What If Your Gf Cheated & Got Pregnant?

[simplyeric]

ako bitaw na.kasi mahirap mag ako ng responsibilidad ng iba

 

singilin niya dun sa nakabuntis

[gentle_maniac]

siyempre iwanan na, that's what most guys are saying pero meron mga, let's say sobrang mahal yung girl, tinatanggap parin, don't laugh at them, it may happen to u.

[ns3]

end of story, move on and then once your ready to dive in to a new relationship then make sure you pick the right one for yourself

[revi]

siyempre iwanan na, that's what most guys are saying pero meron mga, let's say sobrang mahal yung girl, tinatanggap parin, don't laugh at them, it may happen to u.

 

I won't laugh at them, coz it happened to me.

 

My wife cheated on me with two different guys. Caught her three times. Forgave her twice. On the third, she already got pregnant. Hindi sa akin coz for over 7 months, wala kaming contact (Sex). Her family wanted an abortion because the father of the baby is also married. So inabandon siya at ayaw ng family ng ex-wife ko ng iskandalo. To cut the story short, I still tried to do everything in my power to make our relationship work even after the third instance. But she wanted out. Saying that she needs to find herself.

 

Its rare for a guy to forgive someone like that three times. Its not just about love, its actually about family. The only reason why I survived such a monstrosity is that I still have enough love for myself and my daughter. Nowadays, we talk about our daughter. Nagsisisi daw siya. Wala siyang kinakasama (that is what she tells me) and is asking for forgiveness. I already did. I have to, or else I wont' be able to move on. It has been two years since we separated and each night I pray that I will be able to move on. But loving someone wholeheartedly right now is something I still can't really do. Trusting someone is difficult when someone hurts you like that.

 

Its hard to move on. At my age (30+), it become doubly difficult.

Edited October 8, 2011 by revi

[Singkit aj214]

I won't laugh at them, coz it happened to me.

 

My wife cheated on me with two different guys. Caught her three times. Forgave her twice. On the third, she already got pregnant. Hindi sa akin coz for over 7 months, wala kaming contact (Sex). Her family wanted an abortion because the father of the baby is also married. So inabandon siya at ayaw ng family ng ex-wife ko ng iskandalo. To cut the story short, I still tried to do everything in my power to make our relationship work even after the third instance. But she wanted out. Saying that she needs to find herself.

 

Its rare for a guy to forgive someone like that three times. Its not just about love, its actually about family. The only reason why I survived such a monstrosity is that I still have enough love for myself and my daughter. Nowadays, we talk about our daughter. Nagsisisi daw siya. Wala siyang kinakasama (that is what she tells me) and is asking for forgiveness. I already did. I have to, or else I wont' be able to move on. It has been two years since we separated and each night I pray that I will be able to move on. But loving someone wholeheartedly right now is something I still can't really do. Trusting someone is difficult when someone hurts you like that.

 

Its hard to move on. At my age (30+), it become doubly difficult.

 

Not to be rude,

bakit naman kasi 7 months walang contact?

Are you working abroad?

[chopiters]

I won't laugh at them, coz it happened to me.

 

My wife cheated on me with two different guys. Caught her three times. Forgave her twice. On the third, she already got pregnant. Hindi sa akin coz for over 7 months, wala kaming contact (Sex). Her family wanted an abortion because the father of the baby is also married. So inabandon siya at ayaw ng family ng ex-wife ko ng iskandalo. To cut the story short, I still tried to do everything in my power to make our relationship work even after the third instance. But she wanted out. Saying that she needs to find herself.

 

Its rare for a guy to forgive someone like that three times. Its not just about love, its actually about family. The only reason why I survived such a monstrosity is that I still have enough love for myself and my daughter. Nowadays, we talk about our daughter. Nagsisisi daw siya. Wala siyang kinakasama (that is what she tells me) and is asking for forgiveness. I already did. I have to, or else I wont' be able to move on. It has been two years since we separated and each night I pray that I will be able to move on. But loving someone wholeheartedly right now is something I still can't really do. Trusting someone is difficult when someone hurts you like that.

 

Its hard to move on. At my age (30+), it become doubly difficult.

 

this "finding herself" bit is really just a euphemism for "i'm not sure I should be with you". Bro, if it wasn't meant to be, it won't ever be. Problema nating mga lalaki pag na-inlove ng todo, umiikot ang buhay sa babae at nakakalimot na sa sarili.

[revi]

Not to be rude,

bakit naman kasi 7 months walang contact?

Are you working abroad?

 

I am not abroad. We were sleeping in one bed. She was just too "tired" daw. Siya ang tumatanggi. Kasi nga may lalake na siya nung span ng 7 months na yun. Ganun ako katanga na pinaniwala ko sarili ko sa sinasabi niya kahit na deep in my heart, I know that I am not that stupid not to make hunches.

 

Much like the above poster said, being in love too much is wrong. Maybe I was in love too much. When I look back, I was actually not, I was actually thinking of the wholeness of my family. At that time, I would eat everything (even s@%t) so as to keep our family intact. Its actually for my daughter's sake.

 

Giving everything to my ex-wife made her spoiled, I guess. We still talk over the phone for our kid, and she often tells me na pinagsisihan niya ang lahat ng nagawa niya. Tanga daw siya na binalewala niya ang pagmamahal na binigay namin ng anak niya. Now, its too late. As of now, nahimasmasan na ako na dapat hindi na lang kami at maghanap na lang ako ng iba.

 

Iba kapag kasal ka at kapag nakikita mo araw-araw ang anak mo. Kung wala lang kami anak, sa una pa lang, kinalasan ko na yan eh. I wanted my family intact for my daughter. Ayaw ko ng broken family. BTW, my daughter is with me, because wala syang kakayahan na palakihin ang anak namin. Lampas isang taon na silang hindi nagkikita. Nakakausap lang niya sa phone.

 

I am sharing this so that readers of this thread would know that these things happen even to people that you least expect that this could happen. My friends and relatives are all surprised with what happened to me. Considering the one that impregnated her WAS only a so-so agent in Toyota Marikina, and can't even support his own family. The guy is actually wanted by the NBI now for wife battery and abandonment. I know because an agent contacted me because he saw our phone number in one document daw. Siguro sinulat nung lalake yung number sa isang piece of paper at akala nung agent may lead yung number na yun.

 

Now, I will be annulling our marriage. The sooner, the better.

Edited October 8, 2011 by revi

[jgc813]

I am not abroad. We were sleeping in one bed. She was just too "tired" daw. Siya ang tumatanggi. Kasi nga may lalake na siya nung span ng 7 months na yun. Ganun ako katanga na pinaniwala ko sarili ko sa sinasabi niya kahit na deep in my heart, I know that I am not that stupid not to make hunches.

 

Much like the above poster said, being in love too much is wrong. Maybe I was in love too much. When I look back, I was actually not, I was actually thinking of the wholeness of my family. At that time, I would eat everything (even s@%t) so as to keep our family intact. Its actually for my daughter's sake.

 

Giving everything to my ex-wife made her spoiled, I guess. We still talk over the phone for our kid, and she often tells me na pinagsisihan niya ang lahat ng nagawa niya. Tanga daw siya na binalewala niya ang pagmamahal na binigay namin ng anak niya. Now, its too late. As of now, nahimasmasan na ako na dapat hindi na lang kami at maghanap na lang ako ng iba.

 

Iba kapag kasal ka at kapag nakikita mo araw-araw ang anak mo. Kung wala lang kami anak, sa una pa lang, kinalasan ko na yan eh. I wanted my family intact for my daughter. Ayaw ko ng broken family. BTW, my daughter is with me, because wala syang kakayahan na palakihin ang anak namin. Lampas isang taon na silang hindi nagkikita. Nakakausap lang niya sa phone.

 

I am sharing this so that readers of this thread would know that these things happen even to people that you least expect that this could happen. My friends and relatives are all surprised with what happened to me. Considering the one that impregnated her WAS only a so-so agent in Toyota Marikina, and can't even support his own family. The guy is actually wanted by the NBI now for wife battery and abandonment. I know because an agent contacted me because he saw our phone number in one document daw. Siguro sinulat nung lalake yung number sa isang piece of paper at akala nung agent may lead yung number na yun.

 

Now, I will be annulling our marriage. The sooner, the better.

 

Once upon a time, women would always chide us men that we are polygamous by nature, and they are the ever loyal stick-to-one-lovers. How fast time has evolved them, and I can really venture why women used to be what they claim they were -- loyal lovers and partners. I believe they could not help to be such because there is always the fear that they could get caught. How? If they get pregnant. Besides, it is still upheld by most women that abortion is a sin, so getting pregnant out of wedlock means you have obviously been fornicating or were unfaithful to our husband.

 

With the advent of easy access to birth control devices, most especially, with women who are already ligated, the fear of getting pregnant has diminished. So now, you see the true colors -- women can cheat just as men can. Unfortunately, a simple mistake could still get them pregnant, and that's when they get caught.

 

I really don't need an SO to get pregnant in order to know she cheated on me. It suffices that I find out she is cheating for me to loose my interest in her, to feel angry, to desire so much to get even, to even wish that she experiences the same pain, or probably more, and even to pray that she ends up in hell.

 

I know the above is so very inhuman and unchristian. But hey. Who says I am a saint?

 

 

[jgc813]

I am not abroad. We were sleeping in one bed. She was just too "tired" daw. Siya ang tumatanggi. Kasi nga may lalake na siya nung span ng 7 months na yun. Ganun ako katanga na pinaniwala ko sarili ko sa sinasabi niya kahit na deep in my heart, I know that I am not that stupid not to make hunches.

 

Much like the above poster said, being in love too much is wrong. Maybe I was in love too much. When I look back, I was actually not, I was actually thinking of the wholeness of my family. At that time, I would eat everything (even s@%t) so as to keep our family intact. Its actually for my daughter's sake.

 

Giving everything to my ex-wife made her spoiled, I guess. We still talk over the phone for our kid, and she often tells me na pinagsisihan niya ang lahat ng nagawa niya. Tanga daw siya na binalewala niya ang pagmamahal na binigay namin ng anak niya. Now, its too late. As of now, nahimasmasan na ako na dapat hindi na lang kami at maghanap na lang ako ng iba.

 

Iba kapag kasal ka at kapag nakikita mo araw-araw ang anak mo. Kung wala lang kami anak, sa una pa lang, kinalasan ko na yan eh. I wanted my family intact for my daughter. Ayaw ko ng broken family. BTW, my daughter is with me, because wala syang kakayahan na palakihin ang anak namin. Lampas isang taon na silang hindi nagkikita. Nakakausap lang niya sa phone.

 

I am sharing this so that readers of this thread would know that these things happen even to people that you least expect that this could happen. My friends and relatives are all surprised with what happened to me. Considering the one that impregnated her WAS only a so-so agent in Toyota Marikina, and can't even support his own family. The guy is actually wanted by the NBI now for wife battery and abandonment. I know because an agent contacted me because he saw our phone number in one document daw. Siguro sinulat nung lalake yung number sa isang piece of paper at akala nung agent may lead yung number na yun.

 

Now, I will be annulling our marriage. The sooner, the better.

 

Once upon a time, women would always chide us men that we are polygamous by nature, and they are the ever loyal stick-to-one-lovers. How fast time has evolved them, and I can really venture why women used to be what they claim they were -- loyal lovers and partners. I believe they could not help to be such because there is always the fear that they could get caught. How? If they get pregnant. Besides, it is still upheld by most women in this country that abortion is a sin, so getting pregnant out of wedlock means you have to bear with your pregnancy, and see to the child's delivery. Hence, you have obviously been fornicating or were unfaithful to your husband.

 

With the advent of easy access to artificial contraceptives, most especially, with women who are already ligated, the fear of getting pregnant has diminished. So now, you see the true colors -- women can cheat just as men can. Unfortunately, a simple mistake could still get them pregnant, and that's when they get caught.

 

I really don't need a Significant Other to get pregnant in order to know she cheated on me. It suffices that I find out she is cheating for me to loose my interest in her, feel angry, desire so much to get even, even wish that she experiences the same pain, or probably more, and even to pray that she ends up in hell.

 

I know the above is so very inhuman and unchristian. But hey. Who says I am a saint?

 

(Sorry for the double post. My initial posting 'errored,' so I reposted.)

 

 

Edited October 10, 2011 by jgc813

[Singkit aj214]

I am not abroad. We were sleeping in one bed. She was just too "tired" daw. Siya ang tumatanggi. Kasi nga may lalake na siya nung span ng 7 months na yun. Ganun ako katanga na pinaniwala ko sarili ko sa sinasabi niya kahit na deep in my heart, I know that I am not that stupid not to make hunches.

 

Much like the above poster said, being in love too much is wrong. Maybe I was in love too much. When I look back, I was actually not, I was actually thinking of the wholeness of my family. At that time, I would eat everything (even s@%t) so as to keep our family intact. Its actually for my daughter's sake.

 

Giving everything to my ex-wife made her spoiled, I guess. We still talk over the phone for our kid, and she often tells me na pinagsisihan niya ang lahat ng nagawa niya. Tanga daw siya na binalewala niya ang pagmamahal na binigay namin ng anak niya. Now, its too late. As of now, nahimasmasan na ako na dapat hindi na lang kami at maghanap na lang ako ng iba.

 

Iba kapag kasal ka at kapag nakikita mo araw-araw ang anak mo. Kung wala lang kami anak, sa una pa lang, kinalasan ko na yan eh. I wanted my family intact for my daughter. Ayaw ko ng broken family. BTW, my daughter is with me, because wala syang kakayahan na palakihin ang anak namin. Lampas isang taon na silang hindi nagkikita. Nakakausap lang niya sa phone.

 

I am sharing this so that readers of this thread would know that these things happen even to people that you least expect that this could happen. My friends and relatives are all surprised with what happened to me. Considering the one that impregnated her WAS only a so-so agent in Toyota Marikina, and can't even support his own family. The guy is actually wanted by the NBI now for wife battery and abandonment. I know because an agent contacted me because he saw our phone number in one document daw. Siguro sinulat nung lalake yung number sa isang piece of paper at akala nung agent may lead yung number na yun.

 

Now, I will be annulling our marriage. The sooner, the better.

 

At least you have the capacity to annule your marriage... I'm happy for you...

but thoughts of other guys going thru your predicament with no financial capability

really haunts me...

[friendly0603]

Much like the above poster said, being in love too much is wrong. Maybe I was in love too much. When I look back, I was actually not, I was actually thinking of the wholeness of my family. At that time, I would eat everything (even s@%t) so as to keep our family intact. Its actually for my daughter's sake.

 

Giving everything to my ex-wife made her spoiled, I guess. We still talk over the phone for our kid, and she often tells me na pinagsisihan niya ang lahat ng nagawa niya. Tanga daw siya na binalewala niya ang pagmamahal na binigay namin ng anak niya. Now, its too late. As of now, nahimasmasan na ako na dapat hindi na lang kami at maghanap na lang ako ng iba.

 

Now, I will be annulling our marriage. The sooner, the better.

Annulment is a farce unless the cheating behavior was there from the start. But money allows you to have this. Hope she wont fight you with this.

 

Are you married in church? That probably won't get annulled. Just the legal side of it.

[revi]

^ Well, I have spoken to some lawyers. And I have spoken to my ex-wife. She won't fight for anything because she fears that this could blow into proportions where her family might just be dragged into.

 

We are only married civilly, not in church.

[Singkit aj214]

^ Well, I have spoken to some lawyers. And I have spoken to my ex-wife. She won't fight for anything because she fears that this could blow into proportions where her family might just be dragged into.

 

We are only married civilly, not in church.

 

Just enjoy now that you are free...

[revi]

^^ To those who replied to my story: Thanks! Freedom from marriage is something I never cherished. Loneliness creeps in. Trust issues come in whenever I try to forge relationships. But I guess, moving on takes time. Much like aj214 said, I do try to enjoy these times that I could go out freely. Chill lang muna.

[friendly0603]

I just want to ask how these women get themselves pregnant. Do you guys blame the girl or the other guy for this stupid mistake that has very significant consequences?