Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Itto Ogami]

bro, you've got something going for your advantage. i smell fubu here with the "friendship" thingy.

just play your card well and you've got a done deal.

 

thank you, sir, i think.

unfortunately, it's not "friendship" i'm after.

 

i want her to acknowledge that i'm special to her.

she's not gonna be a homewrecker or anything.

gees, i don't even know what i'm gonna do if she changes her mind.

for sure, it's going to be complicated - but i'm willing to go through it with her.

 

that's how much i love this woman.

[TanglewoodBoy]

thank you, sir, i think.

unfortunately, it's not "friendship" i'm after.

 

i want her to acknowledge that i'm special to her.

she's not gonna be a homewrecker or anything.

gees, i don't even know what i'm gonna do if she changes her mind.

for sure, it's going to be complicated - but i'm willing to go through it with her.

 

that's how much i love this woman.

 

ganun talaga bro di ba?? sometimes fate has a way of slapping us in the face, who would have thought na may asawa ka na and yet you find someone na kasing mahal mo ng asawa mo??? bakit kaya ganun???

 

 

but tama yun, wag ka lumaban ng perahan kasi magiging madugo yun if you're not financially capable of beating out the other guys....

 

but i am sure you will make the right decisions bro, just devote your time to your kids na lang siguro...

[Itto Ogami]

ganun talaga bro di ba?? sometimes fate has a way of slapping us in the face, who would have thought na may asawa ka na and yet you find someone na kasing mahal mo ng asawa mo??? bakit kaya ganun???

 

 

but tama yun, wag ka lumaban ng perahan kasi magiging madugo yun if you're not financially capable of beating out the other guys....

 

but i am sure you will make the right decisions bro, just devote your time to your kids na lang siguro...

 

sometimes, sir, i do think this is God's way of punishing me for my indiscretions.

other times naman, i think there must be a reason why He put me in this situation:

...to help her get out?

...to know myself and what i'm capable of?

i really don't know.

 

time and time again, i ask myself "bakit sya pa?" and i couldn't answer myself.

 

don't worry, sir.

even if my wife and i do have problems, never kong idadamay yung mga anak ko.

my time with and attention for them will never be compromised.

 

thanks again...

[TanglewoodBoy]

sometimes, sir, i do think this is God's way of punishing me for my indiscretions.

other times naman, i think there must be a reason why He put me in this situation:

...to help her get out?

...to know myself and what i'm capable of?

i really don't know.

 

time and time again, i ask myself "bakit sya pa?" and i couldn't answer myself.

 

don't worry, sir.

even if my wife and i do have problems, never kong idadamay yung mga anak ko.

my time with and attention for them will never be compromised.

 

thanks again...

 

 

kaya nga bakit ganun talaga?? i also ask myself a lot of questions why i did met her in the first place, i guess we are never contented with what we have siguro as a person, we often find what's more in store for us -- it maybe money, a new love, a new car etc...

 

with regards to my situation, ok na sakin siguro yung alam ko na naging special ako sa kanya, kahit alam ko na di magiging kami...

 

 

thanks again BUDDY!!

[hilong_talilong]

Well maybe its time for me to share my story as well

 

Na meet ko ka live in ko sa isang bar.Naging kami for well mag 3yrs na..I accepted her and i love her so much na bumukod kami. I put her first before me sa lahat ng bagay nde ako nag complain kasi mahal ko sya. In fact bago pa naging kami inamin pa nya sa akin na balak nya lang ako goodtime kaso nahulog na loob nya sa akin. Almost masaya na kami until nakunan (6mos baby boy) sya and lahat ng pinaghirapan ko nauwi sa wala...I stood by her side pa din kahit ni anino ng magulang nya wala ni hi's or hello wala...pamilya ko nagmalasakit sa kanya even though nde pa kami kasal. I was there a told her never to blame her self...pakiramdam ko din nun bakit kung sino pa may gusto magkaroon ng anak yun pa pinagdadamutan samatalang nagkakaroon pina-abort pa...

 

anyway so bumukod nga kami and she went back sa dati nya work para nde sya ma bored and ma depress sa pagkawala ng baby namin...nagresign ako sa work but eventually nakahuha ng much higher paying job which can support a family talaga.

 

Now eto nangyari...We had minor arguement lang last nov. altough nagkabati naman kami after a week nag paalam sya sa akin na uuwi sya sa province para pagawa yung bahay na pinatayo nya (yes nagpatayo sa ng bahay para sa parents galing sa ipon) eto na siste umabot na ng halos isang buwan nde sya umuuwi..nagkakausap naman kami sa phone and reason nya supervise nya yung bahay...nag bday ako wala sya..nalungkot ako first time ko na experience yun...wala ako inisip na masama kasi mabuti nman pakay nya pag uwi...pero habang tumatagal nagtataka na ko...I mean come on 1 month and ilang weeks na and nde naman na sya bumalik sa work and nde naman ganun kalaki yung kinikita nya...until nakahalata na nga sya.

 

Umuwi sya and nagtapat sya sa akin na meron sya guest na nag offer ng pera pang-pagawa ng bahay na yung pera eh halos nag accumulate sa half million...amputah galit talaga ako i felt soo stupid...she said kaya din nde sya makauwi dahil nagbabanta yung "guest" na if ever na bumalik sya sa manila and magsama kami..papaptay ako...I said enough na...so we ended our relationship ng ganun lang

 

Nag insist yung ex live-in ko na magkayos kami which eventually pumayag ako...isang araw pa lang kami ulit nagsasama nalaman ng guest andito sya and pinasusundo sa mga driver.. and papatay na ako..inuhan ko nmaan yung lalaki at pinablotter ko agad and nakuha naman yung plate number ng kotse nya..After that incident nagalit na kapatid ko sa kanya dahil sa ginawa nya..she said nagawa lang naman yun dahil sa pera and gusto nya matapos yung bahay.. gusto lang nya perahan yung lalaki and ako talaga mahal nya...

 

Nakiusap sya sa akin na kami pa din and nde daw nya kaya mawala ako sa buhay nya...etong siste nde naman ako nagkulang ng payo sa kanya na mag-ingat and sana iwasan na nya yung lalaki..kaso ayun wala pang isang linggo after ng hiatus inamin nya sa akin nagkausap daw sila and pakiramdam ng "guest" eh napahiya sya pinapulis ko sya etc...Eh gago pala sya may asawa sya papatol sya sa may asawa din...taenang tanda yun...

 

Anyway nde ko alam kung worth it pa na pagbigyan ko live in ko na magbalikan kami...she said na gagawin nya lahat bumalik lang tiwala ko sa kanya...i dunno part of me says yes why...madami din ako ginawang kalokohan while nagsasama kami...(patago nga lang & bihira na lang) & dahil naranasan ko na pinagbigyan nun so why not give her chance din. Tsaka mahal ko talaga na i'm willing to risk even na masama na and wala na tiwala family ko sa kanya

 

another part says no dahil kung pagbibigyan ko baka sumbat ko sa kanya and i atttude towards her maybe different na...

[hilong_talilong]

kaya eto nagiisa sa bahay dahil i told her din na leave me be muna if talagang mahal nya ako & she'll give me time to think. Kung gusto nya pa talaga she can come home and talk to me...

[Itto Ogami]

Well maybe its time for me to share my story as well

 

Na meet ko ka live in ko sa isang bar.Naging kami for well mag 3yrs na..I accepted her and i love her so much na bumukod kami. I put her first before me sa lahat ng bagay nde ako nag complain kasi mahal ko sya. In fact bago pa naging kami inamin pa nya sa akin na balak nya lang ako goodtime kaso nahulog na loob nya sa akin. Almost masaya na kami until nakunan (6mos baby boy) sya and lahat ng pinaghirapan ko nauwi sa wala...I stood by her side pa din kahit ni anino ng magulang nya wala ni hi's or hello wala...pamilya ko nagmalasakit sa kanya even though nde pa kami kasal. I was there a told her never to blame her self...pakiramdam ko din nun bakit kung sino pa may gusto magkaroon ng anak yun pa pinagdadamutan samatalang nagkakaroon pina-abort pa...

 

anyway so bumukod nga kami and she went back sa dati nya work para nde sya ma bored and ma depress sa pagkawala ng baby namin...nagresign ako sa work but eventually nakahuha ng much higher paying job which can support a family talaga.

 

Now eto nangyari...We had minor arguement lang last nov. altough nagkabati naman kami after a week nag paalam sya sa akin na uuwi sya sa province para pagawa yung bahay na pinatayo nya (yes nagpatayo sa ng bahay para sa parents galing sa ipon) eto na siste umabot na ng halos isang buwan nde sya umuuwi..nagkakausap naman kami sa phone and reason nya supervise nya yung bahay...nag bday ako wala sya..nalungkot ako first time ko na experience yun...wala ako inisip na masama kasi mabuti nman pakay nya pag uwi...pero habang tumatagal nagtataka na ko...I mean come on 1 month and ilang weeks na and nde naman na sya bumalik sa work and nde naman ganun kalaki yung kinikita nya...until nakahalata na nga sya.

 

Umuwi sya and nagtapat sya sa akin na meron sya guest na nag offer ng pera pang-pagawa ng bahay na yung pera eh halos nag accumulate sa half million...amputah galit talaga ako i felt soo stupid...she said kaya din nde sya makauwi dahil nagbabanta yung "guest" na if ever na bumalik sya sa manila and magsama kami..papaptay ako...I said enough na...so we ended our relationship ng ganun lang

 

Nag insist yung ex live-in ko na magkayos kami which eventually pumayag ako...isang araw pa lang kami ulit nagsasama nalaman ng guest andito sya and pinasusundo sa mga driver.. and papatay na ako..inuhan ko nmaan yung lalaki at pinablotter ko agad and nakuha naman yung plate number ng kotse nya..After that incident nagalit na kapatid ko sa kanya dahil sa ginawa nya..she said nagawa lang naman yun dahil sa pera and gusto nya matapos yung bahay.. gusto lang nya perahan yung lalaki and ako talaga mahal nya...

 

Nakiusap sya sa akin na kami pa din and nde daw nya kaya mawala ako sa buhay nya...etong siste nde naman ako nagkulang ng payo sa kanya na mag-ingat and sana iwasan na nya yung lalaki..kaso ayun wala pang isang linggo after ng hiatus inamin nya sa akin nagkausap daw sila and pakiramdam ng "guest" eh napahiya sya pinapulis ko sya etc...Eh gago pala sya may asawa sya papatol sya sa may asawa din...taenang tanda yun...

 

Anyway nde ko alam kung worth it pa na pagbigyan ko live in ko na magbalikan kami...she said na gagawin nya lahat bumalik lang tiwala ko sa kanya...i dunno part of me says yes why...madami din ako ginawang kalokohan while nagsasama kami...(patago nga lang & bihira na lang) & dahil naranasan ko na pinagbigyan nun so why not give her chance din. Tsaka mahal ko talaga na i'm willing to risk even na masama na and wala na tiwala family ko sa kanya

 

another part says no dahil kung pagbibigyan ko baka sumbat ko sa kanya and i atttude towards her maybe different na...

 

after going through every page in this forum, seems for every one hundred stories, there are only one or two happy endings.

getting involved with these women is complicated.

let's be ready for that.

[Itto Ogami]

kaya nga bakit ganun talaga?? i also ask myself a lot of questions why i did met her in the first place, i guess we are never contented with what we have siguro as a person, we often find what's more in store for us -- it maybe money, a new love, a new car etc...

 

with regards to my situation, ok na sakin siguro yung alam ko na naging special ako sa kanya, kahit alam ko na di magiging kami...

 

 

thanks again BUDDY!!

 

ditto, sir.

 

i guess these women come into our lives for a reason.

in my case, i got to know myself even more.

demet, full-blooded Ilocano - kuripot - then i meet this woman and bam!

i didn't know i could be as generous as hell, without expecting anything in return.

(well, except siguro, yung ma-acknowledge lang na special ako sa kanya.)

[TanglewoodBoy]

ditto, sir.

 

i guess these women come into our lives for a reason.

in my case, i got to know myself even more.

demet, full-blooded Ilocano - kuripot - then i meet this woman and bam!

i didn't know i could be as generous as hell, without expecting anything in return.

(well, except siguro, yung ma-acknowledge lang na special ako sa kanya.)

 

hahahahhah biglang naging galante ang ILOCANO, nyahahaahha

 

anyways, maybe there will be something good that will come out of this....

 

[monazario]

after going through every page in this forum, seems for every one hundred stories, there are only one or two happy endings.

getting involved with these women is complicated.

let's be ready for that.

it all comes down to one thing.... you learn!

may it be a happy ending or a sad ending...

the thing is..

you become a better person after all the experience youv'e been through..

go find yourself in the aftermath of your tumultous relationship...

you'll see a different you...

 

ive been in love once.. and thats one too many..

i learn.. and hopefully so does everyone reading this thread

CHEERS!

[Itto Ogami]

'tis Christmas... and it still is the season of giving.

 

met up with Sarah (i have an FR on her) told her it's payback time - i'm gonna buy her a Christmas gift.

at first, she wanted a stuffed toy lang but i told her that she had this budget for her gift (di ko na lang babanggitin sa inyo kung magkano), "wow, kuha mo na siguro bonus mo, noh?" which was true enough. when she couldn't see one to her liking, she said she'll buy a bag instead. so, off we went to the ladies' baggage section. ended up buying her a couple of bags, pero total was still below my allocation. so, we looked for a pair of jeans to finish her quota. unfortunately, wala siyang magustuhan so we ended our shopping.

 

buying Sarah stuff was a study in contrast with the girl i'm in love with.

with Sarah, you can see the sparkle in her eyes as she was looking over those bags as i gave them to her after paying for them. i felt really Christmassy and everything.

with the other girl, wala lang, when i buy her something, there is the perfunctory "thank you." i didn't feel appreciated at all. maybe it's because she's used to being bought more expensive stuff by her other, richer guests.

 

we had dinner afterwards, updated each other on our lives.

as usual, muntik na kong ma-impatso katatawa sa kwento niya.

i showed her a picture of the girl i'm in love with on my cellphone.

 

SARAH: sino yan?

ME: she's the one i was telling you about. yung dinala ko sa norte ng tatlong araw.

SARAH: bakit?

ME: i love her.

SARAH: ano naman nagustuhan mo sa kanya?

ME: ewan ko. sa totoo lang, mas magaling ka pa sa kanya.

SARAH: ano naman sabi niya?

ME: bawal daw emotions sa trabaho niya.

SARAH: di naman sa bawal. baka naghahanap lang siya ng malaking pera.

ME: unfortunately, yan ang wala ako.

...

ME: did you know that, for the first time in my life, naka-kumpleto ako ng Simbang Gabi?

SARAH: ano naman wish mo?

ME: na sana makaalis na siya run sa trabaho niya.

SARAH: talaga lang, ha?

 

i told Sarah about how i collected the Simbang Gabi missalettes and put them in a Christmas card i'm gonna give the other girl.

she said that was sweet.

 

falling in love with Sarah would have been way easier and less complicated.

unfortunately, i couldn't see her as anyone more than a friend.

 

gees...

[crystalyx]

Guys! Thanks a lot! I already told her. However I wasn't the one who initiated it. Nagkita lang kami to give my present to her. The one that she asked for. Konting gala sa mall then she went home na. I offered to accompany her home and she thought twice. Ewan ko kung bakit pero pumayag din. Makulit ako eh. Hehe! Tapos nung naihatid ko na then nasa jeepney na ako pauwi, bigla nagtanong. Kung may gusto raw ba ko sa kanya. Walang kagatul gatol na nagreply ako ng oo. Halata daw kasi. Hehe! Then I ask if she would give me a chance. Yeah why not ang sagot! Wahooo!!! :heart: :thumbsupsmiley: Damn! I've really fallen in love with this girl. :cool:

 

congrats bro,

happy new year mtc broods...

[Rearden]

HER: ....Sobrang mali na trabaho ko tapos dadagdagan ko pa ng pakikipagrelasyon sa taong pamilyado. Labag na labag na sa ten commandments yun, noh? Malaki pa rin naman takot ko kay Bro.

 

sir, I would have replied it this way...

 

technically speaking, the 10 commandments states that...

 

1. Thou shall not commit adultery

2. Thou shall not covet thy neighbour's wife

 

(i'm guessing this is what your girl was referring to)

 

first, in the correct context it was written (some 2000 years ago in a male dominated society), adultery is when a man has relations with a married woman. as long as your woman is unmarried, even if you are, then she is not in violation of the first commandment mentioned.

secondly, it states neighbour's "wife", not husband! she is not in violation of the second commandment mentioned.

 

that is why most biblical heroes had more than 1 wife

examples:

Abraham had Sarah (mother of Isaac), Hagar (mother of Ishmael), Keturah (mother of Zimran, Jokshan, Medan, Midian, Ishbak, and Shuah) (references are Gen. 16:1, Gen.16:3, and Gen. 25:1.)

King David had Ahinoam the Jezreelitess, Abigail the Carmelitess, Maachah the daughter of Talmai king of Geshur, Haggith, Abital, Eglah, Michal, and Bathshua the daughter of Ammiel.

 

she is however, continually committing a "sin" by continuing to sleep with a number of men, and it is more to her best interest (bible-wise) to be your second "wife"

 

"bro" is in favor of her being your wife instead of being everybody's wife!

[Itto Ogami]

sir, I would have replied it this way...

 

technically speaking, the 10 commandments states that...

 

1. Thou shall not commit adultery

2. Thou shall not covet thy neighbour's wife

 

(i'm guessing this is what your girl was referring to)

 

first, in the correct context it was written (some 2000 years ago in a male dominated society), adultery is when a man has relations with a married woman. as long as your woman is unmarried, even if you are, then she is not in violation of the first commandment mentioned.

secondly, it states neighbour's "wife", not husband! she is not in violation of the second commandment mentioned.

 

that is why most biblical heroes had more than 1 wife

examples:

Abraham had Sarah (mother of Isaac), Hagar (mother of Ishmael), Keturah (mother of Zimran, Jokshan, Medan, Midian, Ishbak, and Shuah) (references are Gen. 16:1, Gen.16:3, and Gen. 25:1.)

King David had Ahinoam the Jezreelitess, Abigail the Carmelitess, Maachah the daughter of Talmai king of Geshur, Haggith, Abital, Eglah, Michal, and Bathshua the daughter of Ammiel.

 

she is however, continually committing a "sin" by continuing to sleep with a number of men, and it is more to her best interest (bible-wise) to be your second "wife"

 

"bro" is in favor of her being your wife instead of being everybody's wife!

 

o, wise sir rearden...

your line of reasoning never ceases to amaze me! :thumbsupsmiley:

 

damn! if i could only let her see it this way...

[hilong_talilong]

Guys should i pursue and save our relationship or let her go na...? your inputs naman dyan