How Important Is The Sexual History Of Your Partner?

[j]

Agree ako dito.

Some things are better left unsaid.

 

Would you like your partner to also know your sexual past too, as in how craven or depraved or kinky or perverse you were?

 

I thought so.

but if these are part of who you are, and your partner is the same, wouldn't you be being dishonest with each other?

 

in a sense, parang sinasabi mo na mayroon sa loob mo na ikinahihiya mo o may itinatago ka?

 

then again if you both agree to disregard your past, then it shouldn't matter down the line when or if these things are discovered?

Edited January 9, 2016 by j

[j]

it seems like when it is said that you accept a person's past, there is a regret if you see it again?

 

i guess, when you accept the past, you understand that there would be changes moving forward? you can at least give the person a chance.

 

the future shouldn't be static. if there is something wrong, then you can deal with it then.

[Cap™]

but if these are part of who you are, and your partner is the same, wouldn't you be being dishonest with each other?

 

in a sense, parang sinasabi mo na mayroon sa loob mo na ikinahihiya mo o may itinatago ka?

 

then again if you both agree to disregard your past, then it shouldn't matter down the line when or if these things are discovered?

 

for what it's worth, I do believe na you really don't dig up your partner's past yet you don't let it just stay there. Relationships are more than trust, it's about effective communication. Trying to provide such details takes time and an unbelievable amount of trust that things would still be okay after the both of you open your cans of worms.

[j]

 

for what it's worth, I do believe na you really don't dig up your partner's past yet you don't let it just stay there. Relationships are more than trust, it's about effective communication. Trying to provide such details takes time and an unbelievable amount of trust that things would still be okay after the both of you open your cans of worms.

it's a good point.

 

napaka paradoxical nga ng dating. kaya siguro nga mahirap ang mga relationships. it takes a lot of work just to make it work. and a whole lot more to keep it going.

[Cap™]

well, acceptance also falls under effective communication IMO. Like if we do say na sobrang bad ng sexual past ng isa (i.e. loves to f#&k around) but does entail that things ought to be different this time around (probably brought about by maturity over such matters), then, accepting wouldn't be a problem as long as the issue had been addressed accordingly

[j]

well, acceptance also falls under effective communication IMO. Like if we do say na sobrang bad ng sexual past ng isa (i.e. loves to f#&k around) but does entail that things ought to be different this time around (probably brought about by maturity over such matters), then, accepting wouldn't be a problem as long as the issue had been addressed accordingly

agree naman ako diyan. kelangan ng effective ways of addressing issues. and communication is vital.

[j]

it should be possible to have history that is positive. or at least not that negative di ba?

[BB-8]

but what about people learning from their past and changing?

 

people change thats true but their values doesnt really change that much and you both should have the same values. odds are you dont. frankly if your were brought up differently your values will be different too.

[j]

 

people change thats true but their values doesnt really change that much and you both should have the same values. odds are you dont. frankly if your were brought up differently your values will be different too.

if you dont change your values, then you dont change?

 

that sounds a bit confusing. do you mean that people dont really change? or they change short term? or that there are things that change but if it's a core component is does not? or if it does change, the change is not that significant?

[Mrcharles]

If her history is not affecting our current situation then it's not that important. We will not be partners or committed to each other if her sexual history is affecting us. For example: STDs, crazy f#&k buddies looking for her, ex BFs who wants her in their bed, Ex BFs from which she has a child from and if shes transgender pala. She should be honest enough to tell before committing into a relationship.

[DorkVader]

It is very important but it is not the only determining factor. But it certainly has a big influence on my expectations. Likewise, my past would reveal a lot of things about myself.

[johnlove]

IMHO, the human dna is designed to have only one live sex partner per menstrual cycle.

Having more than one live sex partner can cause the bacteria inside our body to mutate into STD.

Therefore, the sexual history . . .

Doesn't matter - If you have sex with condom.

Very important - If you are into live sex

[j]

hmm... so it's not really what's in the past, but how you use that information to move forward?

[Robo Cop]

i don't want to remember that

[SpaceGrey]

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