Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Clrk]

u guys seen schindler's list? i wish i were liam, but instead of saving Jews, i will saving GRO's, hahaha

 

same here

[Clrk]

some are lucky that the relationship works, some aren't as lucky

[chrispt21]

As for if it will work out- it really depends on the person.

[angereyes]

Based on my experiences, mahirap pumasok sa ganitong relasyon. Both parties will have to give up something and a lot of sacrifices.

[chrispt21]

They are also human beings and have a heart. They are sensitive and like to lead a normal life. Right approach and good counseling may lead them to the love life.

[SaintPeter5858]

better be careful from the very beginning

[BrightestStar]

Have some distance pls

[StoicVampire]

i would just like to post a question here i am married 36y/o an architect by profession. i have a steady mpa gf for 4 years now...... were almost hubby and wife already i dunno if we are expecting our first born cause she is been delayed and complaining of morning sickness...... my dilemma is she doesnt want to leave the mpa scene for the reason that she does not want to be dependent on me...... i get jealous when she goes to work i get jealous when she does "jokards" papano ba dapat ang gagawain ko....... sinasabi nya skin na wala daw ako dapat pagselosan sa jokards dahil purely professional lang naman daw ung services na bibigay nya outside the mp.... and ang second reason nya is pag nag jokards daw sya less time spent sa work more time daw spent skin kesa nasa mp sya ng 9 hrs........... is this true? natatakot lang kasi ako eh cause my understanding is when an mpa goes out with her guest sa labas it means close na sya dito. hindi ko naman sya mapigilan kasi ayaw nya pumayag na 2lungan ko sya to support her 2 kids...... totoo ba talaga na pag pumayag na kayo lumabas ksama ung guest is iba na un..... natatakot ako sa pwedeng gawin sa kanya dahil sa tingin ko wala ng restrictions ang services pag nsa labas na and anything goes. does she really love me? hindi ko alam..... im palnning to go to SG next year and sasama ko na sya............. to any of the girls here sana matulungan nyo ko............ I REALLY LOVE HER EH pero nasasaktan ako sa ginagawa nya papano ang gagawin ko? naawa nako sa sarili ko pero mahal ko talaga sya eh please give me a pm for your insigthts kasi kayo lang po makakapagbigay ng first hand info skin eh

 

Better bro take her to SG. If its your plan, then pursue it. Take her away from everything that has something to do with her MPA life. Di naman madali lahat sa umpisa. Goodluck!

[seiyen]

Not a good idea. Usually never ends well.

[scam]

i would just like to post a question here i am married 36y/o an architect by profession. i have a steady mpa gf for 4 years now...... were almost hubby and wife already i dunno if we are expecting our first born cause she is been delayed and complaining of morning sickness...... my dilemma is she doesnt want to leave the mpa scene for the reason that she does not want to be dependent on me...... i get jealous when she goes to work i get jealous when she does "jokards" papano ba dapat ang gagawain ko....... sinasabi nya skin na wala daw ako dapat pagselosan sa jokards dahil purely professional lang naman daw ung services na bibigay nya outside the mp.... and ang second reason nya is pag nag jokards daw sya less time spent sa work more time daw spent skin kesa nasa mp sya ng 9 hrs........... is this true? natatakot lang kasi ako eh cause my understanding is when an mpa goes out with her guest sa labas it means close na sya dito. hindi ko naman sya mapigilan kasi ayaw nya pumayag na 2lungan ko sya to support her 2 kids...... totoo ba talaga na pag pumayag na kayo lumabas ksama ung guest is iba na un..... natatakot ako sa pwedeng gawin sa kanya dahil sa tingin ko wala ng restrictions ang services pag nsa labas na and anything goes. does she really love me? hindi ko alam..... im palnning to go to SG next year and sasama ko na sya............. to any of the girls here sana matulungan nyo ko............ I REALLY LOVE HER EH pero nasasaktan ako sa ginagawa nya papano ang gagawin ko? naawa nako sa sarili ko pero mahal ko talaga sya eh please give me a pm for your insigthts kasi kayo lang po makakapagbigay ng first hand info skin eh

 

Wake up to reality bro. What ever you did then paglumalabas kayo, is likely the same. The question lang is meron ba feeling, which is only known to her. The fact is married kana so most likely you have your own family. Keep it up that way, in no time, that feeling of yours will wand & by that time, you might have lost your family already. Don't let that happen. If you think it's that easy to bring her to singapore, may be for the purpose of travel yes pero may hassle pa rin mga immigration officer specially sa first time travellers na babae kasi they always thing they will be illegal worker overseas. Next is, how to get her permanently to stay in singapore when she's not your dependent?

 

One thing i admire her though is her determination na hindi aasa sa iyo. Again, the reason will only be known to her whether nahihiya sa iyo or self independence or from previous experience or her own excess luggage.

 

What i can recommend to you is keep it that way for now. Let time take it's own course. Believe me, i have been there & have done that

up the singapore thing as i was an expat in the city state then. Now she's a professional & still in contact from time to time.

[perfectstranger]

i think we are not in the position to tell the girl to leave her profession. i mean it's her choice so who are we to say it's right or wrong? we can't say it's wrong just because we don't like it.

 

admit it or not, there are a lot of other options if a person has to earn money. like working as a sales lady or washing clothes, etc. but she's doing it because it is a faster way to earn money which she wants or needs (again, whatever it is, we don't have the right to judge). so if you love an MPA then you have to accept her decisions and her way of life because we are not in the position to choose for them. of course we can talk to them and/or suggest other options but that should be the limit. we don't get to tell them what to do with their lives. you have to be a very close friend or family to be able to do that.

 

i agree with what others say. in most cases it won't end well. that's the reality whether we accept it or not.

[Rearden]

i would just like to post a question here i am married 36y/o an architect by profession. i have a steady mpa gf for 4 years now...... were almost hubby and wife already i dunno if we are expecting our first born cause she is been delayed and complaining of morning sickness...... my dilemma is she doesnt want to leave the mpa scene for the reason that she does not want to be dependent on me...... i get jealous when she goes to work i get jealous when she does "jokards" papano ba dapat ang gagawain ko....... sinasabi nya skin na wala daw ako dapat pagselosan sa jokards dahil purely professional lang naman daw ung services na bibigay nya outside the mp.... and ang second reason nya is pag nag jokards daw sya less time spent sa work more time daw spent skin kesa nasa mp sya ng 9 hrs........... is this true? natatakot lang kasi ako eh cause my understanding is when an mpa goes out with her guest sa labas it means close na sya dito. hindi ko naman sya mapigilan kasi ayaw nya pumayag na 2lungan ko sya to support her 2 kids...... totoo ba talaga na pag pumayag na kayo lumabas ksama ung guest is iba na un..... natatakot ako sa pwedeng gawin sa kanya dahil sa tingin ko wala ng restrictions ang services pag nsa labas na and anything goes. does she really love me? hindi ko alam..... im palnning to go to SG next year and sasama ko na sya............. to any of the girls here sana matulungan nyo ko............ I REALLY LOVE HER EH pero nasasaktan ako sa ginagawa nya papano ang gagawin ko? naawa nako sa sarili ko pero mahal ko talaga sya eh please give me a pm for your insigthts kasi kayo lang po makakapagbigay ng first hand info skin eh

 

hey, I'm a 31y.o. architect, 4 years ago I took a 20y.o. model/GRO for my girl, went to SG, got a job. Told her to come with me. (TOLD and not ask). We got registered at ROM (registry of marriages) to get her a dependent pass (we don't believe in "marriage" so we did it in SG in case the relationship fails, we can get divorced) Got her a waitressing job where she can earn as much as P50,000/mo. (part-time job though coz I still want her to focus on being my trophy wife) Told her not to give any money to her family (again TOLD not ask.), she has given them back tenfold the amount they spent raising her. I let her visit her family at least once a year when we go back to PH.

 

I guess the only difference is that your girl has kids (a deal breaker for me!) Oh, and when you said you are married, does that mean to the MPA, or does that mean you have a wife and you have an MPA gf?

 

BTW, in SG, you need to get an E-pass (work visa) with a minimum salary of SG$4,000 in order to get a dependent pass for your girl (and her kids). However, most new arrivals can only get between $2000-$3000.

 

So be realistic...

1. Most likely, you won't be able to get a dependent pass for her if you are new to SG

2. Unless she can be a submissive wife, there is no point trying to stay with her

 

I am the man in the relationship, I earn the most amount of money, therefore, like any other wife, she has to follow me and where my career takes me. My woman has learned her role in life, and that is to be my trophy wife (for now), and in the future to give me children (I'm waiting for her to turn 30 before I impregnate her, I want to enjoy her youth and let her enjoy being young. Having a young girl with a taut body in my bed is one of the reason I picked her.)

 

Our solution is simple meritocracy. The idea of being equal partners regardless of what you bring into the relationship is socialist bullshit!

[Jayqq22]

So true, no matter how much you show your love, sincerity and consistency... they will never change... nakakahinyang we as Gentlemen wanted to give them a second chance... but ofcourse with a string attached... that they will loved us back. But this will never happen.

 

Because our Money is what got to them, and from the beginning they liked us because of our money. No matter how innocent angelic they look, they are good in lying..

 

Ito nalang, how would a young pretty girl who is 8-15 years younger than us, who will fell in love with a middle aged man.

 

I feel i was fooled twice, because I gave her a second chance; I treated her as a real person, GF, going out without having sex, befriending her, getting to know her, but in the end she is just a good liar, and pretender..

 

Kaya lesson learned: cut our losses as early as possible; since we know them as babaeng bayaran, just keep it that way; close your heart on this kind of Girls.. no matter what!

 

Just pursue a descent Girl, with a Good family background.

 

Hanggang ngayon nabubulagan pa rin ako, pero sometimes her lies doesnt fit any longer.. sooner or later we will all wake up!

Well said pare!!'

[muttley]

every good thing must come to an end.................................

 

 

we had broken up for the reason that she feels that i am not prioritizing her anymore.

 

here's what happened, early this morning i went to the school of my daughter to attend the recognition day.... i was'nt able to text and called her cause i am with my wife at that time. (my wife and i are still together but seldom we are talking cause she knows that have a mpa gf ) after the said event went to the office so i could be with her in the afternoon When i called her she got mad at me.... I told her that I just went to the event for my kid nothing more and that I will never be there anymore on her school events next year cause I will be leaving for SG this December to be with her. She said she was being less prioritized by me. Got mad and told me that it was over cause she cannot stand anymore just waiting for me to give her the time she deserves. I got shocked talked to her to think about her decision but to no avail she has really decided to call it quits........ I LOVE HER so much but she gave up on me today. I guess it was really not meant to be. I feel so down. I sacrificed my relationship with my wife to be with her,now all i have is myself I really don't understand. I sent her a text message saying I am letting her go cause I dont want her to feel least prioritized,less loved even if it breaks my heart..... GOD help me........... I LOVE U BABE BUT I AM WILLING TO LET U GO FOR YOUR HAPPINESS AND PEACE OF MIND.

 

Please help me guys.......... Please

 

It appears very clear that she is selfish and inconsiderate. Just forget about her and move on with your life. Good luck!

[scam]

every good thing must come to an end.................................

 

 

we had broken up for the reason that she feels that i am not prioritizing her anymore.

 

here's what happened, early this morning i went to the school of my daughter to attend the recognition day.... i was'nt able to text and called her cause i am with my wife at that time. (my wife and i are still together but seldom we are talking cause she knows that have a mpa gf ) after the said event went to the office so i could be with her in the afternoon When i called her she got mad at me.... I told her that I just went to the event for my kid nothing more and that I will never be there anymore on her school events next year cause I will be leaving for SG this December to be with her. She said she was being less prioritized by me. Got mad and told me that it was over cause she cannot stand anymore just waiting for me to give her the time she deserves. I got shocked talked to her to think about her decision but to no avail she has really decided to call it quits........ I LOVE HER so much but she gave up on me today. I guess it was really not meant to be. I feel so down. I sacrificed my relationship with my wife to be with her,now all i have is myself I really don't understand. I sent her a text message saying I am letting her go cause I dont want her to feel least prioritized,less loved even if it breaks my heart..... GOD help me........... I LOVE U BABE BUT I AM WILLING TO LET U GO FOR YOUR HAPPINESS AND PEACE OF MIND.

 

Please help me guys.......... Please

 

You should be happy for yourself that you just got out of a deep s@%t situation. You have your wife & daughter to focus back. Give them what should have been them when you were busy with your MPA. Unless you really don't have any love & respect left to your wife, by all means file an annulment & move on.

 

You see the most common mistake about womanizing is that a would normally focus with just 1 girl, may it be gro, mpa, psp, secretary, cougar etc....Learn how to womanize all at the same time then i tell you , you'll never be fall in love as you'll be just lusting all of them.

[cool_kojie]

You should be happy for yourself that you just got out of a deep s@%t situation. You have your wife & daughter to focus back. Give them what should have been them when you were busy with your MPA. Unless you really don't have any love & respect left to your wife, by all means file an annulment & move on.

 

You see the most common mistake about womanizing is that a would normally focus with just 1 girl, may it be gro, mpa, psp, secretary, cougar etc....Learn how to womanize all at the same time then i tell you , you'll never be fall in love as you'll be just lusting all of them.

 

I did this but eventually I got bored so hanap ng ibang thrill. But you are right bro, pag isa lang doon ka mapapahamak.

 

Dami din pala may problema sa ganito heheheh.

[StoicVampire]

every good thing must come to an end.................................

 

 

we had broken up for the reason that she feels that i am not prioritizing her anymore.

 

here's what happened, early this morning i went to the school of my daughter to attend the recognition day.... i was'nt able to text and called her cause i am with my wife at that time. (my wife and i are still together but seldom we are talking cause she knows that have a mpa gf ) after the said event went to the office so i could be with her in the afternoon When i called her she got mad at me.... I told her that I just went to the event for my kid nothing more and that I will never be there anymore on her school events next year cause I will be leaving for SG this December to be with her. She said she was being less prioritized by me. Got mad and told me that it was over cause she cannot stand anymore just waiting for me to give her the time she deserves. I got shocked talked to her to think about her decision but to no avail she has really decided to call it quits........ I LOVE HER so much but she gave up on me today. I guess it was really not meant to be. I feel so down. I sacrificed my relationship with my wife to be with her,now all i have is myself I really don't understand. I sent her a text message saying I am letting her go cause I dont want her to feel least prioritized,less loved even if it breaks my heart..... GOD help me........... I LOVE U BABE BUT I AM WILLING TO LET U GO FOR YOUR HAPPINESS AND PEACE OF MIND.

 

Please help me guys.......... Please

 

Consequences of womanizing. I really cannot say something but move on with your life. You have other priorities in life that need your attention. We know it's hard that you've done and sacrificed a lot yet this GF of yours called it quits. C'mon. If she gave you that "guilt feel" by telling you that she is being less prioritized, then let things be. She is not the only one that needs your attention and she should understand that. Let go of her. You're just wasting your time and effort.

 

Reconcile with your wife. Be a father to your child. First of all, it was your fault. Be responsible for your actions. The only thing you can do now is focus on how to restore your family. I believe you know more than we do. Straighten out everything. Sorry for sounding a bit harsh but this is a lesson learned. Right? Goodluck bro.

[jackp]

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every good thing must come to an end.................................

 

 

we had broken up for the reason that she feels that i am not prioritizing her anymore.

 

here's what happened, early this morning i went to the school of my daughter to attend the recognition day.... i was'nt able to text and called her cause i am with my wife at that time. (my wife and i are still together but seldom we are talking cause she knows that have a mpa gf ) after the said event went to the office so i could be with her in the afternoon When i called her she got mad at me.... I told her that I just went to the event for my kid nothing more and that I will never be there anymore on her school events next year cause I will be leaving for SG this December to be with her. She said she was being less prioritized by me. Got mad and told me that it was over cause she cannot stand anymore just waiting for me to give her the time she deserves. I got shocked talked to her to think about her decision but to no avail she has really decided to call it quits........ I LOVE HER so much but she gave up on me today. I guess it was really not meant to be. I feel so down. I sacrificed my relationship with my wife to be with her,now all i have is myself I really don't understand. I sent her a text message saying I am letting her go cause I dont want her to feel least prioritized,less loved even if it breaks my heart..... GOD help me........... I LOVE U BABE BUT I AM WILLING TO LET U GO FOR YOUR HAPPINESS AND PEACE OF MIND.

 

Please help me guys.......... Please

 

Wow! 1. Does your wife know about this? If not, dont even tell your wife about this affair. Telling your wife about this (even if it means you're being honest) will hurt her feelings. Just keep this to yourself. 2. Only time heals bro. You may feel down now but eventually you'll move on. 3. Start forgetting your gf. Think about this - could it really be that "her not being prioritized" is the real reason for breaking up with you? A favorite excuse when girls try to break up with their bf. maybe there are other reasons. Things that might have turned her off.

These are what i will do if im in your situation

[cool_kojie]

Wow! 1. Does your wife know about this? If not, dont even tell your wife about this affair. Telling your wife about this (even if it means you're being honest) will hurt her feelings. Just keep this to yourself. 2. Only time heals bro. You may feel down now but eventually you'll move on. 3. Start forgetting your gf. Think about this - could it really be that "her not being prioritized" is the real reason for breaking up with you? A favorite excuse when girls try to break up with their bf. maybe there are other reasons. Things that might have turned her off.

These are what i will do if im in your situation

 

DONT YOU TELL YOUR WIFE! What she dont know wont hurt her. Tama si sir jackp, heal on your own. I do not know how deep you got into her and your relationship with her but tama si sir, there might be other reasons that she cannot tell you straight or worst may iba na sya. Just keep your guards up. I always tell myself na mas kailangan nila tayo than kailangan natin sila. Siguro ganun did isip nila kaya mindgames talaga to. Now I am starting to feel good and awaken from the spell sa akin. Now no matter what she does wala na sa akin.

[ichiro_toshiyuki]

if I were you just leave her. it'll definitely bring more trouble for you if you continue to stick with her. she's not worth your life with what she just did to you. don't waste it on her. think about your daughter.

 

I also agree with what the other guy is saying.

[ichiro_toshiyuki]

its extremely hard to find a real one in places like these. its like finding a needle in a haystack.

[cool_kojie]

hey bro i never knew you were under a spell . . .hehehe kamusta na

 

Hehehe, I know I got bored e. Parang paulit ulit na kasi sa mga MP wala na thrill, so punta ko ng mga clubs at doon nag hunt. Ayun nakahanap ako ng katapat. Okey naman kaso may strings attached e, yun ang problema when you go for Club girls or go out with a thera outside. Sa tanda kong to nauto ako hehehe. It happens to the best of us. Balik na lang MP, ganun din yon.

[cool_kojie]

this is disastrous dre. sino ba yan?

 

you said she still goes out with clients right? so i'm telling you, believe me, trust me, she performs very intimate services to probably a few of them who were her longtime regulars and she is very comfortable with. think of the worst . . .like live bj, kissing, live sex.

 

she may also have a good friend confidant fubu among her clients and she may have told him about her problems with you.

 

if she really loves you and appreciates what you did and sacrificed for her (sacrificed your own family), she will also give up everything on her end.

 

ganun yun. so if she doesn't sacrifice everything on her end for you, then even if it is painful to you, you have to either talk with her one final time and either she will be with you or it is over.

 

+ 1, Eto yung isipin mo bro. Think mo na lang pera lang kailangan nila sa atin para mabwisit ka. This thinking helped me a lot.

[TheSmilingBandit]

this is disastrous dre. sino ba yan?

 

you said she still goes out with clients right? so i'm telling you, believe me, trust me, she performs very intimate services to probably a few of them who were her longtime regulars and she is very comfortable with. think of the worst . . .like live bj, kissing, live sex.

 

she may also have a good friend confidant fubu among her clients and she may have told him about her problems with you.

 

if she really loves you and appreciates what you did and sacrificed for her (sacrificed your own family), she will also give up everything on her end.

 

ganun yun. so if she doesn't sacrifice everything on her end for you, then even if it is painful to you, you have to either talk with her one final time and either she will be with you or it is over.

While I'm not disagreeing on your points, all of whom are perfectly valid, I think that we should also look at it from the OTHER side.

 

After all, from the side of the lady of negotiable virtue, this MARRIED gentleman can't offer her long term security either as he will always have a wife that is primary. Even were he SINGLE, how common is it for one to actually MARRY a lady of negotiable virtue, more often than not, these girls are relegated to being TFFO (Temporarily For Fun Only) status.

 

Is it any wonder that these ladies would always want to have back-ups?

[Intuition]

the only reason why i fell for a PSP was because she looked like someone i could be in a relationship with.

 

later on i realized that she just looks the part, but is never that woman who could be my equal.

 

i guess i grew up in a household and was exposed to a certain social standing and values where having to sell one's body was never an option ... i am just culturally too different and incompatible with someone who grew up having extreme financial problems.