Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[darwin2k4]

If both are single I don't see a problem

[goldmanx29]

maybe but with boundaries? 

[Iceman7]

On 12/3/2022 at 1:21 PM, handsomebob said:

you can only control the things you can, some things are out of your reach, meaning hanggang kaya mo suportahan mo siya, if she goes back to her work -- that is on her, at least you can live with yourself you did everything you can to make it work,

all the best bro!

He deleted his post, this situation sounds familiar, I wanted to ask him how much is a paying to support the ex Thera and her siblings. I know of Theras who have many siblings so I am guessing it can get costly

Edited December 12, 2022 by Iceman7

[handsomebob]

6 hours ago, Iceman7 said:

He deleted his post, this situation sounds familiar, I wanted to ask him how much is a paying to support the ex Thera and her siblings. I know of Theras who have many siblings so I am guessing it can get costly

depende din sir sa lifestyle ni Thera, kapag maluho 50k a month will not be enough di ba 

[Auto Boy]

I am new in MTC and I am reading this thread...I am NOT yet allowed to view the list of Spa though.

It appears that a lot of GMs fall for a Thera...but bottomline, it is not advisable and should be avoided at all.  That is my inferenece, I hope I am right

Edited December 14, 2022 by Auto Boy

[markmark1981]

Im all so new 

[knightdavion]

Think pare is it worth fell for thera?

90% thera have a BF that one he love or even husband.

the question how can the bf and husband still let them work as thera?

i know that one thera of japanese spa have 2 kids and husband and still work for now.

is it impossible the husband dont know the wife work

 

just curious for men who can know that the wife work as thera and get bang of other men

[Exec]

I am writing this not to seek advice but to share to those who might still be trying to find answers.

 

She’s a veteran, disciplined, single and endowed with top tier beauty both outside and inside -  good heart, above average height, slim, very fair complexion, pretty face, etc.  My thera GF lives less than ten-minute drive from me.  Her work discipline accumulated her a few properties which she is leasing and producing just enough passive income to support her parents and brothers.

 

I am in my early 50’s,  an executive of concurrent corporations.  Hindi ako guwapo pero hindi naman pangit -  just ordinary.  I’m in good shape because my work requires me to be physically active. My married life is blessed and happy.  I was loyal to my wife for many years and am not prolific in the flesh trade.

 

When I first availed my thera GF last Apr,  the previous one was decades ago when I worked overseas.  After much thought,  I decided to let loose of my feelings and our relationship progressed in recent months.  We see each other almost daily occasionally more than once.  The decision required considerable effort to find the answers to difficult questions.   The actual task of carrying out with the relationship came with heart aches as I rewired my mindset.

 

There are very few articles about relationships with sex workers.  This thread is a treasure and I wish I’ve found it earlier. So here is my share.

 

If a GM decides to pursue this kind of relationship,  then the GM must embrace the mindset that what the thera does is just work.  It is simply society’s prejudice that labels it dirty.  Minsan marangal ang tingin natin sa mga politiko pero alam natin na karamihan sa kanila ay kawatan.  When a GM needs to release,  the thera is there to offer the service for a fee within the bounds of her rules.  Even GFE can be purchased so don’t fool yourself that it is not fakery.

To avoid grief,  both the GM and thera must carefully delineate between work and personal.  In the West/NA,  personal starts when the hooker goes for a date without a fee.

 

Most of them started at the poorest of conditions.  The home of my GF was subject to squatter demolition in the long past.  When a thera gets to a relatively comfortable level,  she can be earning much more than an average manager in a corporation.  Theras know they are earning more than some of their clients.  Do not be surprised if you find a thera not wanting to be saved.  At this point,  she would have already acquired the trait of being independent.

 

Many theras do not know much about any other work likely because of limited education and lack of training.  My GF really tried and was swindled a few times -  eSabong, pautang, etc.  She has purchased another vacant lot and aims to build apartments there.  Now going to her dawn,  she has set herself to retire in just a few years with that little project as an end goal.  She’s independent and won’t accept money from me.  She knows it is within her means to earn it with her ‘work’.

 

Many of her friends did not succeed in the profession – got hooked with the wrong guy, drugs, hosto, casino, etc.  She’s relatively well off compared to her peers mainly due to her discipline and being a hard worker.  Be that as it may,  I concluded that even the better thera does not come to that high point without being severely scarred -  as in battle scars.

 

She has developed addiction to solitude.  She has loved several times and failed.  When we talk about relationships,  she would always brag – ‘been there,  done that’.  I am the amateur in those discussions.  She has a good heart and loved faithfully in the past.  Her last break up was in 2018,  she found out that her GM BF lied of being a married.  It took severe depression and two years with most nights in tears for her to move on.    I can still see telltale signs of that past.  She still has occasional bouts of depression.  There are also signs that she is now a man hater and perhaps I am the luckiest to have penetrated her barrier of distrust.

 

Why do I do this.  I loved my wife faithfully for two decades.  I thought that love was constant,  but the reality is the feelings fade in time.  When I crossed path with my thera GF,  I ‘really felt in love’ again and,  boy,  I was missing so huge.  This is like how it truly felt in my 20’s.  Love songs which I ignored for years has now acquired new meaning for me.  The sun shines differently now and in full colors.  It is grace.  It is priceless.  The least I can do is pay it back by truly loving her.

 

She is resigned to the notion she will grow old single and alone.  I always disagree with her.  She claims she has really prayed to God for me to arrive ‘kaya lang may sabit ang dumating’ -  i.e.,  married.  She is in no illusion that she’ll still find a mature and kind hearted bachelor,  thus her ‘will grow old single and alone’ disposition.  I promised to her that that will not happen because I intend to be there for her for life.  That is, unless she finds a better man than I am -  it will hurt bad but I will let go.  For now,  we try to enjoy each other. She is toying with the notion of bearing a child a few years from now.

Edited December 18, 2022 by Exec

[knightdavion]

16 hours ago, Exec said:

I am writing this not to seek advice but to share to those who might still be trying to find answers.

 

She’s a veteran, disciplined, single and endowed with top tier beauty both outside and inside -  good heart, above average height, slim, very fair complexion, pretty face, etc.  My thera GF lives less than ten-minute drive from me.  Her work discipline accumulated her a few properties which she is leasing and producing just enough passive income to support her parents and brothers.

 

I am in my early 50’s,  an executive of concurrent corporations.  Hindi ako guwapo pero hindi naman pangit -  just ordinary.  I’m in good shape because my work requires me to be physically active. My married life is blessed and happy.  I was loyal to my wife for many years and am not prolific in the flesh trade.

 

When I first availed my thera GF last Apr,  the previous one was decades ago when I worked overseas.  After much thought,  I decided to let loose of my feelings and our relationship progressed in recent months.  We see each other almost daily occasionally more than once.  The decision required considerable effort to find the answers to difficult questions.   The actual task of carrying out with the relationship came with heart aches as I rewired my mindset.

 

There are very few articles about relationships with sex workers.  This thread is a treasure and I wish I’ve found it earlier. So here is my share.

 

If a GM decides to pursue this kind of relationship,  then the GM must embrace the mindset that what the thera does is just work.  It is simply society’s prejudice that labels it dirty.  Minsan marangal ang tingin natin sa mga politiko pero alam natin na karamihan sa kanila ay kawatan.  When a GM needs to release,  the thera is there to offer the service for a fee within the bounds of her rules.  Even GFE can be purchased so don’t fool yourself that it is not fakery.

To avoid grief,  both the GM and thera must carefully delineate between work and personal.  In the West/NA,  personal starts when the hooker goes for a date without a fee.

 

Most of them started at the poorest of conditions.  The home of my GF was subject to squatter demolition in the long past.  When a thera gets to a relatively comfortable level,  she can be earning much more than an average manager in a corporation.  Theras know they are earning more than some of their clients.  Do not be surprised if you find a thera not wanting to be saved.  At this point,  she would have already acquired the trait of being independent.

 

Many theras do not know much about any other work likely because of limited education and lack of training.  My GF really tried and was swindled a few times -  eSabong, pautang, etc.  She has purchased another vacant lot and aims to build apartments there.  Now going to her dawn,  she has set herself to retire in just a few years with that little project as an end goal.  She’s independent and won’t accept money from me.  She knows it is within her means to earn it with her ‘work’.

 

Many of her friends did not succeed in the profession – got hooked with the wrong guy, drugs, hosto, casino, etc.  She’s relatively well off compared to her peers mainly due to her discipline and being a hard worker.  Be that as it may,  I concluded that even the better thera does not come to that high point without being severely scarred -  as in battle scars.

 

She has developed addiction to solitude.  She has loved several times and failed.  When we talk about relationships,  she would always brag – ‘been there,  done that’.  I am the amateur in those discussions.  She has a good heart and loved faithfully in the past.  Her last break up was in 2018,  she found out that her GM BF lied of being a married.  It took severe depression and two years with most nights in tears for her to move on.    I can still see telltale signs of that past.  She still has occasional bouts of depression.  There are also signs that she is now a man hater and perhaps I am the luckiest to have penetrated her barrier of distrust.

 

Why do I do this.  I loved my wife faithfully for two decades.  I thought that love was constant,  but the reality is the feelings fade in time.  When I crossed path with my thera GF,  I ‘really felt in love’ again and,  boy,  I was missing so huge.  This is like how it truly felt in my 20’s.  Love songs which I ignored for years has now acquired new meaning for me.  The sun shines differently now and in full colors.  It is grace.  It is priceless.  The least I can do is pay it back by truly loving her.

 

She is resigned to the notion she will grow old single and alone.  I always disagree with her.  She claims she has really prayed to God for me to arrive ‘kaya lang may sabit ang dumating’ -  i.e.,  married.  She is in no illusion that she’ll still find a mature and kind hearted bachelor,  thus her ‘will grow old single and alone’ disposition.  I promised to her that that will not happen because I intend to be there for her for life.  That is, unless she finds a better man than I am -  it will hurt bad but I will let go.  For now,  we try to enjoy each other. She is toying with the notion of bearing a child a few years from now.

she great if she dont accept money from you. sorry no offense or insilt thera but many theras is only use this to deceiving GM

[socratesaristotle]

17 hours ago, Exec said:

I am writing this not to seek advice but to share to those who might still be trying to find answers.

 

She’s a veteran, disciplined, single and endowed with top tier beauty both outside and inside -  good heart, above average height, slim, very fair complexion, pretty face, etc.  My thera GF lives less than ten-minute drive from me.  Her work discipline accumulated her a few properties which she is leasing and producing just enough passive income to support her parents and brothers.

 

I am in my early 50’s,  an executive of concurrent corporations.  Hindi ako guwapo pero hindi naman pangit -  just ordinary.  I’m in good shape because my work requires me to be physically active. My married life is blessed and happy.  I was loyal to my wife for many years and am not prolific in the flesh trade.

 

When I first availed my thera GF last Apr,  the previous one was decades ago when I worked overseas.  After much thought,  I decided to let loose of my feelings and our relationship progressed in recent months.  We see each other almost daily occasionally more than once.  The decision required considerable effort to find the answers to difficult questions.   The actual task of carrying out with the relationship came with heart aches as I rewired my mindset.

 

There are very few articles about relationships with sex workers.  This thread is a treasure and I wish I’ve found it earlier. So here is my share.

 

If a GM decides to pursue this kind of relationship,  then the GM must embrace the mindset that what the thera does is just work.  It is simply society’s prejudice that labels it dirty.  Minsan marangal ang tingin natin sa mga politiko pero alam natin na karamihan sa kanila ay kawatan.  When a GM needs to release,  the thera is there to offer the service for a fee within the bounds of her rules.  Even GFE can be purchased so don’t fool yourself that it is not fakery.

To avoid grief,  both the GM and thera must carefully delineate between work and personal.  In the West/NA,  personal starts when the hooker goes for a date without a fee.

 

Most of them started at the poorest of conditions.  The home of my GF was subject to squatter demolition in the long past.  When a thera gets to a relatively comfortable level,  she can be earning much more than an average manager in a corporation.  Theras know they are earning more than some of their clients.  Do not be surprised if you find a thera not wanting to be saved.  At this point,  she would have already acquired the trait of being independent.

 

Many theras do not know much about any other work likely because of limited education and lack of training.  My GF really tried and was swindled a few times -  eSabong, pautang, etc.  She has purchased another vacant lot and aims to build apartments there.  Now going to her dawn,  she has set herself to retire in just a few years with that little project as an end goal.  She’s independent and won’t accept money from me.  She knows it is within her means to earn it with her ‘work’.

 

Many of her friends did not succeed in the profession – got hooked with the wrong guy, drugs, hosto, casino, etc.  She’s relatively well off compared to her peers mainly due to her discipline and being a hard worker.  Be that as it may,  I concluded that even the better thera does not come to that high point without being severely scarred -  as in battle scars.

 

She has developed addiction to solitude.  She has loved several times and failed.  When we talk about relationships,  she would always brag – ‘been there,  done that’.  I am the amateur in those discussions.  She has a good heart and loved faithfully in the past.  Her last break up was in 2018,  she found out that her GM BF lied of being a married.  It took severe depression and two years with most nights in tears for her to move on.    I can still see telltale signs of that past.  She still has occasional bouts of depression.  There are also signs that she is now a man hater and perhaps I am the luckiest to have penetrated her barrier of distrust.

 

Why do I do this.  I loved my wife faithfully for two decades.  I thought that love was constant,  but the reality is the feelings fade in time.  When I crossed path with my thera GF,  I ‘really felt in love’ again and,  boy,  I was missing so huge.  This is like how it truly felt in my 20’s.  Love songs which I ignored for years has now acquired new meaning for me.  The sun shines differently now and in full colors.  It is grace.  It is priceless.  The least I can do is pay it back by truly loving her.

 

She is resigned to the notion she will grow old single and alone.  I always disagree with her.  She claims she has really prayed to God for me to arrive ‘kaya lang may sabit ang dumating’ -  i.e.,  married.  She is in no illusion that she’ll still find a mature and kind hearted bachelor,  thus her ‘will grow old single and alone’ disposition.  I promised to her that that will not happen because I intend to be there for her for life.  That is, unless she finds a better man than I am -  it will hurt bad but I will let go.  For now,  we try to enjoy each other. She is toying with the notion of bearing a child a few years from now.

I feel what you feel, having had to through the same thing a couple years ago but with a few twists. I would just say that the ending might not be as happy as you hope for. It's difficult to maintain a married life(even if for the sake of it) and have a gf on the side. If there are kids involved, then it's just a deep hole that you will dig for yourself. You can pull it off for a few years but it may not last and when the end is in sight, you need to choose and it won't be easy!!!

My apologies if I am off track but your words felt familiar!!!  All things said and done, I'll raise a toast to you and hope you get the happy life you wish for!!! If there is something all of us on this forum deserve, it's happiness and someone to share it with!! Theras and patrons alike!!!

[Noname01]

😪

[burnout31]

22 hours ago, Exec said:

I am writing this not to seek advice but to share to those who might still be trying to find answers.

 

She’s a veteran, disciplined, single and endowed with top tier beauty both outside and inside -  good heart, above average height, slim, very fair complexion, pretty face, etc.  My thera GF lives less than ten-minute drive from me.  Her work discipline accumulated her a few properties which she is leasing and producing just enough passive income to support her parents and brothers.

 

I am in my early 50’s,  an executive of concurrent corporations.  Hindi ako guwapo pero hindi naman pangit -  just ordinary.  I’m in good shape because my work requires me to be physically active. My married life is blessed and happy.  I was loyal to my wife for many years and am not prolific in the flesh trade.

 

When I first availed my thera GF last Apr,  the previous one was decades ago when I worked overseas.  After much thought,  I decided to let loose of my feelings and our relationship progressed in recent months.  We see each other almost daily occasionally more than once.  The decision required considerable effort to find the answers to difficult questions.   The actual task of carrying out with the relationship came with heart aches as I rewired my mindset.

 

There are very few articles about relationships with sex workers.  This thread is a treasure and I wish I’ve found it earlier. So here is my share.

 

If a GM decides to pursue this kind of relationship,  then the GM must embrace the mindset that what the thera does is just work.  It is simply society’s prejudice that labels it dirty.  Minsan marangal ang tingin natin sa mga politiko pero alam natin na karamihan sa kanila ay kawatan.  When a GM needs to release,  the thera is there to offer the service for a fee within the bounds of her rules.  Even GFE can be purchased so don’t fool yourself that it is not fakery.

To avoid grief,  both the GM and thera must carefully delineate between work and personal.  In the West/NA,  personal starts when the hooker goes for a date without a fee.

 

Most of them started at the poorest of conditions.  The home of my GF was subject to squatter demolition in the long past.  When a thera gets to a relatively comfortable level,  she can be earning much more than an average manager in a corporation.  Theras know they are earning more than some of their clients.  Do not be surprised if you find a thera not wanting to be saved.  At this point,  she would have already acquired the trait of being independent.

 

Many theras do not know much about any other work likely because of limited education and lack of training.  My GF really tried and was swindled a few times -  eSabong, pautang, etc.  She has purchased another vacant lot and aims to build apartments there.  Now going to her dawn,  she has set herself to retire in just a few years with that little project as an end goal.  She’s independent and won’t accept money from me.  She knows it is within her means to earn it with her ‘work’.

 

Many of her friends did not succeed in the profession – got hooked with the wrong guy, drugs, hosto, casino, etc.  She’s relatively well off compared to her peers mainly due to her discipline and being a hard worker.  Be that as it may,  I concluded that even the better thera does not come to that high point without being severely scarred -  as in battle scars.

 

She has developed addiction to solitude.  She has loved several times and failed.  When we talk about relationships,  she would always brag – ‘been there,  done that’.  I am the amateur in those discussions.  She has a good heart and loved faithfully in the past.  Her last break up was in 2018,  she found out that her GM BF lied of being a married.  It took severe depression and two years with most nights in tears for her to move on.    I can still see telltale signs of that past.  She still has occasional bouts of depression.  There are also signs that she is now a man hater and perhaps I am the luckiest to have penetrated her barrier of distrust.

 

Why do I do this.  I loved my wife faithfully for two decades.  I thought that love was constant,  but the reality is the feelings fade in time.  When I crossed path with my thera GF,  I ‘really felt in love’ again and,  boy,  I was missing so huge.  This is like how it truly felt in my 20’s.  Love songs which I ignored for years has now acquired new meaning for me.  The sun shines differently now and in full colors.  It is grace.  It is priceless.  The least I can do is pay it back by truly loving her.

 

She is resigned to the notion she will grow old single and alone.  I always disagree with her.  She claims she has really prayed to God for me to arrive ‘kaya lang may sabit ang dumating’ -  i.e.,  married.  She is in no illusion that she’ll still find a mature and kind hearted bachelor,  thus her ‘will grow old single and alone’ disposition.  I promised to her that that will not happen because I intend to be there for her for life.  That is, unless she finds a better man than I am -  it will hurt bad but I will let go.  For now,  we try to enjoy each other. She is toying with the notion of bearing a child a few years from now.

Sir, thank you for sharing your story. It was a nice read and the fact that I could relate to it.. 

[Curiouschil1]

awww

[niksonne]

On 3/5/2022 at 12:34 AM, KID FIGHTER said:

My best friend (as in super best friend - we were classmates and roomates in college and also later on classmates again in California) is a lawyer who owns a hospital in Davao. Half Chinese too. Coincidentally both of us got married to Chinese doctors (pedia sa kanya; endo & gastro sakin). Una silang nag separate. After 2 years ako naman. Two years ago, pinakilala nya sakin yung pretty girl. Former thera! Smart girl. Parang si Yassi or Ara of TV Spa mag isip. Last year nagka baby sila nung thera. Syempre, I went to Davao para mag ninong sa binyag. Pina aral niya si thera ngayon ng business management. They seem to be happier!☺👍 Lawyer (owner of a hospital) now living happily with a former thera. That's my number 1 best friend. Will I fall for a thera just like my best friend? Or should I go back to my pretty ex-wifey who is also a doctor? Di ko alam eh.

 

I think it might work, but it will be more complicated than before...

[helpterms]

sa mga nagsabi na wag ma fall sa thera di nyo masasabi malay nyo kayo ang ma love at first sight hehe