dhanefunclub Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 4 me d best decision you can choose is d 1 wer u can find peace of mind...cguro u should tink of ur kids muna bago lahat... as for the girl i tink dat she should seek expert advice ... im not sayin she's crazy just in need of sum help 2 sort tings out in her life...it's not normal for a person 2 try 2 take away his/her life ....sensya na if medyo magulo ang sinasabi k ...nywayz jaz a tot "der is no such ting as a wrong decision only consequences" hope u make d ryt choice dude... it's not easy but i hope dat u stay strong Quote Link to comment
mr_adventurous27 Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 kung saan ka masaya suportahan ta ka. if u really want to stay away from someone you love becase you know that a lot of people might get hurt. dont hesitate to do it, and be firm with ur decision.swit lass is right, it is a matter of priorities. and also think of all the things na mawawala sayo if the relationship continues. can u luv two person at the same time with the same intensity? pwede, but at one point in our life the decision to choose kung sino talaga ang gusto natin makasama for the rest of our lives is will come...and we must decide.i'm glad our friend here chose her wife, again be firm with ur decision. wag kang makipagbargain. stay away from the girl completely, no ifs and buts, no condition. be a man.and lastly, always remember.......THE BEST GIFT A FATHER COULD GIVE TO HIS CHILDREN IS TO LOVE THEIR MOTHER. Quote Link to comment
Switlass Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 THE BEST GIFT A FATHER COULD GIVE TO HIS CHILDREN IS TO LOVE THEIR MOTHER. i like this one.. Quote Link to comment
icedragon Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 Don't get involved in the first place, kung alam mong magiging problema, hey just let it go!!!! thats the first and the best thing to do, kung ma-inlove ka eh, ok lang but make sure that maging mas inlove ka dun sa present partner mo, Being in-love is normal Quote Link to comment
dermaboy Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 just stop thinking 'bout it being so complicated. it's simple, you both made a choice & so the separation. it's no accident. furthermore, you decided to got married & have kids. a mistake? funny....peace... Quote Link to comment
Cookster Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 um....divorce was brought up for what purpose again? No, I am not pro divorce. I just don't understand why you have to stay away if you were lucky enough to be loved back by somebody you truly love.Ok, so you have complications. I am confused about this. Very Much.If i put myself in the wife's shoes, I would want the woman to die a terrible death for even thinking about taking what's mine. Of course, i would also want my husband to be loyal to me... but if he has to ask about how he can stay away from someone..then I no longer can call him mine.. right? If i put myself in the other woman's shoes, as long as I feel happy, for as long as I am ok with the "situation" and understand all the rules, then I wouldn't want him to stay away from me... Future or no future. My Life. I decide how I want to live it. If I want to live it as a man's other woman, so be it. If i am to play the role of the kid, I would keep my mouth shut. My parents deserve to be happy, and even though it's noble to want to stay together to give me a good future.. It's not going to work. Individually, they deserve to be happy, if my father would be happier with another woman, so be it. I'm sure my mother won't be happy even if he stays with us if she knows in her heart that the only reason why he's staying is to "Keep the family together". Lastly, if i am to play the role of the husband.. it's a matter of who is more valuable. Priorities. Do I love her as much as my wife? Is this just a passing thing? Will i tire of her soon? Will my wife ever forgive me? can i forgive myself if my wife can't? Nice one swit.... This is really confusing.... There is a reason why God placed our brains over our heart...so that we can think first with our heads before our feelings...but you cannot ignore what you feel that is why its confusing... My stand is with my family...the girl got involved bec of me....I know that...but I have to be responsible for my family....they are my priorites...I made a vow and that is the one vow I will NEVER break...I will love my kids that much that I have to endure tha suppression of my feelings and the guilt of knowing that I hurt someone I really care about.... That's it... Quote Link to comment
dermaboy Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 THE BEST GIFT A FATHER COULD GIVE TO HIS CHILDREN IS TO LOVE THEIR MOTHER. ....hhmmmm...very good but not the best... Quote Link to comment
dermaboy Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 hmmm... tough questions different scenarios but it would only lead to one thing....... how to stay away from the so-called "sinful" feeling..... it's a matter of choice and will...... there are some things that we do not because we want to do it but because it's the right thing to do.... it may not be based on norms but primarily on our own standards.... oh well.. it's still easier said than done.... i guess ill just cross the bridge when i get there.... errrrrr actually im approaching that bridge already.... darn i guess being happy and right are entirely two different things... to happiness: doing the right thing:the wife: -let go of husband -defend the marriagethe kids: -let go of father -defend the familyyou : -choose your love -choose your familythe girl : -be a mistress -forget the relationship me : i'd definitely go for the right thing (i hope hehe.). Quote Link to comment
449239 Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 um....divorce was brought up for what purpose again? No, I am not pro divorce. I just don't understand why you have to stay away if you were lucky enough to be loved back by somebody you truly love.Ok, so you have complications. I am confused about this. Very Much.If i put myself in the wife's shoes, I would want the woman to die a terrible death for even thinking about taking what's mine. Of course, i would also want my husband to be loyal to me... but if he has to ask about how he can stay away from someone..then I no longer can call him mine.. right? If i put myself in the other woman's shoes, as long as I feel happy, for as long as I am ok with the "situation" and understand all the rules, then I wouldn't want him to stay away from me... Future or no future. My Life. I decide how I want to live it. If I want to live it as a man's other woman, so be it. If i am to play the role of the kid, I would keep my mouth shut. My parents deserve to be happy, and even though it's noble to want to stay together to give me a good future.. It's not going to work. Individually, they deserve to be happy, if my father would be happier with another woman, so be it. I'm sure my mother won't be happy even if he stays with us if she knows in her heart that the only reason why he's staying is to "Keep the family together". Lastly, if i am to play the role of the husband.. it's a matter of who is more valuable. Priorities. Do I love her as much as my wife? Is this just a passing thing? Will i tire of her soon? Will my wife ever forgive me? can i forgive myself if my wife can't? I like your adv to this guy. You always put yourself into another shoes but you should also consider yourself. The pros and cons of the situation. As for you Lian, these are only adv and YOU are the one in that situation. Maybe we can relate on some of the things that you experience but we haven’t experience the same degree that you have right now. Decide what’s best for you and to your family. As for me, you should find time to talk to your wife … to your kids … and to that girl especially with your decision. You should also find time to meditate on your decision. And whatever your decision … you should be firm with that decision. Quote Link to comment
LovenFaith Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 huhh...!!! so complicated...!!! : :cry: :cry: but f m d wyf though, i will surely feel f there's smtng bothering my husband's mind, and so, m gna ask him wats wrong, heart to heart talk. f i've learned that he has another girl but he wants 2 leave it already, m gna exert sme effort 2 help him, maybe i'l b the one 2 talk 2 the girl f he find hard times in doing that... but...if i've learned that he rreally love that girl, though the pain will surely k*ll me, i will change our relationship from being partners to bestfriends. wats d use of kipng him f his heart's not n me? besides, i love him that much that i dont want him to beconfused all the time, m gonna give him all the time he's needed to figure outwhat he's really up to.on the other hand, f m d mistress, i wouldn't make further complications, as long as were happy whenever were together, i wouldn't drag the time he has for his family. i love him that much that m willing to sacrifice however painful ts 4 me., nwy, ts d thoughts that counts, so even f were not together as long as we love each other, we dont nid 2 hurt other people, i'll always go for quality over quantity.one morre thing, f i really love him that much, i will never let his relation to his family be destroy just because of me. i know if it happen, he will be shattered and i don't want it to be happen 2 him, i really love him that much. gus2 k nang maiyak s topic n to, can we start a thread about the MISTRESS' AGONY? GOSH, my pieces of related emotions just gushing out. as for you lian, take your tym, be vocal to both of them, whoever wishes ur happiness and not theirs will be the ryt choice. i dnt say u have to take what's good for u first, but this would be a good parameter of whom u should have to choose. Lastly, take time to pray. u've asked each and evryone of us about your problem but did u already talk 2 HIM and ask d same question u've asked us? 1 Quote Link to comment
lord_rochester Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 complicated question. the thing is could you really stay out of the way. di ba we become stupid when we are in love? pero as usual there is always a limit to this stupidity. (good thing) so you could just simply stay out. the "how" question is difficult. pero when you reach your limit you will stay out or else you haven't reached your limit yet. Quote Link to comment
irshes Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 Cut the communication. She's trying to k*ll herself? She needs psychiatric help, not you. You are NOT responsible for whatever action she takes. You shouldn't feel guilty. She has issues. You may be part of the reason she acts that way, but in the end she's the one who has control over what she does. I've been through a dilemma similar to that of the girl. I almost gave up on my BF because of guy #2 (in this case, you). Guy #2 is no longer here. But I am. I'm still alive, breathing and well. I've learned a lot, and right now I can say with utmost honesty that I'm happy with my life. Time has been a very good friend. Quote Link to comment
Killer5 Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 gawin mo yung mga ginagawa mo dati nung wala pa sya sa buhay mo Quote Link to comment
Guest kizmet Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 I am in the same situation.... I share same semtiments.... I still love him but we both belong to our own family ---- period. We just enjoy what we presently have.... our own family - our company... I don't expect much more than that. We don't have any plans of ruining our own family..... But honestly... I still have this hope that one day... just maybe one day we both could be free and..... well..... it's just a dream!!!! Quote Link to comment
kadafy Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 I am in the same situation.... I share same semtiments.... I still love him but we both belong to our own family ---- period. We just enjoy what we presently have.... our own family - our company... I don't expect much more than that. We don't have any plans of ruining our own family..... But honestly... I still have this hope that one day... just maybe one day we both could be free and..... well..... it's just a dream!!!! be mindful of your thoughts ms. kizmet. they may become actions. there is such a thing as the power of the subconscious. so, if you've really decided as what have you said, don't entertain those thoughts/dreams. word of caution lang po... Quote Link to comment
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