TheRaven Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 Simple lang! One, if my feelings for that person on that day is reaching quite an intensity, I ignore the person or go the opposite way or close myself up! Two, if my feelings for that person is so-so, on that day, I could actually talk to her all day without so much fuzz or I can even play catch-you-if-I-could without actually being emotional about the matter. Quote Link to comment
Guest kizmet Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 I am in the same situation.... I share same semtiments.... I still love him but we both belong to our own family ---- period. We just enjoy what we presently have.... our own family - our company... I don't expect much more than that. We don't have any plans of ruining our own family..... But honestly... I still have this hope that one day... just maybe one day we both could be free and..... well..... it's just a dream!!!!be mindful of your thoughts ms. kizmet. they may become actions. there is such a thing as the power of the subconscious. so, if you've really decided as what have you said, don't entertain those thoughts/dreams. word of caution lang po... thanks kadafy... i'll stick that to my mind!!! Quote Link to comment
sugaRRay Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 yan ang nangyayari pag nag asawa ka ng hindi mo ganon ka mahal... tsk! tsk! tsk! - kailangan mo png mag isip kng sino pipiliin mo...-kailangan mo pang takutin sarili mo sa posibleng mangyari...-kailangan pang may magsakripisyo sa kalokohan mo... balik sa question... pano nga ba... i make it a point kasi na kung mambababae ako... dapat...-mas maganda misis ko don...-mas mahal ko dapat misis ko don...-alam nya ang score...-alam ko ang score... (eh nainlove na nga eh) so nainlove na pala ko...-isa lng sya na mag sasakripisyo pag iniwan ko sya...-3 kami na mag sasakripisyo at baka mas madami pa pag pinagpatuloy ko hangang mabuko... :cry: Quote Link to comment
sugaRRay Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 yan ang nangyayari pag nag asawa ka ng hindi mo ganon ka mahal... tsk! tsk! tsk! - kailangan mo png mag isip kng sino pipiliin mo...-kailangan mo pang takutin sarili mo sa posibleng mangyari...-kailangan pang may magsakripisyo sa kalokohan mo... balik sa question... pano nga ba... i make it a point kasi na kung mambababae ako... dapat...-mas maganda misis ko don...-mas mahal ko dapat misis ko don...-alam nya ang score...-alam ko ang score... (eh nainlove na nga eh) so nainlove na pala ko...-isa lng sya na mag sasakripisyo pag iniwan ko sya...-3 kami na mag sasakripisyo at baka mas madami pa pag pinagpatuloy ko hangang mabuko... :cry: naghahanap ka lng yata ng sagot sa problema mo eh...??? hehehe Quote Link to comment
Chi-Chi Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 if you really love the person ndi mo sha oofferan ng life na hindi sha sasaya... un na lang isipin mo parati.. Quote Link to comment
igilah Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 sabi nila, there's nothing a good talk cannot solve... somehow, you will have to find a way to sit her down and tell her exactly how you feel. a great many people fail to understand that nothing lasts forever and that, hard as we all try to be the perfect partner, we often come to realize that just as easy as it is to fall in love, it is that much easier to fall out of love. but, falling out of love does not mean that you no longer love her. it's just that your love for her, i would assume since you are still there, has now gone to a different level. make her understand, truly understand, that you both have a right to be happy... that you are no longer happy, and that by you not being happy, it would be hard for you to make her happy as well. let her know also that living apart does not mean becoming total strangers. you're still there to comfort her in times of need and to celebrate with her in times of joy. whatever you do, if you truly are no longer happy/satisfied with your relationship and want to move on, do not make the mistake of staying for the sake of "idealism" (that marriages are supposed to last a lifetime), for fear of hurting the other person and/or the kids. many people try too hard to have a long lasting relationship to do just that. but, the individual who has changed end up frustrated, unable to find happiness in the first place where it should be found, at the home. so, the individual goes on day by day faking it, only to find him/herself agitated and irritated by the littlest things. this is then taken out on the kids and/or the partner. as you can imagine, this is not healthy for the individual nor for the other parties involved. abuse soon become the norm. no one profits from an unhappy relationship. 1 Quote Link to comment
igilah Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 sabi nila, there's nothing a good talk cannot solve... somehow, you will have to find a way to sit her down and tell her exactly how you feel. a great many people fail to understand that nothing lasts forever and that, hard as we all try to be the perfect partner, we often come to realize that just as easy as it is to fall in love, it is that much easier to fall out of love. but, falling out of love does not mean that you no longer love her. it's just that your love for her, i would assume since you are still there, has now gone to a different level. make her understand, truly understand, that you both have a right to be happy... that you are no longer happy, and that by you not being happy, it would be hard for you to make her happy as well. let her know also that living apart does not mean becoming total strangers. you're still there to comfort her in times of need and to celebrate with her in times of joy. whatever you do, if you truly are no longer happy/satisfied with your relationship and want to move on, do not make the mistake of staying for the sake of "idealism" (that marriages are supposed to last a lifetime), for fear of hurting the other person and/or the kids. many people try too hard to have a long lasting relationship to do just that. but, the individual who has changed end up frustrated, unable to find happiness in the first place where it should be found, at the home. so, the individual goes on day by day faking it, only to find him/herself agitated and irritated by the littlest things. this is then taken out on the kids and/or the partner. as you can imagine, this is not healthy for the individual nor for the other parties involved. abuse soon become the norm. no one profits from an unhappy relationship. Quote Link to comment
igilah Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 embarrassing, mali pala yung topic ng last post ko, para pala sa asawa mo 'yon. well, at least okay problem mo... sabay hirit si rod stewart: some guys have all the lucksome guys have all the painsome guys get all the breakssome guys do nothing but complain... Quote Link to comment
sugaRRay Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 embarrassing, mali pala yung topic ng last post ko, para pala sa asawa mo 'yon. well, at least okay problem mo... sabay hirit si rod stewart: some guys have all the lucksome guys have all the painsome guys get all the breakssome guys do nothing but complain... hehehe... oo para sa asawa yun... e pano yung sa kerida? Quote Link to comment
vogharth Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 you just have to be tougher dude... i know that would hurt, but you just have to do what you have to do... goodluck...I thought i was tough... so many times i've convinced myself to leave her... ...but as an assh*le that i am.... i started to soften once i see her crying already... ... and at one time, lumuhod pa sa harap ko ..damn! i feel you bro, though iba ang sa case ko... to add that you're bein' stalked... stories/lies comin' from their side... would really drive you nuts... sent me into bein' drunk everyday for two months... sleeping at 3 and goin' to work a few hours after... its hard... things would be so much easier if you don't love her... but you have to do it... NOW... seek comfort dude... i tell you it would be very hard if you do it alone... glad i have my family... my homies who'd drink with me kahit di na kaya... and MTC to channel the frustrations you have... just be tougher dude... be with your wife... and kiss your kids everytime you have your chance... good luck ulet... Quote Link to comment
Guest kyut Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 HOW WOULD YOU STAY AWAY FROM SOMEONE YOU LOVE SO MUCH? IF... ...YOU'RE ALREADY MARRIED ... YOU HAVE KIDS ... AND YOU DONT WANT TO HURT HER ... AND SHE/HE IS YOUR FRIEND'S BF/GF ... AND SHE/HE LOVES YOU SO MUCH You don't...if you truly love the person... I didn't...cuz I truly loved her... PEACE!!! Quote Link to comment
andre_mark Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 you cant stay away from the one you love so dearly, even though you your physically away, youre still gonna think of her or him Quote Link to comment
P4l1k3r0 Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 Physically, one can move as far away as possible. But emotionally, it's next to impossible. Quote Link to comment
brainfeeze Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Thats a very hard situation. I think what I can suggest is don't do things that she would like make her feel that your not the person she would like to be with forever , co'z its not possible. Quote Link to comment
lord_rochester Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 ahhhhh...... ang hirap ang hirapang daling sabihin na makakalayo ka rin..pero mahirap.. kapag nasa situation na ganon ka na pala wala ka ring magagawa... from experience (sobrang recent experience) wag ka na lang maglasing... kasi malamang tatawagan mo siya... tapos it's really stupid na naman.. kasi magpapakatanga ka uli... sheesh... ahhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sumisigaw lang... Quote Link to comment
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