friendly0603 Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Eventually, you have found a fix. Fixable doesn't mean that things are returned to their original state. Is that really a fix for you? I offered that as an option albeit an unhappy one. Did I say it will be returned to the original state? There are many reasons why libido can just disappear. The disappearance may be temporary, or it can be permanent. Medication may cause it's disappearance, e.g. taking high doses of statin drugs or blood. On the psychological/moral side, sometimes a case of infidelity will cause loss of trust and confidence on one partner and thereby will hamper the desire for the fulfillment of the marital obligations, i.e. have sex with one's spouse.Or simply your spouse have lost all interest in you? Is that not possible too? The above, however, are not grounds for the dissolution of marriage. In canon law, the church allows annulment only if, at the time of consent -- which means prior to marriage -- there is already permanent impotence or frigidity such that one of the spouses cannot have sex. .... snipped Too long.... If you are deeply religious, yeah follow canon law. That's why england established their own church coz the vatican wouldn't allow the king to divorce his wife. Not everything is known at the start of a marriage. People change and they are no longer the person you married or they didn't grow with you. What if the frigidity happens during the marriage? Why put a limit of 5 years? People can endure suffering more years than that? All these are valid and legal. But who cares about that when you're unhappy with a short life to live. newcityboy, what do you mean by valid reason? Valid as in legal? If you are after legality, follow the other guy's advice. Legal option for me - go overseas & have your marriage dissolved there - that sex part is valid in other countries Quote Link to comment
friendly0603 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 (edited) When in the course of the marriage, one of the partners suddenly loose interests in sex, a fix must be found. Firstly, the cause of the lost of interest must be known; Secondly, a remedy has to be established, and that does not necessarily mean that the pre-nuptial desires of sex for each other should be restored. I agree. At times, the desire for sex may no longer return. The fix here is meant more for the marriage, not just for the sex part because the loss of interest for sex alone is NOT a valid reason for breaking up with your partner.What if there's no fix? Is it a valid reason to go looking for sex with others? Edited September 30, 2011 by friendly0603 Quote Link to comment
simplyeric Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 What if there's no fix? Is it a valid reason to go looking for sex with others? my theory is that at the age of 30~50, if one partner looses the drive for sex, the other must find a way to spice things up at that age, they may enter a routine that is boring. it is time to break the routine and discover something new. but this does not automatically mean one should cheat. it should still be a couple, with newer techniques like new position, devices,places,situations. If they have not yet reached the age of 60 and they have tried everything as a couple,and they are still bored, then maybe its time for a different flavor to add in the mix. maybe a 3rd party or another couple. if one cannot physically provide while the other is at his/her prime, then maybe they can enter into an open and controlled 3rd party Quote Link to comment
newcityboy Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 hey guys thanks for the replies. the scencario here is that my friend looked for another girl because his wife doesnt want to have sex with him but the problem is that he fell in love with this girl and now thinking of leaving his wife. He's feeling guilty though that he's planning to leave his wife but he doesnt love her anymore and she loves the other girl. so what can you suggest? Quote Link to comment
tatang1976 Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Nope. But eventually the sex drive will be diminished as we age. At the start the "hots" for the woman is there. Quote Link to comment
chopiters Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 seriously want to experience falling in love without the carnal side of things. @newcityboy - if may anak siya sa asawa niya, better have the money for alimony. If housewife ang asawa, alimony din. Then leave the wife, stick with the girl. everybody happy. If walang funds for the alimony, stick with the wife and family. Quote Link to comment
newcityboy Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 seriously want to experience falling in love without the carnal side of things. @newcityboy - if may anak siya sa asawa niya, better have the money for alimony. If housewife ang asawa, alimony din. Then leave the wife, stick with the girl. everybody happy. If walang funds for the alimony, stick with the wife and family. well they dont have kids and the wife is also working... Quote Link to comment
cHinitababe86 Posted October 19, 2011 Share Posted October 19, 2011 (edited) yes... i said no to the guy when he started the fondling thing... it's not that im not getting horny when he's doing it, it's just that having sex with him is my least priority. hahaha almost the same as the situation mentioned. pero i didn't say no naman. according to how i see it, we have the same view about sex na hindi naman kaylanganmadaliin, and would come in the right time at hindi magandang pilitin mangyari.somehow i admire this man for thinking thatway (whether he is really that sincere with the idea or not) besides, hindi lang naman sa sex umiikot ang lahat ng bagay lalo na pag relasyon angpinag uusapan. lalong hindi basehan na pag nangyayari yon means you're already falling inlove. (especially nowadays) patience most of the time makes the "reserved" act more exciting and intense. haha keeps the flame burning, as crazy as it may seem, pakiramdam namen it would start to getboring and would become a routine na if it keeps on happening already again and again and again. :lol: Edited October 19, 2011 by cHinitababe86 Quote Link to comment
alrey Posted October 19, 2011 Share Posted October 19, 2011 this is only possible if you have more than one gf. one for sex and another for other things lets face it .. its a biological need so if you have only one girl friend, its impossible not to be sexually attracted sooner or later. Quote Link to comment
BrightestStar Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Baka they're both of advanced age like 65 years old of older. Could be impotent too. Quote Link to comment
BrightestStar Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 What if there's no fix? Is it a valid reason to go looking for sex with others? Not at all. You can be charged with immorality. But it is indeed a ground for legal separation especially if you're a young couple. Quote Link to comment
friendly0603 Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Not at all. You can be charged with immorality. But it is indeed a ground for legal separation especially if you're a young couple.So what? FPJ, Dolphy, Revilla and a lot of others have sex with other women nd with kids. Are they afraid of being charged? Quote Link to comment
ZariHemi Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Falling In Love But Not Getting Horny, Not Wanting Or Having Sex hmm well everything is possible under the heat of the sun... mostly general women, there desires are always sleeping, its up to you to be romantic enough to awaken it and if it has a green light you can get it down under the sheet... its just pure and simple do some initiating do the first move... base on polls for women they categories this things: 1.food2.sleep3.sex and for the boys1.sex2.food3.sleep see the difference? most women doesn't put sex on there priority list... Quote Link to comment
don210 Posted January 18, 2012 Share Posted January 18, 2012 I am guy who expresses love physically. Quote Link to comment
SaintPeter5858 Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 He should see an expert. Quote Link to comment
romantico888 Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 my theory is that at the age of 30~50, if one partner looses the drive for sex, the other must find a way to spice things up at that age, they may enter a routine that is boring. it is time to break the routine and discover something new.but this does not automatically mean one should cheat. it should still be a couple, with newer techniques like new position, devices,places,situations. If they have not yet reached the age of 60 and they have tried everything as a couple,and they are still bored, then maybe its time for a different flavor to add in the mix. maybe a 3rd party or another couple. if one cannot physically provide while the other is at his/her prime, then maybe they can enter into an open and controlled 3rd party role playing na yan tol. nymphomanic na sila nyan tol kung di pa sila masatisfied ng ganyan age. ^masaklap lang dyan tol kung hindi open yung partner mo sa bagong routine lalo't kung conservative/relihiyosa ang nakagisnan nya. Pwedeng pwede naman yan,yun nga lang kung maiin love yung man and a woman sa isa't isa. dala na rin ng self control mo sa babaeng makakasama mo habang buhay, hindi mo lalaspagin kamuka nung mga nangyari sa mga naunang naging gf mo, kapag in love na in love ka sa babae hindi mo halos maisip gumawa ng kahayukan sa laman niya dahil pakiramdam mo madudumihan mo sya, love mo nga eh. pero kapag fling/infatuation/hindi mo mahal, kung ano anong kahayukan maiisip mo nariyan na yung threesome, orgy, convert them into bisex/lesbian, sa isip mo walang masama lalo't kung game din yung kapareha mo. Ginawa ko ring requirements yan para makakuha ko ng matino, kung sinong babae yung hindi bibigay sa kademonyohan ko sya ang pakakasalan ko. Quote Link to comment
chrispt21 Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 Depends if it is a human or a caveman! Quote Link to comment
BrightestStar Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Maybe coz she's not sexually attracted to him vice versa. Quote Link to comment
SaintPeter5858 Posted May 16, 2012 Share Posted May 16, 2012 He's looking for a mother figure Quote Link to comment
BrightestStar Posted May 17, 2012 Share Posted May 17, 2012 They should consult some specialists to remedy the problem. Quote Link to comment
Guest Riveria Posted May 18, 2012 Share Posted May 18, 2012 isn't it weird?...love and sex should always go together Quote Link to comment
SaintPeter5858 Posted May 18, 2012 Share Posted May 18, 2012 there must some psychological problem Quote Link to comment
chrispt21 Posted May 20, 2012 Share Posted May 20, 2012 Only few percentage of the population is truly asexual. Quote Link to comment
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