Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[winfliz]

k lng yan,go go go

[CommissarYardick]

The thing is, i only went to her workplace once, all our interaction occurs outside the cubicle, i treat her like how you'd treat your girl normally, i actually find it awkward just thinking that if i do avail of her services at her workplace do i have to hand her a tip? It just doesn't sit well with me. So i try to avoid going to her workplace. And sometimes i dont know if theres anything wrong with me cause im willing to wait almost 3 hours outside just for her to finish with some guests so we can go out for dinner. Its just that im really happy being with her, guess ill just go along while it lasts.

[islekimp]

it all seems good, it all depends on how she feel and how it all goes.....

 

Best of luck....

 

keep it simple....but keep your guard up as well...or else the fall will be worst

[rageER]

Goodluck bro! as long as both of you are happy, go lang!

[winfliz]

wow gm tlg, k lng yan, minsan kailngn mo tlg i untog ulo mo sa pader bago m mllman kung masakit.

[dibdba]

As some of the guys pointed out, there's a similar thread with lots of insights on your situation.

 

Just keep in mind that there is one undeniable thing: as long as your girl is in the industry, she will have to deal with a lot of men, most of them strangers. Is this something you are open-minded enough to accept?

 

If you are unwilling or unable to get her off the industry, it will be a source of tension between you two. Even if she says it's just a job, you know there will be some intimate moments with others, limited only by the spa's promos and her self-imposed limits.

 

And what do you do if you read an FR about her, exaggerated or not? Do you confront her? Or do you suffer privately?

 

You are in a difficult situation bro, one in which I can relate. Good luck.

[CommissarYardick]

As some of the guys pointed out, there's a similar thread with lots of insights on your situation.

 

Just keep in mind that there is one undeniable thing: as long as your girl is in the industry, she will have to deal with a lot of men, most of them strangers. Is this something you are open-minded enough to accept?

 

If you are unwilling or unable to get her off the industry, it will be a source of tension between you two. Even if she says it's just a job, you know there will be some intimate moments with others, limited only by the spa's promos and her self-imposed limits.

 

And what do you do if you read an FR about her, exaggerated or not? Do you confront her? Or do you suffer privately?

 

You are in a difficult situation bro, one in which I can relate. Good luck.

 

Thanks for the feedback sir dibs, trust me ive thought about everything you mentioned heavily. Im probably open minded enough already to accept that she is working in this industry, hell i met her within the four walls of the spa. Im not hypocritical enough to ask her to immediately ask her to stop working there. I understand that shes working there for a reason and i know for a fact that given the opportunity shed much rather work somewhere else.

 

regarding the FRs, its all good with me since its part of the industry already, i even wrote an FR for her. What i find kind of awkward is when GMs pm me for pics or details on the services she offers . I try not to think about it so much, but its hard not to lose some sleep over it at the same time.

[Google]

imho kinda complicated.

but would you be so sure she has also the same intention as yours? o baka gusto lang nya lumabas sa trabaho nya and she looks at you as a channel to do so.

pero kung may mutual feeling talaga and kung ok sa iyo yung ganung scenario, then wala akong nakikitang masama.

[swynd]

Thanks for the feedback sir dibs, trust me ive thought about everything you mentioned heavily. Im probably open minded enough already to accept that she is working in this industry, hell i met her within the four walls of the spa. Im not hypocritical enough to ask her to immediately ask her to stop working there. I understand that shes working there for a reason and i know for a fact that given the opportunity shed much rather work somewhere else.

 

regarding the FRs, its all good with me since its part of the industry already, i even wrote an FR for her. What i find kind of awkward is when GMs pm me for pics or details on the services she offers . I try not to think about it so much, but its hard not to lose some sleep over it at the same time.

 

Excellent. You don't know how many clients are hypocritical in that regard. Very good and mature way of looking at it.

 

But yes, the PMs about the services can get awkward

[DorkVader]

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The thing is, i only went to her workplace once, all our interaction occurs outside the cubicle, i treat her like how you'd treat your girl normally, i actually find it awkward just thinking that if i do avail of her services at her workplace do i have to hand her a tip? It just doesn't sit well with me. So i try to avoid going to her workplace. And sometimes i dont know if theres anything wrong with me cause im willing to wait almost 3 hours outside just for her to finish with some guests so we can go out for dinner. Its just that im really happy being with her, guess ill just go along while it lasts.

 

I still don't think it's a good idea. But you have my respect and admiration. You are still in "in love". When in love, you sometimes fail or refuse to see certain realities. There will come a time when you no longer will be "in love" but would really love her. Things may get clearer and when they do, reality would be a hard pill to swallow. I just wish you would still be as open minded. All the best dude.

[winfliz]

alam mo pare, anun nagusthan m dun.?ugali or stuff i think, kilatisin mo muna dhan dhan take ur time. pra makilala mo mabuti, and try meetng more thera bka magbago isip mo. bka kulang ka pa sa tikim. kya ndi ka mapili sa ulam

[CommissarYardick]

alam mo pare, anun nagusthan m dun.?ugali or stuff i think, kilatisin mo muna dhan dhan take ur time. pra makilala mo mabuti, and try meetng more thera bka magbago isip mo. bka kulang ka pa sa tikim. kya ndi ka mapili sa ulam

 

trust me, nag buffet n ako hahah

[lykaboom]

It's not bad to fall inlove with the therapist. Like me I'm a therapist :*

[Fhunkmeister]

Allow me to be the devil's advocate.

 

Medyo related lang, pero nangyari sakin to once sa isang model/ahente ng sikat na energy drink na naka-mini-cooper na company car (lol). Nagsimula sa usap, tapos text, tapos coffee, tapos long-drive to Ilocos na para sa kasal ng pinsan ko (meet the family!!!). Masaya naman, hanggang umabot sa point na nawala na ang initial spark at "normal" na mag-bf/gf na lang kami. Mature ang relationship namin at maluwang kami sa isa't-isa pero sa likod ng isip ko, alam kong puwede s'yang mag-entertain ng ibang lalaki gaya ng ginawa n'ya sakin. Malamang sa likod ng isip n'ya, alam n'ya na kaya kong makipagkilala sa iba dahil sa ganun ko s'ya nakilala. After 2 years, nagkahiwalay din kami. Ang maganda lang magkaibigan kami at kasama ko lang s'ya sa bar last week.

 

To end this post, may mga iiwan lang akong tanong sa mga naiinlove sa mga babae sa industry:

 

- Maharot ka, maharot s'ya, kapag wala na ang love goggles ninyo na siguradong mangyayari, sino ang unang haharot ulit?

 

- Follow-up 1: Kapag wala na ang spark, hindi ka na ba babalik ulit sa MP/SPA/ETC?

 

- Follow-up 2: Kapag gipit na s'ya o may nakilala s'ya na magbibigay ng masmagandang buhay sa kanya, sigurado ka ba na hindi ka n'ya iiwan?

 

- Napa-post at napa-research ka kasi di mo alam kung tama ba ang papasukin mo. Sigurado ka ba na kaya mong isagad ang effort sa relasyon n'yo? Ang mas-mahalaga, sigurado ka ba na kaya n'ya mag-sagad ng effort para sa inyo (itong part na to, wag ikaw ang sumagot. Kung in-love ka, kahit araw-araw humihingi ng 1000 sa'yo yan, may chance na hindi mo maiisip na nasasamantala ka)?

 

Sabi nga nila, ok lang naman na makipagrelasyon sa mga babae sa industry na to. Yun nga lang, tandaan mo na iisa ang salbabida sa barko n'yo. Kapag dumating ang punto na lulubog na ang barko, siguraduhin mo na ikaw ang may hawak ng salbabidang yun.

[DorkVader]

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for me, its hard to fall in love with a spakol therapist. i want my girlfriend to be only mine and not share it with others

 

True. That's precisely what I meant in my previvious post. I couldn't have said it any better. You nailed it. There are very few out there who are willing to allow his girlfriend be touched by another, and at the same time provide gratification services to different men. True again, there is nothing wrong with falling in love with a PERSON in that line of work. Just be sure that when reality bites, you can separate the therapist from the person you fell in love with. Mukhang mahirap gawin na hindi ka masasaktan. Palagay ko lang naman.