Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[lankaface]

I totally agree with you on this. When I was in this relationship, I see to it that I have all the time for her and get involve in all her concerns and interests. Kahit nasa malayo akong lugar for my work, I always have time to text her and even spent a card load to talk to her everyday and every night. That is how and the way I loved my woman.

Yes alam ko ganado tayong mga boys, need all those who wants to go to PM me so i can keep count. So far mga 4 lang yata, pero kung konti lang we might just go for it. lets wait for some more of the guys to sign up. Marblebay, if you are having a hard time with your problem you could pm some of us para makarinig ka rin ng problems ng iba rito. So you wont feel so left out with your prob. Lets work on the Eb.

[marblebay]

Yes alam ko ganado tayong mga boys, need all those who wants to go to PM me so i can keep count. So far mga 4 lang yata, pero kung konti lang we might just go for it. lets wait for some more of the guys to sign up. Marblebay, if you are having a hard time with your problem you could pm some of us para makarinig ka rin ng problems ng iba rito. So you wont feel so left out with your prob. Lets work on the Eb.

 

Thanks saer, please count me in and definitely I will be coming and this is what I think I needed at this stage and/or transition period.

 

Again thanks a lot for the encouragement.

[marblebay]

I fell in love with one... and still am for more than 2 years na. i knew i will be getting in to this situation from the first time i saw her. Its so complicated talaga.... but i cant get away from it, i need her...

 

Bro. "royceg", I just can't understand what you are trying to convey to us here. You mentioned that you are unmarried man, and there's no problem at all with you. First and foremost, you must distinguished your feeling for her whether it is "LOVE" or "LUST", and let's just say what you have for her is "LOVE", then it is a good thing. May I remind you of a famous saying: "LOVE CONQUERS ALL!", and so, no matter how complicated the your situation is or will be, there is always a way or means that will work out for both of you.

 

Remember that in a relationship, it is a 2-way street and it is not a ONE-WAY street, and in order for your relationship to work out, it should and must always be a give and take relationship. This matter is very elementary, but more often than not, if one is foolishly in love (like I've been) this thing doesn't matter at all. Kaya nga foolishly in love.

 

In your situation which you mentioned to be complicated, I presume that the girl which you are going to be involved is married or has already a bf or live-in. That is certainly a big problem and you have to be careful and reconsider your decision in getting involve with that girl. I have been with this situation, and the girl made me believe that she had broken up with her live-in partner pero lahat pala ay kasinungalingan.

 

I just hope and wish that you won't suffer the same fate which I have been through for which I am still trying to recuperate and go over with.

 

God bless!

[zzzero_coool]

Have been in this kind of relationship din.... i was willing to do anything for the girl para lang magstop sya pero in the end eh wala din nangyari. Anyway, just charging everything to experience. Medyo expensive pero this made me realize not to trust that easily especially with a girl in this kind of profession. Its not that they are not trustworthy but dahil sa environment nila ay di maiiwasan na masaktan ka. I know they have feeling as well pero due to circumstances and experiences, I think it is really impossible to have a happy ending in this kind of relationship. Its just better to have fun na lng and make most of the time (and money of course) that you spend with the girl. No need to think of saving them as they have already made the choice to go into this kind of work for the purpose of helping themselves and their family. The only thing that we can offer siguro is company and at the same time to let them feel that even if they are in this kind of work eh some people still repects them as human beings.

 

Good luck to the guys that are still in this kind of relationship. Hope you can find a way to make things work. To the guys that are still hurting, always remember that losing someone is not the end of the world but is a door for a new beginning. Cheers!

[marblebay]

this is a good topic.. in my opinion, i don't see anything wrong with falling for a MPA/PSP/GRO. actually, for me it isn't really a big deal. i think the only thing that will bother me is the fact that this girl i am falling for is always with different guys. but if you have REALLY fallen for this girl, you have to accept her for who she is & what she does.

 

You might be right? Just remind you bro., it is a total commitment for you and with the girl. As long as the girl will be totally honest with you and don't hide anything with you, everything is all right then. Because in a relationship, TRUST (not condom) must be built with a strong foundation. How will a guy trust his girl kung maraming itinatagong kasinungalingan specially in their kind of work. Anyway, it is up to you or to the guy on how to handle the relationship.

 

Tama ka bro., mahirap sigurong mabura sa isipan or it bother most that the girl which you is falling for is not simply always with different guys but having sex with, and thus, normally we tend to be more competitive in caring, in showing our love, and even in bed, di ba? Kaya I suggest for eveyone who are thinking or about to enter into this kind of relationship is ask himself this simple question: "KAYA KO BA ITO?" Ay, mahirap po talaga ang ganitong situation. Kung baga ay mag-"REALITY CHECK' muna before getting into this serious and foolish situation.

 

This just my personal opinion, and I do not intend any offense with what you feel for your girl.

[lankaface]

Bro zzzero cool, what you said is partly right, like what i said a few pages back, these girls havwe the same feeling as the customers, they think they are being fooled aroung just to get the edge over them. Kaya chicken or the egg lang ang labasan nun. I have made friends with a lot of gros and we talk like barkadas, so i listen to their sentiments, nagkakagusto talaga sila just like the clients. Kaya ang masasabi ko iss tao rin talaga sila and they are also in the look out for people who wants to fool them. It works both ways and when both sides hesitate, nagkakalaboan na lahat. Just my thoughts on this thing my friend.

[zzzero_coool]

Bro zzzero cool, what you said is partly right, like what i said a few pages back, these girls havwe the same feeling as the customers, they think they are being fooled aroung just to get the edge over them. Kaya chicken or the egg lang ang labasan nun. I have made friends with a lot of gros and we talk like barkadas, so i listen to their sentiments, nagkakagusto talaga sila just like the clients. Kaya ang masasabi ko iss tao rin talaga sila and they are also in the look out for people who wants to fool them. It works both ways and when both sides hesitate, nagkakalaboan na lahat. Just my thoughts on this thing my friend.

 

Bro, I also have gro, mp or psp friends and I agree with you that they really do fall for their clients. I also agree that there should be no hesitations in both parties. Both should help each other kasi pag one side eh hindi nagcooperate eh sure na magcrumble or magbreak kung ano man relationship meron. Anyway, im moving on and I think shes doing the same as well.

[marblebay]

Bro zzzero cool, what you said is partly right, like what i said a few pages back, these girls havwe the same feeling as the customers, they think they are being fooled aroung just to get the edge over them. Kaya chicken or the egg lang ang labasan nun. I have made friends with a lot of gros and we talk like barkadas, so i listen to their sentiments, nagkakagusto talaga sila just like the clients. Kaya ang masasabi ko iss tao rin talaga sila and they are also in the look out for people who wants to fool them. It works both ways and when both sides hesitate, nagkakalaboan na lahat. Just my thoughts on this thing my friend.

 

Bro, I also have gro, mp or psp friends and I agree with you that they really do fall for their clients. I also agree that there should be no hesitations in both parties. Both should help each other kasi pag one side eh hindi nagcooperate eh sure na magcrumble or magbreak kung ano man relationship meron. Anyway, im moving on and I think shes doing the same as well.

 

 

This is for both of you gentlemen: "A BIG AND LOUD APPLAUSE!"

 

 

 

You both got it right gentlemen, and the exact word is "NO HESITATIONS!" However, how about the word ASSURANCE? Siyempre, what is the assurance na hindi maloloko ang alinman sa kanila? Maraming IFs? Take for example what happened to me. Mahirap ng magsalita. . . .

 

For me, entering into this kind of a relationship is a total GAMBLE, and a lot at stake for the guy. Sabihin natin both will be on the loosing end depende sa sitwasyon o pangyayari o sa mangyayari.

 

As a brotherly advice, if one feels or about to be falling for an mpa/psp/gro, I suggest to get out of it immediately and please don't entertain that foolish feeling because I know how much it hurts.

 

And for the ladies (mpas/psp/gros/), the same is my advice for all of you. Almost nil ang survival rating for such relationship to succeed, and it is like a fairy tale.

 

[lankaface]

This is for both of you gentlemen: "A BIG AND LOUD APPLAUSE!"

 

 

 

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Sa eksenang ito. we are only after girls who show us affection which we do not get anywhere else. Kaya nahuhulog ang kalooban natin, These girls naman are having an excitement in having a decent guy around her. These are very nice experiences for both parties. We either live it like a dream wherein we one day would wake up and then see that its gone na, or we take this dream into a different level and try to make it a reality. The choice is yours to make, pero always use your head in making the choice, a lot of things and peoiple are at stake in this situation. Have a heart and decide kung ano ang tama, listen to an elder person who has experience in this and listen to all he can ssay, then evaluate yourself kung tama ang gagawin or balak mo. In the end tayo ang sisisi kung ano man yun.

[marblebay]

Sa eksenang ito. we are only after girls who show us affection which we do not get anywhere else. Kaya nahuhulog ang kalooban natin, These girls naman are having an excitement in having a decent guy around her. These are very nice experiences for both parties. We either live it like a dream wherein we one day would wake up and then see that its gone na, or we take this dream into a different level and try to make it a reality. The choice is yours to make, pero always use your head in making the choice, a lot of things and peoiple are at stake in this situation. Have a heart and decide kung ano ang tama, listen to an elder person who has experience in this and listen to all he can ssay, then evaluate yourself kung tama ang gagawin or balak mo. In the end tayo ang sisisi kung ano man yun.

 

Saer Lanlaface, you are definitely and certainly right on this, and I cannot disagree on this matter. Your advise is non-debatable and as a general rule it should be right thumb rule.

 

One more thing, tell me please Saer, what should a person follow the HEART or the MIND (head) in making a decision in considering going into such kind of relationship. 'Coz in my case, I considered it both but it failed. The hardest part kasi saer ay hindi ko matanggap that I did not deserve what have been done to me (sigh).

[tagalupa]

Bro, I also have gro, mp or psp friends and I agree with you that they really do fall for their clients. I also agree that there should be no hesitations in both parties. Both should help each other kasi pag one side eh hindi nagcooperate eh sure na magcrumble or magbreak kung ano man relationship meron. Anyway, im moving on and I think shes doing the same as well.

 

 

Agree.. :thumbsupsmiley:

[tagalupa]

You both got it right gentlemen, and the exact word is "NO HESITATIONS!" However, how about the word ASSURANCE? Siyempre, what is the assurance na hindi maloloko ang alinman sa kanila? Maraming IFs? Take for example what happened to me. Mahirap ng magsalita. . . .

 

For me, entering into this kind of a relationship is a total GAMBLE, and a lot at stake for the guy. Sabihin natin both will be on the loosing end depende sa sitwasyon o pangyayari o sa mangyayari.

 

As a brotherly advice, if one feels or about to be falling for an mpa/psp/gro, I suggest to get out of it immediately and please don't entertain that foolish feeling because I know how much it hurts.

 

And for the ladies (mpas/psp/gros/), the same is my advice for all of you. Almost nil ang survival rating for such relationship to succeed, and it is like a fairy tale.

 

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Total GAMBLE tlg un nasa ganito relasyon..Diba ganun din naman un pagnagmahal ka sa isang babae khit wala sa ganito profession..Hindi ka sigurado kung may happy ending ba ndi din magwowork out..Para saken pareho lang din..magmahal ka man sa isang CLUB GIRL at sa babae wala sa gnito profession..Complicated and against all odds nga lang pag nainlab ka sa isang PSP/MPA/GRO..

 

I agree with u bro..Think million times kung susugal ka sa ganito relasyon.."KUNG KAYA MO" Go for it..Ganyan tlga pagmahal mo ang isang tao.kakayanin mo lahat..Kung magwork out..GUDLUCK kung hindi naman Ganyan tlga ang buhay..pero isipin natin na hindi pa katapusan ng mundo..Madami parin jan na deserving sa pagmamahal natin...PSP/MPA/GRO man cia o HINDI...

[tagalupa]

Minsan cla pa nga un mas nakakaunawa, nakakaintindi satin..

[zzzero_coool]

Sa eksenang ito. we are only after girls who show us affection which we do not get anywhere else. Kaya nahuhulog ang kalooban natin, These girls naman are having an excitement in having a decent guy around her. These are very nice experiences for both parties. We either live it like a dream wherein we one day would wake up and then see that its gone na, or we take this dream into a different level and try to make it a reality. The choice is yours to make, pero always use your head in making the choice, a lot of things and peoiple are at stake in this situation. Have a heart and decide kung ano ang tama, listen to an elder person who has experience in this and listen to all he can ssay, then evaluate yourself kung tama ang gagawin or balak mo. In the end tayo ang sisisi kung ano man yun.

 

Yeah I agree. Sakin lang I gambled, I lost and I got hurt big time.... like any gambling, pag natalo ka eh wag na pagsisihan at sasakit lang ulo at puso mo. Andun na yung loss eh pero naging masaya ka din naman kahit sandali lang. Kung ano man ang consequenses nun after that gamble eh dapat malusutan na lang. I dont want to blame myself or the girl, it just happened and this is reality and what I have mentioned before reality sucks but you have to live with it and make sure you get over and get back in the game.

 

I also agree with sir tagalupa, lahat ng klaseng relationship is a gamble with a gro/psp/mp or not. Sa ganitong situation lang kasi madami problema ang girl and again yung environment nya kaya mahirap. Nagyon nga lang laging andun yung question na "kakayanin mo ba?" if you enter a relationship with them. Meaning emotionally and financially at the same time. If you dont have any one of those eh better not try to enter this kind of relationship and just enjoy na lng para walang problema. Ang mahirap lang eh kahit minsan kahit gaano mo pa pagisipan kung papasok ka sa ganto eh di mo rin masasabi pag tinamaan ka na di ba. Pero ang advantage ng nakaexperience ng loss na ganto eh they learn. Sana do not try to forget the experiences that you had before kasi it will help in making this kind of relationship work. And for us guys we will do anything we can for a girl hanggang sa maumpog ka na lang bigla at sabihing "ano ba ang katarantaduhang ginagawa ko?", after that another cycle..... :thumbsupsmiley: Pero kung iisipin mo, pag pumasok ka sa normal na relationship eh mas magiging madali. Parang weights, nagbuhat ka ng mas mabigat sa normal mong kaya buhatin kaya pag tinry mo na yung normal weight eh balewala na lng. So make this experience a strength and not a weakness. Always stand-up when you fall and as I have said, get back in the game. Tandaan na kung ano yung mahirap at alam mo na masasaktan ka eh yun yung masarap gawin. And in any case you got through and made that hardship fruitful eh sobrang sarap naman ng feeling. Then hanap ulit ng problema.... hehehe... well thats what you call life. Its not worth living if you dont feel any pain or joy. :thumbsupsmiley:

[lankaface]

Saer Lanlaface, you are definitely and certainly right on this, and I cannot disagree on this matter. Your advise is non-debatable and as a general rule it should be right thumb rule.

 

One more thing, tell me please Saer, what should a person follow the HEART or the MIND (head) in making a decision in considering going into such kind of relationship. 'Coz in my case, I considered it both but it failed. The hardest part kasi saer ay hindi ko matanggap that I did not deserve what have been done to me (sigh).

what is it na di mo matangap? Is it that you cant get over this feeling? or Is there anything that she has done to you that di mo matangap. Meron yata ako di nabasa na post mo siguro, and kulang yata ang kaalaman ko nito. Cant find sa pag backread ko. Pls refresh me on the part na di mo matangap.

[lankaface]

Minsan cla pa nga un mas nakakaunawa, nakakaintindi satin..

Partner, what you said is very true, mas may isip pa sila minsan kaysa sa atin. Minsan nagugulat na lang ako sa mga statement nila. When we gamble in this type of situation, its like playing in the casino. The mway to play is to put your bets little by little until you feel that your going to hit big time, then you put all your bets down. Like in this situation, dont put both your balls in the basket. Get a feel if you think na manloloko, make sure no money involved sa mga transaction mo pag nandun ka (utang, hiram, pakibayad, load). Pag ganun di ka natatalo or rather naloloko. Kung puro gfe lang just enjoy while it lasts or rather yung lust pag meron, enjoy. But you have to reserve your feelings last, kung talagang MERON! And take time before you give in, pretend muna na kayo na, and try to live that life in your real life, see if it fits.

[gilghost]

what about the other side of the coin... any insights naman sa mga girls... what mga expectations, fears nila na mahulog sa clients katulad natin? feedback anyone?

[venomous]

Have been in this kind of relationship din.... i was willing to do anything for the girl para lang magstop sya pero in the end eh wala din nangyari. Anyway, just charging everything to experience. Medyo expensive pero this made me realize not to trust that easily especially with a girl in this kind of profession. Its not that they are not trustworthy but dahil sa environment nila ay di maiiwasan na masaktan ka. I know they have feeling as well pero due to circumstances and experiences, I think it is really impossible to have a happy ending in this kind of relationship. Its just better to have fun na lng and make most of the time (and money of course) that you spend with the girl. No need to think of saving them as they have already made the choice to go into this kind of work for the purpose of helping themselves and their family. The only thing that we can offer siguro is company and at the same time to let them feel that even if they are in this kind of work eh some people still repects them as human beings.

 

Good luck to the guys that are still in this kind of relationship. Hope you can find a way to make things work. To the guys that are still hurting, always remember that losing someone is not the end of the world but is a door for a new beginning. Cheers!

Very well said. I totally agree.

[Duel of Fate]

well, still the basic rule applies: boy meets girl, boy gets stupid and tries everything to win the girl, and hopefully boy and girl live stupidly forever

[pol22366]

Brother Gilghost pa singit muna ha, hindi ako GRO, MPA or PSP.

 

May I just say that I have been in these kinds of relationships and admittedly still am. Just don'e expect too much of them because they have a far different priority than you.

 

Kung ikaw masyadong in love, sila siguro slight lang or at the most in love pero hindi masyado. It will really take a lot of time, understanding, effort and love to make it work and survive kung ganoon ikaw ka-seryoso.

 

Marami silang doubts specially because you probably met them at their work, and/or you know what they do. Marami silang personal experiences, as well as those seen around them of how and why these kinds of relationships often fail. And their friends, similarly as our friends, almost always discourages them of entering this kind of a relationship.

 

But for me I enjoyed it and am enjoying it because I dont expect much. I just want to be respected as a man and a person, if that is not there I move on.

[marblebay]

what is it na di mo matangap? Is it that you cant get over this feeling? or Is there anything that she has done to you that di mo matangap. Meron yata ako di nabasa na post mo siguro, and kulang yata ang kaalaman ko nito. Cant find sa pag backread ko. Pls refresh me on the part na di mo matangap.

 

Sori saer, what I can't accept 'yun panlolokong ginawa sa akin. Three-timer pala 'yun mpa that I got involved with.

[marblebay]

well, still the basic rule applies: boy meets girl, boy gets stupid and tries everything to win the girl, and hopefully boy and girl live stupidly forever

 

Yup, that is what I call "STUPID LOVE!". :thumbsupsmiley:

[marblebay]

Yeah I agree. Sakin lang I gambled, I lost and I got hurt big time.... like any gambling, pag natalo ka eh wag na pagsisihan at sasakit lang ulo at puso mo. Andun na yung loss eh pero naging masaya ka din naman kahit sandali lang. Kung ano man ang consequenses nun after that gamble eh dapat malusutan na lang. I dont want to blame myself or the girl, it just happened and this is reality and what I have mentioned before reality sucks but you have to live with it and make sure you get over and get back in the game.

 

I also agree with sir tagalupa, lahat ng klaseng relationship is a gamble with a gro/psp/mp or not. Sa ganitong situation lang kasi madami problema ang girl and again yung environment nya kaya mahirap. Nagyon nga lang laging andun yung question na "kakayanin mo ba?" if you enter a relationship with them. Meaning emotionally and financially at the same time. If you dont have any one of those eh better not try to enter this kind of relationship and just enjoy na lng para walang problema. Ang mahirap lang eh kahit minsan kahit gaano mo pa pagisipan kung papasok ka sa ganto eh di mo rin masasabi pag tinamaan ka na di ba. Pero ang advantage ng nakaexperience ng loss na ganto eh they learn. Sana do not try to forget the experiences that you had before kasi it will help in making this kind of relationship work. And for us guys we will do anything we can for a girl hanggang sa maumpog ka na lang bigla at sabihing "ano ba ang katarantaduhang ginagawa ko?", after that another cycle..... :thumbsupsmiley: Pero kung iisipin mo, pag pumasok ka sa normal na relationship eh mas magiging madali. Parang weights, nagbuhat ka ng mas mabigat sa normal mong kaya buhatin kaya pag tinry mo na yung normal weight eh balewala na lng. So make this experience a strength and not a weakness. Always stand-up when you fall and as I have said, get back in the game. Tandaan na kung ano yung mahirap at alam mo na masasaktan ka eh yun yung masarap gawin. And in any case you got through and made that hardship fruitful eh sobrang sarap naman ng feeling. Then hanap ulit ng problema.... hehehe... well thats what you call life. Its not worth living if you dont feel any pain or joy. :thumbsupsmiley:

 

Yes, money is not in question at madaling ma-recover at pera lang 'yan, at marami naman tayo niyan (just kidding). Seriously, the hardest part to recover is the emotional aspect. Yup, you are right again in saying "REALITY SUCKS!".

[lankaface]

Yes, money is not in question at madaling ma-recover at pera lang 'yan, at marami naman tayo niyan (just kidding). Seriously, the hardest part to recover is the emotional aspect. Yup, you are right again in saying "REALITY SUCKS!".

Yup, your right marerecover mo pera. We work hard so we play hard, just remember we call the shots, play it right so you wont fall on your back. Na three time ka bacause you have no control over her, which is the norm dahil sa trabaho niya. in a relationship like this since nandun ka na at that time, you should keep at least a little distance jsut in case something like thios happens. Dapat may lakad rin tayo na for the boys para makapag usap tayo ng man to man. Speaking up here could be hurting to some of the girls kasi.

[marblebay]

Yup, your right marerecover mo pera. We work hard so we play hard, just remember we call the shots, play it right so you wont fall on your back. Na three time ka bacause you have no control over her, which is the norm dahil sa trabaho niya. in a relationship like this since nandun ka na at that time, you should keep at least a little distance jsut in case something like thios happens. Dapat may lakad rin tayo na for the boys para makapag usap tayo ng man to man. Speaking up here could be hurting to some of the girls kasi.

 

Call ako diyan saer. Just tell me a week in advance so that I can be there in Manila. Just PM the details, when and where.