Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Ernest Ty]

I got involved with a girl before, gave her everything and even allowed her to have a boyfriend, they live together while i was the one paying their rent. Treat her with love, care and respect. Now she's a thera. Such a waste. All those years, sad part is we had a daughter. Now i'm trying to move on. 

[ralph21]

speaking, asan na kaya si Nathalie nang Kussamo Qave. haha tinamaan ako dun eh!

[Legendary Sky]

nakakamiss lang ❤️

[FF]

On 4/22/2022 at 11:38 PM, PaulPax said:

I absolutely feel you bro. Kahit anong sabihin ng mga tao na "not enough emotional stability" kaya nafall ka, there will always be that one. "The One". That one unicorn...

(Share ko lang, wala ako mapagkwentuhan...)

I have been a member of MTC, the older site since 2014? 2015? I have visited many Mp's and spas, availed of many theras, I can no longer count them. I never developed feelings, never got attached, no matter how pretty, sexy or skilled they all were. I was always confident that I would never be attached. Not to brag, but many theras tried making relationships with me, but I never developed feelings.

This year though, I met my unicorn. "The One". Hindi ko alam ano at paano nangyari. She was not even my type na chinita, maputi, malaman at ka height ko. She was the complete opposite. Don't get me wrong, very pretty siya, physically fit, pero not significantly unique. Mas maraming mas maganda, mas sexy and definitely mas skilled sa kanya sa services, but I knew I would regret getting her the moment na spend ko yung 1st session namin. This time, it was different. I felt alive. Not because she was pretty, or sexy. I could not even tell her that she did not have the skills necessary to do the services. I was not physically pleasured that much, and yet I enjoyed every damn second I spent with her, to a point na siya lang ang thera EVER na napa extend ako ng time for the room. I no longer wanted her services, but instead just wanted to literally hear her voice and hear about her day. She is nice and very hardworking.

I broke my strict and tight work schedule for her. Cancelled department meetings just so I can spend time with her.

She broke the fuck out of me. I no longer had interest in other theras and services. I just wanted to see her smile and listen to her talk.

So, to sum it all up, no matter how careful you are...

Shit (a.k.a. feelings) will happen. Maybe not today, but one day it will.

quite understandable comrade. and kudos for sharing. we felt your pain and frustration and every emotion you shared in your post.

mayhap some words to consider .

are you single or attached ? This will have a large bearing on what I am about to share. 

If you are single all it takes is to take the next brave step and to consider asking her to be your gf.

One of the main problem here is financial. Kaya nga siya pumasok sa ganyang trabaho e dahil malaki laki di hamak ang kita kaysa min wage job. What are her financial needs ? Is she supporting her family ? Am just guessing here kasi the next step for you maybe is asking her to quit her job. In that case what are her job alternatives ? Can you fill in the financial gap that may result ?

Second is the emotional. Are you just intensely attracted to her or do you feel that there is an emotional bond that can grow over time ? This is a two way street .  Does she have equally strong feelings for you?

Pag attached ka ...financial and emotional pa rin. Pero may complications added dahil she will just become number 2 ( not unless you are considering leaving your wife or gf )

 

[PaulPax]

21 hours ago, FF said:

quite understandable comrade. and kudos for sharing. we felt your pain and frustration and every emotion you shared in your post.

mayhap some words to consider .

are you single or attached ? This will have a large bearing on what I am about to share. 

If you are single all it takes is to take the next brave step and to consider asking her to be your gf.

One of the main problem here is financial. Kaya nga siya pumasok sa ganyang trabaho e dahil malaki laki di hamak ang kita kaysa min wage job. What are her financial needs ? Is she supporting her family ? Am just guessing here kasi the next step for you maybe is asking her to quit her job. In that case what are her job alternatives ? Can you fill in the financial gap that may result ?

Second is the emotional. Are you just intensely attracted to her or do you feel that there is an emotional bond that can grow over time ? This is a two way street .  Does she have equally strong feelings for you?

Pag attached ka ...financial and emotional pa rin. Pero may complications added dahil she will just become number 2 ( not unless you are considering leaving your wife or gf )

 

Thank you sir for your comment. I appreciate it very much. I feel better now that I was able to share my predicament in a "safe space" like this forum. You can't share these kinds of issues in the outside world.

Regarding po your questions,

1. I am still legally bound but physically separated from my wife for 2 yrs already.

2. For the financial issue, I think I can support her financially. For me hindi naman siya issue. Although I have not assessed kung maluho siya. 🙂 I was not given the chance to do so.

3. Emotional aspect. It is not the physical attraction actually, although she is very pretty, but it's not that.  Nafeel ko SIGURO na yung kausap ko yung tipo ng tao na sure akong magcclick kami. We also have important things in common. Ma pride siya and hardworking, ayaw niya ng freebies at handouts, gusto niya pinaghirapan niya. Something you don't see in many theras ( just being honest, peace po tayo kung sino man ang tamaan 🙂 ), that is why I liked her even more.

I never got to ask her the GF/financial part kasi she cut communication already. I forgot to mention earlier na may "No attachments rule" siya, probably why she is avoiding me now. Or maybe I am just too ugly, and I am not her type. 😄 

This is probably mostly my fault. The dumbass that was me got attached, and I did not see it coming. I got a taste of my own medicine.

I never got any explanation WHY biglaan siya nagcut off ng communication. Nor did I get the chance to explain myself and express my thoughts. Sobrang sudden. Last thing she told me was wala namang issues. The idiot that was me believed naman. 

Well, shit happens... I guess that's that.

[FF]

20 minutes ago, PaulPax said:

Thank you sir for your comment. I appreciate it very much. I feel better now that I was able to share my predicament in a "safe space" like this forum. You can't share these kinds of issues in the outside world.

Regarding po your questions,

1. I am still legally bound but physically separated from my wife for 2 yrs already.

2. For the financial issue, I think I can support her financially. For me hindi naman siya issue. Although I have not assessed kung maluho siya. 🙂 I was not given the chance to do so.

3. Emotional aspect. It is not the physical attraction actually, although she is very pretty, but it's not that.  Nafeel ko SIGURO na yung kausap ko yung tipo ng tao na sure akong magcclick kami. We also have important things in common. Ma pride siya and hardworking, ayaw niya ng freebies at handouts, gusto niya pinaghirapan niya. Something you don't see in many theras ( just being honest, peace po tayo kung sino man ang tamaan 🙂 ), that is why I liked her even more.

I never got to ask her the GF/financial part kasi she cut communication already. I forgot to mention earlier na may "No attachments rule" siya, probably why she is avoiding me now. Or maybe I am just too ugly, and I am not her type. 😄 

This is probably mostly my fault. The dumbass that was me got attached, and I did not see it coming. I got a taste of my own medicine.

I never got any explanation WHY biglaan siya nagcut off ng communication. Nor did I get the chance to explain myself and express my thoughts. Sobrang sudden. Last thing she told me was wala namang issues. The idiot that was me believed naman. 

Well, shit happens... I guess that's that.

comrade thanks again for the honest share. On hindsight her "no attachments rule" should have been a cue for you.

Ako rin siguro ma-aattract sa thera kung beauty +work ethic + with belief commonalities. Kahit may no attachments rule pwede namang mag pa charming pa rin and see if the ice would melt.

Pero pag wala ka namang nararamdaman na warming up to you , cut it short na agad. Unlike some women outside her profession na pwedeng daanin sa tiyaga and determination ( ung sis ng bff ko 4 years na niligawan bago sinagot  ung manliligaw niya ).

If you continue to pursue not only would it be wasted effort but it could backfire like her wanting to avoid you and your unwanted attention ( at nangyari na nga yata. )

It may also help to understand her viewpoint bakit no attachment. For women as hardworking as your thera TRABAHO lang ito. Naghahanpbuhay si thera ...hindi naghahanap ng jowa. And she decides to keep it that way because it simplifies her life . She looks to be a strong woman who will seek love on her own terms and in the time of her choosing.

so move on comrade. imho you may want to seek love outside the confines of the spa / mp. may tinder naman at iba pang dating apps.  Dito may mga gustong makipagkilala at kung type mo e  pwedeng pwedeng  ligawan .

 

[FrostytheSnowMan]

mahirap mainlove, maraming kaagaw

[FF]

2 hours ago, FrostytheSnowMan said:

mahirap mainlove, maraming kaagaw

parang FR lang naman comrade. hindi importante ung  quantity basta yung sayo QUALITY !

Edited April 27, 2022 by FF

[SAGITTARIAN]

On 4/26/2022 at 2:35 PM, Legendary Sky said:

nakakamiss lang ❤️

THE LEGENDARY OF SENTOSA

[Christian.Grey]

Okay lang ma fall wag lang sa sahig. 

[PaulPax]

2 hours ago, FF said:

comrade thanks again for the honest share. On hindsight her "no attachments rule" should have been a cue for you.

Ako rin siguro ma-aattract sa thera kung beauty +work ethic + with belief commonalities. Kahit may no attachments rule pwede namang mag pa charming pa rin and see if the ice would melt.

Pero pag wala ka namang nararamdaman na warming up to you , cut it short na agad. Unlike some women outside her profession na pwedeng daanin sa tiyaga and determination ( ung sis ng bff ko 4 years na niligawan bago sinagot  ung manliligaw niya ).

If you continue to pursue not only would it be wasted effort but it could backfire like her wanting to avoid you and your unwanted attention ( at nangyari na nga yata. )

It may also help to understand her viewpoint bakit no attachment. For women as hardworking as your thera TRABAHO lang ito. Naghahanpbuhay si thera ...hindi naghahanap ng jowa. And she decides to keep it that way because it simplifies her life . She looks to be a strong woman who will seek love on her own terms and in the time of her choosing.

so move on comrade. imho you may want to seek love outside the confines of the spa / mp. may tinder naman at iba pang dating apps.  Dito may mga gustong makipagkilala at kung type mo e  pwedeng pwedeng  ligawan .

 

Thank you again for the concern and your comment sir. Very much appreciated.

Yes sir, narealize ko naman yun nung nagcut na siya ng communication. I did not pursue her anymore the moment na nagrefuse siya ng meetup. Yun lang, may isang ugok na naattach na. Hindi ko rin naman po intention talaga. Normally, I just f**k and go, wala na gaano pleasantries, kaya nga laging enough na ang 1 hour, tapos back to work na. Wala na extensions. Who would have thought na doon pa sa hindi ko type ako maaattach. Hindi rin naman ako naghanap ng pagibig sa ganitong field sir, bigla lang nangyari. No need naman po for tinder, etc.

Malungkot ang mga sinabi mo sir, but very true indeed.

Moving on and recovering naman na sir, buti na lang maraming mababait na theras na magaling magpagaling ng mga sugat. 😊

Salamat sir sa pagpapayo at effort to write your comments. Buti rin at nakita ko itong thread na ito.

[FF]

7 minutes ago, PaulPax said:

Thank you again for the concern and your comment sir. Very much appreciated.

Yes sir, narealize ko naman yun nung nagcut na siya ng communication. I did not pursue her anymore the moment na nagrefuse siya ng meetup. Yun lang, may isang ugok na naattach na. Hindi ko rin naman po intention talaga. Normally, I just f**k and go, wala na gaano pleasantries, kaya nga laging enough na ang 1 hour, tapos back to work na. Wala na extensions. Who would have thought na doon pa sa hindi ko type ako maaattach. Hindi rin naman ako naghanap ng pagibig sa ganitong field sir, bigla lang nangyari. No need naman po for tinder, etc.

Malungkot ang mga sinabi mo sir, but very true indeed.

Moving on and recovering naman na sir, buti na lang maraming mababait na theras na magaling magpagaling ng mga sugat. 😊

Salamat sir sa pagpapayo at effort to write your comments. Buti rin at nakita ko itong thread na ito.

Ur welcome comrade. And before I go here's a toast :

To women ..and to their wound that never heals !

Edited April 27, 2022 by FF

[PaulPax]

1 hour ago, Christian.Grey said:

Okay lang ma fall wag lang sa sahig. 

Haha. Agree sir.

[PaulPax]

4 minutes ago, FF said:

Ur welcome comrade. And before I go here's a toast :

To women ..and to their wound that never heals !

Cheers sir!

[handsomebob]

kung popular yung thera mas lalong masakit kasi ang daming kumukuha sa kanya kaya the best is iwasan umulit sa thera, once or 2x at the most then lipat na uli....

as what I have said in the past, BUMILI KA NA LANG NG POR KILO NA BABOY, WAG NA MAG ALAGA!! haha