Where To Find The Best Men (The Christian Greys)?

[babymaker]

She has some good ideas!

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GioAUFs94KU

 

How to Find "The One" | Dating & Compatibility

[Brian214]

Best men doesn't equate to rich men. Best men for your daughters are men that will protect, provide and take care of them. It's better to let your daughters decide who they want to spend the rest of their lives with. As a father you are there to catch them if they fall not to pimp them to rich men (no offense). You want what's best foe your daughters, teach them to be self sufficient. Teach them to be independent. Teach them to prioritize career over early marriage. This way, kahit gago pla ang mapakasalan nilang guy, they have the option and they will not be afraid to leave him.

[Iceman7]

For some reason the purpose of this thread is not clear to most readers...

 

I have teenage daughters. You may have daughters too.

I want my daughters to marry well:

... for life

... to have the most children they can have

... to a loving man who will be there for her... for life.

... to a man who she can have a home / house, have yayas,

... my daughters can make money via online businesses and have time for her children as well

... to a man who is a provider... who does not need a wife's income

... and at the same time the wife is not constrained to not do business... why we have the internet today.

 

So where are these men?

There are probably guys here hehe, but they are gonna be in the late 30's early forty range. Not sure if u want your daughters with gentlemen with a huge age gap.

 

Since they also should enjoy their youth.

[babymaker]

There are probably guys here hehe, but they are gonna be in the late 30's early forty range. Not sure if u want your daughters with gentlemen with a huge age gap.

 

Since they also should enjoy their youth.

 

How should girls "enjoy their youth"?

[Iceman7]

 

How should girls "enjoy their youth"?

By having fun going out with their friends from school.

 

The men that can truly provide for your daughters will be busy with work and sometimes exhausted from their job. Unless they are from a rich family where they just sit back and collect money. Also if they see others females in their age group with younger good looking guys they might wish that was them.

 

Ideally one should look for one who can be a good provider. But is that what they truly want in their hearts? From experience when women get near the 25 year mark that is when they would find the guy with everything more appealing. But the younger ones seem more attracted to the guys who are sweet talkers and have the bad boy look.

 

But who know you could have raised your daughters differently so they see the bigger picture.

[Kritpa]

Don’t neglect your daughters’ natures. At such age espescially in those years with an “-een” suffix, your princesses do not know what they want yet, and, they most likely never will I am afriad. What you said you’re looking for is what you would want as a man for your daughters. That is great and all lest you forget that your daughters are primarily; female, budding/developing/maturing or whatever you call it at this point and lastly; is what you want for them what they want for themselves?

 

Of course, you as a man (if you are), or if you are a woman (then you should) know or have an idea of what female nature really is. It changes like the weather, one moment it’s sunny and the next there’s a torrential downpour. You have been on this earth long enough to know that.

 

Women will always be attracted to certain things, and so do men. What you should consider however is how happy and contented your daughter and possible son-in-law would be with each other once life has become stale or the wants of either party from each other have dried up? Men love idealistically, and women love with utility. This is the underlying truth of the world.

 

Would you want your grandchildren to grow up in an environment where their parents lost their love for wach other years earlier? Would you want them to be exposed to the realuty of god forbid, infidelity and/or trauma prematurely? These would affect its outlook on life negatively.

 

It’s good to have standards. But if ever there is such a man of that pedigree as you have described out there, and he comes for the heart and hand of one of your daughters, I hope you likewise raised your daughters to be the woman that is worthy of the man on whom you imposed standards.

[babymaker]

By having fun going out with their friends from school.

 

The men that can truly provide for your daughters will be busy with work and sometimes exhausted from their job. Unless they are from a rich family where they just sit back and collect money. Also if they see others females in their age group with younger good looking guys they might wish that was them.

 

Ideally one should look for one who can be a good provider. But is that what they truly want in their hearts? From experience when women get near the 25 year mark that is when they would find the guy with everything more appealing. But the younger ones seem more attracted to the guys who are sweet talkers and have the bad boy look.

 

But who know you could have raised your daughters differently so they see the bigger picture.

 

Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

Don’t neglect your daughters’ natures. At such age espescially in those years with an “-een” suffix, your princesses do not know what they want yet, and, they most likely never will I am afriad. What you said you’re looking for is what you would want as a man for your daughters. That is great and all lest you forget that your daughters are primarily; female, budding/developing/maturing or whatever you call it at this point and lastly; is what you want for them what they want for themselves?

 

Of course, you as a man (if you are), or if you are a woman (then you should) know or have an idea of what female nature really is. It changes like the weather, one moment it’s sunny and the next there’s a torrential downpour. You have been on this earth long enough to know that.

 

Women will always be attracted to certain things, and so do men. What you should consider however is how happy and contented your daughter and possible son-in-law would be with each other once life has become stale or the wants of either party from each other have dried up? Men love idealistically, and women love with utility. This is the underlying truth of the world.

 

Would you want your grandchildren to grow up in an environment where their parents lost their love for wach other years earlier? Would you want them to be exposed to the realuty of god forbid, infidelity and/or trauma prematurely? These would affect its outlook on life negatively.

 

It’s good to have standards. But if ever there is such a man of that pedigree as you have described out there, and he comes for the heart and hand of one of your daughters, I hope you likewise raised your daughters to be the woman that is worthy of the man on whom you imposed standards.

 

Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

[Kingkongphils]

If love. Then you must know by now that you cant find love really. It finds you. If money, well there are a lot of guys with money. If quality just like what our fellow MTC said, shahid adu... Something something... Equal lang dapat. If you teach your daughter to be strong independent wise and with quality woman then chances are she will get someone thats her equal. Wag mo lng cyang sasakalin because they tend to choose the opposite of what you insist on them.

 

Kung nalilito ko, just look at how your wife and you meet. Parehas lang dn yun. Different timeline lng

[Tiger Balm]

Where do you find the BEST MEN?

 

You know, those Christian Grey types?

 

Handsome, Providers, READY to get married and have children.

 

I have daughters who are coming of age... and of course I want them to find / marry the BEST MEN.

 

Ideas and experiences please.

 

 

 

 

You do not want the kind of men controlling the lives of your daugther!

[crunchymama]

Instead of grooming them for a Christian Gray type of a man based off on looks and creating a fortunate situation (i'd like to assume you want that relationship to last in a good way also...or maybe i'm wrong and open but respectful relationship is your thing...no judgements ) ...at any rate, groom your daughter's to have a decent career, independent, confident of her well groomed looks, well mannered and informed with a healthy but respectful sense of self-worth that does not lean heavy to men's validation (men do want to pamper women...but not care for a self-disabled baggage)...definitely compassionate to a good cause, organized and level headed to have a clear vision of how she will define her individual success and where people in her life fit in it...

 

...now this will at this point sounds way too much for one human to achieve...but if you believe in the "Alchemical Life Law of Equivalent Exchange"...then you only get in life the equivalent of what you sacrifice or exchange to put in...to have, hold and keep a Christian Gray...one must be his equal...even if luck blows your way and you now have and hold a Christian Gray...then to keep him is where you pay up the necessary price.

 

...I could also assume you may just want a decent happy life for your daughters...then they should hold a career that allows them earn enough to support themselves independently and maximize the opportunity to travel and meet different types of men within the career or life environment they wish to belong to....

 

...preparation for the future is only as good as one's ability to adapt to its ever changing landscape of events...and stay happy and contented...

 

peace!

agree.

[babymaker]

You do not want the kind of men controlling the lives of your daugther!

 

Don't take this too literally.

 

I just want THE BEST men out there for my daughters.

[MTC]

Hello Babymaker,

 

Men with good hearts and good intentions and rich and above normal social skills are already taken the moment they step out of school or reach adulthood. It's just the way nature works. Imagine an unripe mango on a tree. Even before this mango ripens bats and other fruit eating insects... you get the idea. Some species will have different tolerance to what is acceptable as ripe. And some individuals within the same specie will even have different tolerance, depending on how hungry... my point is TIME. Do not wait for the mango to ripen.

 

We should learn to identify potential. Pick a big healthy tree in the sunlight, away from pollution, near a water source, in a good farm... you get the idea. Pick a big green mango on a strong branch, not a small deformed mango, inspect the skin, inspect the previous years harvest, inspect the history of the farm, history of the mango... inspect everything... you get my point.

 

Where not to look for Christian Grey: In cheap bars, In cheap car shows, In churches... basically in places where it's easily accessible. The internet has good spots too. Let me share my personal experience. Many years ago I played an online game called World of Warcraft. I met lots of young people. Fast forward to 15 years and these people are now possible husbands with jobs in the USA. Playing World of Warcraft is not cheap. You have to pay for game time and you have to have a certain level of social skill to move up in ranks and be accepted in the virtual social circles online. Now here is where my post offends. Compare World of Warcraft to Mobile Legends. The game played by every Tom Dick and Harry for free. We will not find Christian Grey even if we searched for a lifetime. We will not see a Bill Gates. No Richard Branson, no Steve Jobs, no Jeff Bezos, no Prince of Dubai. These people DID NOT play Mobile Legends. Notice I used the past tense "Did Not", TIME is the essence.

 

So when you're interviewing the boys playing with your daughters ask them what game they play. :-)

[babymaker]

Hello Babymaker,

 

Men with good hearts and good intentions and rich and above normal social skills are already taken the moment they step out of school or reach adulthood. It's just the way nature works. Imagine an unripe mango on a tree. Even before this mango ripens bats and other fruit eating insects... you get the idea. Some species will have different tolerance to what is acceptable as ripe. And some individuals within the same specie will even have different tolerance, depending on how hungry... my point is TIME. Do not wait for the mango to ripen.

 

We should learn to identify potential. Pick a big healthy tree in the sunlight, away from pollution, near a water source, in a good farm... you get the idea. Pick a big green mango on a strong branch, not a small deformed mango, inspect the skin, inspect the previous years harvest, inspect the history of the farm, history of the mango... inspect everything... you get my point.

 

Where not to look for Christian Grey: In cheap bars, In cheap car shows, In churches... basically in places where it's easily accessible. The internet has good spots too. Let me share my personal experience. Many years ago I played an online game called World of Warcraft. I met lots of young people. Fast forward to 15 years and these people are now possible husbands with jobs in the USA. Playing World of Warcraft is not cheap. You have to pay for game time and you have to have a certain level of social skill to move up in ranks and be accepted in the virtual social circles online. Now here is where my post offends. Compare World of Warcraft to Mobile Legends. The game played by every Tom Dick and Harry for free. We will not find Christian Grey even if we searched for a lifetime. We will not see a Bill Gates. No Richard Branson, no Steve Jobs, no Jeff Bezos, no Prince of Dubai. These people DID NOT play Mobile Legends. Notice I used the past tense "Did Not", TIME is the essence.

 

So when you're interviewing the boys playing with your daughters ask them what game they play. :-)

 

Amazing insight! What are the hot games these days that are like World of Warcraft?

[JBezos]

Instead of grooming them for a Christian Gray type of a man based off on looks and creating a fortunate situation (i'd like to assume you want that relationship to last in a good way also...or maybe i'm wrong and open but respectful relationship is your thing...no judgements ) ...at any rate, groom your daughter's to have a decent career, independent, confident of her well groomed looks, well mannered and informed with a healthy but respectful sense of self-worth that does not lean heavy to men's validation (men do want to pamper women...but not care for a self-disabled baggage)...definitely compassionate to a good cause, organized and level headed to have a clear vision of how she will define her individual success and where people in her life fit in it...

 

...now this will at this point sounds way too much for one human to achieve...but if you believe in the "Alchemical Life Law of Equivalent Exchange"...then you only get in life the equivalent of what you sacrifice or exchange to put in...to have, hold and keep a Christian Gray...one must be his equal...even if luck blows your way and you now have and hold a Christian Gray...then to keep him is where you pay up the necessary price.

 

...I could also assume you may just want a decent happy life for your daughters...then they should hold a career that allows them earn enough to support themselves independently and maximize the opportunity to travel and meet different types of men within the career or life environment they wish to belong to....

 

...preparation for the future is only as good as one's ability to adapt to its ever changing landscape of events...and stay happy and contented...

 

peace!

 

 

 

Realistically true...

[MTC]

Games using VR headsets are more difficult to join, you have to buy a P30,000 VR Headset to connect to a moderately powerful computer. Definitely an expensive hobby compared to Playstation or PC games. Oculus Rift, Oculus Quest are nice headsets developed by Facebook. In case you're wondering... I do Virtual Fishing when I have the time. There are many puzzle games for kids... Madami-dami na din ang game selection. Many VR titles with "social" aspect, where you get to go to an adventure with other kids/players.

 

And there's also real world activities like fencing, judo, taekwondo, karate, horse back... you know, the sports where you have to spend for equipment. haha.