torpe Posted January 14, 2010 Share Posted January 14, 2010 i did this with my ofcmate before... I fool around a lot but with her, i knew i was falling... and i was falling for her so fast that i got scared kasi mahina pa loob ko nun. I just suddenly stopped talking to her... i avoided her.. I didnt even look at her.. it worked... but she hated me for it.. until she resigned... ganda pa naman nun... takot siguro ako kasi di naman ako gwapo... yoko masaktan. nyahahahaha Quote Link to comment
MarkLee21 Posted January 14, 2010 Share Posted January 14, 2010 ako??? had this oficemate na im flirting with kaso masakit na cya... mahirap na baka mahuli pa ni gf. ngaun ko pa lng gagawin as in wala png 30 mins nakakalipas... nagdadrama cya e... so we can cut it off.. (buti nkahuli ng tyempo) hari ng deadmahan to e,, Quote Link to comment
Guest biancaanne Posted January 15, 2010 Share Posted January 15, 2010 Give each other proper goodbye's and share your last few moments together in tenderness. Then get rid of all possible ways to get in touch with each other - facebook, etc., delete each other's phone number and remove from your contacts in YM... Leave poignantly, with nothing but love and hopes for the best for each other... Quote Link to comment
systemid12 Posted January 15, 2010 Share Posted January 15, 2010 Give each other proper goodbye's and share your last few moments together in tenderness. Then get rid of all possible ways to get in touch with each other - facebook, etc., delete each other's phone number and remove from your contacts in YM... Leave poignantly, with nothing but love and hopes for the best for each other... I agree with this one. Get rid of any contact information you have of him/her. It's hard to ignore someone you've loved (or still love) if you still have a way of contacting that 'someone'.. Quote Link to comment
TanglewoodBoy Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 I think the key here is getting by one day at a time, try to as much as possible let the day pass as fast as possible... me, i usually drank every night so i could sleep early, nevermind if i was crying while drinking (alone) it helps if you have a best friend who will see your side and give you perspective on things.. Quote Link to comment
Guest biancaanne Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 I agree with this one. Get rid of any contact information you have of him/her. It's hard to ignore someone you've loved (or still love) if you still have a way of contacting that 'someone'.. hirap kya nito Yup..mahirap nga, pero kung last resort mo na 'to, you have to have that resolve to do it if it's for the better. avoiding someone doesnt really mean you have to erase everything. if you really want to stay away you will do it even though you see her/him often, or still have his/her numbers.. it's just a matter of standing your reason why you have to do it. if you cant do it, you're not ready.. acceptance is the key. if you understand the reasons why, whether for you sake or for someone else.. you will find it easy.. (if you feel you do no good to your partner,, thats why you think you need to go away... what's keeping you now? because they cant live without you? if you know you're not the right one, even though you love them.. let them go and LEAVE.. someone is worthy of their time and love. if we love them.. we need to set them free. lets not keep them for our own interest..) I agree with most of yor points; however, if you know yourself well enough, and you know that it would be hard for you to accept without doing something as drastic as erasing everything, then I'd rather you do it than carry on with the vicious cycle of saying goodbye and slowly giving in again and being selfish. Part of acceptance is self-awareness and readiness to do whatever it takes to really let go. I think the key here is getting by one day at a time, try to as much as possible let the day pass as fast as possible... me, i usually drank every night so i could sleep early, nevermind if i was crying while drinking (alone) it helps if you have a best friend who will see your side and give you perspective on things.. One day at a time, one step at a time...agree! Aside from best friends, it's good to be around people in general. It helps you realize that you are not the only one suffering. On the other hand, it also helps you realize how big the ocean really is. Quote Link to comment
alphageminie Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 Go out, keep yourself busy and dont look back. It also helps na huwag ka nang mag text and tumawag sa kanya. Time heals Quote Link to comment
Miss Zelda Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 completely ignoring him. not seeing him, not even texting him Quote Link to comment
TanglewoodBoy Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 One day at a time, one step at a time...agree! Aside from best friends, it's good to be around people in general. It helps you realize that you are not the only one suffering. On the other hand, it also helps you realize how big the ocean really is. it will be hard the first few days but try to stay sober as much as possible, before i cried while i was drinking alone, ang hirap hirap... then i saw her again after a few months, i still love her so much but it's not meant to be....alam ko na di magiging kami, though i knew i tried and did my all... Quote Link to comment
undressed Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 change email add..i looked for a diversion hehehchanged my phone number its hard kahit na we had a rollercoaster kind of relationship before that lasts for 4 yearsand did those things that i mentiOned above many times... still nangibabaw pa din ang love ko sa kanya but this time its working naman na...kahit how deep you fell inlove with a person... theres still limit pala na pwede mo ibigay mapapagod ka din... and im proud to say its been a year na! just praying, wishing, hoping --- whoever you are WAG KA NG BABALIK NG PINAS! Quote Link to comment
Guest biancaanne Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 it will be hard the first few days but try to stay sober as much as possible, before i cried while i was drinking alone, ang hirap hirap... then i saw her again after a few months, i still love her so much but it's not meant to be....alam ko na di magiging kami, though i knew i tried and did my all... Yeah...nag-mellow down nga ako dahil sa kanya e. 'Trying to stay away from the alcohol muna and re-direct my energies to writing, work, sleeping more... Mahirap pag nakita mo nga naman ulit yung mahal mo. As much as possible, di nga ako tumitingin sa building ng office niya kasi baka maaninagan ko pa siya. We even talked about that..kung magkita kami. It's better for the one who saw who first to look away and veer away before contact happens. Buti sana kung pwede kaming maging magkaibigan e. Pero due to special circumstances, kahit yun hindi pwede (bukod sa mahal pa rin namin at isa't isa but it really isn't meant to be). It's harder on my part because I feel that I'm the more loving one...to a fault So it was also me who had to let go and stay away...because I'm the more loving one. He could only reciprocate and let me go as well... :cry: Quote Link to comment
systemid12 Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 avoiding someone doesnt really mean you have to erase everything. if you really want to stay away you will do it even though you see her/him often, or still have his/her numbers.. it's just a matter of standing your reason why you have to do it. if you cant do it, you're not ready.. acceptance is the key. if you understand the reasons why, whether for you sake or for someone else.. you will find it easy.. (if you feel you do no good to your partner,, thats why you think you need to go away... what's keeping you now? because they cant live without you? if you know you're not the right one, even though you love them.. let them go and LEAVE.. someone is worthy of their time and love. if we love them.. we need to set them free. lets not keep them for our own interest..) Accepting the fact that the relationship is over is hard especially if you still contact each other. I think the best way to deal with this is to assure her (since i'm a guy) that your still there for her and 'then' erase any contact information you have of her (graceful exit.. hehe).. then cry your heart out after that Quote Link to comment
TanglewoodBoy Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 Yeah...nag-mellow down nga ako dahil sa kanya e. 'Trying to stay away from the alcohol muna and re-direct my energies to writing, work, sleeping more... Mahirap pag nakita mo nga naman ulit yung mahal mo. As much as possible, di nga ako tumitingin sa building ng office niya kasi baka maaninagan ko pa siya. We even talked about that..kung magkita kami. It's better for the one who saw who first to look away and veer away before contact happens. Buti sana kung pwede kaming maging magkaibigan e. Pero due to special circumstances, kahit yun hindi pwede (bukod sa mahal pa rin namin at isa't isa but it really isn't meant to be). It's harder on my part because I feel that I'm the more loving one...to a fault So it was also me who had to let go and stay away...because I'm the more loving one. He could only reciprocate and let me go as well... :cry:well, we can't make somebody love us the way we wanted it to be, so I SALUTE YOU for letting go of him and staying away, in my case, it's a different story and i had no control of her decision though i think that's the best decision for her.....mahabang story eh, hahaha anyways, if she ever comes back in my life, i will love her twice as much as before!! promise yun!! kahit alam ko na di magiging kami... Quote Link to comment
ImInvisible Posted January 17, 2010 Share Posted January 17, 2010 (edited) pag iniwasan mo,,(erase everything) nakalimot ka for a while. pag nagkita naman kayo ng hindi nio sinasadya.. kakaba kaba,, babalik ang alaala.. kaya, wag mo iwasan ang nakaraan.. sanayin mo na anjan kahit hindi mo sya maramdaman.. pasasaan ba at magsasawa ka, kakaantay, kakaiyak.. titigas ang loob at balun balunan.. haiaiai... pag ibig.. hindi nila tayo deserve, kaya mag pa miss naman tayo. mag nuod ka ng movies, magbasa, para busy ka. kasi kung hahanap ka ng kausap mo, baka bayaran ka na non, maghanap ka lang ng outlet mo, dahil sila,,, malamang may sarili din problema.. dito ka lang magbasa sa MTC, dahil kahit papano, hindi ka pala nagiisa, at marami kayo iisa ang ramdam.. mag eyeball na lang kayo at magkape, magyosi at sabay sabay umiwas from someone you love so much.... haiaiai... someday,, someone's gonna love us so much that they'll be hoping to stay away din. malamang,, bilog ang mundo eh.. :thumbsupsmiley: pero dahil alam natin kung pano masaktan, maipakita sana natin ang kanilang kahalagahan bilang tao na lang.. kahit hindi kaya bilang kaibigan.. Edited January 17, 2010 by ImInvisible Quote Link to comment
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