Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[vane]

sir it's a decision that will take a lot of time. i'm not saying ur girl ain't worth it, but trading your family up will require a lot of thinking, whether an ordinary girl or an MPA. choose wisely

 

 

thanks bro... that is basically the reason why i am still with my family. i know how hurt they are everytime i go out and they know where i am. but what the heck...

 

very often, i even get to neglect my job as my thoughts keep wandering to where my girl is... i am actually very jealous of the bf... that if i am not with her, i feel she is with him and that thought pisses me off. end result: wala na ako nagagawang mabuti sa work ko... di rin ako umuuwi ng tama sa oras... almost all my prime time is spent with her in her place of work...hayyyyy

 

fact of the matter bro is, i am still going home to my family... kahit gaano kaiksi na yung time na ilalagi ko with them. i go home minsan 5:30 ng umaga at papasok ako ng 8:00 ng umaga ding yun...ganyan ka-complicated ang buhay ko right now and i feel like a leaf in the river just going to where the waters lead me unable to paddle to where i should be... madali lang din naman sanang magsagwan kaso, ayoko...

[truellusion]

bro truellusion,

 

at least naman ikaw di pa kasal. walang mga anak. pero tama ka. pag kasama ko si girl, ang saya ng feeling. ibang level ang emotional fulfillment. ewan ko ba? gago na nga kung gago pero pag kasama ko asawa ko, ang gaspang na ng trato ko sa kanya kahit alam ko sa sarili ko na mahal ko pa rin naman siya. andali nya ako mainis. sobra. minsan nasasabihan ko pa sya ng "umalis ka sa harapan ko" pag sinasabihan ako na ilabas ko naman mga anakko. ewan ko ba? alam ko namang mali. meron ngang bf tong si girl e. (pero sabi nya mas mahal nya ako kesa dun). kaya lang di nya maiwan kasi yun din daw ang pangarap nya sa buhay. magkaroon ng sariling pamilya na kanya lang. sabi ko nga handa akong iwan pamilya ko para sa kanya eh. hayyyy. minsan lang di ko maiwasan at maiwaglit sa aking isipan: pag kaya nagsasama na kami at naiwan ko sya mag isa sa aming bahay, di kaya sya maghanap ng iba, o di kaya makipagkita sa bf nya?

may sabit ka sir may sabit din yung girl mo...mahirap yan. sakin kasi sabi ko kapag nalaman kong may iba siyang bf break na kami. pero di niya alam na may gf akong matagal na, kasi up to now di ko alam kung kaya ko bang isuko ang dati kong mahal para sa bagong pagibig na baka bandang huli ay wala rin lang mangyari... dahil in the end iiwan nya rin ako at magjajapan... kaya nga sabi ko para akong sumusugal sa wala. in the end talo parin.

 

sir wag mong awayin ang esmi mo wala naman siyang kasalanan. sakin sa totoo lang nung naging dalawa sila sa buhay ko lalo ako naging mabait sa original gf ko. kasi sabi ko wala naman siyang kasalanan, ako ang may mali bat ko siya aawayin? siguro ang pagbabago sakin di nako mahilig mag make love with her at di nako ganon ka sweet at di narin mahilig mag kiss. pero yung kindness ko sa kanya lumaki coz she doesn't deserve to be treated bad.

 

kung nambababae ka wag mo aawayin asawa mo, wala siyang mali you're to blame. kung magalit siya sayo may karapatan siya, may kasalanan ka eh. may damdamin siya kaya nagagalit, may damdamin karin kaya ka nahuhulog sa ibang babae. intindihin mo siya para maintindihan karin niya. parehas kayong nasasaktan kapag may third party... pero kayo sir apat ang party nyo, hehe meron bf ang girl mo... and yung girl mo she did not make you a better man, but a worst person. based sa last post mo napapabayaan mo pa work mo at family mo.

 

kung hahanap ka ng new love make sure he/she will make you a better person. kaya nga i admire yung story ni tigalupa, though di naging sila in the end (SHE) the girl made him a better man kahit hindi niya sinasadya. kasi lalong naging matured si tigalupa lalo niya naintindihan yung tinatawag na unconditional love dahil sa girl na yun... at natutunan niya irespect yung mga babaeng nagwowork ng ganito...

 

kaya timbangin mo sir kung mabuti ba naidulot sayo nung girl...

[mwah]

Lurk mode here but can't help but react to this one...

 

bro truellusion,

 

at least naman ikaw di pa kasal. walang mga anak. pero tama ka. pag kasama ko si girl, ang saya ng feeling. ibang level ang emotional fulfillment. ewan ko ba? gago na nga kung gago pero pag kasama ko asawa ko, ang gaspang na ng trato ko sa kanya kahit alam ko sa sarili ko na mahal ko pa rin naman siya. andali nya ako mainis. sobra. minsan nasasabihan ko pa sya ng "umalis ka sa harapan ko" pag sinasabihan ako na ilabas ko naman mga anakko. ewan ko ba? alam ko namang mali. meron ngang bf tong si girl e. (pero sabi nya mas mahal nya ako kesa dun). kaya lang di nya maiwan kasi yun din daw ang pangarap nya sa buhay. magkaroon ng sariling pamilya na kanya lang. sabi ko nga handa akong iwan pamilya ko para sa kanya eh. hayyyy. minsan lang di ko maiwasan at maiwaglit sa aking isipan: pag kaya nagsasama na kami at naiwan ko sya mag isa sa aming bahay, di kaya sya maghanap ng iba, o di kaya makipagkita sa bf nya?

 

Dude, she's aware that you're willing to leave your legal wife and kid for her how can she be assured that you won't leave her for some sexier and prettier girl? And you're expecting her to stay loyal and exclusive to you? I don't think the expectations are fair.

 

 

thanks bro... that is basically the reason why i am still with my family. i know how hurt they are everytime i go out and they know where i am. but what the heck...

 

very often, i even get to neglect my job as my thoughts keep wandering to where my girl is... i am actually very jealous of the bf... that if i am not with her, i feel she is with him and that thought pisses me off. end result: wala na ako nagagawang mabuti sa work ko... di rin ako umuuwi ng tama sa oras... almost all my prime time is spent with her in her place of work...hayyyyy

 

fact of the matter bro is, i am still going home to my family... kahit gaano kaiksi na yung time na ilalagi ko with them. i go home minsan 5:30 ng umaga at papasok ako ng 8:00 ng umaga ding yun...ganyan ka-complicated ang buhay ko right now and i feel like a leaf in the river just going to where the waters lead me unable to paddle to where i should be... madali lang din naman sanang magsagwan kaso, ayoko...

 

You're in deep s@%t dude. Go and get out some fresh air while you still can. It is never wrong to love another person but the mere fact that it affects your work and impairs your functions means that your affection and infatuation is starting to turn into some sort of obsession. Take a breathe of fresh air before it consumes you and think about what really matters in your life. Just my two cents' worth. Good luck.

[vane]

Lurk mode here but can't help but react to this one...

 

 

 

Dude, she's aware that you're willing to leave your legal wife and kid for her how can she be assured that you won't leave her for some sexier and prettier girl? And you're expecting her to stay loyal and exclusive to you? I don't think the expectations are fair.

 

 

 

 

You're in deep s@%t dude. Go and get out some fresh air while you still can. It is never wrong to love another person but the mere fact that it affects your work and impairs your functions means that your affection and infatuation is starting to turn into some sort of obsession. Take a breathe of fresh air before it consumes you and think about what really matters in your life. Just my two cents' worth. Good luck.

 

 

i know what you mean but what the heck... i really love her. yung mga consequences saka ko na iisipin pagdumating na sila... sya na nga lang talaga laman ng utak ko eh... i dont know but i guess this is how it really is when you are in love... no ifs no buts... i know my family will be okay pag nawala ako sa kanila... di ko rin naman alam kung yun din talaga gusto ko in my lifetime. pero at this point, andito ako sa situation na to at di ko gusto umalis dito... inis na nga ako pag need naming maghiwalay at need na nya pumasok at ako din need ko na pumasok... di bale na muna pamilya ko... andyan lang naman sila...pero aray ko pa rin naman...huh

[truellusion]

i know what you mean but what the heck... i really love her. yung mga consequences saka ko na iisipin pagdumating na sila... sya na nga lang talaga laman ng utak ko eh... i dont know but i guess this is how it really is when you are in love... no ifs no buts... i know my family will be okay pag nawala ako sa kanila... di ko rin naman alam kung yun din talaga gusto ko in my lifetime. pero at this point, andito ako sa situation na to at di ko gusto umalis dito... inis na nga ako pag need naming maghiwalay at need na nya pumasok at ako din need ko na pumasok... di bale na muna pamilya ko... andyan lang naman sila...pero aray ko pa rin naman...huh

kung nambababae ka wag mo aawayin asawa mo, wala siyang mali you're to blame. kung magalit siya sayo may karapatan siya, may kasalanan ka eh. may damdamin siya kaya nagagalit, may damdamin karin kaya ka nahuhulog sa ibang babae. intindihin mo siya para maintindihan karin niya. parehas kayong nasasaktan kapag may third party... pero kayo sir apat ang party nyo, hehe meron bf ang girl mo... and yung girl mo she did not make you a better man, but a worst person. based sa last post mo napapabayaan mo pa work mo at family mo.

 

kung hahanap ka ng new love make sure he/she will make you a better person. kaya nga i admire yung story ni tigalupa, though di naging sila in the end (SHE) the girl made him a better man kahit hindi niya sinasadya. kasi lalong naging matured si tigalupa lalo niya naintindihan yung tinatawag na unconditional love dahil sa girl na yun... at natutunan niya irespect yung mga babaeng nagwowork ng ganito...

 

kaya timbangin mo sir kung mabuti ba naidulot sayo nung girl...

 

sayo kasi sir iba yung epekto nung girl mo... nagiging immature ka. unlike us ni tigalupa naging matured kami nung nakilala namin yung girl namin. sorry di ko lang ma take yang sinasabi mo, napakababaw...

[jetpilot_88]

i know what you mean but what the heck... i really love her. yung mga consequences saka ko na iisipin pagdumating na sila... sya na nga lang talaga laman ng utak ko eh... i dont know but i guess this is how it really is when you are in love... no ifs no buts... i know my family will be okay pag nawala ako sa kanila... di ko rin naman alam kung yun din talaga gusto ko in my lifetime. pero at this point, andito ako sa situation na to at di ko gusto umalis dito... inis na nga ako pag need naming maghiwalay at need na nya pumasok at ako din need ko na pumasok... di bale na muna pamilya ko... andyan lang naman sila...pero aray ko pa rin naman...huh

 

 

i suggest you take a breather... mukhang overwhelmed ka pa with emotions and it may impair good judgment.

[tagalupa]

actually parang ganito rin ako eh.. pero hindi ko malaman kung alin ang mas complikado kung sayo or mine. ganito ang storya: dear ate charo,

 

may gf ako and we're planning to get married na since matagal narin kami (5 years)... tapos dumating bigla to si GRO sa buhay ko, i mean sobrang tinamaan talaga ako, ewan ko ba...

 

Dec ko siya nakilala at nagkamabutihan kami. this GRO is just for table lang walang vip sa club na yun. so makaka-kwentuhan mo lang siya at KTV kantahan. never had her body, and i never thought of asking that coz i respect her. and virgin pa daw siya and i believe that kasi 1 month palang siya dito sa manila and bata pa siya kaka-18 palang galing province and nakikipagsapalaran para kumita dito sa manila (if you're thinking bat pumayag parents niya, she's from a broken family and wala siya bf kasi nagbreak sila nakabuntis ng iba kasi nga ayaw niya ibigay sarili niya...). first time nga raw tinable siya nanginginig siya tapos manyak pa daw nagtable sa kanya kaya pinag-waitress nalang siya. uuwi na raw dapat siya sa province after 1 week lang sa club buti nalang nagkakilala kami after that and she felt comfortable with a gentleman like me. hahayz.

 

umuwi siya nung december sa province sa family nya pero she promise na babalik daw siya. i even ask her sa text not to come back kasi mas gusto kong mas safe siya there sa family niya, saka matitigil na ang kabaliwan ko pero as she promised bumalik siya ng january at naging kami. so baliw talaga ako at namangka sa dalawang ilog (gago na kung gago) di ko alam kung bakit ganon. maganda gf ko, matalino, mabait, may career, may plano na kami sa buhay, kumbaga planado na lahat masaya nako at biglang kumatok to si GRO sa puso ko. kaya dito ko napatunayan na mahirap diktahan ang puso...

 

everytime lumalabas kami ni girl iba yung feeling. yung naramdaman ko dati sa gf ko nararamdaman ko ngayon sa kanya, at parang higit pa yung emotions eh. one time naging demanding ako and i ask "kung hihilingin ko bang maghanap ka ng ibang work gagawin mo?". eh si girl matigas, sabi hindi, kasi yun daw ang gusto ng mama niya makapag japan siya. naasar ako kasi priority niya yun kesa sakin. pero naisip ko di ko naman siya dapat kontrolin kahit kami na, siempre may gusto siyang maabot di ko naman kayang ibigay ang financial freedom niya kaya di ako dapat humadlang. kasi mga tita niya ganon rin nagjapan at parang yun rin ang gusto ng mama niya for her (baka nga gusto makapagasawa ng hapon). sabi niya sakin gusto niya parin makatuluyan pinoy at sana ako na nga raw ang last guy sa buhay niya...

 

she said she love me "kaluguran daka" (kapampangan siya eh) pero di ko alam kung hanggang saan at di niya mabitawan ang career na pinasok niya. ayoko lang mangyari sa kanya yung sinasabi ni tigalupa na lamunin ng sistemang ginagalawan niya. since bata pa siya at inexperience di niya pa nakikita yung worst part ng pinasok niya. one time nagsumbong sakin hinawakan daw yung breast niya ng guest na attorney (friend ng boss pa, taenang attorney yan!) wala daw siya nagawa umiyak nalang sa cr. habang tumatagal lalo ako nagiging concern sa safety niya, gusto ko habang maaga isalba na siya pero wala akong magawa di ko kaya...

 

so ang tanong ko rin is, is it worth it na ihulog ko ng lubusan ang loob ko sa kanya or should i stay with my gf and close my heart nalang? my gf is so nice to me naiisip ko wala siyang kasalanan bat ko ginagawa to saka mahal ko parin siya, pero ang puso ko naman everytime we're together ni girl iba ang nadarama.

 

PS. palit picture na at baka may makatunog sakin. hahayzz. :hypocritesmiley:

 

 

Halos pareho tayo ng situation saer, may gf din ako nun and wala ako masama kaya sabihin sa knya lahat binigay and pinakita nya saken pero ang prob lang nde na ako msaya sa relasyon namen..Then dumating si GRO and KAPAMPANGAN din cia kaya naalala ko un sinabi mo KALUGARAN DAKA hehe..Dumating un point na pumili ako kung sino ba tlga ang gusto ko at magiging masaya ako na wala masyado masasaktan..Pinili ko si GRO kesa sa gf ko may career and legit ang work..Pero katulad ng nangyari sa iba sobra hirap un situation namen kaya wala happy ending samen nagbreak din kami..

 

Wala ako pinagsisihan sa mga naging desicion ko nun..Naging masaya ako ke GRO kahit nasaktan ako and nagkahiwalay din kami..Pag isipan mo mabuti saer, wag lang puro puso at emosyon ang pairalin mo samahan mo ng matindi pag iisip..Alam ko mahirap dahil parang pareho mo sila mahal or mas mahal mo si GRO..mahirap na puro tapang lang dapat may strategy kc baka sa huli kaw ang maging kwawa at nawala sila dalawa sayo. Kung ano man yun magiging desisyon mo at sigurado may masasaktan sana pangmatagalan..Msaya ka ngaun pero hanggang kailan ka magging masaya..Remember saer nde legit ang work nya..Yun mga pinagdadaanan mo ngaun mababaw pa yan kc bata pa si GRO..Madami pa pede mangyari..Maswerte ka nga kaw un una nya nakilala sa ganyan work...Im sure saer nde ka makakalimutan nun..

 

Sa tanong mo saer..Ibibigay ko sayo un desisyon..Hindi ko sasabihin kung ke gf ka or ke girl..Kaw ang pumili pero eto tandaan mo saer..Piliin mo un tao magpapasaya sayo ng pangmatagalan at wag puro puso lang saer..MAtindi pagiisip din ang kailangan..Goodluck saer.

[truellusion]

Sa tanong mo saer..Ibibigay ko sayo un desisyon..Hindi ko sasabihin kung ke gf ka or ke girl..Kaw ang pumili pero eto tandaan mo saer..Piliin mo un tao magpapasaya sayo ng pangmatagalan at wag puro puso lang saer..MAtindi pagiisip din ang kailangan..Goodluck saer.

 

thank bro nakuha ko na ang sagot... since ayaw ni girl leave yung work niya di ako magiging masaya sa kanya ng mahabang panahon. i even suggest since 18 palang siya bata pa na magwork sa mall as saleslady nalang or crew, or apply sa callcenter kasi naka 1 sem naman siya sa college sa province then magaral ulit. kaso need nya raw sundin gusto ng mama niya... so di nya pa ako ganon kamahal para i prioritize against her work.

 

tulad ng sabi mo piliin ko yung taong magpapasaya sakin ng pangmatagalan... i think i'm not being selfish if i ask for my happiness and magbebenefit din naman siya kung gagawin nya yung gusto ko, di siya madudungisan ng sistemang ito... but my happiness cannot be complete without her, but maybe its just what i thought and maybe i can really be happy with my original GF. who knows... after all we are always on pursuit of happiness. Time to put myself on the right track... thanks bro.

[sphynx]

let me just share my experience

 

i fell in love with a club girl in Q. Ave

im a newbie when it comes to clubbing...what more,

im easily attracted to the opposite sex, lalo n pag malambing

so got this girl, ipapangalan k nlng xa sa name na "angel"

 

madalas ko xang kunin s club na yun whenever the chance given

we always text and i always call her..i thought she was just a club girl na pwde kong ktxt

pero there was a time when she was showing some "more than friends" feeling

 

e ako, mabilis kumagat..ang tanga k nmn at tlgng kumagat ako..

i fell in love with this girl, not knowing the consequences na pwde kong mharap

then this one night dayoff nila, she asked me to go to XXX(DI KO NA MEMENTION UN PLACE KASI MAY MGA PAKILAMERO,SIPSIP DITO NA PWEDENG MAKAHALATA,SORRY GUYS, MAY NAGSUMBONG NA KASI EH..GANYAN CYA DUMISKARTE SA GIRLS,ITS BETTER TO SAFE)

 

bsta inuman din xa around timog, i was excited to see her

kya nagmadali akong pumunta, pag punta ko dun, we spend a little time chatting

when she said "ayokong magalit ka peromay guest akong darating"

damn..para akong sinampal nun..i was so hurt, di ko alam gagawin ko so i just walked out

 

im not implying na lahat ng club girls ganon,in fact some of them totoo mag mahal

kaso nga lang, bilang na sa mga daliri natin kung iilan sila

 

almost 3 months na un incident, pero di pa din ako maka move on

[sphynx]

let me just share my experience

 

i fell in love with a club girl in Q. Ave

im a newbie when it comes to clubbing...what more,

im easily attracted to the opposite sex, lalo n pag malambing

so got this girl, ipapangalan k nlng xa sa name na "angel"

 

madalas ko xang kunin s club na yun whenever the chance given

we always text and i always call her..i thought she was just a club girl na pwde kong ktxt

pero there was a time when she was showing some "more than friends" feeling

 

e ako, mabilis kumagat..ang tanga k nmn at tlgng kumagat ako..

i fell in love with this girl, not knowing the consequences na pwde kong mharap

then this one night dayoff nila, she asked me to go to XXX(DI KO NA MEMENTION UN PLACE KASI MAY MGA PAKILAMERO,SIPSIP DITO NA PWEDENG MAKAHALATA,SORRY GUYS, MAY NAGSUMBONG NA KASI EH..GANYAN CYA DUMISKARTE SA GIRLS,ITS BETTER TO SAFE)

 

bsta inuman din xa around timog, i was excited to see her

kya nagmadali akong pumunta, pag punta ko dun, we spend a little time chatting

when she said "ayokong magalit ka peromay guest akong darating"

damn..para akong sinampal nun..i was so hurt, di ko alam gagawin ko so i just walked out

 

im not implying na lahat ng club girls ganon,in fact some of them totoo mag mahal

kaso nga lang, bilang na sa mga daliri natin kung iilan sila

 

almost 3 months na un incident, pero di pa din ako maka move on

 

sorry with the typo

[Islander2007]

bro truellusion,

 

at least naman ikaw di pa kasal. walang mga anak. pero tama ka. pag kasama ko si girl, ang saya ng feeling. ibang level ang emotional fulfillment. ewan ko ba? gago na nga kung gago pero pag kasama ko asawa ko, ang gaspang na ng trato ko sa kanya kahit alam ko sa sarili ko na mahal ko pa rin naman siya. andali nya ako mainis. sobra. minsan nasasabihan ko pa sya ng "umalis ka sa harapan ko" pag sinasabihan ako na ilabas ko naman mga anakko. ewan ko ba? alam ko namang mali. meron ngang bf tong si girl e. (pero sabi nya mas mahal nya ako kesa dun). kaya lang di nya maiwan kasi yun din daw ang pangarap nya sa buhay. magkaroon ng sariling pamilya na kanya lang. sabi ko nga handa akong iwan pamilya ko para sa kanya eh. hayyyy. minsan lang di ko maiwasan at maiwaglit sa aking isipan: pag kaya nagsasama na kami at naiwan ko sya mag isa sa aming bahay, di kaya sya maghanap ng iba, o di kaya makipagkita sa bf nya?

 

Bro., your situation sounds very very familiar which happened to my friend, and after giving up his family, he discovered that the bitch was cheating on him. The botch kept his boyfriend and had another guy which she maintained a relationship. Ingat lang bro. Mahirap magsisis sa huli.

[tagalupa]

 

thank bro nakuha ko na ang sagot... since ayaw ni girl leave yung work niya di ako magiging masaya sa kanya ng mahabang panahon. i even suggest since 18 palang siya bata pa na magwork sa mall as saleslady nalang or crew, or apply sa callcenter kasi naka 1 sem naman siya sa college sa province then magaral ulit. kaso need nya raw sundin gusto ng mama niya... so di nya pa ako ganon kamahal para i prioritize against her work.

 

tulad ng sabi mo piliin ko yung taong magpapasaya sakin ng pangmatagalan... i think i'm not being selfish if i ask for my happiness and magbebenefit din naman siya kung gagawin nya yung gusto ko, di siya madudungisan ng sistemang ito... but my happiness cannot be complete without her, but maybe its just what i thought and maybe i can really be happy with my original GF. who knows... after all we are always on pursuit of happiness. Time to put myself on the right track... thanks bro.

 

 

Good nalaman mo agad un sagot sa tanong mo..About kay GRO tulungan mo parin cia i mean emotional support bata pa cia and mdami cia pede maincounter na guest..Hindi mo man cia kaya tulungan financially atleast nanjan ka para sa kanya as KAIBIGAN.. Wag ka maawa sa kanila siguro intindihin mo na lang cia kung ganun un gusto nya..Mahirap din kasi umepal pag family prob na..Mahirap man tanggapin kung bakit sila napupunta sa ganun lugar eh intindihin na lang natin..Let just hope di cia makain ng sistema or lugar na ginagalawan nya..

 

Goodluck sa nyo ng gf mo saer and wag mo na lang cia pakawalan..

[beloved]

nobody said goodbyes were easy...

 

it takes a lot of courage to advance to the first step in doing what you have to do if you must or should...

 

BUT,

 

how fleeting can your happiness be knowing that souls are agrieved because of you?

 

just my two cents...

[truellusion]

Good nalaman mo agad un sagot sa tanong mo..About kay GRO tulungan mo parin cia i mean emotional support bata pa cia and mdami cia pede maincounter na guest..Hindi mo man cia kaya tulungan financially atleast nanjan ka para sa kanya as KAIBIGAN.. Wag ka maawa sa kanila siguro intindihin mo na lang cia kung ganun un gusto nya..Mahirap din kasi umepal pag family prob na..Mahirap man tanggapin kung bakit sila napupunta sa ganun lugar eh intindihin na lang natin..Let just hope di cia makain ng sistema or lugar na ginagalawan nya..

 

Goodluck sa nyo ng gf mo saer and wag mo na lang cia pakawalan..

thanks bro you serve as my guide here... siguro nga KAIBIGAN nalang maibibigay ko kay girl and di ako titigil mahalin siya or help her emotionally when she need me. di lang naman ako naawa sa kanya, minamahal ko rin talaga siya pero sabi ko nga this is the place where LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. cheers! happiness is a journey not a destination, and i'll try to make this trip worthwhile for the 3 of us. me my gf and the one who stole my heart... :heart:

[MidKnight_Tranz]

Yep saer..Hanggang dun na lang talaga kami..Wala rin naman ako plan na balikan cia kc baka mas masakit and may mga masaktan iba..I know masaya na cia ngaun sa buhay nya..Too bad lang nde kami naging magkaibigan..After ng break up namen binisita ko cia, i texted her na baka pede ko cia makausap kahit sandali gusto ko na rin magpaalam sa knya baka last time ko na makikita cia.. Pumunta cia sa table ko pero ramdam ko galit pa rin cia saken and sabi nya wala ako maririnig sa knya or sagot sa mga tanong ko..Sabi ko na lang sa kanya " I still love you, namiss kita oras at araw ng kahapon nde ko alam kung hanggang kailan ko to mararamdaman,wag ka magalala nde ako makikipagbalikan sana lang dumating pa rin yun time na magkakaayos tau as friends man lang..Thanks sa lahat ng pinakita mo and for being true saken..Pinakilala mo kung cno ka na nde mo pinakita sa iba..Thanks sa lahat, u will always be remember and sana nde mo rin ako nakalimutan..Sana makita mo un right guy na mamahalin mo at mamahalin ka higit pa sa ginawa ko..Sana maging masaya ka and ingatan mo lagi sarili mo..U deserve to be happy, u deserve to be love.. I LOVE YOU...GOODBYE...

 

Umalis ako ng club na wala ako narinig sa knya pero ok lang un atleast nasabi ko lahat lahat sa kanya..

 

Bro kung ano man un pinagdadaanan nyo ng girl mo ngaun sana malampasan nyo...Bihira un nagpopost d2 ng may HAPPY ENDING and sana makita namen sa nyo un..Im wishing u all the best and love saer..Let's hope all will ends well and bro ano man mangyari magkaron ka sana ng lakas ng loob tanggapin lahat dahil para din sayo un..Ingat and goodluck..

 

 

Thanks for the well wishes sir tagalupa...

 

We had a talk and we both agreed that we needed some time off. Her clothes are still at home but she's staying with her cousin for the time being. I know what I'd like but I'd also respect her decision. As of the moment I try to manage my expectations to minimize the impact of an adverse decision. Its just hard knowing that when i go home she won't be there.

Edited February 2, 2009 by MidKnight_Tranz

[aniloz]

After reading some FR's here isa lang nasa isip ko... try to listen to SARANGOLA SA ULAN ni ka garry granada.

[beloved]

Saranggola Sa Ulan

Titik at Musika ni Gary Granada

 

 

Naririnig ko pa ang tawa't hagikgik

Ng una kong sinta at kalarong paslit

At ang sabi ng matatanda

Siya ay maalwan, ako'y dukha

Di raw kami bagay at kayraming dahilan

Ngunit si Bakekay ay walang pakialam

Sa aming kamusmusan kayraming palaisipan

Ngunit tatlong bagay ang aking natutunan

 

Ang pag-asa'y walang hanggan

Pag-ibig ay walang hadlang

At lilipad ang saranggola sa ulan.

 

At kung ang pagsinta ay di man nagtagal

Ang mas mahalaga natutong magmahal

Umibig na walang panghihinayang

Kahit malamang na masaktan

 

Kanina lang, sa aking tabi'y may aleng lumiko

At sa pagmamadali, nasagi ang aking puso

Eto na naman ako sa aking kabaliwan

Na sinasabi nga nilang suntok sa buwan

Ngunit hindi hihindian ng tulad kong natuto nang

Magpalipad ng saranggola sa ulan

 

Gaya ng lagi't laging sinasabi ko

O siya nawa ay siya na nga ang totoo.

 

Eto na naman ako sa aking kabaliwan

Na sinasabi nga nilang suntok sa buwan

Ngunit hindi hihindian

Ng tulad kong natuto nang

Magpalipad ng saranggola sa ulan

 

Heto ako, tumatandang

Nakahandang panindigang

Ang bato sa tubig ay lulutang

At lilipad ang saranggola sa ulan

 

 

 

????

[beloved]

vane,

 

for the many reasons we fall in love, i say nay, for what is love anyway?

 

seems to me you have lost your sense of orientation... if you profess that you so love your girl, why can you not leave your family at once to spare your wife and children further hurt? what is taking you so long to act? you impress me so if only for the thought that you are ready to go against the world to show your lady love how obsessed you are with her. unfortunately, you also impress me as an extreme egoist.

[vane]

"Eto na naman ako sa aking kabaliwan

Na sinasabi nga nilang suntok sa buwan

Ngunit hindi hihindian

Ng tulad kong natuto nang

Magpalipad ng saranggola sa ulan

 

Heto ako, tumatandang

Nakahandang panindigang

Ang bato sa tubig ay lulutang

At lilipad ang saranggola sa ulan "

 

 

mukhang the song was especially composed for me ah! hehehhe

 

hayyy suntok sa buwan at kahit kelan mukhang impossible ang umasang minsa'y magiging panatag ang lahat....

[vane]

vane,

 

for the many reasons we fall in love, i say nay, for what is love anyway?

 

seems to me you have lost your sense of orientation... if you profess that you so love your girl, why can you not leave your family at once to spare your wife and children further hurt? what is taking you so long to act? you impress me so if only for the thought that you are ready to go against the world to show your lady love how obsessed you are with her. unfortunately, you also impress me as an extreme egoist.

 

 

beloved,

 

ouch naman di ba? pero tama ka... ang hirap din kaya ng kalagayan ko... akala mo lang masaya ako pero hindi rin. medyo lang hehehehheh. seriously, hindi madali na nakikita ko asawa at mga anak kong nahihirapan ngunit mas matimbang sa akin ngayon kung paano ako magiging panatag sa relasyon namin ni girl. kailangan kong maging sigurado na di nya nakakasama bf nya at hangga't maaari ay di sila magkita... kaya yung mga waking hours ni girl outside her work dapat kasama ako lalo na right after ng work nya... i have to make sure she goes home straight or kasama ko sya elsewhere. otherwise, pupuntahan nya bf nya... ganyan kakumplikado kalagayan ko... di bale malapit na sila mag break... break na nga ata sila eh... sana....

[jetpilot_88]

ganyan talaga sa umpisa.. masaya..

dati super love mo din misis mo..

pero malungkot na ngayon kaya hanap ka na ng love ng iba..

 

alam mo kasi na may babalikan ka sa FAMILY mo,, kaya okay lang na mag-kaganyan ka.

alam mo kasi na kahit anong mangyari ASAWA AT PAMILYA mo pa rin sila.. kaya MALAKAS ANG LOOB MO IWAN SILA..

 

alam mo na TATANGGAPIN ka kasi ulet ng asawa mo.

 

KAMPANTE ka,, sa ngayon.. pero once na MARAMDAMAN mo,, na HINDI KA NA KAILANGAN NG PAMILYA MO..

 

sinasabi ko sayo.. ikaw ang magkukumahog BUMALIK.. thinking and wishing na may babalikan ka pa..

 

sige lang,, pagbigyan mo sarili mo ngayon... hindi mo talaga malalaman ang sagot friend, unless SINUBUKAN mo eh..

pero trully,, right now.. you're just in ur ecstacy.. it will sober..

 

nakakatuwa ka. kasi you are really in love.. you believe that this will work.(illusion)

very persistent,, with hope that ur girl wont end up with the bf..(selfishness)

you are in love, and its not healthy.. but do what you have to do,,

and prepare urself,, to all the consequences it may bring..

warning:

DO NOT REGRET

 

just be happy about everything... wala naman mangyayari kung iiyak,

nothing will change.. lalu na pag NAG-REGRET..

so dont.

good luck to you and ingat..

 

naku patay may warning na.... if you can't tell him to stop, maybe you can tell him to take it easy? as in my previous posts, mejo puso nagiisip para kay vane ngayon. love beyond reason, which is a nice feeling especially if you're the main character in those pinoy pocket books. pero in reality, dapat di ganon.

[truellusion]

beloved,

 

ouch naman di ba? pero tama ka... ang hirap din kaya ng kalagayan ko... akala mo lang masaya ako pero hindi rin. medyo lang hehehehheh. seriously, hindi madali na nakikita ko asawa at mga anak kong nahihirapan ngunit mas matimbang sa akin ngayon kung paano ako magiging panatag sa relasyon namin ni girl. kailangan kong maging sigurado na di nya nakakasama bf nya at hangga't maaari ay di sila magkita... kaya yung mga waking hours ni girl outside her work dapat kasama ako lalo na right after ng work nya... i have to make sure she goes home straight or kasama ko sya elsewhere. otherwise, pupuntahan nya bf nya... ganyan kakumplikado kalagayan ko... di bale malapit na sila mag break... break na nga ata sila eh... sana....

you don't trust her dude. that's why you have to fetch her right after her work. let it go man, it's plainly blatant that's she's playing with you. kung hindi edi nung naging kayo sana nakipagbreak muna siya sa BF. sakin kasi sinigurado ko muna si girl na walang bf, and everytime you talk with them makikita mo naman sincerity nila lalo na kung mahal ka nila. if you can't trust her di magtatagal relationship nyo. having a relationship with girls like them requires a lot of trust. EVERYONE here can see it, you're one blind man. magsisisi ka sa huli pero ganyan talaga buhay nasa huli pagsisisi. at tingin ko MAS MAHAL NIYA YUNG ISA kaya di niya iniiwan kahit kayo na.

 

oonga bat di mo pa iniiwan family mo kung totoong gagawin mo for the girl? malay mo pagginawa mo yun iwan nya rin bf niya at pwede na kayo magsama... fact is you're still undecided and not 100% sure about what you want or you are sure but not sure with your girl. your girl is not as worthy as you think she is, yan lang naman ang nakikita ko sa situation mo.

 

 

ang masakit pa eh yung sinabi mong "PUPUNTAHAN NIYA BF NIYA" ouch dude. habang wala ka iba pala ang pugad niya.

Edited February 4, 2009 by truellusion

[vane]

you don't trust her dude. that's why you have to fetch her right after her work. let it go man, it's plainly blatant that's she's playing with you. kung hindi edi nung naging kayo sana nakipagbreak muna siya sa BF. sakin kasi sinigurado ko muna si girl na walang bf, and everytime you talk with them makikita mo naman sincerity nila lalo na kung mahal ka nila. if you can't trust her di magtatagal relationship nyo. having a relationship with girls like them requires a lot of trust. EVERYONE here can see it, you're one blind man. magsisisi ka sa huli pero ganyan talaga buhay nasa huli pagsisisi. at tingin ko MAS MAHAL NIYA YUNG ISA kaya di niya iniiwan kahit kayo na.

 

oonga bat di mo pa iniiwan family mo kung totoong gagawin mo for the girl? malay mo pagginawa mo yun iwan nya rin bf niya at pwede na kayo magsama... fact is you're still undecided and not 100% sure about what you want or you are sure but not sure with your girl. your girl is not as worthy as you think she is, yan lang naman ang nakikita ko sa situation mo.

 

 

ang masakit pa eh yung sinabi mong "PUPUNTAHAN NIYA BF NIYA" ouch dude. habang wala ka iba pala ang pugad niya.

 

alam mo bro tama ka eh. i dont trust her really kasi ilang beses ko na syang nahuling nagsinungaling... ilang beses na rin kaming nag break... kaso pag di na ako mapakali, pupuntahan ko na sya at isang sabi ko lang na ihahatid ko na sya, sumasama naman... at ilang beses na rin nyang sinabing mas mahal nya ako kesa sa bf nya... kaso, pag pinapamili ko sya over me and her bf, pinipili nya bf nya... hayyyy ewan ko ba? actually napapagod na ako eh... yung tipo bang kailangang after ofc andun na ako sa place of work nya. i very seldom eat dinner in my house as i usually have dinner with her... saka ako uuwi pag sigurado na akong di na sila makakapagkita. hayyy minsan nga naiisip ko, mas gusto ko pa ata yung pakiramdam ng patay... wala ka at all mararamdaman na... tapos na lahat...

[mhengh]

just some random observations in relation to this topic...

 

regarding those BFs of the girls outside...i guess most people are wondering why those pretty/sexy/cute whatever girls have boyfriends who are ugly/"jologs"/bums when they can have their rich/gwapo/generous guests...from what i noticed, most of these girls are experiencing inferiority complex when it comes to their guests...they acknowledge that they came from a lower social status and can never be the kind of girls that one takes home to mom...perhaps that is the reason why these chicks get into relationships with people who can only give them "temporary highs"...they want someone who they think is of the "same level"...

 

i'm no veteran clubber, but i have experienced living under the same roof with these women (around 4-5 years ago)...not as a boyfriend but as a "barkada"/fellow "istokwa"...you would be surprised how some of these girls act when they are at their comfort zone...the way they talk about some of their guests will make you cringe...i actually feel sorry for some of these guys who fall for these women and yet those girls say things like "pineperahan ko lang yan" or "regular ko lang yan"...there was even an instance where i texted one of my girls to bring home some food/pulutan after work, and she coaxed the guest to buy some Jollibee for her "mother"...i even knew this guy who pretended to be the brother of his gf so the regular guest wouldn't be suspicious...the poor sucker was so smitten that the couple even got an LCD monitor and new CPU out of the deal...

 

oh, and don't even get me started on the kind of men these girls have brought home to our crib...macho dancers, tricycle drivers, hip-hop gangsta wannabees...now i'm not one to judge what kind of work is appropriate but what gets to me is when you get home from work and you see these assholes with their feet up at the table or screwing their chicks in my bed...

Edited February 4, 2009 by mhengh

[beloved]

just some random observations in relation to this topic...

 

regarding those BFs of the girls outside...i guess most people are wondering why those pretty/sexy/cute whatever girls have boyfriends who are ugly/"jologs"/bums when they can have their rich/gwapo/generous guests...from what i noticed, most of these girls are experiencing inferiority complex when it comes to their guests...they acknowledge that they came from a lower social status and can never be the kind of girls that one takes home to mom...perhaps that is the reason why these chicks get into relationships with people who can only give them "temporary highs"...they want someone who they think is of the "same level"...

 

i'm no veteran clubber, but i have experienced living under the same roof with these women (around 4-5 years ago)...not as a boyfriend but as a "barkada"/fellow "istokwa"...you would be surprised how some of these girls act when they are at their comfort zone...the way they talk about some of their guests will make you cringe...i actually feel sorry for some of these guys who fall for these women and yet those girls say things like "pineperahan ko lang yan" or "regular ko lang yan"...there was even an instance where i texted one of my girls to bring home some food/pulutan after work, and she coaxed the guest to buy some Jollibee for her "mother"...i even knew this guy who pretended to be the brother of his gf so the regular guest wouldn't be suspicious...the poor sucker was so smitten that the couple even got an LCD monitor and new CPU out of the deal...

 

 

mhengh,

 

it would be so judgmental for us to generalize that all club or spa girls are like your friends... there may still be a handful who really are worth your while... the only thing i find unbecoming is when someone married considers leaving his family to show his supposed "pure intentions" to his lady love. this makes me cringe... what a way to live, man.

 

oh, and don't even get me started on the kind of men these girls have brought home to our crib...macho dancers, tricycle drivers, hip-hop gangsta wannabees...now i'm not one to judge what kind of work is appropriate but what gets to me is when you get home from work and you see these assholes with their feet up at the table or screwing their chicks in my bed...