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I so get your point.

When I was smitten by my thera (we are good friends now, never really made it official na naging kami), when I was starting , it was soooo hard to get her to trust me and just go on a regular date (of course you cant say you love her love her when you meet only at her spa, the two of you I think should get out of that comfort zone before you can honestly say you love her love her). Very very closed off cya, So I was thinking hmmm... this is waaay harder than I thought... Now if I were shallow the first thing that will come to my mind is, thera ka nga lang, dapat nga it will ba an honor para syo dahil type kita... IF I WERE SHALLOW.. that will brew anger for me

 

BUT what I thought was, on the contrary having one of the prettiest theras, or "famous" thera as your gf will be a feather in your cap. I mean, no. 1 they have high priorities, so para ikaw ma isingit nila dun, aba e winner ka sa chick nyn... no. 2, they have heard everything and they have seen everything, kung ma surprise mo cla or napa kilig mo sila, aba e you are exceptionally romantic.

 

Its really about your attitude towards a person, kung tingin mo sa isang tao e you are higher than that person, if you are rejected it will brew anger talaga.. pero kung you treat other person as equal, just in different circumstances e, youd think na feather in your cap when you land a "famous" thera.

Excellent that you're open-minded and mature about this.

The experience of being rejected by a thera can be ego-shattering if you have a low sense of self-worth. I know some guys who think courting a thera is the easiest way to get a gf. After all, with the right conditions, you can get GFE inside the cubicle. So it's an easy transition from a one-hour fantasy to full-time reality, right? Right? Wrong, of course. Countless guys get rejected, and as Sitti pointed out, the really disappointed ones can spit a lot of venom.

Wit. Sense of humor. Sometimes the guy writes pretty well.

 

thanks sir, this really makes me think much more deeply til now im thinking about this.

 

'hopefully erase whatever feelings are left' - makes sense.. im a lil bit guilty dito... pero ako i talk to myself lang..hahaha convincing myself lang na i should stop but lagi default ko is mahalin padin sia hahaha para siang gravity lagi ako hinihila. lol. yeah maybe ganun nga siguro..... other people say awful words para iconvince yung sarili nila that they shouldnt love that person. this really makes sense gosh!

 

 

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so there's a possibility that maybe some client who claims to love a thera is not really inlove with her na baka he just consider her as a trophy right..? tapos when they fail to get that 'trophy' they get angry and frustrated... hmmmmm

As in any other male-female situation, most guys will do or say anything just to get laid. The spa scene is not an exception.

Whenever a thera-friend says a particular client is beginning to be special, I always tell them to hold on, think twice, and mag-ingat. Baka lang kasi gusto niya makalibre. Beyond getting free sex, having a famous thera as a GF likely makes the guy a source of envy. Especially if countless men have been chasing her and asking her out.

Iba pang usapan iyong nanligaw at nabasted. If a guy is not open-minded mature, he could be really really devastated if rejected by a thera. Much more than he'd be if the girl is not in the spa industry. This is probably the reason why some of your suitors got angry upon rejection.

Someone I can talk to --using words, actions, and silence.

Ad hominem. Ad ignorantiam. Ad infinitum.

Arguments about politics can go on forever.

Wicked!

andaming nag claclaim na nagmahal daw sila ng thera , pero nasayang lang, niloko lang daw sila, ginamit lang daw sila. wala daw kwenta yung thera na minahal nila. Sorry i really can't understand. what does love really means ba for some of you..?

 

mine kasi eto.

Love is complete acceptance: When we allow someone to be exactly as they are, without any belief that they aren’t good enough, without any belief that they would be “better” if they were different, this is love.

Love is completely unconditional: Love has no conditions. When we truly love someone, we can’t stop loving them, regardless of what they do or say. If our love is dependent upon the other person acting and speaking how we want, then this love is completely conditional. We often confuse this to be love, but this is just positive thoughts about someone. This is just loving what a person says or does, not loving them. Positive thoughts or the thought “I love you” isn’t necessary to love. Sometimes it even gets in the way.

Love is selfless: True love doesn’t want anything in return, because there is nothing it needs. We just love for the sake of love. When we love someone, we don’t look for them to fill our needs, love us back, and all those types of things. If that is what we are looking for, then we are just using the other person. What is the meaning of love? Love is completely selfles

credits to NOAH ELKRIEF.

 

how can you claimed that you had love someone, kung kayang kaya mo naman magsalita ng super harsh things about her..? is that love..? you are hurt. ok i understand. pero is it enough para saktan or pagsalitaan mo ng kung ano ano yung taong kiniclaim mo na minahal mo..? hmmmmmm... is it really love..?

 

please can someone help me understand..?

I have two theories.

First, it is unusual, but possible that a guy expresses his suppressed love by saying hurtful words. Think of the mischievous boy who bullies the prettiest girl in class. He is a bully, yes, but the pleasure or happiness comes not from bullying but from getting attention from the girl. He is immature and he can only express his love by bullying.

Same with the guy/s in your life. He is immature, perhaps and doesn't know how to manage feelings. If you truly love someone, the hurtful words you say to the beloved will hurt the speaker even more. Could it be that he's saying those words to hurt you, to hurt himself, and hopefully erase whatever feelings are left?

The second possible explanation is he never loved you, and looked at you as a trophy. And trophies are supposedly there just for display, just there to give him prestige, bragging rights and social acceptance. And once you broke out of that trophy mode, it is easier for him to break you.

Under the right circumstances, yes.

RA 7877 or the Sexual Harassment Law is always at the back of my mind. So no office romance for me.

Sometimes the "taken" are bound only by a piece of meaningless paper. or a deliberately unfulfilled promise.

It is always case to case, but in many instances, the answer is yes.

I’ve been loving this thread for about a decade. Then as now, it’s full of self-righteous crap and cerebral pretenses.

The venom comes from all over the place. We have broken-hearted fags who lost their bf to a thera. We have girls who secretly wish they’re as desired as the theras in the spa thread. We have self-righteous pricks who impose their morality on us. We also have guys and gals who became cynical after being used.

And finally one of my faves-- moralists who have never set foot on a spa, yet profess expertise on the field. Like the anti-vaxx whose only tool for research is Google, these all-knowing prudes threaten spa-goers and theras with eternal damnation. Well, almost.

That’s why I love this thread--it’s never boring. You just have to ignore the flaming and the trolling.

Really? So far kasi kundi mga overweight eh kulang sa confidence. Sorry, just my observation.

 

And who said na magaling sa kama mga therapists? Kindly read my post again. Mali kasi intindi mo.

One word. Inference.

mga mapanglait at mapanghusga.

Napapaisip tuloy ako kung ano itsura ng mga lalake na naiinlove sa mga thera na kailangan pa nila sustentuhan yun girl para lang maging exclusive sa kanila.

 

Not that I'm passing judgement to them, kse mga guys usually maangas yan at territorial. May thread nga dito about sexual history eh at madaming guys ang nawawalan pa ng gana pag magaling yun girl sa kama.. how much more eto di ba?

Hindi lahat ng nai-inlove sa mga thera ay panget. In the same way na hindi lahat ng mga loyal at di nag-spa ay gwapo.

And please, hindi porket thera eh magaling na sa kama.

im just wondering ilan na kaya sa inyo nakapag paiyak ng therapist dahil sa kakupalan..? yung mga clients na akala mo umasta binili na buong pagkatao nung thera... halimaw. tsk. anjan sila para magtrabaho. punta punta kayo papangakuan nyong susungkutin nyo mga bituin lol. tapos pag binasted kayo galit na galit kayo. sasabihin nyo ginamit kayo. haha. mablablame nyo ba if iba sa kanila ayaw na magtiwala eh malay nyo dahil din naman yun sa mga kapwa gm nyo. may naalala nga akong gm nililigawan yung thera. nung binasted nung thera ayun siniraan yung thera hahaha pinerahan daw sia ng 4k.. katawa lang. naku naku. ginagawa lang kasi kumplikado eh. adi wag kayong pumunta ng spa kung sobrang kasulasulalok tingin nyo sa thera. kung mga makamangmata. does caliing someone names like ' a piece of meat' makes you feel that you are better than them..? kala mo kung sinong malinis.

Don't forget that some owners also treat the theras as part of their personal harem. And in some cases, share the girls with their friends.

warriors lost.

may naisip pa akong difficulty sa situation na ito.

 

it's highly improbable that a girl can suck a golf ball through ten miles of garden hose on their first try. there would have been a training or learning phase. you cant be an expert with out practice right?

The thing is, there are just some girls who are good in sex. Most girls can give head, but there are the few who can make your butt defy gravity as it rises off the bed. And who is the guy who wouldn't want a girl who knows mc?

Everything is about balance and context. Yes, a girl can only be good in sex if she's had some practice, maybe with countless partners or with one master and a couple of clueless nerds. If she's one of the talented few and is disease-free, I'm guessing most guys will overlook her sexual history and gladly take her in as a partner.

A girl once asked me--masikip pa ba ako?

Insecure. Weak. These are the types of men who hit girls.

Most men have had violent thoughts at some point when they're with a girl. But he must control himself. A man is not measured by how hard he hits his girl, but by how successful he can resist in hitting her.

If he feels that he can no longer resist hitting her, he should just leave as the cycle of violence will go on and on.

When I was younger, love was enough. Holding hands, sweet notes, the regular calls--they were special and they were enough.

When I got older, holding hands, sweet notes, the regular calls--they were still special, but they were not enough. Sex has to be there somewhere.

Society's norms are defined by laws-- the "must nots" and the " should nots."

We are normally told that we should never go after someone who's taken. And most often, we should not--but once in a while the right girl comes and you make an exception.

 

 

+1 good for you. If it's not a downward spiral, it's a roller-coaster ride.

 

May isa pang post na +1 din ako, about some of them really having lost sight na of what's wrong and what's right.

 

Also, they are very prone to relapse, din, maski ma alis mo na sila dun. They'll gravitate towards same-environment, same-cast-of-guest-characters jobs like bar promos and car show modelling. They'll miss the mass attention, adoration, wanting and lusting of guys.

Good point. Girls in the industry are not always there just for the money--some of them are doing it for their ego. Remember that retirement may beget regret. Maybe the girl is used to guys who would scramble just to do their bidding, and suddenly she's stuck with a partner who snores loudly and demands she cooks dinner.

But even at this day and age, double standard pa din ang morality natin. Reason why some girls, even if they have the "need", they still don't engage in casual sex.

Society frowns upon girls who engage in casual sex. Double standards, of course. When a young guy goes on a sexual rampage, we just say boys will be boys. When an older guy goes on a similar adventure, we say he has aged gracefully and only natural that he gets younger girls.

On the other hand, if a young girl has had more sexual partners than her numerical age, she is labeled a slut. If an older woman tries to seek out casual sex, she is also labeled a slut--but an older one. The very few who escape this judgment are called cougars, but most are often also called sluts, or rather old sluts.

Sexual history, like any other form of history is important as an indication of the future. If a guy has had sex with every available girl he's met, it is safe to predict that he will have sex with every available girl that he's going to meet. There might be an exception though--if the girl can suck a golf ball through ten miles of garden hose, she has a chance of keeping him loyal. His problem then is that many guys would like to meet his girl.

People suffering from the Dunning-Kruger effect.

As Darwin said, it is true that ignorance, rather than knowledge begets more confidence.

the possibilities of a 360 camera.