TanglewoodBoy Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 I have never been selfish and even if I want her to be mine, I want it to be her choice and not because I forced her. That's why I never got her pregnant. This new guy is just an a-hole. He started a relationship when she was in a vulnerable/rebound stage and didn't even take the necessary precautions to avoid this complication. I think he planned it so that she couldn't get away from him. Maybe one day bro she would realize that the one she truly needs is you, maybe that mistake would allow her to do that...who knows, no one can predict the future..... good luck bro!!!! Quote Link to comment
plushie Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 hi fellow mtc membersi have a big prob and hope you can help mei wanted to get back with my ex gf whom i saw just 2mos. agothe problem is we broke up 8yrs ago and never saw each other since thenshe committed suicide when i left her and her family and friends are so mad at me.she has a 3yr old kid now, but i`m willing to treat the kid as mine. she is married but will be divorced soon.her parents get mad at her every time they see my name calling in her cellphone. but i really want her back. how can i win her back? how can i assure her parents that i won`t leave her again?what can i do? Quote Link to comment
friendly0603 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 Maybe one day bro she would realize that the one she truly needs is you, maybe that mistake would allow her to do that...who knows, no one can predict the future.....good luck bro!!!!Thanks, bro! Hoping one day.... But expecting the worst. I just hope that if it's not her then there's somebody more than her that will eventually fill the void. Quote Link to comment
TanglewoodBoy Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 Thanks, bro! Hoping one day.... But expecting the worst. I just hope that if it's not her then there's somebody more than her that will eventually fill the void. yes I am sure you will find someone more worthy than her if di talaga kayo.... everyone deserves to be happy... Quote Link to comment
dfgvan Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 i'm searching the forum where i can ask this... but nothing seems to fit... here's the scenario... you two broke up... both are picking up the pieces...the girl is picking up the pieces to move on with her life without the guy...the guy didn't pick up the pieces he just wallowed... miserable... but happy for the girl... but... the girl out of the blue comes back into his life...and say's "I WANT TO BE HAPPY... WITH YOU!" the guy couldn't answer... he already liked how things are, although at the back of his mind he wanted her back... but he knows it's intelligent and better for him not to Quote Link to comment
ndn Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 IMHO,if you still love the girl,then GO for it,give yourselves a second chance. Kaw na rin nagsabi na naging miserable yung guy,so why not reconcile with her? Quote Link to comment
dfgvan Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 the problem is that the guy likes where he is as of the moment the reason he didn't pick up the pieces was that he is building anewonly to realize that in this rebuild he finds solace in his lonesome... being single the girl on the other hand knew the guy would be miserable... but she kept strongknowing that being apart will be better for both of them... being single again is what she needs(or so she thinks) but she came back and asked "do you want another chance?" Quote Link to comment
ndn Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 well it's a tough decision you have to makebut it is obvious that you still have feelings for the girlthe question is,would you really be happier without her in your life?And can you handle it if you let these chance pass and see her with someone new? Quote Link to comment
dfgvan Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 to tell you the truth... he'd probably beat up the guy...as of the moment, he's happy without her Quote Link to comment
ndn Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 hahaha if he need help just tell me,ako hahawak dun sa guy LOLYun naman pala bro eh,malay mo mas maging happier na sila this time aroundWhether he admit it or not,mas masaya ang may kasama kesa nag-iisaMaybe the guy is just scared of being hurt again,pero if i were him,i will give it another chance kesa magsisi ako sa huliSabi nga ni Bob Ong-"Wag mong bibitawan ang isang bagay na ayaw mo makitang hawak ng iba" (Im not sure with the exact words,but something to that effect) Quote Link to comment
dfgvan Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 Those are things that come to mind...For now he's fine but in the long run is questionable If they decide to push it through right now... he'd do things halfheartedlyand it may ruin the relationship again... Quote Link to comment
chapschaps Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 (edited) tsk tsk...bigat nito...how can you say that the Guy is happy? naipagpalit na ni Guy yung Girl sa ibang bagay o sa ibang tao o sa ibang libangan? ika nga eh love the one you're with... Edited February 21, 2011 by chapschaps Quote Link to comment
ndn Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 mahirap nga ito brojust weigh the pros and the cons nalangdi nga naman maganda na di 100% ang ibibigaypero sa totoo lang ha,parang pinahihirapan lang niya sarili niya,prolonging the agony Quote Link to comment
friendly0603 Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 Give in to what she wants but let her know that you really are undecided and want to take things slow. Quote Link to comment
dfgvan Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 tsk tsk...bigat nito...how can you say that the Guy is happy? naipagpalit na ni Guy yung Girl sa ibang bagay o sa ibang tao o sa ibang libangan? ika nga eh love the one you're with... none of the above... he's just content right now mahirap nga ito brojust weigh the pros and the cons nalangdi nga naman maganda na di 100% ang ibibigaypero sa totoo lang ha,parang pinahihirapan lang niya sarili niya,prolonging the agony yes saer, he's hurt... but content with what he has... he figures he has to work with what he has to be happy...changing that might cause a lot of confusion... pros - romance and stuff... a family down the roadcons - it might be too early to do it again Quote Link to comment
mardigras Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 go for it. ayoko ng may nagbother pa sa kin na "what ifs" down the road. baka pagsisihan mo din sa huli. we're guys, we're survivors you know. Quote Link to comment
jgc813 Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 i'm searching the forum where i can ask this... but nothing seems to fit... here's the scenario... you two broke up... both are picking up the pieces...the girl is picking up the pieces to move on with her life without the guy...the guy didn't pick up the pieces he just wallowed... miserable... but happy for the girl... how long have this couple been together? This will matter. If they have just been together for a few months, then, perhaps, they are caught up by their emotions and hormones. If they have been together for some years, it's different. but... the girl out of the blue comes back into his life...and say's "I WANT TO BE HAPPY... WITH YOU!" the guy couldn't answer... he already liked how things are, although at the back of his mind he wanted her back... but he knows it's intelligent and better for him not to The girl comes back from "out of the blue?" Sounds fickle to me. Quote Link to comment
dfgvan Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 they've been together for more than 7 years...wedding was cancelled once Quote Link to comment
jgc813 Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 they've been together for more than 7 years...wedding was cancelled once Then, it makes sense. 7 years is pretty long. For as long as there is no third party involved, I think they both must thresh out their issues, and discuss properly. No sweeping under the rug should take place. I think they should give each other another chance of returning to each other. 7 years is pretty long, and I think they should be mature enough to handle themselves. Quote Link to comment
dfgvan Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 (edited) that's the thing... they don't want any discussionsit ain't a negotiation what they wanted is start anew/freshbut both can't stop the past from haunting them Edited February 21, 2011 by dfgvan Quote Link to comment
jgc813 Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 (edited) that's thing... they don't want any discussionsit ain't a negotiation what they wanted is start anew/freshbut both can't stop the past from haunting them What they are asking is something impossible. With 7 years behind them, the reality is that they cannot start anew like as if they did not have any previous experience or background. As I said, they just cannot sweep things under the rug. That's impossible. If they cannot face themselves, and face their issues, I would suggest they DON'T get back together. It just won't work. They cannot pretend nothing happened between them and start anew. After 7 years, they should have matured as a couple. If they haven't, better the both of them to move on with their lives separately. Edited February 21, 2011 by jgc813 Quote Link to comment
dfgvan Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 i know... these will always be carried on...and these things will always factor in in their relationship. Quote Link to comment
BrightestStar Posted June 6, 2012 Share Posted June 6, 2012 go to the root of the problem. Quote Link to comment
SaintPeter5858 Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 Focus on what's workable. Quote Link to comment
iRapedSatan Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 what makes it complicated in the first place? Go with what's legal and what's moral! Quote Link to comment
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