A Complicated Relationship

[coolbreeze]

kausapin mo ng seryoso... yung totoong pag uusap... siguro naman mapi feel mo kung totoo yung sinasabi nya or not... if not then let go... masakit to do that kung mahal mo na sya, pero it's better that way kesa masaktan ka ng paulit ulit. mahalin mo muna ang sarili mo. makakahanap ka pa... don't forget to pray.

[TheIceMan]

i'm curious, why do most of you think that it's about her not getting over her ex yet and not about her parents being strict?

 

i admit that i really love this girl so i don't want to break up with her on the wrong reasons. i'm afraid she might just use firmly the reason that her parents are strict and i'm not an understanding BF, can that be the case here?

 

all i have is her secret friendster account with a primary pic of her ex's arms around her and dated during our 1st month. i'm afraid she might just use the reason that she uses that pic to divert attention from our current relationship so her parent or sis won't know. she can also argue that the date she puts there is only a caption which she can change to any date she wants and is just use to also divert attention. is that scenario possible or am i just going crazy now?

 

ma-pride kasi gf ko and very smart, since ako na nga yung hindi niya love, ayaw ko naman makipag break or magbreak kami na ako may kasalanan.

 

 

Wow... what an interesting love story... either a hopeless romantic or hopelessly devoted. A real person with a pure heart.

 

But dude, you realyy need to wake up, having such strict parents should not hinder one person's pursuit of true love. (Remember Romeo and Juliet?) Anyway, it has been a while since you last visited your room, I wonder if how did it went? Did you finally broke up with her or the other way around?

 

Anyway, I wish you well and hope to get an update on your story... :thumbsupsmiley:

Edited November 26, 2007 by TheIceMan

[largebelly]

Now I've got a situation also. I met this foreign classmate (asian country) who I fell in love with. I'm still married but planning on separating. I'm currently trying to make sure my wife and kids will have a more secure future before I go. She is sent here by the church to study and shall leave by mid next year. I have no intention at all in loving anyone, I hate the complexities brought about by the feeling, but obviously I failed.

 

I have expressed my feelings to her and she also has reciprocated her feelings. But it ends there. We are in limbo on where to go. She doesn't want her peers to know and I don't push. Pretty soon she'll be leaving. She can't promise to return back.

 

I'm not sure what I want, although I want her back, any ideas. Even harebrained ones are welcomed.

[karen26]

maybe she is confused and really fickle minded person, maybe din ikaw lang makakaramdam ng totoong sya coz lagi mo syang nakakasama. marami pa din siguro syang gustong gawin sa buhay nya na naisip nyang once naging serious sya sayo maraming mababago. the way u talk hindi ka naman ganun ka-strict but once u are into a serious relationship dapat mabawasan na yung mga mysteries sa buhay nya, she should be honest enough to tell you everything especially when it comes to the "ex", tingnan mo din sya kung di pa ba sya naka-move-on talaga, pakiramdaman mo. if she still talks about him that often then maybe it's time to distance yourself muna for her to think what she really wanted in life, if it's you that she chooses then walang lihiman dapat. tell her to stop dwelling in the past, kung reletionship ang gusto nya dapat yung mga nakaraan nya magstart na syang kalimutan and harapin nya ang bago nyang buhay with you. about the chat thing, ok lang to chat with friends....basta lang importante alam mo...... dapat din hindi na nya kinakausap yung ex nya, unfair yun sayo, hindi naman talaga maganda yung ikaw ang huling makakaalam na nagkakausap pa pala sila, nakakawala ng trust yun at yun ang pinakaimportante sa relationship. saludo ako sayo, ang bait mo, akala ko wala ng lalaking katulad mo na emotionally involved ka talaga sa pakikipagrelasyon.... i can feel na mahal mo talaga sya, sana lang masuklian ang pagmamahal na yun before it's gna be too late for u. leave everything to god and hold on to chance, chance na maging sayo na talaga sya ng buong buo at walang bahid na pagsisinungaling na samahan.... goodluck & let us know if you guys did fix it!!!!

[wynona_20fqc]

hay naku..naloka ko sa haba ng binasa ko!!hehehe..its like a roller coaster kind of relationship..kung ako tatanungin tama na yung paulit-ulit mo xang iniintindi..nakakaumay na ata..hrap namang magising ka isang araw na wala k ng maramdaman sa kanya xe manhid kana..ang hirap ata nun.bout ur concerns,ok lng yun na snabi mo atleast open ka sa kanya kaso pinatagal mo nmn,,kung ano n yung nararamdman mo dapat lagi mong snasbi para alam nyang anjang kang bf nya na nasasaktan nya..hay naku..swerte nga nya cyo eh..yun lng! :hypocritesmiley:

[wynona_20fqc]

hay naku..naloka ko sa haba ng binasa ko!!hehehe..its like a roller coaster kind of relationship..kung ako tatanungin tama na yung paulit-ulit mo xang iniintindi..nakakaumay na ata..hrap namang magising ka isang araw na wala k ng maramdaman sa kanya xe manhid kana..ang hirap ata nun.bout ur concerns,ok lng yun na snabi mo atleast open ka sa kanya kaso pinatagal mo nmn,,kung ano n yung nararamdman mo dapat lagi mong snasbi para alam nyang anjang kang bf nya na nasasaktan nya..hay naku..swerte nga nya cyo eh..yun lng! :hypocritesmiley:

[bc917]

do both of yourselves a favor. get out while you can. relationships can be complicated but it should not be that complicated

[DonImus]

Gusto ka lang nya for sex (for the girls) or kulang ang pag-ibig nya for you (for the boys).

Edited December 1, 2007 by DonImus

[mossad]

Now I've got a situation also. I met this foreign classmate (asian country) who I fell in love with. I'm still married but planning on separating. I'm currently trying to make sure my wife and kids will have a more secure future before I go. She is sent here by the church to study and shall leave by mid next year. I have no intention at all in loving anyone, I hate the complexities brought about by the feeling, but obviously I failed.

 

I have expressed my feelings to her and she also has reciprocated her feelings. But it ends there. We are in limbo on where to go. She doesn't want her peers to know and I don't push. Pretty soon she'll be leaving. She can't promise to return back.

 

I'm not sure what I want, although I want her back, any ideas. Even harebrained ones are welcomed.

 

 

you're just inviting yourself into a complicated situation. you're already married and have kids. just let it go. i don't think it's love but lust that you're feeling for your foreign classmate.

Edited December 2, 2007 by mossad

[tisoybrown]

dude,forget it.find someone else.remember not to play the cards that others draw.you should have the others play the cards you draw.this chic is obviously in love with the other guy,and is just trying to keep you for the other option.that strict parents thing is bull****,unless proven.wke up bro,ive been there,but i never had it go for a month.thats ridiculous.u should know when to leave,and leave for good.and dont forget about the break-up sex...just to keep your ego close. :headsetsmiley:

[hornet18]

When the relationship falls into a "love is blind, and a lover can not see" situation, then the relationship becomes complicated, kasi puro puso na lang wala ng utak. :thumbsdownsmiley:

[n2ny]

for wildswann, good thing you broke up with her, you were being played, anyway move on and look for someone who really loves you

 

for kentxt, you are getting married to the girl and not the parents and family, the problem is with the girl so the solution is the girl, replace the girl and go for someone whom you can get along and love

[mark_pogi]

pang-friendster na lang yang its complicated na yan eh

[Guest killercath]

i had a very complicated relationship before... as in... hehe! :thumbsupsmiley: :thumbsupsmiley: :thumbsupsmiley: he's married... he's 20 years older... and its a long distance love affair... asan ka pa...?... hehe! :thumbsupsmiley: :thumbsupsmiley: :thumbsupsmiley: :thumbsupsmiley: kaya ayun, it just lasted for 5 months... :flowers:

[sinfuLplaymate]

yes ang hirap.kasi minsan sabay sabay ako makipag relasyon.di ko na alam kung sino pipiliin ko..