa cya pero hindi all the way, un panga lang nasasaktan na ako lalo na pag hinhiyawan sya sa tuwa ng mga gunggong na guest, i just accept the fact na ganun ang trabaho nya e, tinatanggap ko nalang sa sarili ko na i'm just one of her guests, indi ko rin sya masisi kung cautious sya or wala sa mind nya ang pakikipag bf, naikwento na kase nya noon nung bago palang sya sa mga club na nakipag bf na sya sa guest and it turns out niloko lang sya kase may asawa na pala ung ungas, well i know how she feels coz kaiiwan din lang sa akin ng ka-live in ko , so parehas kaming nag iingat at hirap magtiwala, sa totoo lang minsan ayoko na cya puntahan pero di ko rin matiis minsan na hindi sya makita at makamusta kase naiisip ko baka mapunta na naman sya sa mga gagong guest

 

... kaya warning ko sa mga nagbabalak pumasok sa gantong sitwasyon , ihanda nyo sarili nyo and as much as possible iwasan nyong ma inlove ng todo kase habang tumatagal mas lalo kayong maguguluhan

 

 

dami pagkkapareho natin bro, saken lang may relasyon kami..Kgabi binisita ko cia and sarap ng pakiramdam pag ksama mo cia pero pag nde ko na cia kasama gigulo na naman ako ng isip ko kung ano ano ang iniisip ko..May tiwala naman ako kaya lang nde ko parin tlga maalis un takot..Hayy..

[lankaface]

Bro tagalupa, mga romantic talaga tayo. pagdating sa relation di namimili, di ba.

[gilghost]

wala ako masaba sa inyong dalawa... mga idol ko kaya pagdating sa ganitong mga situations at babae.... kelan ba EB natin?

Edited September 9, 2008 by gilghost

[pretzelogic]

It's just complicated.

 

I care a lot for her, will continue to do so she knows it very well, but this affair cannot be. Many times it pains me to read an FR about her, but what else could I do.

 

Still I will always be there for her. How I just wish I was born 25 years ago and have met her then, things may just be fine and normal.

 

It's just complicated.

[lankaface]

wala ako masaba sa inyong dalawa... mga idol ko kaya pagdating sa ganitong mga situations at babae.... kelan ba EB natin?

Gusto kong ituloy ang Eb kaya lang apat lang ang nagconfirm, whiuch includes you and tagalupa already. mHave to pull more people in. Pero puwede naman tayo mag pm para follow up nalang yung sa Eb. There are somethings that we cannot say in the thread kaya conti lang maikwento ko, maybe so is with tagalupa. Sa akin, is more of delicadesa sa mga lady readers natin. Sa isang thread mas vocal ako dahil walang nasasagasaan ako. Yung supernatural. Jusrt pm me if you need to clarify something about us or anything bothering you, we might be abloe to help. Bro....

[kits11326]

GF ko na ngayon... umalis na sya sa work nya... mahal ko sya kahit and dilim ng nakaraan nya.. lahat sinabi na nya.. nag pa abort, relasyon sa may asawa, sex with anyone she likes, etc. wala ako magawa eh.. MAHAL KO TALAGA SYA....

[pretzelogic]

GF ko na ngayon... umalis na sya sa work nya... mahal ko sya kahit and dilim ng nakaraan nya.. lahat sinabi na nya.. nag pa abort, relasyon sa may asawa, sex with anyone she likes, etc. wala ako magawa eh.. MAHAL KO TALAGA SYA....

 

Atta boy Kits! That's the way to do it...

[kits11326]

Atta boy Kits! That's the way to do it...

 

 

thanks pretzelogic for the encouragement... im really in love with her kaya ganito ako... :heart:

[SinisterPurpose]

I have had some friends who are into it. I know some ladies who almost are falling for clients but then again... here is my lesson for all of you guys out there...

 

YOU CAN ALWAYS TAKE A GIRL OUT OF A BAR BUT YOU CAN NEVER TAKE THE BAR OUT OF THE GIRL.

 

Dre, I visit this thread alot and lately lurk on the sidelines. I seldom make comments but I just have to make one here. If I may........ :flowers:

 

So do you really hold that statement to be true, dre? Is'nt "NEVER" too strong of a word? Here's how I understand that statement......The first part of that statement is physically possible. No discussion there. The second part deals with the girls reality, psyche, core values, and for the most part her self esteem. The "bar" being the anti-social behaviour, negative habits, trauma, abuse and dim realities they have experienced. (How "I" understand it.... ha.)

 

Dre, I'm no saint and I kicked alot of my girls asses (the ones that needed kicking) but in my honest opinion (IMHO) this is a stereo typical statement that one makes who has had a negative experience with our topic. (I'm not saying you ha. I said "one".). I believe it is a statement made to help one cope for being duped by some girl. Basically a "cop out" statement in my opinion. I'll grant you Dre that there are a number of hard luck and kawawa stories with clients falling in love with these kind of girls, but that does not discount the many success stories....

 

My friend, a psp, is happily married and is now my kumare. Not once have we talked about her past and not once has she thought of straying from her beloved husband. Another ex of mine has a thriving business and told me that she will never look back. She now has too much to lose if she does. I have a friend who was a japayuki, became a recording star (You will know her if I post the name) found her spiritual path and now owns a salon in Bulacan, happily married with three kids. One of my girls right now spends her Wednesdays and Thrusdays in long employment lines in EPZA Cavite applying for any factory job that may come available; hoping to get out of the bar life. Even if it means longer hours, harder work and less income. :thumbsupsmiley:

 

IMHO; When these girls are given their basic survival needs, offered hope to feel decent and clean again, have realized their aspirations for a better life, regain their self respect with no attached baggage from the past, given a boost in their self esteem, then yes..... "THE BAR IS TAKEN OUT OF THEM!!!!"

 

You know what is so ironic? Under your avatar it says "ANTI-STEREOTYPE". And your arrogance is going too teach us a lesson???? :thumbsdownsmiley: Peace Out! Dre!

[lankaface]

Dre, I visit this thread alot and lately lurk on the sidelines. I seldom make comments but I just have to make one here. If I may........ :flowers:

 

So do you really hold that statement to be true, dre? Is'nt "NEVER" too strong of a word? Here's how I understand that statement......The first part of that statement is physically possible. No discussion there. The second part deals with the girls reality, psyche, core values, and for the most part her self esteem. The "bar" being the anti-social behaviour, negative habits, trauma, abuse and dim realities they have experienced. (How "I" understand it.... ha.)

 

Dre, I'm no saint and I kicked alot of my girls asses (the ones that needed kicking) but in my honest opinion (IMHO) this is a stereo typical statement that one makes who has had a negative experience with our topic. (I'm not saying you ha. I said "one".). I believe it is a statement made to help one cope for being duped by some girl. Basically a "cop out" statement in my opinion. I'll grant you Dre that there are a number of hard luck and kawawa stories with clients falling in love with these kind of girls, but that does not discount the many success stories....

 

My friend, a psp, is happily married and is now my kumare. Not once have we talked about her past and not once has she thought of straying from her beloved husband. Another ex of mine has a thriving business and told me that she will never look back. She now has too much to lose if she does. I have a friend who was a japayuki, became a recording star (You will know her if I post the name) found her spiritual path and now owns a salon in Bulacan, happily married with three kids. One of my girls right now spends her Wednesdays and Thrusdays in long employment lines in EPZA Cavite applying for any factory job that may come available; hoping to get out of the bar life. Even if it means longer hours, harder work and less income. :thumbsupsmiley:

 

IMHO; When these girls are given their basic survival needs, offered hope to feel decent and clean again, have realized their aspirations for a better life, regain their self respect with no attached baggage from the past, given a boost in their self esteem, then yes..... "THE BAR IS TAKEN OUT OF THEM!!!!"

 

You know what is so ironic? Under your avatar it says "ANTI-STEREOTYPE". And your arrogance is going too teach us a lesson???? :thumbsdownsmiley: Peace Out! Dre!

Dude, i remember those girls, still in contact with them. We've gone a long way now, still kicking ass, but correcting lives for them.

[SinisterPurpose]

Dude, i remember those girls, still in contact with them. We've gone a long way now, still kicking ass, but correcting lives for them.

 

Yes, I am... We are good firends now actually. :thumbsupsmiley: I kick their ass, when need be, only because I love them.... (Tough Love) :heart: You see them fall in line for their own good, di ba? Hindi naman natin sila pinababayaan.... :flowers: It's symbiotic!

[tagalupa]

Bro tagalupa, mga romantic talaga tayo. pagdating sa relation di namimili, di ba.

 

 

ganun tlga pag special sau un isang tao..hehe..

[tagalupa]

wala ako masaba sa inyong dalawa... mga idol ko kaya pagdating sa ganitong mga situations at babae.... kelan ba EB natin?

 

nde tol..pare pareho lang tau..sa totoo lang kaw nga ang idol ko..Ginagawa mo parin lahat lahat and not expecting anything from her..Mahirap na masarap un situation namen with my gf..mahirap kasi nandun un takot na madami pede mangyari coz of her profession,masarap pag nararamdaman mo na importante ka at mahal ka nya..Sabi nga ng isang artist,"YOU DONT HAVE TO WIN,TO BECOME A WINNER" minsan mas maganda pa na wala ka sa isang relasyon para nde ka masaktan o maging complikado..

 

Happy and contented ako with my GRO gf pero katulad ng lagi ko sinasabi nandun parin un takot..

 

Atta boy Kits! That's the way to do it...

 

 

So sweet! Love conquers all..Goodluck bro//

[tagalupa]

It's just complicated.

 

I care a lot for her, will continue to do so she knows it very well, but this affair cannot be. Many times it pains me to read an FR about her, but what else could I do.

 

Still I will always be there for her. How I just wish I was born 25 years ago and have met her then, things may just be fine and normal.

 

It's just complicated.

 

So sweet! Love conquers all..Goodluck bro :thumbsupsmiley:

[tagalupa]

Gusto kong ituloy ang Eb kaya lang apat lang ang nagconfirm, whiuch includes you and tagalupa already. mHave to pull more people in. Pero puwede naman tayo mag pm para follow up nalang yung sa Eb. There are somethings that we cannot say in the thread kaya conti lang maikwento ko, maybe so is with tagalupa. Sa akin, is more of delicadesa sa mga lady readers natin. Sa isang thread mas vocal ako dahil walang nasasagasaan ako. Yung supernatural. Jusrt pm me if you need to clarify something about us or anything bothering you, we might be abloe to help. Bro....

 

Yep bro..Meron din kasi mga bagay na mahirap ishare sa thread..

[punisherxxx]

GF ko na ngayon... umalis na sya sa work nya... mahal ko sya kahit and dilim ng nakaraan nya.. lahat sinabi na nya.. nag pa abort, relasyon sa may asawa, sex with anyone she likes, etc. wala ako magawa eh.. MAHAL KO TALAGA SYA....

 

wow!! congrats... buti kapa

[punisherxxx]

sasama na lang ako sa eb nyo pag umalis na baby ko papunta japan, para tamang emote , wag ngayon , namnamin ko pa presence nya e... gudluck nalang sa eb nyo kung matutuloy, tama talaga ung sinabi ni tagalupa na pag kasama mo ung girl masaya ka pero pag wala na may takot kana, hirap talaga pag inde legit ang work ng girl :cry:

[lankaface]

sasama na lang ako sa eb nyo pag umalis na baby ko papunta japan, para tamang emote , wag ngayon , namnamin ko pa presence nya e... gudluck nalang sa eb nyo kung matutuloy, tama talaga ung sinabi ni tagalupa na pag kasama mo ung girl masaya ka pero pag wala na may takot kana, hirap talaga pag inde legit ang work ng girl :cry:

Soon palang ang Eb, kulang pa kasi sa tao. Lets plan it well para marami makasama. Hope the girls will be able to make it para masmasaya ang discussion at di one sided.

[BossPokyo]

Yep bro..Meron din kasi mga bagay na mahirap ishare sa thread..

 

 

Soon palang ang Eb, kulang pa kasi sa tao. Lets plan it well para marami makasama. Hope the girls will be able to make it para masmasaya ang discussion at di one sided.

 

hey guys count me in... i'll join you kung pasok sa sked ko.

 

i'm a regular reader in this thread but i'm afraid to share my story publicly.

 

have it occurred to anyone that some of us might be talking about and also fell for the same girl?

 

tsk tsk tsk

[tlpnds]

This is my first time posting in Manilatonight, and I have been backreading through this forum and have found many enlightening opinions and debates. I find it especially interesting that we Pinoys still regard PSPs/MPAs/Escorts, or whomever in the business of sex for money as being "other kinds of women". We still hold many stereotypes about them, and I trust that many of us here know what those stereotypes are already so I won't bother mentioning them.

 

However, I feel that what these "other women" actually do for work is not too different in essence from what millions of Pinay Domestic Helpers forced to do in other countries. What I mean by this is:

 

1) Domestic Help is actually "below" the qualifications and potentials of the Pinays doing it; they clean toilets, houses, kitchen utensils, clothes, etc. for their bosses even though there are many of them who are college graduates, former professional teachers, former nurses, etc.; same with PSPs, MPAs, etc.

 

2) Domestic Help is very very dirty work, but it pays thrice more than the usual "day jobs" in the Philippines. So, millions of women consider it as an option to make a living. Ergo the "other women" mentioned above.

 

3) Domestic Help is considered "not normal" work by other nationalities. Just like how we Pinoys consider being a PSP, MPA, etc.

 

My point is that, hey guys, these women do their "thing" to WORK. And it's not only "them" who do "these things" to WORK. I've worked in the showbiz industry for over ten years, and I would personally know of many, no, several "upstanding" women celebrities who pander their bodies to find...not enjoyment...but MONEY and WORK. Which is why I have come to the conclusion that PSPs, MPAs, etc. as well as many female showbiz superstars in my line of work basically do the same things...except that they get more, I mean tonloads more, of money for it. I also have to say that I know of several GUYS in showbiz who pander their bodies to you-know-who's just to be able to WORK.

 

So, it is in my mind that the more enlightened individual would do well not to consider PSPs, MPAs, or what-not as "other women". They are women, plainly put. And yes, they can fall in love. And yes, we can fall in love with them, if ever there comes such a time.

 

As to the challenges faced by men and women in this situation, well, you're not alone my friends. Just look at our good old boy Tony B-- C., who is always seen in the company of G---- B., a woman who is considered as a "w---e" by members of Tony's family. And yet, they're still at it. Well...just my two cents' worth.

[lankaface]

hey guys count me in... i'll join you kung pasok sa sked ko.

 

i'm a regular reader in this thread but i'm afraid to share my story publicly.

 

have it occurred to anyone that some of us might be talking about and also fell for the same girl?

 

tsk tsk tsk

Nice of you to join in. Hanap tayo ng magandang venue. And konti pang sasama na members, then ayos na. Edited September 11, 2008 by lankaface

[lankaface]

Bro, tlpnds nice sharing . You should share more often, may mga secreto ka pala pang showbiz. Baka maenganyo mga girls to post more often.