Why do guys hurt women physically?

[sakmobratko]

I know some guys doing this but kahit na lalake ako, I'm proud to say that i've never hurt any of girls specially my wife physically... I thank my mom for that kc pinalaki nya ako na may malaking respeto sa babae..

Pag galit na galit na ako.. I rather go away and smoke for 15-30 mins, pagbalik ko kahit umuusok pa rin ung kaaway kong girl.. dedma na lang...

 

Try nyo guys.... effective sa akin eh

[argosy]

To conceal their insecurity and cowardice!

[DangerousGurl]

most men measure their masculinity by physically abusing others..

[pjalv80]

Men has ego and some men has so much ego that they are unable to handle in some situations. Pag nahurt yung ego at hindi mahandle during a quarrel with his girl, pwedeng maging violent ang lalaki lalo na pag naprovoke ng babae.

[ctc]

eh kung babae naman ang naghampas sayo? ano naman yon?

[Mr_man]

I'm of the opinion that some men have a difficult time controlling their actions once they are angry, some get pushed just too far by the female....then of course you have the loonies who don't even know why they abuse their women.

[yanzmyk]

I've seen this happen to a friend once.

 

He's actually a very gentle guy, someone who the cliche "couldn't even hurt a fly" would really apply.

 

But the thing was, he was in a very bad relationship. His job entailed that he stay up late at night to finish stuff and he got to interact with a lot of people, men and women alike. His girlfriend then was still in college and taking up nursing as a second course. But this girl was very selosa, very paranoid and very demanding. She would actually scream at my friend over petty stuff and would often ask him to come to her no matter how late at night (my friend worked in Makati, lived in Mandaluyong while this girl was living in Fairview near SM).

 

So one time he asked me if he could ride home with me (he doesn't have his own car) because it was raining very hard. On the way home, the girl called him and started ranting about him not texting her for a "couple" of hours. They got into an argument over the phone which ended with my friend asking me I could just drop him off somewhere in Fairview, but I did him one better and told him I'd just bring him to his girlfriend's house on account of the deluge.

 

When we got to the house and as I was backing out to go home (it was in a very small and dark alley), this was the scene that I saw: my friend standing outside the gate with his umbrella, his girlfriend opening the gate and immediately bollering at him (no I didn't hear the shouting but I could see the hand gestures and mouth movements and actually remember shaking my head at the scene) when all of a sudden he just slapped her.

 

I actually slammed on the brakes at the shock of what I saw. The girl slapped him back and then my friend just turned away and walked towards my car. He was actually shaking and crying when he got inside.

 

Now I'm not saying that this was the girl's fault and that getting physical can be justified.

 

I'm just trying to illustrate that sometimes, emotional torture can get to a point wherein even people (guys and girls) who wouldn't normally be violent would just snap and be physical.

 

What I'm trying to say is that it might be very easy for us to sit back and judge people's actions and say that "I wouldn't do that" or "they're maniacs" but those would just be empty words unless we actually experience what they've been through ourselves.

[Mr_man]

If I may make an anecdotal contribution. My brother dated this one filipina many years ago who was very sweet when in the presence of our family. However, behind closed doors she was 'a work of art' so to speak. To say she nagged would be the understatement of the month, this lady threw everything at him without any mercy. He is a soft, kindhearted individual whose appearance would make the Pope himself say he is a lovely man.

 

She took advantage of this trait and basically controlled him. Where we went, how long he stayed there etc.....

One day at our shop she threw a tantrum in front of customers and embarrassed him.....he walked out of the office, she followed and before she could scream at him again - he clouted her really goooood. I mean I smiled because she had it coming.......from that day she new her limits and things were relatively peaceful for a few months till they parted ways.

[purrtypwincess]

I honestly do not get this. Why would you hurt someone physically no matter what she did? No one is actually entitled to hit anyone else.

 

Like when the Chris Brown-Rihanna hoopla came out. To think I loved Chris Brown and his music. But what the hell was he thinking, seriously?

 

We all have our fits of rage, but it doesn't mean we should be at the receiving ends of fists at any given day.

 

Like I said, I honestly don't get this.

[Rasc]

given the situation being push to the end or the wall... a person has its limits, we could taking the beatings but not to the extend someone kept pushing likes there's no tomorrow. its a defense mechanism.

[Mr_man]

Point...know your man's limits. It is expected to have men detest this sort of behaviour, however when pushed far enough a man will open a can of whoop ass if he has to. The degree to which he dishes it out and the circumstances will be the determining factors of what will transpire after it has been served.

[86bangher]

On Brown/Rihanna case... i don't know what's the real reason behind Brown's eruption of anger nor Rihanna's environment behind their recent violent spats. Basically speaking, it's all about anger management & samely... tactfullness on the part of the aggressor.

 

If you can make a guy/gal fuming mad WITHOUT cursing (or saying bad words)... then you're at your best. Gals with that quality are so rare, specially among Caucasians. For guys... those who got these qualities thus belong to the extinct varieties, specially among Pinoys. No race discrimination in particular on my statement ha.

[greatscott]

lost his patience thats why

[ndn]

Simply because women are weaker physically. Alam nila na women can't hurt them kaya umaabuso. Ganun naman karamihan ng tao eh,kinakaya mo yung alam mong kayang kaya mo.Men like that are cowards and deserves to be shot in the testicles with a shotgun.

[hilong_talilong]

Havent dont that but according to some of my friends who did this, sobra daw kulit nung babae to the point na di na sya kumikibo at lumalayo na, heto si babae sunod pa rin ng sunod at dakdak ng dakdak <img src='http://manilatonight.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/w00t.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':boo:' /> . Wala na daw syang magawa kungdi sapakin ng isa para tumahimik.For me di kailangan manakit, sa salita lang pwede mo na syang saktan pag di na talaga kaya mga pinag sasabi ng babae.

 

I'm not proud at nagawa ko sa ex ko ito before...napagbuhatan ko sya. All i did was just kept quite na lang...sabi kasi nila if you don't anything better to say just keep quiet na lang dba. Anyway tahimik na nga tapos may kasama pa pananakit sa akin...sabi nga ni Rasc...defense mechanism, reflex, nabigla etc..

[orionquest]

no matter what the situation is, a man should never ever hurt a woman especially on the physical aspect. its cowardice.

 

no need to elaborate on it.

[boxer18]

it's disgusting... i know coz i was in this one relationship that physical, i mean she would hit me and me her... and it still disgusts me everytime i remember those times. a woman should never be hurt physically ever

[burnik20]

it's because they're the lowest form of man or what you might call the dregs of society...

[truxpinoy360]

because theyre big f#&king pussies. in all actuality, it stems back to their childhood and upbringing, probably with a bad family environment, where the dad was doing the same thing to their mom. its no excuse, but its the truth. sad world we live in.

[maldita_overload]

Hey,

 

a nice lady friend of mine brought up a shocking topic...

 

his 10th month old boyfriend would hurt him physically, everytime they talked on different issues.

 

Tell me why do some guys would lift their strong hands at delicate women?

 

( When I met the guy, ...I "Knocked" his head off and make him realized that a woman should be well taken cared of, treated well with utmost respect, and pampered. )

 

though I believe in the afterlife, why? why do men hurt women physically?

 

please kindly share your thoughts my fellow brother....

 

 

Guys who do this are bastard assholes with small dicks.

 

Also, regardless of the woman being "delicate" or not, the boyfriend does not have the right to hurt her, especially physically.

 

But- mind you people, this goes both ways. Girlfriends shouldn't go around hitting their bf's, as well.

 

You need an outlet for your anger issues- go to the gym. Hitting your partner will never ever be an acceptable alternative.

Edited July 23, 2010 by maldita_overload

[vulcanboy]

Guys who hurt gals physically are MOST of the time insecure bullies. Some have anger issues. They pick on people who think won't fight back ergo their girlfriends or wives. Most Pinays are understanding, considerate and forgiving and some guys take advantage of this. As a guy to a guy who do such a shameless act - HEY COWARDS! PICK SOMEONE YOUR SIZE!

[dirigma]

why do gals hurt men emotionally???

[matinokaba]

bcoz BAKLA!!!, envy with his partner boobs and pussy...

[cHinitababe86]

talking about psychological defects. ....

possibly, may background siya before at one part of his

life, pwedeng binubugbog rin siya, kasi people tend

to transfer that act in the future if nakalakihan niya

un.

 

another thing, minsan akala ng mga lalaking nambubugbog,

nakakadagdag ng "EGO" or nagiging "macho" ang image nila

beating up their wives. which is totally wrong.

 

another popular reason, financial matters. umiinit ang

ulo hindi lang nung guy, but nung wife rin and they tend to

be problematic pag walang pera to pay for the

financial repsonsibilities.. credit cards, baon ng kids,

gastos sa bahay and all.

 

minsan selos, may reason o wala. masama nun pag walang

reason, nagselos lang wala naman ebidensya.

 

buti nalang ngayon, may women's desk, para dun sa mga

talagang kinakawawa ng mga asawa sa pambubugbog

[CUMonYou]

Im a guy and its plain dumb na manakit ng babae talaga...regardless how furious you get there is no excuse to hurt a woman..well unless she is going to plunge a 6 inch knife or point a gun at your those would be the exemptions...but kidding aside ala talaga reason manakit ang lalaki in any way possible..kahit sinasampal ka na at sinusuntok still you will have to keep your temper in check...AGAIN THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR A GUY TO PHYSICALLY HURT A WOMAN!!!!