Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[hk9889]

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Edited August 21, 2007 by hk9889

[iwalkalone]

well i have 2 GRO friends from a famous nightclub in QA, they told me that they're trained not to fall in love with their guests.

 

and at the same time, they're afraid of falling in love with guests coz baka lokohin lang daw sila.

 

Unfortunately...you're right 'GRO's' are trained to make their guests fall inlove with them...they're trained to feign affection...to lure men with sweet talks...to seduce...to lie....they're taught to keep men coming back for more...they're trained to be 'Butterflies' .... wrap men around their fingers...by that i mean 'men' not just one man...but as many men as they can...

that's the hard truth about 'GRO's' ( i don't know about PSPs)

...i should know...i've been there... and i ...as usual...wasn't able to blend in...

hindi kase ako bolera eh...pag wala akong masabing maganda hindi na lang ako magsasalita ( kaya tuloy nilalasing na lang ako ng guest...indi kase ako nagsasalita eh! )...patayin na lang ako pero hindi ako mambobola...indi rin ako mamimintas...magpapakalasheng na lang ako!

guess i'm just a misfit wherever i go...whatever i do...now i just hope all these experiences i've gathered can be of use to some of you...somehow...

[darling]

I remember discussing this thread with an MPA-friend, who's popular in another MP thread, and is known for GFE.

 

She was adamant about about not falling in love. It's still a transaction and familiarity, even friendship, with a guest can only bring so much comfort. She said: most of us don't sleep with friends for a fee, do we? Loyal patrons are not referred to as friends, but as regulars.

 

I had the honor of being in love with a couple of MPAs, and money was not the reason for the relationship. Like everyone else, they crave for respect and the knowledge that someone can look beyond their work, their sad smiles, and heavy makeup.

 

This last relationship was difficult as she stopped being an MPA for me, saying she couldn't be with me while doing that work. She was in that work for just over a month, and is now trying for office work, and most likely lower pay. The thing is, despite her current financial difficulties (baon siya sa utang), she does not ask for money. Just time.

[seth_element]

daan lng po its their decision naman po e doesnt matter.

[mang ben]

Mahirap na di mainvolve emotionally isang lalaki sa GRO o MP lalo na if you become their regular clients.

[sedative]

"...now i just hope all these experiences i've gathered can be of use to some of you...somehow... "

 

It has my Friend...Look at yourself now...

 

All the BEST!

Edited July 22, 2007 by sedative

[techyguy015]

im skeptical with the idea :thumbsdownsmiley:

 

but who knows u can never can tell ika nga

 

if u find it ur one lucky mofo

 

hehehe

[eternal070]

.........ive never fallen in love with a prostitue......but i did form a deep friendship with one, at one point in my life. dont get me wrong, im straight. but i met a girl street walker who became such a dear friend! i was on a midnight burger run alone (you know how it is) and while i was waiting at the food stand, this girl approached me and asked me why i was reading about death and forensics at 330am in the morning. (dont ask, i dig those books!). so we started talking and she was really nice. i was facinated, she was from a different world. she told me she couldnt go home coz she was boarding somewhere in mendiola and they dont open the door till like 5am and she had just come from a club, "work" she called it. To make a long story short, she was just so nice, and admittedly, i was intrigued to get to know someone from her world, i love people, all kinds....so we ended up at my place. We talked till dawn, her life story, how shes been a japayuki several times over, and other stories, she was hilarious! I ended up driving her home and got to see where and how she lived. I parked the car and made my way through a small eskinita and up a very narrow building to where she stayed, crammed in a room with 8 other girls. She then started flooding me with make-up and kikay stuff, condoms even...haha. we became fast friends! for about a year, i lived through her funny stories, about her customers, the bugaws, her lifes journey, her family, her struggles, her failed relationships with callboys......and i did what i can to help. Somehow, i helped her get a job, a "normal" job...at first she was very happy, happy to be "clean":, "respectable"....but soon thereafter....she went back. To the cycle of tricks, callboy boyfriends...and drugs. She bid me farewell one day, telling me she found a japanese papa. that was the last i heard from her....wherever she is...i wish her well....i miss her, she gave me alot of life realizations my clueless college buddies could never give. she may have dressed different, looked different, acted different, lived different. but to me, she had a golden heart. a beautiful person indeed....,.

[r3g1n]

never mix emotions with business... :goatee:

[Big Joe]

just wanna share a very brief and crazy part of my life

 

was in love to one GRO in one of the classic clubs in Cainta. Courted her by going there twice a week, giving chocolates and big stuffed toys, being her customer from 9PM-4AM. I did that for two months.

 

Eventually she decided not to work anymore and pursue her studies (nope, i did not pay for her tuition ). But during the event that she didn't have money anymore, she went back to her dear work. We lived-in together, I would drop her off and pick her up almost daily. She would be asleep the whole day while I go to school...she would go home always drunk due to the nature of her work. We even had a son. Anyway, we parted ways already. People from two different worlds will really have a hard time living together.

:zorro:

[saruy]

Ckyfny, Cinnamon, Big Joe and everyone who reads this thread. I just back read a little so I wanted to share my story which happened around 7 years ago. During my single days I used to go to a lot of MPs and clubs to a point it became a part of my life aside from my work. I had my fair share of relationships and break-ups with MPAs and GROs. Maybe more of me separating myself because I always thought that a relationship would never materialize into a normal one, also I always thought that I would just marry my long time girlfriend and we would supposedly live happily ever after… Apparently NOT!!!!

 

After I got married, I was of course back to “normal routine”…Ok… roughly three months after… I was invited by my cousin to pick up his “girlfriend”. Of course being the good cousin that he is he would never leave me high and dry. This was around 2 in the morning, so being married at that time I had to hurry back home because it was late. His “gf” said that we needed to pick up one of her friends. So we went to their apartment and waited in the car. It took her friend around 30 minutes to go down!! I was late and she took so long!!! When she finally came down and approached the car I turned on the lights inside the car so they could talk. All I saw were her long black wet hair. WOW!!! She looked very pretty (of course in my eyes…) but it was late so I told my cousin’s “gf” to invite her out nalang on the following Saturday.

 

When Saturday arrived my cousin and I booked hotel rooms so we could both be “happy” and have a good time. When we were able to separate both friends from each other we each went to our own rooms. I tried to play it cool even if it was our first time so we both sat on the bed and we talked then I started to kiss her. Luckily she retaliated too but when it came to the “deed” she said that she did not want to and that she did not do that… WHOA!!! BLUE BALLS!!! She was not angry after but we just then cuddled and talked after which she forced me to drive her back to…Work?!?. That was the only time I knew that she worked in a club. I could not put two and two together… Meaning she works in a “club” and she said “no”. IMPOSSIBLE!!!… I said to myself that I would make her fall in love so bad she would “MAKE LOVE” to me… HAHAHA yabang ko… To make a long story short after all the courting (flowers, dinners, movies, small gifts and being concerned with her) I finally was able to make love with her but it was the other way around I fell in love with her… I fell sooooo hard it hurt sooooo much but it felt sooooo good. Even up to today that I am writing this I can feel that love. She pushed me away because she knew I was married… She pushed me away because she knew that we could not be together… She pushed me away because from what she knew of my background at that time WE could never work. Most of my best friends knew of US…some supported me but most never agreed. I then started living with a time bomb in my heart. I wanted to tell the world of this person I love so much but I couldn’t. After three months of loving her I wanted to get caught “so bad” so I could bring my relationship out into the open. I decided in my heart that she was the one that I loved. I reflected on everything before I made my decision and made sure it was not infatuation or “insextuatuon”. I made sure I did not need to support anyone but the both of us because in case I would go against the world I could take care of US. In December of that year I left my wife of 6 months, I said I needed time to think, she gave me my time but was suspicious already. The following year January I got caught and by February I was separated with my wife and by March 1 I was living in with my “one true love”. It was very difficult because everyone in my family was angry at me. Most of my friends stayed away from me. It was a big scandal in our family. I haven’t talked to my mother since then and have only been in contact with one of my siblings since. I left everything, I left the good life, I left the money I earned, I left my cars, I left our home, I left our businesses but I was convinced I loved this person so much I would get back on my feet and show everyone that I made the right decision. I had a helping hand though in all the rough times. The person I turned my back on in my teen years is the person who helped me get back on my feet, my father. Incidentally, that was the year of the “blue moon” and as the myth goes those who are out to see the “blue moon” and are together on that day or I mean that night shall stay together for life. It has been 7 years since that time and we were blessed with our first “love” child after living together for about 2 years and again blessed with our second child on our 5th year together. Today we are living happy together, I am annulled already, We are a regular couple who love each other, we are just like any other couple who have their ups and downs; hopefully more ups than downs. We have a happy family with my dad. We plan for our future like every family and in all those plans we hope to stay together “till death do us part” even if we haven’t exchange our vows yet.

 

In my opinion, each story has its different deciding factors. For me bottom line was to trust the person I loved and was going to live with. No thinking of the past, no looking back and stand on what you have decided. Calculated risks must be involved in all your decisions but most important is that you LOVE each other 100%, if there is a shadow of any doubt then you must re-evaluate your relationship. I’m not saying we were perfect but maybe we were just both lucky.

[saruy]

Ck: Just wanted to share some of the things I have gone through:

 

This is one damn roller coaster ride I'm going thru---Yup, at the start before you are able to set both of your lives straight it will really be difficult (I wanted to say hard but having it hard on a roller coaster ride might sound different...hahaha). I went through the same situation. I think ACCEPTANCE is key... once you accept her background, where she worked and her past then everything will be better. Accepting that you love her for who she is and what other people may say will make the roller coaster seem like riding a Benz through a rough road.

 

This will be one helluva f*cking life I'll be living if things do turn out this way (if only the world aint that judgmental)---The world is not judgemental... Its all in your mind... If you think the world will be judgemental then it will be. Be HONEST to yourself that you will and may be attacked because of your decision. Be open about your relationship if other people ask. Tell them that in your heart you know there is no wrong in what you are doing. If you TRULY believe that there is no wrong in your actions, f*ck what everyone says. You or "We" have only one life. We must do what makes us happy and not what will make others happy. Just make sure we do not step on other peoples toes. Believe me when I say I have heard people talk s@%t bout what I did... I look around and say I have a great life and I am with the person I really love... They can kiss my ass... hehehe

 

The funny thing with this life is that even though youre so happy with what's happening, its hard to share it with everyone. (As much as you would want to share your happiness with the people close to you, somehow this simple rule just doesnt apply to us)--- at the start, SHARING to others our happiness will be easy but for them to accept us will be more difficult. Don't be afraid to share if you know that you are not hurting anyone else. Love is universal. I have never kept my story a secret. I have told everyone and everything about my relationship. {Read my last three sentences in the last paragraph.}

 

The norm of our society. --- a lot has changed already, its 2007... people are more understanding... ata...hahaha

 

But please dont crap us too much. --- They wont if you don't let them or if you don't give them the reason to. Keep your head up. Its our life not theirs. As long as you are happy...

 

And if we do fall, we will be the first to admit our mistakes.--- Whats wrong with falling in love. Its one of the greatest feelings in the world. Its one of the greatest gifts of God. Its not perfect cause no one is. Its not a mistake... Its not a sin... It sould read.. "And if we do fall, we will the first to admit that it feels so good to be in love and it make us feel so alive"

[saruy]

Sir, dont get me wrong regarding my story. I really love this girl. Im just afraid to cross the next line and the point of no return. I need some stong advice on what to do on my side and what to do about her.

 

Thanks!

 

Dude lockoff8, my reply was for "ckyfny". Sori pare. I'll re-read ur post and try to reply. Thanks.

[don juan casanova]

It never ends! Love is the most amazing thing that will ever happen to us. I had my share of falling in-love with those kinds of women I dont know why there is so much taboo in their line of work but some women here are really intresting I know some MP who is really really smart always top of her class but stopped studying after highschool because of a really bad faith his father died in an heart attack knowing that the father of his is the only one who is working, financial problems blah blah so what did she do? guess what worked as an MP in a known massage parlor what a waste isn't it?

[gerrysart]

happened to me twice.. both actually didnt turn out well... so my take on this is theres nothing wrong falling in love wd a gro/prosti/stripper whatever u may call it.. they are like the usual work-at-day girls except that its going to be tough for both of u.. first, u will have to accept her past and even some of her current ways.. second is they are quite used to that kind of work and later on when trouble comes.. they will gravitate back to what they used to do and u will regret it u got involved in that.. and plus, you cant bring her home to ur mom and says she works at nite..(and its not in call centers).. peace.

Edited July 30, 2007 by gerrysart