Mike Chester Posted December 23, 2005 Share Posted December 23, 2005 i appreciate your thoughts, mike chester.but marriage is a decision, a commitment.i made a vow - for better or worse, etc, etc...i made that vow and God was my witness.how could i even dare cheat God of that?i am hurting, yes...hell, i'm cut too deepbut that hurting and pain must stand for something that's relevant to me, my kids, my husband in my heart of hearts i know i deserve betterbut i still have that hope in my heartthat the good Lord will touch my husband's souland in His good time, He will enlighten my wayward partnerand i will be happy againwith a family that's whole<{POST_SNAPBACK}> As I've mentioned on my previous posts, I believe that everybody deserve to have a 2nd chance, as long as the person will prove that what happened was just a mistake, at ikaw talaga ang loves nya. Pero kung halos everytime na lang e lolokohin ka, and everytime e mag su-suffer ka, then you have to consider to live your life without him. Maiksi lang ang buhay natin dito sa mundo, kaya I think we have to live our life to the fullest. Kaya kung may ibang person na magbibigay sa iyo ng sufferings, kahit na asawa mo pa siya, let him go para naman ma-realize niya na you deserve someone better. I'm sure kung talagang andun pa naman ung love nyo sa isa't-isa, in the end magkakabalikan din kayo kasi you have all the factors para magsama ulit (kids, your home, your family), and this time it will be for good na. Quote Link to comment
averno Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 i believe it all boils down on how much you really love the offending party. its true that everybody deserves a second chance but when it becomes a constant thing then its time to say goodbye. Quote Link to comment
BnF95 Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 Earlier today I had a long talk with a friend of mine who found out that his wife of 32 years has been fooling around with another guy. Though my friend was really pissed off, he took time to consider life with and without his wife. Amazingly, he chose to stay with her. I asked him what was wrong with him. His wife is sleeping with somebody young enough to be her son. He said, "I'm not in love with my wife, I love her. With all her faults, with all her imperfections, she's still the woman I chose to marry. I take it as a complement that some 28 year old kid is crazy about my 54 year old wife." THAT'S LOVE. Quote Link to comment
bvpt Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 Earlier today I had a long talk with a friend of mine who found out that his wife of 32 years has been fooling around with another guy. Though my friend was really pissed off, he took time to consider life with and without his wife. Amazingly, he chose to stay with her. I asked him what was wrong with him. His wife is sleeping with somebody young enough to be her son. He said, "I'm not in love with my wife, I love her. With all her faults, with all her imperfections, she's still the woman I chose to marry. I take it as a complement that some 28 year old kid is crazy about my 54 year old wife." THAT'S LOVE.<{POST_SNAPBACK}> Wow, your friend (for me) is a martyr. This only shows that love is not blind, as some people may oppsose to. If i was in his situation. well...... that's the end of it. Two can play that game, and rather having the guilt feeling....it's better to let go........................... Quote Link to comment
BnF95 Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 Wow, your friend (for me) is a martyr. This only shows that love is not blind, as some people may oppsose to. If i was in his situation. well...... that's the end of it. Two can play that game, and rather having the guilt feeling....it's better to let go...........................For me its crazy, but I admire his gumption. As far as being a martyr ... I don't know, I've a grudging respect for someone who refuses to play games and admits his feelings. Take note, he is still angry at his wife, but he is trying to get past the jealous rage and get back his life AND his wife. Quote Link to comment
kumutob Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 I think I can be called a martyr...or stupid? Cuz I accepted my bf back after he cheated on me TWICE. Quote Link to comment
best_X_girlfriend Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 ^twice? try being cheated on 5 times but we're still together. why? because i felt this is not the end yet. most of you might say it's stupidity or martyrdom, but you'll never really understand the feeling and the reason of those who stayed in the relationship after being cheated on if you're not in the situation or you havent experienced the situation. Quote Link to comment
BnF95 Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 ^twice? try being cheated on 5 times but we're still together. why? because i felt this is not the end yet. most of you might say it's stupidity or martyrdom, but you'll never really understand the feeling and the reason of those who stayed in the relationship after being cheated on if you're not in the situation or you havent experienced the situation.Well, there is another reason other than stupidity or martyrdom ... its called LOVE. Quote Link to comment
boobahsmith Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 As I've mentioned on my previous posts, I believe that everybody deserve to have a 2nd chance, as long as the person will prove that what happened was just a mistake, at ikaw talaga ang loves nya. Pero kung halos everytime na lang e lolokohin ka, and everytime e mag su-suffer ka, then you have to consider to live your life without him. Maiksi lang ang buhay natin dito sa mundo, kaya I think we have to live our life to the fullest. Kaya kung may ibang person na magbibigay sa iyo ng sufferings, kahit na asawa mo pa siya, let him go para naman ma-realize niya na you deserve someone better. I'm sure kung talagang andun pa naman ung love nyo sa isa't-isa, in the end magkakabalikan din kayo kasi you have all the factors para magsama ulit (kids, your home, your family), and this time it will be for good na.<{POST_SNAPBACK}> you are so right, and i totally agree with you Quote Link to comment
lomex32 Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 I believe your friend is granting/has granted PEACE for HIMSELF from HIMSELF.This will be always be the 1st step to move one.... ** he is trying to get past the jealous rage and get back his life ** <--- When he is ready he will make his move. To accept the facts or leave his post. "We should not wage war specially to ourselves" - Yuri Orlov For me its crazy, but I admire his gumption. As far as being a martyr ... I don't know, I've a grudging respect for someone who refuses to play games and admits his feelings. Take note, he is still angry at his wife, but he is trying to get past the jealous rage and get back his life AND his wife.<{POST_SNAPBACK}> Quote Link to comment
batikan Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 dehin na kung ako nga mapapagtiwalaan ko sarili ko eh eh pano kung sya hindi big issue iba na lang :thumbsdownsmiley: Quote Link to comment
BnF95 Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 I believe your friend is granting/has granted PEACE for HIMSELF from HIMSELF.This will be always be the 1st step to move one.... ** he is trying to get past the jealous rage and get back his life ** <--- When he is ready he will make his move. To accept the facts or leave his post. "We should not wage war specially to ourselves" - Yuri OrlovI hear what you are saying man, I wish I had the balls to just swallow my pride the same way myself. Quote Link to comment
silentkilla Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 Iwanan na sila period... Quote Link to comment
torix Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 masakit siguro sa una - pero darating din ang panahon na mawawala ang sakit - subsob ka sa trabaho and try to relax ng walang iniisip Quote Link to comment
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