Falling in Love with Someone When You Cannot...

[Kharnall]

If there's a certain guy and we obviously can't be together, either because the feeling is not mutual or due to other petty reasons. One way for me to move on is to look for signs. If I see him happy either with another girl or just plain contented with his life alone. I'll let him be. I'll walk away from him not because I am not needed anymore but because I love him too much to complicate things for him.

 

some people would accuse me of being a coward..Me? I call it sacrifice. . .

 

sometimes walking away helps. you let them go so that they will be happy with what ever life they lead witout you complicating matters. how about your happiness? you've sacrifice so much and got less or almost nothing in return ( sacrifice is mostly define this way for some reason ), we ask ourselves is it worth it?

 

in the near future, fate has a funny way of bringing unpleasant things together, by then we may or may not overcome the regrets with the decisions that we made ...we then to ask oursleves the same question again ... was it worth the sacrifice?

[Chi-Chi]

I left my ex of two years, and I still loved him back then. Here are the things I learned

 

1) Do NOT go for a rebound relationship. It just makes you realize how much you really love your ex, and how it's really hard to replace him.

2) Do satisfy your 'ex' cravings by calling him and hanging up.. he'll never know it was you anyway!

3) Do NOT see each other for at least 4 months to make him realise how much he misses you, or for you to realise howmuch you don't miss him.

4) Do meet up at some point just to satisfy yourself.. after 4 months.

5) If you two still love each other DO get back together, that's when you'll definitely get over him 100000% if you break up for the second time OR you'll realise how he really is the one..

 

 

I got back together with my ex and i got over him 10000000% realised why he really is a dick and breaking up with him the first time was definitely the right thing to do!

 

[Kharnall]

I left my ex of two years, and I still loved him back then. Here are the things I learned

 

1) Do NOT go for a rebound relationship. It just makes you realize how much you really love your ex, and how it's really hard to replace him.

2) Do satisfy your 'ex' cravings by calling him and hanging up.. he'll never know it was you anyway!

3) Do NOT see each other for at least 4 months to make him realise how much he misses you, or for you to realise howmuch you don't miss him.

4) Do meet up at some point just to satisfy yourself.. after 4 months.

5) If you two still love each other DO get back together, that's when you'll definitely get over him 100000% if you break up for the second time OR you'll realise how he really is the one..

 

 

I got back together with my ex and i got over him 10000000% realised why he really is a dick and breaking up with him the first time was definitely the right thing to do!

 

 

 

these are very strrong words. i was wondering why it took you the second time around to realize that he was a dick. ah well, to each of his/her own as they say. Sooner or later we will get over the pains of letting go or breaking up with the ones we love. we may differ opinions on how to go thru with it or how we go about it but in due time even if we meet them later in life, what we just remember are the memories.

[Guest biancaanne]

A friend sent me this text message that has helped me cope...

 

" When you have found the reason to walk away. never look back. Sometimes it's better to get lost moving on than being stranded and broken."

[Some Dude]

Oh, if only the rational part of the mind was the dominant part during such things...

[TheIceMan]

Sometimes, making the right decision it's isn't always the right thing... Sometimes, the means justifies the end. :thumbsupsmiley: :thumbsupsmiley: :thumbsupsmiley:

[Guest Riveria]

Think of the bad memories instead of the good ones.

[yanzmyk]

Just realize that there's no more point and time's a-wastin so move on and find that other person.

[imgoodwhenimbad]

Walk away, get busy with other stuffs.

 

Then once you are sure with yourself that he is out of your system, look back. It is only when you are no longer looking through a rose colored window, that you will validate or see clearly why it was best for you to walk away.

[Seishi]

be physically unavailable... but he'll never be out of my system, I guess not that soon.

 

as long as he's working oceans away from me then I'm still on the safe zone

[ReDBaByBuRn]

don't communicate...

[purrtypwincess]

I know this is remotely impossible, specially on the first few months, but would you rather stay with a lying piece of s**t than have someone who would be honest with you through and through?

 

Makes sense right?

[angel_by_day]

set your mind to it, and cut off all forms of communication.

 

do not hesitate, and do not do things half-heartedly.

just as in saying NO, saying STOP requires a strong resolve, and a firm decision.

say one last goodbye, take that first step towards the other direction, and never look back.

someone taught me that - to walk 180 deg., straight ahead, without doubts, without taking a second look.

if it includes broken, irreparable friendships, if it means relegating him to non-existence, then so be it.

 

ikaw lang naman magpapahirap sa sarili mo kung pa-balik-balik at pa-ikot-ikot ka.

problema sa babae, magre-reklamo na masakit at mahirap, eh ayaw naman gawin ang dapat.

[ButtChicKick]

take a look at yourself and see if this relationship is hurting you more than making you happy. if its more of the former, then you just got to let go. quitting cold turkey on a loved one may work for some people but others may need to do it gradually. slowly cut any ties or connection until the day when you can just go on living without thinking about this person.

[Burns888]

All good advice. But it hurts like hell !!!! And at the fall of a coin I turn back .....