Sitti of TVS Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 if she's there... she's there. just enjoy the ride. if there's one thing that i've told her over and over again... Wala tayong happy ever after. So pag may nanligaw sa yo na type mo at binata. sige na. ill be slow clapping in the side lines. I literally burst in tears. Shet. Quote Link to comment
To the darkness Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 (edited) i think what makes the issue glaring is the "trust issues" involved ... it touches the ego of most men because it takes away their control over most situation and having to deal with revelations. women in this profession find it hard to give their all most especially at the beginning of the relationship ... they will if they can try to bury and forget their past. at a certain point, after much revelation and much giving of themselves, they sometimes would feel very vulnerable, dependent and useless. minsan ang gap ng estado sa buhay becomes a hindrance ... like the earlier story of bratzky1101, his uncle had to start from his lowest point in his life ... so no hindrance to speak of Edited April 1, 2015 by To the darkness Quote Link to comment
boching88 Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 3 na lang buhok ko nabali pa yung isa dahil sa haba ng inabot na diskusyon dito.lol Anyways that means to say that were in a world of democracy,everybody is entitled to whatever opinion they have in mind. This is one thread that definitely catches the attention of many. Kudos! Quote Link to comment
oninpo Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 if she's there... she's there. just enjoy the ride. if there's one thing that i've told her over and over again... Wala tayong happy ever after. So pag may nanligaw sa yo na type mo at binata. sige na. ill be slow clapping in the side lines. thats the idea na iniisip kong mangyare sa situation ko. just take it as it comes......... Quote Link to comment
oninpo Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 i've bee in this situation for several times and worst part is, it's always the same girl. i ditched her many times already but, she always comes back. minahal ko yung girl but, she has a hobby of lying kaya parati ko nilalayasan. masarap na mahirap ma-inlove with them. i tried to put direction in her life but, minamasama pa niya most the times. i just thought maybe, we have different princples in life kaya hindi nya makita what i'm trying to do for her. sa mga ganitong situation talaga mas matimbang dapat ang trust sa love. May mga weird agreements kayong minsang ginagawa para lang ma maintain yung trust na yun but dude really you are torturing yourself malas lang pero keribels mo pa yata eh sana lang each time na ganyan na nanaman may wsier resolve ka na and hopefully final Quote Link to comment
To the darkness Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 sa mga ganitong situation talaga mas matimbang dapat ang trust sa love. May mga weird agreements kayong minsang ginagawa para lang ma maintain yung trust na yun but dude really you are torturing yourself malas lang pero keribels mo pa yata eh sana lang each time na ganyan na nanaman may wsier resolve ka na and hopefully final its not really a weird arrangement but to ensure trust. i remember when my wife kept holding on to her old SIM ... she was 3 or 4 months pregnant with our first baby then. at first its to stay in touch with her hold friends so I didn't argue. one time as i was entering the bedroom, i saw her just standing in the middle of the room staring at her phone like she was trying to decide what to write. i asked what was wrong and she told me it was one of her former guest ... aalis daw ng bansa and will not be back so was asking her if he could see her again. since sinabi naman niya, i chose to simply say "sige finish your business with him" and left her to her thoughts. that particular guest, i have known about ... kwento nga niya na mabait at galante and treated her with respect. of course hurt ako non at gusto kong mangaway ... pero kailangan ko mag endure and i had to allow her to find her own resolve and to make her own decisions. she came a few minutes, hugged me, and just told me na tapos na ... didn't need to speak of it again ... past forgotten. she changed sim ultimately ... may mga guest na makulit talaga and a wife ng guest na nangaaway Quote Link to comment
kali7 Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 its not really a weird arrangement but to ensure trust. i remember when my wife kept holding on to her old SIM ... she was 3 or 4 months pregnant with our first baby then. at first its to stay in touch with her hold friends so I didn't argue. one time as i was entering the bedroom, i saw her just standing in the middle of the room staring at her phone like she was trying to decide what to write. i asked what was wrong and she told me it was one of her former guest ... aalis daw ng bansa and will not be back so was asking her if he could see her again. since sinabi naman niya, i chose to simply say "sige finish your business with him" and left her to her thoughts. that particular guest, i have known about ... kwento nga niya na mabait at galante and treated her with respect. of course hurt ako non at gusto kong mangaway ... pero kailangan ko mag endure and i had to allow her to find her own resolve and to make her own decisions. she came a few minutes, hugged me, and just told me na tapos na ... didn't need to speak of it again ... past forgotten. she changed sim ultimately ... may mga guest na makulit talaga and a wife ng guest na nangaaway Congrats sir on your rare success story. Wishing you all the best to your relationship. Quote Link to comment
To the darkness Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 Congrats sir on your rare success story. Wishing you all the best to your relationship. thanks ... credit also goes to my wife who took the risk too Quote Link to comment
bufferoverflow Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 its not really a weird arrangement but to ensure trust. i remember when my wife kept holding on to her old SIM ... she was 3 or 4 months pregnant with our first baby then. at first its to stay in touch with her hold friends so I didn't argue. one time as i was entering the bedroom, i saw her just standing in the middle of the room staring at her phone like she was trying to decide what to write. i asked what was wrong and she told me it was one of her former guest ... aalis daw ng bansa and will not be back so was asking her if he could see her again. since sinabi naman niya, i chose to simply say "sige finish your business with him" and left her to her thoughts. that particular guest, i have known about ... kwento nga niya na mabait at galante and treated her with respect. of course hurt ako non at gusto kong mangaway ... pero kailangan ko mag endure and i had to allow her to find her own resolve and to make her own decisions. she came a few minutes, hugged me, and just told me na tapos na ... didn't need to speak of it again ... past forgotten. she changed sim ultimately ... may mga guest na makulit talaga and a wife ng guest na nangaaway Wow. Saludo ako sa 'yo chief. I guess it really takes that level of maturity to make things work. You'll have to share your secret on how not to let that gnawing negative feeling affect you so much. Pero nakakatuwa na may ganitong klase kwento. Quote Link to comment
To the darkness Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 Wow. Saludo ako sa 'yo chief. I guess it really takes that level of maturity to make things work. You'll have to share your secret on how not to let that gnawing negative feeling affect you so much. Pero nakakatuwa na may ganitong klase kwento. but it did ... and i think it showed in my face. maybe i made a lucky choice at that time ... pinili ko lang sabihin na tapusin nalang niya business niya tapos pakalabas ko ng room ay naupo't nag laro nalang ako ng The Sims sa computer siguro mahal ko at nagtiwala ako nga sobra kaya parang kinimkim ko ang lungkot ... and it paid off kasi nakita yun ng wife ko. remember, she also took the risk knowing nga na GM ako so tulad ng sinabi ko lagi, it worked because we both wanted it to work. Quote Link to comment
DestinationFuck Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 logic will tell you it's stupid, but sometimes the heart wants that logic can't explain. pikit na lang isang mata. bulag bulagan... i come from a well off family, i hav a gf who is pretty, smart and anything u could ask, but im attach to this thera from a certain spa. it hurts everytime i knw she has a guest. overtime i learn to just ignore all those things. i see her almost everyday and just enjoy the times together... Quote Link to comment
DestinationFuck Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 I think this is just infatuation. If you are willing to to introduce her to your friends and family and giving up your gf, then you two have a shot at being together. i dont think im rich enough to sustain her and her family... which means she will have to continue working. introducing her to my friends might make it worse. what if my friend tries to get her in the spa? that will be awfully disturbing... Quote Link to comment
bratzky1101 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 i dont think im rich enough to sustain her and her family... which means she will have to continue working. introducing her to my friends might make it worse. what if my friend tries to get her in the spa? that will be awfully disturbing...This one is very difficult, once you introduce her to your friends, tapos your friends tries her in spa/mp gulo yan tapos ikukuwento sa kaibigan mo yung ginawa nila, mas ok kung retired na si thera/mpa saka mo siya ipakilala to ur friends and family. Quote Link to comment
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