Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[dedbol]

been there, done that.

 

buti na lang people talked some sense into me. friends, cousins, even strangers i met while drinking. mahirap talaga kasi more often than not itatago mo sa mga kilala mo except for some close friends.

 

based on my experience and observations, usually yung kwento nyan ganito:

a horny guy sees a hot GRO and wants to f34k her. but it turns out that the girl wants to play first before f34king. so you bring her out to far flung malls like sm pampanga or ever commonwealth , you have dinner, then go to a bar, have a few drinks, get tipsy, make out. repeat the process 2 or 3 times until you finally get her in bed.

 

the next day you do not to call her because the mission is already accomplished. you even started calling some drinking buddies bragging about your conquest. then it hits you. you want to talk to her, you actually miss her. and before you even finally realize how deep the s@%t you got yourself into, you're a dead man.

 

if you have a real friend, you can get yourself out. it will be hard. hell, there might even be tears.

 

i avoid getting into those situations again. but sometimes, my dick just takes over and s@%t.

[chad8693]

i do feel for you bros that are in this type of relationship!!!..it is a very tricky one...my suggestion is to take it slow..assess the pros and cons..i am in a similar kind of situation right now...have a GF who works in a KTV..we were doing fine for almost 2 years..she has somehow been semi retired..i asked her to stop and provided everything for her..but i guess that was not good enough..she's now back working in the KTV she used to work in..now she is now accepting bar fines or extra service in the VIP rooms which she has never done before!!!!i feel so hurt and devastated with this turn of events!!!..yet i am still hleping her out on the financial aspect..i still love her so much and it hurts me that she has decided to pursue this kind of life despite me being there for her!!! so mga bro..if you love that somebody so much and after carefully analyzing the situation you feel that it is all worth it then go for it without hesitation and regrets!!!..just make it work mga bro......

[chad8693]

Thats true love!

 

thats correct bro..pure and unadulterated love...sometimes i do reflect and ask myself why am i doing this to myself..i deserve a better life..but hell what can i do..i really fell hard..now my gf is not even talking to me..she is totally ignoring me....i dont know what is happening to her na....maybe she has totally given up on me..i am losing sleep over this...not a day,hour, min and second goes by without me not thinking of her...oh well.......

[Missionary]

OH.. by the way.. I did not (din't say never) give her any money after I courted her, gifts lang (food etc.) she never asked,

 

So does this mean that if she asked for money, mababawasan ang trust sa kanya? In my experience kasi, as long as she was getting money, we were fine, pero once nawala yun, may dahilan palagi para magtampo....

 

Money is usually blinding kc.

 

definitely.

[Missionary]

thats correct bro..pure and unadulterated love...sometimes i do reflect and ask myself why am i doing this to myself..i deserve a better life..but hell what can i do..i really fell hard..now my gf is not even talking to me..she is totally ignoring me....i dont know what is happening to her na....maybe she has totally given up on me..i am losing sleep over this...not a day,hour, min and second goes by without me not thinking of her...oh well.......

 

If youll take my advice, cut your losses and move on. If she really loves you, siya mismo lalapit. No one deserves to wait for something that's not really there, man...Just my 2 cents

[Palakol]

yung isa dati, ang pinakamaraming beses kong nakasama. mga dalawang taon ko siyang kilala. nagpakasal siya tapos hindi na binalikan. nagkadebelopan kami, tapos sinabi niya "mahal kita, pero hanggang dito lang tayo." nagpakasal siya ulit, at hindi ko na siya hinintay. sa tingin ko ang hinahanap ng mga babaeng ganyan ay partner, hindi lover. naghahanap siguro sila ng paraan na makapagpakasal at makaalis sa ganoong buhay, dahil alam nila na parating na ang expiration date nila.

[banditrevolver]

mahirap maghintay. baka naghihintay ka lang sa wala. mas delikado pa kung ganito ang linya ng trabaho ng napupusuan mo, at customer ka. pag nabigo ka o sumuko, at alam mong tunay yung nararamdaman mo, hindi ka makakapag move on sa loob ng ilang araw o buwan lang. ako inabot ako ng mahigit tatlong taon. walang taong dapat makaranas ng ganon. pero nagpapasalamat ako kasi nalaman ko na totoo yung naramdaman ko. inabot nga lang ako ng ganon katagal para malaman.

 

hindi totoo na mahirap magmahal. natural sa tao na magmahal at makipagkapuwa. ang kaso, hindi robot ang tao. hindi automatic na nagmamahal ang tao kung pano siya dapat magmahal. namimili siya. nag-iisip siya. nakakaranas siya ng mga alanganing sitwasyon. parang ganito. customer at GRO. kung iisipin mo, pare-pareho lang tayong tao. lahat tayo kumakain at dumudumi. kaso maraming alanganing bagay at sitwasyon sa mundo. komplikado ang utak ng tao, ang puso hindi.

 

kailangan siguro pag-isipan muna kung totoo ba yung nararamdaman mo. sabi nila ang pag-ibig ay hindi pag-ibig kung hindi sabayan, hindi palitan. kung ikaw lang ang nakakaramdam, hindi pag-ibig yon. ang bawat kilos ng tao dapat may pag-angkin. meron din naman dapat kasabay na pagpapaubaya ng sarili. malabo. parating alanganin. ang sa akin lang, mabubuhay ako sa paraang sa tingin ko ay nararapat para lumigaya. kung ang ibig sabihin non ay gagastos ako tuwing sabado sa lanai, walang problema sakin.

[MasterM]

BEEN THERE....kaya ayoko ng maulit

[bodybumping]

mahirap maghintay. baka naghihintay ka lang sa wala. mas delikado pa kung ganito ang linya ng trabaho ng napupusuan mo, at customer ka. pag nabigo ka o sumuko, at alam mong tunay yung nararamdaman mo, hindi ka makakapag move on sa loob ng ilang araw o buwan lang. ako inabot ako ng mahigit tatlong taon. walang taong dapat makaranas ng ganon. pero nagpapasalamat ako kasi nalaman ko na totoo yung naramdaman ko. inabot nga lang ako ng ganon katagal para malaman.

 

hindi totoo na mahirap magmahal. natural sa tao na magmahal at makipagkapuwa. ang kaso, hindi robot ang tao. hindi automatic na nagmamahal ang tao kung pano siya dapat magmahal. namimili siya. nag-iisip siya. nakakaranas siya ng mga alanganing sitwasyon. parang ganito. customer at GRO. kung iisipin mo, pare-pareho lang tayong tao. lahat tayo kumakain at dumudumi. kaso maraming alanganing bagay at sitwasyon sa mundo. komplikado ang utak ng tao, ang puso hindi.

 

kailangan siguro pag-isipan muna kung totoo ba yung nararamdaman mo. sabi nila ang pag-ibig ay hindi pag-ibig kung hindi sabayan, hindi palitan. kung ikaw lang ang nakakaramdam, hindi pag-ibig yon. ang bawat kilos ng tao dapat may pag-angkin. meron din naman dapat kasabay na pagpapaubaya ng sarili. malabo. parating alanganin. ang sa akin lang, mabubuhay ako sa paraang sa tingin ko ay nararapat para lumigaya. kung ang ibig sabihin non ay gagastos ako tuwing sabado sa lanai, walang problema sakin.

 

well thought and well said.

[Mr.Whiteguy]

AFter little more then one year being married, I almost never think again about here past...so just give it time and (money?)

[Guest protocol]

i hate this feeling, and worst part is that the girl make3s you think you are not worth it. Ive been trying to make her feel what im feeling but somehowhe finds a way to make things disinteresting. Pinapamukha na walang kang silbi at di ka karapatdapat. hayyyy.......ayoko ng ganito sana didn't meet her na lang.

 

if she reads this peace....

[Palakol]

sa totoo, hindi mo na malalaman kung ano ba talaga. sundin mo lang ang nararamdaman mo, at gawin mo kung ano ang sa tingin mong dapat mong gawin. huwag mong pag-isipan. ika ng ni banditrevolver, "he who hesitates, maturbates."

 

at kung nais mo siyang malimutan, magmahal ka nag iba. o bumira ka ng maraming maraming iba't-ibang babae. huwag kang uulit. at isang araw (maaaring abutin ng dalawang oras o dalawang taon) dahan dahang maglalaho ang sakit...

 

at kung bumalik man ang mga dating kirot sa mga peklat ng pag-ibig, maaari nating manhirin muli ang puso sa pamamagitan ng ibang babae. at hindi na tayo uulit, sa takot sa dalamhating ibinigay sa atin ng nakaraang sinta, na di nagbalik ng pagmamahal na ating buong pusong inalay...

 

sa madaling salita, putangnang pag-ibig 'to...

[Palakol]

tama ka dyan bro. hirap lang talagang isipin o gawin lalo na kung mahal mo rin yung babae. pero kung talagang gusto mo na makalimutan yan ang tamang gawin para sa akin maghanap ng maraming chicks. tama rin naman na kung mahal mo nga dapat wag ka maghesitate kasi kung maghesitate ka baka nga di mo pa tangap yung situation nung babae. pero sa tingin nyo ba palagi talo dito ang lalaki?

 

sa kultura 'yan. palagi tayong talo. kung manakit tayo ng babae, tayo ang masama, pero sila palagi nila tayong sinasaktan. hirap maging lalaki no?

[Palakol]

by the way, for those of you who are current victims of this unfortunate situation, just grow some and tell her. unrequited love is a lot better than a lifetime of uncertainty, knowing that you could have done something but you didn't, with the words what if? in your head tormenting you for the rest of your miserable days... and one day, becoming that old person in the corner nobody wants to sit with, because all he ever talks about is "the one that got away..."

 

... okay, maybe i exaggerated a little... or a lot. but you never know... what if...

[glock19]

sir pano mo nalaman totoo yung nararamdaman mo? ito yung problema ko ngayon

 

when you start caring about her. i mean really care about her. her well-being, her feelings, etc. you worry if she stays out late, you worry about who her friends are. are they a good influence on her? you worry about her commuting. you worry about what she eats. you want her to stop smoking, etc. etc. etc. basically the same things you do when you're in love with a regular girl. the difference is you started out with sex as the only common experience. so you have to really distinguish whether it's just sex you're after or do you really care about this person.