Guest biancaanne Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 well, we can't make somebody love us the way we wanted it to be, so I SALUTE YOU for letting go of him and staying away, in my case, it's a different story and i had no control of her decision though i think that's the best decision for her.....mahabang story eh, hahaha anyways, if she ever comes back in my life, i will love her twice as much as before!! promise yun!! kahit alam ko na di magiging kami... Thanks Ang hirap pero dadating din ang araw na kakayanin na talaga. Then comes acceptance... Mahabang story din yung sa amin...and it's also the best decision for him...but if he chooses to remain in my life and him in mine, entirely, purely, then it would be the first miracle I would witness, and I will surely love him the way we both should be loved - as individuals, and as a couple. If not, then as I promised him, I will move on and wait for the right one...even if it will take me to my next life, and the life after that etc.. Quote Link to comment
Guest Riveria Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 (edited) It's hard to stay away from someone you love so much especially pag ang reason nde valid. Edited January 20, 2010 by Riveria Quote Link to comment
Guest biancaanne Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 How do you deal with "relapses"? Hayy..I promised myself I won't establish contact again...but...I faltered. And he responded, even out of courtesy, he did. Quote Link to comment
Guest Serenity12 Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 How do you deal with "relapses"? Hayy..I promised myself I won't establish contact again...but...I faltered. And he responded, even out of courtesy, he did. Change your number and don't give it to him. If you retain your old number and even if you delete his contacts, I'm sure you committed his number to memory. And at the back of your mind, you are probably still hoping that he will miss you enough to make the first move. When he doesn't, then you break your vow and make the first move ( then you hate yourself for doing so, etc. It's a vicious cycle). As long as he has your number in his contacts, you would still hope he would text/call you one day . It's that HOPE that will lead to your downfall. So if you really intend to stay out of his life, then change your number and don't give it to him. Then you don't have to keep glancing at your phone since you know there isn't even a slim chance he would call you. People who want to stay in your life will find a way to communicate with you, sooner or later. If they don't, then you have to accept the fact that you were never THAT important to them in the first place. My two cents. Quote Link to comment
sk3rmo Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 with great difficulty Quote Link to comment
TanglewoodBoy Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 How do you deal with "relapses"? Hayy..I promised myself I won't establish contact again...but...I faltered. And he responded, even out of courtesy, he did.I guess you just have to bear with it dear, tiisin mo na wag siyang text, or delete his number para di mo na siya ma text uli..... time heals all wounds so to speak.. Quote Link to comment
Guest biancaanne Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 Change your number and don't give it to him. If you retain your old number and even if you delete his contacts, I'm sure you committed his number to memory. And at the back of your mind, you are probably still hoping that he will miss you enough to make the first move. When he doesn't, then you break your vow and make the first move ( then you hate yourself for doing so, etc. It's a vicious cycle). As long as he has your number in his contacts, you would still hope he would text/call you one day . It's that HOPE that will lead to your downfall. So if you really intend to stay out of his life, then change your number and don't give it to him. Then you don't have to keep glancing at your phone since you know there isn't even a slim chance he would call you. People who want to stay in your life will find a way to communicate with you, sooner or later. If they don't, then you have to accept the fact that you were never THAT important to them in the first place. My two cents. with great difficulty I guess you just have to bear with it dear, tiisin mo na wag siyang text, or delete his number para di mo na siya ma text uli..... time heals all wounds so to speak.. Haay...talo.. Mahina ang loob ko I guess. We're friends again so to speak. Quote Link to comment
TanglewoodBoy Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 Haay...talo.. Mahina ang loob ko I guess. We're friends again so to speak. Well, maybe the next time na maging kayo, things would be better because it gives you a chance to right your wrongs, good luck my dear!! it's not na mahina loob mo, you just feel deeply for that person... Quote Link to comment
Guest biancaanne Posted January 21, 2010 Share Posted January 21, 2010 Well, maybe the next time na maging kayo, things would be better because it gives you a chance to right your wrongs, good luck my dear!! it's not na mahina loob mo, you just feel deeply for that person... Ummm...hindi pwedeng maging kami e. Just like your counterpart, he loves his GF of about 10 years... So, I should learn how to be happy just by being friends, kahit kumikirot pa rin. Quote Link to comment
jcsantos Posted January 21, 2010 Share Posted January 21, 2010 I cant, I'm helpless Quote Link to comment
TanglewoodBoy Posted January 21, 2010 Share Posted January 21, 2010 Ummm...hindi pwedeng maging kami e. Just like your counterpart, he loves his GF of about 10 years... So, I should learn how to be happy just by being friends, kahit kumikirot pa rin. parehas pala tayo ng situation, di din magiging kami just when i thought i found the woman whom i would want to grow old with, hehehe GF of 10 years??? di pa ba niya asawa yun?? what the ???? hehehe yes, you should be happy na friends ko kaysa naman hindi mo siya friend, hehehehe Quote Link to comment
Guest biancaanne Posted January 21, 2010 Share Posted January 21, 2010 parehas pala tayo ng situation, di din magiging kami just when i thought i found the woman whom i would want to grow old with, hehehe GF of 10 years??? di pa ba niya asawa yun?? what the ???? hehehe yes, you should be happy na friends ko kaysa naman hindi mo siya friend, hehehehe Hindi pa nga e. Sayang..I wish I met him waay back, either para may chance sana ako, or at least I could have enjoyed spending more time with him. It's the first time, after almost 10 years that, I've even pictured myself with his kids and wearing a wedding gown and saying "I do" to him in church. I tried staying away, pero the growing longing pushes me to love him even more, and just be miserable. Now that we're talking again, w/o the complications of a relatonship, I am more at peace, somehow. Meron pa ring natitirang "sana" in my heart and mind, but I try not to cling onto it, lest tell him I still love him so much. If this is love, selfless love, then he has taught me well... Quote Link to comment
royginald Posted January 21, 2010 Share Posted January 21, 2010 Ignoring won't help a bit..You must accept it! . . . Quote Link to comment
TanglewoodBoy Posted January 22, 2010 Share Posted January 22, 2010 Hindi pa nga e. Sayang..I wish I met him waay back, either para may chance sana ako, or at least I could have enjoyed spending more time with him. It's the first time, after almost 10 years that, I've even pictured myself with his kids and wearing a wedding gown and saying "I do" to him in church. I tried staying away, pero the growing longing pushes me to love him even more, and just be miserable. Now that we're talking again, w/o the complications of a relatonship, I am more at peace, somehow. Meron pa ring natitirang "sana" in my heart and mind, but I try not to cling onto it, lest tell him I still love him so much. If this is love, selfless love, then he has taught me well... i guess don't lose hope in you and him being together dear though don't expect it also, we have the same situation though it's good to be at peace with yourself, make the most of what you have with him.....masakit nga lang tanggapin ang katotohanan na di magiging kayo, but hey, nobody has an easy way in life... di mo naman siya kayang tiisin na di makita, di makausap so i guess what you decided was the best for you, not for him but for you.... Quote Link to comment
Sigmundo Posted January 22, 2010 Share Posted January 22, 2010 i guess don't lose hope in you and him being together dear though don't expect it also, we have the same situation though it's good to be at peace with yourself, make the most of what you have with him.....masakit nga lang tanggapin ang katotohanan na di magiging kayo, but hey, nobody has an easy way in life... di mo naman siya kayang tiisin na di makita, di makausap so i guess what you decided was the best for you, not for him but for you.... My 2 centavos....Seems to me a lot of us are in this "complicated" situations....Can't be lovers but will not settle to be friends...No solution either...nothing quick and painless that is. All I can say to console you people is to say the you are not alone in this..hindi ka nag-iisasigh Quote Link to comment
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