What Is The Hardest Thing For You To Say...

[agamulach_experience2000]

If youre gf/partner cheated on you, you must first know the reason what triggered her to do that, maybe:

 

1.) she got bored

2.) she's a bitch on the inside which you did not know

3.) you did something like fooling around with other chicks

4.) among other stuffs hell knows

 

We do not control our gf's, they can do what they want as we can do what we want. Whatever the her reason might be, but if I still love her and shes willing to make up for what she did, the f**k what anyone says, I f**k around as well so were quits :evil: .

 

Un lang... :evil:

[mastergeniusus@yahoo.com]

Patawarin sya.........Tapos palitan.........Problema ba yun.........

[Rovy_R]

tsk tsk tsk... pagnabasag ang baso mabuo mo man me lamat na... magkasugat ka gumaling man me peklat na.... Let go is my answer.... If she loves me so much as what she was saying for me to give another chance... di dapat nangyari yun... no love to begin with...

[poqwanita]

gawd.. relate ako..this just recently happened to me..discovered on christmas day (night actually).. i read on the "sent items" sa cell... this time, i did not shed a tear..kc third time na..he wanted to explain..told him, no need to do that because i've warned him when it happend the second time around..i told him not to justify his actions kc its no use..it would be hard for me to believe him anymore..he went back abroad and we were not able to talk about it (since ayoko nga pag usapan) and now..i dunno..it seems the status of our relationship is...hmmm..prang lie low muna...

 

sabi nga, "once is enough, twice is too much, thrice?? nku baka barilin na ako sa luneta nyan wehehe

 

share lng po...

[missmanners]

"fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me..."

 

but i suppose this is really something that depends on each person's tolerance for their partner's philanderings and infidelities. if he or she can see through it and still accept the person, why not? who are we to judge that they are wrong?

 

however, i think it's also important to realize that you cannot demand love and respect if you cannot give it.. either to your partner and most especially to yourself. and if it's ok for you that you're cheated on, what does that really say about you?

 

just a thought.

[mrs_azul]

Should you stay, or should you go?

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Oh god yes!!!! If he or she's capable of doing it once, why not another time?

[BnF95]

"fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me..."

 

but i suppose this is really something that depends on each person's tolerance for their partner's philanderings and infidelities. if he or she can see through it and still accept the person, why not? who are we to judge that they are wrong?

 

however, i think it's also important to realize that you cannot demand love and respect if you cannot give it.. either to your partner and most especially to yourself. and if it's ok for you that you're cheated on, what does that really say about you?

 

just a thought.

"To err is human, to forgive, divine"

 

If my partner and I have outside relationships, with common consent, I guess the term for that is swingers? If without common consent, that would be infidelity, whether we forgive or not, I guess, depends on how much we love/treasure the other. If we can love the other person, inspite of their imperfections, inspite of their mistakes, inspite of all these things, then maybe, just maybe, that's love (or total infatuation).

 

But I agree with you, who are we to judge that others are wrong.

[lomex32]

It may not it be as what you really see from your friend.

Papalamig muna siya, to clear his mind and planning his move

on the right momemnt.

 

Cheaters are just like chickens that you caught rampaging your garden.... thay scamper away....

The more you chase them the more you get pissed off and the harder you will catch them ....

If you keep your cool, you can plan your move then you can GO FOR THE k*ll.

 

I hear what you are saying man, I wish I had the balls to just swallow my pride the same way myself.

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[silentkilla]

Kung asawa mo and have kids, may be you need counselling and fix whatever your problems that caused infidelity. Para sa mag-nobyo/mag-nobya pa lang, wala nang sabi-sabi na makipaghiwalay na...

[BnF95]

It may not it be as what you really see from your friend.

Papalamig muna siya, to clear his mind and planning his move

on the right momemnt.

 

Cheaters are just like chickens that you caught rampaging your garden.... thay scamper away....

The more you chase them the more you get pissed off and the harder you will catch them ....

If you keep your cool, you can plan your move then you can GO FOR THE k*ll.

Perhaps, after all, who can really read what's in another person's mind. But for all that, I think he's serious about it. After all, he's been putting most of his energy into work, and she's only human, it was a mistake. Now set it aside and rebuild his marriage. That was how he explained it. Of course the fact that he was drunk as a skunk kinda made me think he was telling the truth. You know ... IN VINO VERITAS.

[missmanners]

"To err is human, to forgive, divine"

 

If my partner and I have outside relationships, with common consent, I guess the term for that is swingers? If without common consent, that would be infidelity, whether we forgive or not, I guess, depends on how much we love/treasure the other. If we can love the other person, inspite of their imperfections, inspite of their mistakes, inspite of all these things, then maybe, just maybe, that's love (or total infatuation).

 

But I agree with you, who are we to judge that others are wrong.

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yes, a lot of it would depend on how much you love the person. how much can you take? how much can you forgive? how much can you ignore?

 

but my point is you also have to love yourself. and during situations where your partner's fidelity is questionable or downright proven invalid, this love for yourself should rise above all others. and that should answer the question on whether you should stay or go.

 

i know women who've been perennially cheated on and have decided to stick it out with their men. i know of friends who've walked away at the first instance of cheating. and i've also known of friends who are, what you call, "swingers". i'm not in any position to judge these or any other kind of relationship. but the bottomline for me is a person has to determine for themselves how they want to be treated. if they command love, fidelity and respect, hopefully they will live in a manner by which these will be given naturally. except, of course, in those rare instances when their partners are just simply unable to be monogamous.

 

that's another entry altogether.

[lomex32]

When war breaks out we have the option to 1. k*ll the enemy for good or 2. turn them around and lead them to be your subjects ... History speaks for itself. Genghis Khan did this

 

What I learned from management lectures, good managers have the elements that can make the 2nd choice. It is easy to fire unproductive staff, any jackass can do this. Firing somebody's ass is always the last resort.

 

When we give 2nd chances to others it also gives us the 2nd chance to look at how are actions were,

how are actions are and how are actions will be....

 

Our senses become sharper and thus we become more careful ..... We walk more softer and carry a bigger stick...

 

And if at any point that the 2nd chance prove worthless, you will always have that stick.

 

We can not control who will cheat on us, who will rob us, who will hit us .....

What we can control is how we become a better partner, a better citizen ... Thats why your friend is diverting his energy onto his work ....

 

Your friend will have his time, and she will have hers as well <---

 

Perhaps, after all, who can really read what's in another person's mind. But for all that, I think he's serious about it. After all, he's been putting most of his energy into work, and she's only human, it was a mistake. Now set it aside and rebuild his marriage. That was how he explained it. Of course the fact that he was drunk as a skunk kinda made me think he was telling the truth. You know ... IN VINO VERITAS.

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[BnF95]

yes, a lot of it would depend on how much you love the person. how much can you take? how much can you forgive? how much can you ignore?

 

but my point is you also have to love yourself. and during situations where your partner's fidelity is questionable or downright proven invalid, this love for yourself should rise above all others. and that should answer the question on whether you should stay or go.

 

True, only too true.

 

i know women who've been perennially cheated on and have decided to stick it out with their men. i know of friends who've walked away at the first instance of cheating. and i've also known of friends who are, what you call, "swingers". i'm not in any position to judge these or any other kind of relationship. but the bottomline for me is a person has to determine for themselves how they want to be treated. if they command love, fidelity and respect, hopefully they will live in a manner by which these will be given naturally. except, of course, in those rare instances when their partners are just simply unable to be monogamous.

 

that's another entry altogether.

Well, if one partner wants a monogamous relationship while the other one wants a polygamous one, I suppose a breakup is inevitable. I like the thrust of most of your argument, but one line kind of puzzles me. I mean, a person has to determine how s/he wishes to be treated, but as far as how their partner actually treats them is up to the partner, of course, if the treatment is unjust, one can always choose to separate.

 

When war breaks out we have the option to  1. k*ll the enemy for good or 2. turn them around and lead them to be your subjects ...  History speaks for itself. Genghis Khan did this

True, in love and war, all things are fair.

 

What I learned from management lectures, good managers have the elements that can make the 2nd choice. It is easy to fire unproductive staff, any jackass can do this. Firing somebody's ass is always the last resort.

 

When we give 2nd chances to others it also gives us the 2nd chance to look at how are actions were, how are actions are and how are actions will be....

 

Our senses become sharper and thus we become more careful ..... We walk more softer and carry a bigger stick... 

 

And if at any point that the 2nd chance prove worthless, you will always have that stick.

 

We can not control who will cheat on us, who will rob us, who will hit us ..... What we can control is how we become a better partner, a better citizen ... Thats why your friend is diverting his energy onto his work  .... 

 

Your friend will have his time, and she will have hers as well <---

I’m sorry lomex32, I think I didn’t make it clear. He figured that because he was so busy at work, she felt lonely and ignored. Maybe things’ll work out, maybe they won’t, but I still have to admire someone who is willing to stick his neck out that way.

[lomex32]

Gotcha mayt.

Admirable indeed. Thinking if we can do it...? I myself would sleep with my one eye open......

I guess to err is human or it is sthe animal inside us that makes mistakes .....

BUT it is also in our nature that once pain is inflicted, a wound comes out, and leaves a scar ..... who would forget ...

 

Try hitting your dog or a dog that sees you as a master, it will break into a shrill cry

..... after dong so, try to look at it in the eye it see how it reacts

Do the same to an elephant, worse it will not forget for a long time ....

 

The dog may soon be lost in wander and the elephent may gorge you with its tusk .....

 

 

 

I’m sorry lomex32, I think I didn’t make it clear. He figured that because he was so busy at work, she felt lonely and ignored. Maybe things’ll work out, maybe they won’t, but I still have to admire someone who is willing to stick his neck out that way.

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[BnF95]

Gotcha mayt.

Admirable indeed. Thinking if we can do it...? I myself would sleep with my one eye open......

I guess to err is human or it is sthe animal inside us that makes mistakes .....

BUT it is also in our nature that once pain is inflicted, a wound comes out, and leaves a scar ..... who would forget ...

 

Try hitting your dog or a dog that sees you as a master, it will break into a shrill cry

..... after dong so, try to look at it in the eye it see how it reacts

Do the same to an elephant, worse it will not forget for a long time ....

 

The dog may soon be lost in wander and the elephent may gorge you with its tusk .....

I hear you. As I said ... admirable, but then men often give grudging respect to something they cannot ... or will not ... do themselves. As I'm a confirmed bachelor ... I find my friend's actions and statements ... admirable and respectable. :hypocritesmiley: