cool_kojie Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 This is a topic that hits he right through the bone. Because I was in both scenario na someone intrude in my relationship which eventually resulted na totally maagaw sya sakin and After that ako naman ang nangulo and eventually naagaw ko naman sa other guy. Siguro In my case Nauna yung karma. Pero I know how the other guy would feel pag ganon kasi naging ganon din ako. Its like my whole world collapsed nung sinabi sa kin ng ex ko na she has fallen for someone else. I never got mad at her because she came out clean and said na she wont choose between me and the new guy. She will not pick anyone. I just told her that you should pick him na lang kasi all this would be pointless because the reason for her breaking up with me was because of this guy. That would be selfish, so even if it hurts so much I told her na pick him and be happy. I willing to let her go because I want her to be happy. She said she was so ashamed of herself kasi never did we had a fight, I was always understanding of her and her work plus my family liked her alot plus he respected me as a friend and as a lover. She also said everyone would be mad at her. I told her dont be bothered by what others think. If you decided on something, stand by it. We parted as friends. Now heres the twist after 4 to 5 months I met a girl who has a bf. Got me thinking, if ever i decided to court the girl I will be doing thesame thing to the other guy. Pero I was really drawn to her and said to myself I will okey if i will be a friends of her only and wait na mag break sila. So I did, I became her friend and we became closer and closer na it was really becoming stressful for me and her. Eventually she became aloof and avoiding me siguro pianagbawalan na ng boyfriend. So I respected that and I did not pursue her anymore. However, it sound corny but I guess the saying if you are really meant to be your meant to be! Kasi we always ran into each other unplanned Like nag shopping sya magisa eh biglang nandon din ako sa mall na yon so we end up shopping together. pag nag gym sya I will see her sa street para sumakay so hinahatid ko na lang sya. There are a lot of times like that na parang stalker na ko pero wala talaga. Swerte lang talaga. After that we call each other often na I know shes falling for me na so I asked her the question and she said yes pero pano yug bf ko. Mabait din daw and very understanding. Sabi ko sa sarili ko parang ako yon ha. I told her I am not going to tell you anything Its your call. Now while this was going on my ex called me and told me na she broke up with the other guy and asked if i will give "US" another chance. Ang hirap pero I need to decide. I told her na lang please be fair with me cause I already gotten over you and another girl has already given her heart to me. I told her na my feelings for her is deeper than What I have felt for you. She cried but said you deserve to be happy and said I am sorry for hurting you. So to cut the story short My soon to be wife broke up ith his boyfriend of 10 years for me. it was hard for her but she did what she has to do. Imagine a 10 year relationship was broken by a 3 month old friend. I guess ganon talaga, there is no guarantee. She put herself in a situation na she would be tempted just like my ex did. Quote Link to comment
mohao Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 (edited) nah! don't wanna be number 2, 3, 4...... and also because i wouldn't want other girls hittin on my guy... Edited December 22, 2006 by wetkiss Quote Link to comment
A.K. Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 what if you're married like in my case, i am married for 5 yrs. all those years my wife is just there for me, kaya umabuso ako, akala ko hindi nya magagawa sa kin. kaya to the point na halos hindi ko na sya nakakausap, yun pala napapabayaan ko na sya. akala ko nun, wala ng ibang magkakagusto or manliligaw sa wife ko. akala ko anjan lang sya for me. hindi kami nag away kahit minsan. i still go home everyday. pero most of the time wala ako sa bahay at nasa "iba". then one day eto nakahalata ako na iba na rin yung kinikilos nya. something that i noticed cause ganun din ako eh. pero akala ko takot lang ako sa sarili kong multo hangang sa ayun nahuli ko. now what will you do guys kung malaman mo na may nangyari sa kanila? pero eto sya nagmamakaawa sa yo na patawarin sya, inako nya lahat ng kasalanan kahit deep inside you, alam mong may kasalanan ka rin na hindi nya alam. hindi nya alam na mas matindi pa kasalanan mo. kayo, tatangapin nyo ba sya dahil mahal mo sya at may mga anak kayo? mahirap! masakit! pero kasalanan ko, kaya willing akong kalimutan lahat at tanggapin sya. ill just treat this as a VERY BAD DREAM! laging bumabalik sa isip ko yung mga nangyari, sabi ko sana hindi na umabot sa ganito bago ako nagpakatino! BUT WHEN CAN I DO, IT WAS ALL MY FAULT! PINABAYAAN KO SYA! AT ALAM KO ETO ANG KARMA KO FOR DOING ALL THOSE THINGS WITH OTHER WOMEN KAHIT ALAM KONG MAY ASAWA NA KO! MASAKIT, but I HAVE TO ACCEPT IT! Quote Link to comment
transcience Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 what if you're married like in my case, i am married for 5 yrs. all those years my wife is just there for me, kaya umabuso ako, akala ko hindi nya magagawa sa kin. kaya to the point na halos hindi ko na sya nakakausap, yun pala napapabayaan ko na sya. akala ko nun, wala ng ibang magkakagusto or manliligaw sa wife ko. akala ko anjan lang sya for me. hindi kami nag away kahit minsan. i still go home everyday. pero most of the time wala ako sa bahay at nasa "iba". then one day eto nakahalata ako na iba na rin yung kinikilos nya. something that i noticed cause ganun din ako eh. pero akala ko takot lang ako sa sarili kong multo hangang sa ayun nahuli ko. now what will you do guys kung malaman mo na may nangyari sa kanila? pero eto sya nagmamakaawa sa yo na patawarin sya, inako nya lahat ng kasalanan kahit deep inside you, alam mong may kasalanan ka rin na hindi nya alam. hindi nya alam na mas matindi pa kasalanan mo. kayo, tatangapin nyo ba sya dahil mahal mo sya at may mga anak kayo? mahirap! masakit! pero kasalanan ko, kaya willing akong kalimutan lahat at tanggapin sya. ill just treat this as a VERY BAD DREAM! laging bumabalik sa isip ko yung mga nangyari, sabi ko sana hindi na umabot sa ganito bago ako nagpakatino! BUT WHEN CAN I DO, IT WAS ALL MY FAULT! PINABAYAAN KO SYA! AT ALAM KO ETO ANG KARMA KO FOR DOING ALL THOSE THINGS WITH OTHER WOMEN KAHIT ALAM KONG MAY ASAWA NA KO! MASAKIT, but I HAVE TO ACCEPT IT! pick up the pieces and move on. Quote Link to comment
speedo10 Posted December 29, 2006 Share Posted December 29, 2006 I would never go after for someone if she is already taken. I don't want to ruin their relationship or should I say I don't want to be a "wrecker" of a relationships. I'll just look for other lady who is not taken at least there would be no problem. And I do think it depends on the thinking of the guy or the gal. :thumbsupsmiley: Quote Link to comment
dolphin722 Posted December 29, 2006 Share Posted December 29, 2006 One side of me says "NO!!!" but the other side of me says, "Why not?" Especially if the girl is obviously not serious with her partner or if she just wants a "fling". Quote Link to comment
spongebobby Posted December 29, 2006 Share Posted December 29, 2006 what if the girl who's "taken" is begging to be freed, and is asking you to free her? Quote Link to comment
caramelkisses Posted December 29, 2006 Share Posted December 29, 2006 Nope, that's so not my thing. Quote Link to comment
CHINITALOVER Posted December 29, 2006 Share Posted December 29, 2006 NOPE!!! I still let my prudent brain do the controlling, and not be misguided by a misleading heart... Quote Link to comment
stratoclapton Posted December 29, 2006 Share Posted December 29, 2006 tempting...level the playing field first...then go ahead... (me mga relationship na di natutuloy...nagkakalabuan...kung handa kang sumalo, go ahead...) Quote Link to comment
bodybumping Posted December 29, 2006 Share Posted December 29, 2006 dati sabi ko sa sarili ko never kong gagawin to.pero minsan nakalimutan kong pakinggan yung sarili ko.naiinis ako kapag sinusundo sya ng bf nya sa office namin.tapos sa sobrang guilt pinapili ko na sya although alam ko nde ako pipiliin ( pero umasa pa din).naaawa ako dun sa bf, walang kaalam alam. ngayon parang naghihintay pa din ako kung aabutin ako ng karma. Quote Link to comment
transcience Posted January 2, 2007 Share Posted January 2, 2007 i was in this s@%t years back. it was never easy. and prior to that, it never came to mind that i'd find myself in a sticky situation. things backfired. rollercoaster of emotions. the works. again, no. Quote Link to comment
legend_ako Posted January 2, 2007 Share Posted January 2, 2007 definitely... if i case i know that its a bad relationship... i will...just to save her from a dead end situation ,...like if the guy is an addict.. or wife beater.... Quote Link to comment
Boysbe Posted January 4, 2007 Share Posted January 4, 2007 Depends if i like the lady or i hate the guy... Odds are, she'll dump him for me. The dating game is simple, not all relationships dont last forever. Quote Link to comment
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