bill lomita Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 (edited) In regards to the topic on hand. . . I guess one can still pursue a girl even if she's already spoken for. . . I see nothing wrong with it, as long as you have the noblest intention with the girl. . . what I think is wrong is if the girl is already married or about to be married, but other than that, I see no wrong with it. . . Edited March 30, 2005 by Bill Lomita Quote Link to comment
performance Posted March 30, 2005 Author Share Posted March 30, 2005 Im assuming we all have noble intentions, but there are always people looking for a challenge... with that being said, its tough to lose somebody to someone else... "Love is all about timing, there no use loving the right person a little too early or too late" 2046 Quote Link to comment
macx98 Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 If she broke off her relationship because she was interested in you, even if you never hinted on one, then that wouldn't be your fault. My ex's present husband approached her as a friend at the time. In the course of our conversations while we were still together, she gave away details which led me to believe he was interested in something more than friendship. I pointed them out, but she refused to attach meaning to his gestures. From a guy's point of view, his moves were pretty obvious. I suppose she never wanted to put malice into them, which was why she was comfortable sharing such details. As he ingratiated himself to her with all his favors, it came to a point wherein she even wanted me to befriend him. I knew where this was all leading to, so after telling her that he would confide his true feelings in due time, I decided to avoid playing the jealous card. While I was still in the process of making travel arrangements to spend some time with her, all I had going for me then were our conversations over the phone and the internet. Rather than being confrontational about the whole matter, I just said my piece whenever appropriate, and left it at that. True enough, he eventually proposed. The decision fell on her shoulders...it was out of my hands. It was rather unfortunate that being practically alone in the States left her emotionally vulnerable; otherwise, I think we stood a pretty good chance. She's been through quite a lot, really. That decision was a heavy burden, and I tried to do my part to ease it. All's well now. Her close friends speak of how happy she is with her married life. I'd do anything to make her happy; I'm glad it all worked out for her.<{POST_SNAPBACK}> dude, idol kita! i would have done exactly what you did if i were in your shoes, and it is good to know you played it cool. :cool: Quote Link to comment
Curima0 Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 Would it be fair if your brother will take your piece of cake? Of course not! And it's the same with taking someone already taken! Quote Link to comment
bachr32 Posted April 1, 2005 Share Posted April 1, 2005 I will tell her my intensions, it will be up to her to give up her present relationship for me.If not, then they have the right to be free. Lalo na kung friend mo ka relationship nya!!! :cry: Quote Link to comment
the_joker Posted April 1, 2005 Share Posted April 1, 2005 Would you go after somebody who's taken? (Not Married for the sake of Moral Issues)..... This is not about cheating (so dont go after me ) What if you meet the right one, and that person already has a boyfriend/Girlfriend? would you go thru it? Are we doing them a favor by testing thier relationship? What are your thought?<{POST_SNAPBACK}> i wont... simple lang ang patakaran ko sa buhay, "kung ano ang ayaw mong gawin sa iyo, wag mo rin gawin sa iba"... antayin ko na lang maghiwalay sila bago ako umeksena... Quote Link to comment
performance Posted April 10, 2005 Author Share Posted April 10, 2005 Any more thoughts?... Im quite amazed by the number of young people having multiple relationships at one time, and yet when asked about the topic they are quick to defend that its not good to hit on someone who's taken... Quote Link to comment
black cat Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Depends... if I'm aware that the guy has a gf before I fall for him.. I won't. But if I'm already in love with him tapos tsaka ko nalaman na may gf na pala sya.. well, ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR na nga lang.. Quote Link to comment
Brian® Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 (edited) Would you go after somebody who's taken? (Not Married for the sake of Moral Issues)..... This is not about cheating (so dont go after me ) What if you meet the right one, and that person already has a boyfriend/Girlfriend? would you go thru it? Are we doing them a favor by testing thier relationship? What are your thought?<{POST_SNAPBACK}> For me...why not? As long as they are not married, I would go for it. I love the girl so might as well express it to her and see what happens. And YES you are doing them a favor by testing their relationship. But for me its not like that...its all about what I feel about the girl. And also if I have a gf at that time, I would tell her immediately about what I feel about the girl. I wouldn't want her to be a buffer in case the girl doesn't reciprocate to what I feel. Edited April 25, 2005 by briannx Quote Link to comment
bachr32 Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 For me...why not? As long as they are not married, I would go for it. I love the girl so might as well express it to her and see what happens. And YES you are doing them a favor by testing their relationship. But for me its not like that...its all about what I feel about the girl. And also if I have a at that time, I would tell her immediately about what I feel about the girl. I wouldn't want her to be a buffer in case the girl doesn't reciprocate to what I feel.<{POST_SNAPBACK}> I agree with you!!!! Quote Link to comment
missmanners Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 all is fair in love and war! definitely! if a guy in a relationship can be tempted to leave his girlfriend by a woman who is deliberately wooing him, then his girlfriend is better off in the long run. the guy would be an ass to begin with if he would bite, right? so for as long as marriages and families are not broken and destroyed, it's an even playing field. it's diabolical already if someone will deliberately and purposefully break up a marriage and hurt the children involved. Quote Link to comment
MTCBOSS Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 hmmm..... i did it once she is my collage classmate. i dont know dat he has a bf and she fell in love to me... and we have sex twice before i new she has a bf.... :cry: then the guy come to me and said wats ur problem??? i said non u? he said ur f**king my girl.... i said its not my fault. she said she had no takers wen we talk about it. then the girl stood in the middle and said let me think who to choose. i said to her go back its not worth for me and our relationship. i set her free coz i know and i felt the guy really loves her... and now im the ninong of her first son and best friend kami noong husband nya.... :thumbsupsmiley: its hurt really but to clean up the mess u have to close some doors coz its not for you.... :hypocritesmiley: Quote Link to comment
performance Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 Its a good topic to discuss cause I think one way or another all of us have met someone that we wished we could be with... people say they dont want bad karma, but arent we all looking for the right one... and if we waited to long, would the window close.... Quote Link to comment
mariejoy Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 actually i've tried that but unfortunately it didnt work out coz the guy was head over heels inlove w/ his gf.i knew that from the start but still i took the challenge coz this guy was an ideal one and i fell for him instantly.but in the end i losts him.the friendship was ruined. *strikers Quote Link to comment
in_style Posted May 1, 2005 Share Posted May 1, 2005 no. because no matter how you u look at it, it will always boil down to 'getting a bato and making pukpok your head'. Quote Link to comment
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