Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Bameboy]

Now i kinda understand what really happens when marriages are destroyed because of these instances. Everything was all a LIE to begin with...everything is all part of their job, think of it this way if your job is a lawyer it's your job to defend people in court now if you're working in MPs it's your job to satisfy people. Okay some girls didn't have a choice let's give them that but at the end of the day it's still their work yes there are RARE cases where the girl is honest and really loves the guy..again RARE!. It's like a drug they can never get out of their system only a very few can, it's like already embedded in their brains and i kid you not...i guess to sum it all up is...it's their work to satisfy clients/guests and their main reason is money, give them that and take them away from their work yes...go back to the embedded phrase...and it's a very vicious cycle one you don't want to be a part of...if you are and if you do want to, just make sure you know how to get out...

[spadon]

Met a PSP when she was still a college student, went out regularly as a client until she graduated and started to work in a multi national company where she met a co worker who became her boyfriend. Knowing she was on her way to a "normal life and career", I told her on one of our dates that it was OK with me to stop seeing each other since she already had a steady job and a serious boyfriend. To my surprise, she said just call me.

 

To make a long story short, we still see each other regularly, me as a client. I still pay for her time each time we go out. It's been this way for six or seven years now. Now why is it that she still goes out with me. Obviously she no longer needs the money and she has her boyfriend for almost five years now.

 

Is this love or what?

[Fusarium_jimini]

1372559425[/url]' post='8755550']

but they also have every reason not to trust us either........... anyways i really don't want to think about this anymore. it's driving me nuts. i was away from this whole spa thing for a very long time and wasn't really planning on ever coming back till i learned the news that she went back to that spa where she used to work. and since then i was there almost every time when she's around and i would even avail not just one but multiple sessions with her just to be able to have some private time and space to talk to her (we just simply talked.... nothing more and for me it's better than any es they could ever possibly give you) and i would even take her home afterwards and this went on till.... about a week ago when i sensed that there seemed to be something strange about this whole thing.... something isn't right..... i mean everything she does seemed like "mechanical". You guys are right.... it's all part of their job to be nice and to please you every way they can............ it's just a job for them......... nothing personal. But for those who got their girl good for you but for those who are considering getting into it and for those who are already in the process....... think hard and ask yourself.... is the girl worth it......... is the girl worth fighting for because of who she is and what she means to you......that you really really really love her in the most truest sense. if you "like" the girl just simply because of her beauty and for the pleasure.... forget it..... people grow old and all of us get uglier overtime.

 

right now its always a struggle for me not to go back to that spa where she currently works...... and i miss her a lot and this will definitely take some time for me to get over it.

Guys... save yourself from humiliation and salvage whatever dignity and humanity you may still have left before it destroys you.

 

Not Everything you See is Real,

Not Everything you Hear is True,

In this World where Nothing is What They Seem to Be.......

(still working on the last line though....haha!)

 

Been there done that.. The point will come when everything seems routine, and you rational self will tell you, "(insert your name here), you don't deserve this, you don't deserve to be treated this way."

 

1372588202[/url]' post='8755834']

Now i kinda understand what really happens when marriages are destroyed because of these instances. Everything was all a LIE to begin with...everything is all part of their job, think of it this way if your job is a lawyer it's your job to defend people in court now if you're working in MPs it's your job to satisfy people. Okay some girls didn't have a choice let's give them that but at the end of the day it's still their work yes there are RARE cases where the girl is honest and really loves the guy..again RARE!. It's like a drug they can never get out of their system only a very few can, it's like already embedded in their brains and i kid you not...i guess to sum it all up is...it's their work to satisfy clients/guests and their main reason is money, give them that and take them away from their work yes...go back to the embedded phrase...and it's a very vicious cycle one you don't want to be a part of...if you are and if you do want to, just make sure you know how to get out...

 

Make no mistake (like I did).. The cold hard reality for these people is that "money makes the world go around"; summed up in such words like "regular guest", "patron", "sugardaddy", "supporter", "scholar", "sponsor", etc.

 

 

1372590189[/url]' post='8755859']

Met a PSP when she was still a college student, went out regularly as a client until she graduated and started to work in a multi national company where she met a co worker who became her boyfriend. Knowing she was on her way to a "normal life and career", I told her on one of our dates that it was OK with me to stop seeing each other since she already had a steady job and a serious boyfriend. To my surprise, she said just call me.

 

To make a long story short, we still see each other regularly, me as a client. I still pay for her time each time we go out. It's been this way for six or seven years now. Now why is it that she still goes out with me. Obviously she no longer needs the money and she has her boyfriend for almost five years now.

 

Is this love or what?

 

Pre, sorry for saying this but don't delude yourself into thinking that there must be a better reason why she goes out with you on the sides, other than the dough you pay for her services.

 

And are you sure you still wanna enter into a realationship (illicit or legal) with someone who goes behind her current longtime bf?

Edited June 30, 2013 by Fusarium_jimini

[scam]

Met a PSP when she was still a college student, went out regularly as a client until she graduated and started to work in a multi national company where she met a co worker who became her boyfriend. Knowing she was on her way to a "normal life and career", I told her on one of our dates that it was OK with me to stop seeing each other since she already had a steady job and a serious boyfriend. To my surprise, she said just call me.

 

To make a long story short, we still see each other regularly, me as a client. I still pay for her time each time we go out. It's been this way for six or seven years now. Now why is it that she still goes out with me. Obviously she no longer needs the money and she has her boyfriend for almost five years now.

 

Is this love or what?

 

NO it ain't love for you or her. She just wanna be with you i think cause maybe you've been so nice to her. Hey, 6 or 7 years, that's a long way for a business relationship, it's tough to break. Most likely you can get a discount by now with that long relationeship, 2 for the price of 1.

[spadon]

BUt just like what you said here.... you still meet her as a client right? Which means she still receives moolah from you right? If you want my opinion.... no i dont think thats love. Probably she just likes to fool around with you and earn a little extra on the side at the same time. I dont know... maybe im wrong....maybe im right... im relatively new here so i really cant say for sure.

 

I estimate the money she makes on me is just 5% of what she makes in her job at the multi national firm and we go out once a month on the average. There are times I am short on cash and she consents to an IOU which I make good the next time we go out. You can say I got a real good deal here and money seems to be a minor issue with us, but I guess the litmus test is if I ask and get it for free.

 

 

Pre, sorry for saying this but don't delude yourself into thinking that there must be a better reason why she goes out with you on the sides, other than the dough you pay for her services.

 

And are you sure you still wanna enter into a realationship (illicit or legal) with someone who goes behind her current longtime bf?

 

Earlier this year I bumped into her with her BF in a mall. Predictably, when we locked eyes momentarily, she gave no sign of recognition. We went out the following week, I mentioned our encounter and she denied that was her BF but her officemate (which was true) on their way to a client call. I've seen pixs on her FB in sweet and lovey dovey poses with him.

 

I don't mind what she chooses to admit or deny. I'm just happy for me and sorry for him. He has a managerial post, good looking hunk (mestizo) and about her age. I'm retired, have a nice pot belly, balding with kids older than her.

Too good to be true, huh? That's why I'm incredulous at why this goes on at all with all the wrong reasons.

[lion-heart]

I am currently in love with one

[Bameboy]

I like your lawyer analogy.

 

Couldn't agree more.

Thanks! Been there done that...but i'm only 27 haha! Still have a long way to go yes but experience is really a game changer

[Bameboy]

I am currently in love with one

Good luck sir! May your experience teach you everything you need...

[friendly0603]

Met a PSP when she was still a college student, went out regularly as a client until she graduated and started to work in a multi national company where she met a co worker who became her boyfriend. Knowing she was on her way to a "normal life and career", I told her on one of our dates that it was OK with me to stop seeing each other since she already had a steady job and a serious boyfriend. To my surprise, she said just call me.

 

To make a long story short, we still see each other regularly, me as a client. I still pay for her time each time we go out. It's been this way for six or seven years now. Now why is it that she still goes out with me. Obviously she no longer needs the money and she has her boyfriend for almost five years now.

Is this love or what?

I guess. But the true test would be if he found out about you. Who would she choose?

 

I don't mind what she chooses to admit or deny. I'm just happy for me and sorry for him. He has a managerial post, good looking hunk (mestizo) and about her age. I'm retired, have a nice pot belly, balding with kids older than her.

Too good to be true, huh? That's why I'm incredulous at why this goes on at all with all the wrong reasons.

All I can say is wow!

Good for you but bad for him. I guess he really doesn't know her which is really sad considering their long relationship.

Edited July 2, 2013 by friendly0603

[blow_gobi]

but they also have every reason not to trust us either........... anyways i really don't want to think about this anymore. it's driving me nuts. i was away from this whole spa thing for a very long time and wasn't really planning on ever coming back till i learned the news that she went back to that spa where she used to work. and since then i was there almost every time when she's around and i would even avail not just one but multiple sessions with her just to be able to have some private time and space to talk to her (we just simply talked.... nothing more and for me it's better than any es they could ever possibly give you) and i would even take her home afterwards and this went on till.... about a week ago when i sensed that there seemed to be something strange about this whole thing.... something isn't right..... i mean everything she does seemed like "mechanical". You guys are right.... it's all part of their job to be nice and to please you every way they can............ it's just a job for them......... nothing personal. But for those who got their girl good for you but for those who are considering getting into it and for those who are already in the process....... think hard and ask yourself.... is the girl worth it......... is the girl worth fighting for because of who she is and what she means to you......that you really really really love her in the most truest sense. if you "like" the girl just simply because of her beauty and for the pleasure.... forget it..... people grow old and all of us get uglier overtime.

 

right now its always a struggle for me not to go back to that spa where she currently works...... and i miss her a lot and this will definitely take some time for me to get over it.

Guys... save yourself from humiliation and salvage whatever dignity and humanity you may still have left before it destroys you.

 

Not Everything you See is Real,

Not Everything you Hear is True,

In this World where Nothing is What They Seem to Be.......

(still working on the last line though....haha!)

 

... all these illusions can k*ll you

[Shadow Knight]

Sometimes its very difficult to decipher if she is also into to you.

[idolkita01]

Meron palang thread na ganito

[SanMateo]

Sometimes its very difficult to decipher if she is also into to you.

 

This. I once had an escort girlfriend before. She was the educated type. Went to a private school and was in a Uaap school before she dropped out. Even though she was not like the other psp's I still can't tell what's on her mind. She's paranoid when I'm with my barkada na girls and yet she wants me to understand her nature of work. I tried staying but this kind of relationship was just too hard to maintain, not to mention my paranoia if she falls for one of her guests. So I had to end it. It hurts at first but eventually I realized that you can not always be the prince charming that they've always wanted.

[Papa Jack]

<br /> <br />This. I once had an escort girlfriend before. She was the educated type. Went to a private school and was in a Uaap school before she dropped out. Even though she was not like the other psp's I still can't tell what's on her mind. She's paranoid when I'm with my barkada na girls and yet she wants me to understand her nature of work. I tried staying but this kind of relationship was just too hard to maintain, not to mention my paranoia if she falls for one of her guests. So I had to end it. It hurts at first but eventually I realized that you can not always be the prince charming that they've always wanted.<br />

<br /><br /><br />

 

Good point I tried once to be their knight in shining armor mahirap

Emotions, money and time.. so back nalang in being a gm to them.

[Fusarium_jimini]

1372916429[/url]' post='8762187']

 

This. I once had an escort girlfriend before. She was the educated type. Went to a private school and was in a Uaap school before she dropped out. Even though she was not like the other psp's I still can't tell what's on her mind. She's paranoid when I'm with my barkada na girls and yet she wants me to understand her nature of work. I tried staying but this kind of relationship was just too hard to maintain, not to mention my paranoia if she falls for one of her guests. So I had to end it. It hurts at first but eventually I realized that you can not always be the prince charming that they've always wanted.

 

1372931921[/url]' post='8762711']

<br /><br /><br />

 

Good point I tried once to be their knight in shining armor mahirap

Emotions, money and time.. so back nalang in being a gm to them.

 

Kudos to you guys for seeing the light..

 

More than the emotion, effort, money, and time, Its time to back-off if jealousy and/or paranoia begin to affect your work and you other relationships (with family, friends, colleagues, etc.)..

[SanMateo]

Ok lang yan brad. Been in that road as well. Emotional din ako but I let my head decide at the last moment because it was affecting my performance at work and my relationship with my friends. Kahit educated pa yan psp basta pumasok na sila sa mundo na yan mahirap umalis.

[Bameboy]

prince-charming???? knight in shinning armor????? - no it doesn't work with these ladies.

 

you treat them with dignity and respect.... treat them like a real lady but then they treat you like %^&*#@!#%^%^$@%%%#@!!!!!!!!!!!!! cause they don't want any of those things.... less your good looks ( ikanga makakain ba nila yung good looks mo)........... they want something else and its so sickening i couldn't even say it here.

 

sorry.... too much anger............ wwwwwwwooooooooossssssaaaaaahhhhhh.........

So much anger, so much pain...i feel you man...i've been down that road before...i might still am but now only the pain remains and the anger is still inside...and hatred has become my sustenance...i loved before i really did but now i can't seem to feel it anymore...that emotion...it's weird i know but that's how turned out to be after this s@%t storm i created...i still go to these places yes but with different reasons now...

[alex1025]

So much anger, so much pain...i feel you man...i've been down that road before...i might still am but now only the pain remains and the anger is still inside...and hatred has become my sustenance...i loved before i really did but now i can't seem to feel it anymore...that emotion...it's weird i know but that's how turned out to be after this s@%t storm i created...i still go to these places yes but with different reasons now...

My 2 cents worth.... if you let the hate and anger consume you then THEY would have won..Living with hatred is not living at all... i know it is hard to let go trust me im in the same situation as well. Treat the experience as a lesson in which you can now value what's more important in your life. Learn to see the world in a new light. Like i've said life is too short too waste in hating someone. This goes out to anyone in this kind of debacle....

 

God, Grant me the

SERENITY to ACCEPT the things that I cannot CHANGE,

COURAGE to CHANGE the things that I CAN,

& the WISDOM to know the DIFFERENCE...

AMEN

[GT888]

I had one great memory not so long ago...

 

I belong to a group of friends that you can consider to be playful. Some of us are single and some are married.

 

Those that are married - i know love there wives. So we resort to hiring escorts and not really go for the "relationship"

 

I am a chubby, chinita and nice feet lover. If a girl does not meet the criteria....i would not really bother getting her. and Believe me, i have turned down the prettiest and sexier ones.

 

One time, our "source" got a hold of the perfect girl for me....

 

I kid not....she was a 50% look alike of Heart Evangelista and 50% her own beauty. She was gorgeous. AND A FIRST TIMER.

 

I got her and because i loved her looks...it was amazing for me. and she gave back kasi she told me she likes chinito men who look nerdy.

 

The rest was history. I put her her through her last year at the university. Paid for her family's living expenses for 2 years.

 

Got her a job but the problem was I kept her. She thought i did not love her and was fine by the company she gave me. My personal background is that all of my siblings are tin the US and Europe. I came back home to take care of my parents, since i was single.

 

One day, I found out that she was in love with her office mate but would not answer him. Her family was indebted to me and actually wanted me to marry her.

 

I was so jealous and had this tug of war of emotions. One to let her go and to try it out with her.

 

Being a Jack Ass and thinking only of myself, I decided to let her go. I did not think my family would accept her but my friends did, who saw that she made me happy. Id also bring her along trips and weddings and special occasion as my date and I was genuinely sweet with her.

 

I let her go....JACK ASS!!!!

 

I was too scared to commit......

 

I did not really have to go through the emotional torment of sharing my GF / girl with other men. But just sharing that they are worth loving too....

[Janja]

You guys should watch the indie film Centerfold. Kahit paano mabigyan kayo ng light na hindi lahat gusto ang trabaho na pinasok nila pero no choice sila dahil minsan kapit na rin sa patalim.

 

I know some woman whom I dated outside working in this adult business has siblings which shes paying their tuition from the fruit of her "labors", some were recruited from province telling different jobs but ending up as GRO and they had no choice but to sell their flesh in exchange for money to send home and some lost their virginity in a young age and decided to work like this because they didnt had education to find a better work.

 

Oo mayroong kahit anong gawin mo o ibigay mo na lahat bumabalik sila sa gawain na yun, anu ba magagawa nila dun sila nagkakapera. Nasa isip na nila ang kumayod gamit ang katawan. Tapos may nagrereklamo kapag wala ng mabigay ang lalaki bumabalik ang babae sa gawain na yun. E di yung mga lalaki na may syota o balak mag syota bigay respeto lang.

 

Always look both side of the coin not only the side you pick.

[Bameboy]

My 2 cents worth.... if you let the hate and anger consume you then THEY would have won..Living with hatred is not living at all... i know it is hard to let go trust me im in the same situation as well. Treat the experience as a lesson in which you can now value what's more important in your life. Learn to see the world in a new light. Like i've said life is too short too waste in hating someone. This goes out to anyone in this kind of debacle....

 

God, Grant me the

SERENITY to ACCEPT the things that I cannot CHANGE,

COURAGE to CHANGE the things that I CAN,

& the WISDOM to know the DIFFERENCE...

AMEN

I don't hate anyone and i'm not holding onto anything siguro this is just hiw i keep my emotions intact and this is how i know i have control over my feelings...i fall easy kinda gullible at times so i kinda developed a defence mechanism to help me...don't get me wrong guys i understand them and what they do...siguro at this point i'm just keeping my guard up...

[billybong]

 

in some cases, and if not, in most cases.... they'll make you a slave. Yes a slave. They'll make a slave out of you until there's nothing left in you.

 

 

 

As in SEX slave???...but seriously, this type is relationship is really complicated to handle.

[billybong]

Perhaps the best course of action is to maintain the "PSP-client" relationship...anything else will be a chaotic experience for both.

[Fusarium_jimini]

1373345803[/url]' post='8769936']

Perhaps the best course of action is to maintain the "PSP-client" relationship...anything else will be a chaotic experience for both.

 

Best advice I've read. You don't need to be angry nor happy with them, with the experience you had with them; be indifferent, at best. And don't get yourself involved too much with their personal lives beyond what they are willing to share with you WHEN YOU'RE NOT IN SESSION WITH THEM and WITHOUT YOU SHOWING ANY INTEREST NOR ASKING FOR.

[SanMateo]

dapat kasi dre, when it is time for the girl to go straight, it should be 100%. no more takas takas and gaps of time na nawawala siya and cannot be reached. 100% bagong buhay. when the girl is able to honestly prove this and commit to this, then you can spend on the girl as your life partner

 

Yun nga dre. Medyo bata pa ako nun, naniniwala pa ako dati sa \love conquers all'. Siyempre, tumanda din, nadagdagan narin ng experience. But tama ka nga. Pero kahit sinong girlalu naman siguro, kahit hinde psp. Kapag life partner na pinagusapan, dapat clear communication between the two. Lifetime investment yan, walang turning back kahit maoolats ka. As the poster above said, the best way to deal with this is to maintain the "PSP-Client" relationship, if you're starting to fall hanap ka kaagad ng iba kasi mahirap na at baka mapasubo sa sob stories nila kasi kahit tayo may mga problema din sa buhay kahit hinde sa financial aspect.